IceDude:
OP well done, their own don too much sef

kayla12:



Hmmm, a friend of mine who was a born again was a victim of this "pastor-say" stuff, it lead her to an early marriage because pastor said it is the will of God whereas she had no conviction.

Even though they had serious crisis with both family as regards the proposed marriage, the pastor advised they can even rent parents if worst come to worst or the girl can even get pregnant.

The girl was 19 years of age, knew nothing getting married to an illiterate Igbo trader was the last thing her parent wanted for their daughter but because her pastor supported it, she disobeyed her father.

After few years of marriage the man mistreated her and today the marriage is broken, now her eyes are clear.

NOTE: This is a true life story it happened to my best friend and we are still best of friends till date.

ccollins:
add some Bible verses to .support. this assertion pls

hisableplc:
If you really want to see a change in ur wife and you want those respect then i urge you to listen or watch "how to be a real husband" by Gbile Akanni

lastnogood:


I'm not a derail type of person, you mentioned me for what idk...
Anyways I have no contribution to make to this subject because where I'm from, this problem doesn't exist. In fact, it's a challenge to get families to attend church.
The culture of respecting others is structured in a completely different way. Personally, I don't go around calling my pastor Daddy, my boss is my boss.

If I'm to be a married woman, my currency is love whereas my husband's own is respect. (Wives respect your husband and husbands love your wives). IMO it's easy for women to love but hard to show respect, it's easy for a man to show respect but hard to give love. So I won't go back and forth in a divisive manner.

The only obvious thing, is that it's obvious that marriage is not by force and that both partners must choose wisely. That he's a man doesn't mean that he warrant your respect. That she's a woman didn't mean she is worth your love. If you marry well, then this wouldn't be a problem.

whoisuche:
u better change. God forgive you

AdexOmoby:


I have to first if all be sure that the men they have at homes are men who are worthy to be respected. I am not in support of those who adore their pastors at the expense of their own sense, but then men should first of all be worthy of respect before the demand it from their wives.

ThenIf a man is worthy of respect, kneeling down to greet him isn't one of such signs. Asking for his opinion in matters arising us a good sign of respect. Regrading his opinion and giving reference to him as of the home is another. Treating him with courtesy and not talking down in him are signs of respect men see and appreciate not necessarily kneeling down to greet him even if he were 59 years older.

Men correct me if I am wrong.

cococandy:


Pastors and husbands. Yet again one is a spiritual leader and one is a life partner. Also Two different things. No comparison there too.

Tallesty1:
I am not writing this to bash women or speak ill of them, rather I am writing this to understand the rationale behind it and maybe give a piece of advice or two.

This is common among Christians and some working class women. I have noticed that majority of them respect their pastor/boss more than their husband.

The level of Respect some of them often accord these spiritual leaders mostly can actually be said to be awesome.

The respect is so much that whatever they instruct them(women) to do they obey without any second thoughts or arguements but the case is always different if the instruction is from the husband.

Its actually good though but isn't charity supposed to begin from home?

Some women even go as far as kneeling for them in public just to show respect. Does it make sense to go about kneeling for your Pastor, Imam, Boss and atimes even for your Landlord whereas you can't remember the last time you bent half a knee or even squat for your husband at home?

That's hypocrisy if you ask me and God frowns at it.

Does it makes sense to you when you go out there, respecting your spiritual leaders, (who happens to be another woman's husband) whereas you can't show any iota of Respect for your husband at home?

Just incase you don't know, your husband is your first Boss and leader in all ramifications of Life.

Since you have no problem whatsoever, taking instructions from your Boss or spiritual leader and carrying out their instructions to the latter 24/7 then why should you argue with your husband over a few things he asks of you?

Before you go out there to display how respectful you are, please ensure you start with your husband at home.

Accord him his due respect. Let all Godly virtues you want to disply to the world at large, start from your home.

Kindly respect your husband, give him his rightful place. Asides from God, Put your husband first in all you do. It does'nt hurt or make you a lesser person.

