coogar:


you would be surprised she would attempt to cover her flying bütt-base with her hands while walking. i sometimes wonder if they were forced to wear it!

hehe!
this is super-decent. if ladies leave it like this, no one would raise eyebrows. female footballers wear this types and men don't drool over them.

Stillfire:


I wish she did that. This one bent over the cashier table, and everything was out in the open.

Also I have to add the big girls ruin the shorts trend for everyone and take it to the level of super in-de-cent.
Imagine Toolz in that.

coogar:


it's obvious cococandy does not know what bumshorts are. the base of the bütt has to be exposed for it to be bümshorts!

coogar:

toolz need to find a good gym!
i don't get the hype. if she doesn't do something to those curves of hers promptly, she would be fighting diabetes in the next 5 years.

MusingsOfALady:
Yes, Children are a reflection of their parents but children are not toys or decorations for show. The emphasis should be on our kids reflecting our values more than our sense of fashion. We should also take in consideration their comfort as well as the values our fashion will reinforce in them

Some parents go as far as relaxing their 1 year old child's hair without considering the impact of the chemicals to the tender scalp, some make their child's hair for hours while the poor child screams and cries in pain.

Truth is if you subject your child to pain or discomfort or expose them unnecessarily just to show your your sense of fashion - it is Child abuse.

coogar:


everything as in her panties or the cat's whiskers?





toolz need to find a good gym!
i don't get the hype. if she doesn't do something to those curves of hers promptly, she would be fighting diabetes in the next 5 years.

Stillfire:


I wish she did that. This one bent over the cashier table, and everything was out in the open.




Also I have to add the big girls ruin the shorts trend for everyone and take it to the level of super in-de-cent.
Imagine Toolz in that.

MusingsOfALady:
The boys are very cute but not the dreads.
That's just unnecessary.

armyofone:
the dread is unnecessary. Imagine the time spent doing his locs which should be used learning his next generation's abc's.

SAMBARRY:


I'm guilty.

I usually use little coloured ribbons and hair bands on wuras hair but she won't allow me concentrate on the hair as I force her to look good

She always complain that the hairband is to tight on her head at the end of the day she will remove it and even break it

at the end of the day I just kuku went to the saloon that they should cut her hair jare .

SAMBARRY:
what of if they were born with dreads or they inherited dreads from either parents?

MusingsOfALady:
Yeah right! Lol

Like anyone still keeps those kinda dreads anymore.

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MusingsOfALady:
Pele.

I go online and find simple children's hairstyles or simple cornrow styles.

It's amazing how many easy yet unique styles you can get online rather than subjecting them to long hours in the salon and painful hairdos.

SAMBARRY:
but they are girls and girls have to look good. When she grows a bit older I will start weaving her hair by force and putting hair bands on her hair whether she likes it or not so that she will start getting used to pain whenever they make hair

MusingsOfALady:
I have girls too. Just plan well to reduce their pain, there are so many natural hair moisturizing products that soften hair, apply that early and also buy a very good detangler spray if you want them to be natural.

Stillfire:


Is that what they call bum short in Nigeria? I was thinking it's the one the butt would be loosely hanging out, lol.
I practically grew up wearing shorts like that in the pic. So people find that provocative? Really?

RedCapChief:



Bum shorts are bum shorts; whether for grannies or kiddes. It may not be overtly provocative like in adults or teens, but it is just seems inappropriate

5minsmadness:
@stillfire this is an example of what we Nigerians know as "provocative" bumshorts. Pls pay no mind to some folk who like to paint others in bad light for reasons best known to them. Or maybe it's just honest ignorance.

MusingsOfALady:
I don't think the right word is "provocative"(intended to arouse). However children can appear indecent and unnecessarily exposed when bum shorts is worn at an inappropriate place.

The emphasis of the post is not just on bum shorts. It's the overall outlook of a child. A child should never be described as "hot", sexy or a chick. Beyond bum shorts there are many other ways we sexualize our children- for example- through Music and dancing. A lot of children can give Beyounce a run for her money, they twerk and sing lurid lyrics. Even sometimes through nicknames- imagine another calling her daughter- sexy mama?

Another common one is allowing them to watch age inappropriate movies with you, exposing them to sexual content on TV programmes etc. Lets not get fixed on bum shorts, its not the single factor causing it, there are other factors as well.

coogar:


everything as in her panties or the cat's whiskers?

toolz need to find a good gym!
i don't get the hype. if she doesn't do something to those curves of hers promptly, she would be fighting diabetes in the next 5 years.

5minsmadness:
@stillfire this is an example of what we Nigerians know as "provocative" bumshorts. Pls pay no mind to some folk who like to paint others in bad light for reasons best known to them. Or maybe it's just honest ignorance.

cococandy:

Show me a child that looks like this in bum shorts. I dare you.

It is the same style of shorts please. Only that in kids it never looks like this because there's no butt to expose. Those their tiny legs sef

That's why I find it weird that bum shorts on kids is considered sexy by some people.

It's the same thing as spaghetti straps or what have you on kids. They just look less dressed in it not sexy.

But if you're talking about robust teenagers who are beginning to develop sexually physically, then that would be a different thing and I'd agree with you on that.

Stillfire:

You think they would wear panties inside such or maybe go for a thong? Totally defeats the purpose of showing the world your Gluteal Sulcus aka gluteal fold, fold of the buttock, horizontal gluteal crease or nyansh curvature.

Really? Toolz is many-a-naija men fantasy o.

So not all naija men like it all heavy loaded, lmao! You are scared of her big nyansh or what?

cococandy:
Coogar abeg Wetin be provocative?
Isn't it sexually provocative abi it's another kid of provocative we are talking about?
Let it not be that there's another social meaning to provocative and I'm here contributing blindly without knowing what y'all are talking about.

That's the only word that I had a problem with since it insinuates that kids can be sexually attractive. I don't see anything wrong with calling for age-appropriate dressing for kids.

As for inappropriate if you read my first post you'll see I already agreed some things look inappropriate on kids as it does not show their true age. So we kind of past that you know.

coogar:


i can't remember using the word provocative to describe scantily dressed kids. the only thing i said was the mothers of such kids are highly irresponsible.

cococandy:

Yea but I wasn't referring to you when I said I don't understand why anyone would consider a child's dressing as provocative because I know you didn't say that.

So how did we end up here?

coogar:



were you not the one asking me what provocative means? madam, have you been drinking some white wine today?

cococandy:

You started by saying I don't know what bum shorts look like.

Lesson don't quote anyone to the contrary when they are saying the same thing you're saying.

Since we both agree that anyone who considers a child's dressing as sexy is a borderline perv.

coogar:


i'm quite certain of that.

we are not on the same page on this one. you said nothing a child wears should matter. i said some kids often wear things that aren't appropriate and i blamed their mothers for dressing the kids indecently.



we agreed on that quite alright......
however, the issue here is being inappropriately dressed. i and many others don't see the kids as being provocative or sexy. we just see indecently dressed kids!