Alezy:
Wow. ..would it be bad if i say I was blessed by this? ? Cos really all i just wanna say is thumbs up.

kindly ff baq

just wanted to add this, dnt u think showing respect n love av got something to do with each other? ? Cos somehow, for respect to come out of a man towards the woman it means he loves her. or do u tink otherwise? ?

upwardmode:
Thank Your God that you are not married... Your attitude stinks!

SAMBARRY:
Always complaining even on early Monday morning ni 6.33am? Smh


anyway if you are jealous of the way your wife respects her pastor you too do the work of a pastor at home

not even thing is where is my food

teeowl:
it is common with pentecostal churches.

Tallesty1:
I am not writing this to bash women or speak ill of them, rather I am writing this to understand the rationale behind it and maybe give a piece of advice or two.

This is common among Christians and some working class women. I have noticed that majority of them respect their pastor/boss more than their husband.

The level of Respect some of them often accord these spiritual leaders mostly can actually be said to be awesome.

The respect is so much that whatever they instruct them(women) to do they obey without any second thoughts or arguements but the case is always different if the instruction is from the husband.

Its actually good though but isn't charity supposed to begin from home?

Some women even go as far as kneeling for them in public just to show respect. Does it make sense to go about kneeling for your Pastor, Imam, Boss and atimes even for your Landlord whereas you can't remember the last time you bent half a knee or even squat for your husband at home?

That's hypocrisy if you ask me and God frowns at it.

Does it makes sense to you when you go out there, respecting your spiritual leaders, (who happens to be another woman's husband) whereas you can't show any iota of Respect for your husband at home?

Just incase you don't know, your husband is your first Boss and leader in all ramifications of Life.

Since you have no problem whatsoever, taking instructions from your Boss or spiritual leader and carrying out their instructions to the latter 24/7 then why should you argue with your husband over a few things he asks of you?

Before you go out there to display how respectful you are, please ensure you start with your husband at home.

Accord him his due respect. Let all Godly virtues you want to disply to the world at large, start from your home.

Kindly respect your husband, give him his rightful place. Asides from God, Put your husband first in all you do. It does'nt hurt or make you a lesser person.

Orkpekyandega:

If your wife respects your/her Pastor more than she does to you, you too respect, honour and adore - in short show your Pastor's wife love more than your wife. Shakina!
Sonofananimal what do you think

Tallesty1:
I completely agree with you that the two are not the same and to an extent, not comparable but the focus here is the respect and submission being accord to them.

It is undeniable that some women do step out of their line of duty just to please their boss, I can still remember the case of a woman who followed her boss home to cook for him(because his wife travelled)without her husband's consent.

If they can go extra mile just to keep their job then why can't they go @ least half a mile to keep their man happy?.

I am sorry if I am asking too many questions.

IamforGod:



See guys liking the thread like say tomorrow no dey!


Bck to topic! Op pls always try and put yurself in thier position.
Am so sure the pastor's wife also treats him without respect! That's becos of the closeness and sex and etc..... between them.


If you are a responsible man am sure other women outside will respect u more cos she's nt close to ur and ur nt aving sex with her.


It's nt about being a pastor! I hope u get what I mean?

Sex itself is somewhat disrespectful Hehehehehe.

lastnogood:


Respect and love are interrelated, but it's the weakness of both genders. As a woman it's harder to be respectful naturally, but I'm made to love and nurture. It's intuitive. As a man, it's more difficult to actually show love to a woman, not to love but show love. Men use respect as a basis of decision making, this is why this subject really hurts. I'm persuaded to say the man I choose to marry has earned my respect BEFORE marriage. He had shown me love BEFORE we tie the knot.

IamforGod:




Sex itself is somewhat disrespectful Hehehehehe.

Orkpekyandega:

The one in Peace House Gboko right?
What a blessed servant of God for this wicked and sinful generation.

lastnogood:


Why?

I didn't disagree with the OP did I? I simply interpreted the biblical command for myself.

Ephesians 5:22-33New King James Version (NKJV)

Marriage—Christ and the Church
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body,[a] of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”[b] 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Wherein the onus is on the couple to do as the scriptures command. I just mentioned that my own culture is different than Nigeria, so we don't have the originally stated problem in our own churches.