I don't know if a thread's been created on this before now..I never came across any,but I've been wondering,is abstinence really ultimate? I'm very conversant with all d benefits that come with abstinence, but there's one very big clause... What if after abstaining so long nd waiting 4 the wedding night to consummate marriage,u discover that ur partner's hopeless in bed? Would the other partner be able to put up with it? Or is sex in marriage not so much of a basic need?...I need opinions,pls..bcoz in my thinking there's no way to guarantee that sex in marriage will be fulfilling having never had d experience with that particular partner prior marriage....
So if I'm right,don't u think total abstinence is a risk?
N.B: Nobody should judge me based on this..I simply want to know other ppl's say on this issue.













#Philosopher Quëën#

Ur right, it's the greatest risk

just for the records, it's philosopher not philosoher.

libertyfather:
Ur right, it's the greatest risk

Hmmm..

vizkiz:
so I should abstain totally till all my semen turns to giant frogs abi?

Lol, well I can't "abstain" cuz I will have to know how "capable" my EVERLASTING partner to be is sexually. But if she is a virgin(tested and trusted) and insisting for a ring on it before anything happens. Then why wouldn't I give it a shot? . (That is if she's worth the effort oh! )

Lol@fluids turning to giant frog..But that's a myth.

Don't know wah to say.. but sometimes total abstinence is not the right option cos this person ya talking bout is going to be ya life partner and you will v to know his/her worth on bed... You can do total abstinence when you know the person ya dating is not the serious type

Too risky a route to take and I'd strongly kick against the arrangement of getting married without ascertaining the sexual compatibility of intending couples. Marriage is meant to be a lifetime union right? So why would someone want to exchange marital vows with someone they're clueless about their sexuality and proficiency. What if it turns he/she is gay and doesn't feel any attraction towards heterosexual sex? Gays don't have it written on their forehead.

How about he/she is a sex maniac and can't be contented even when their partner gives in their best? This could be a recipe for cheating. And how about if they're easily exhausted while the other person is even yet to feel contented?

Sex is a very vital component of a marriage and can lead to it success or failure of the union in some cases. I understand religious doctrines frowns against this but when sexual frustration sets in it would be inconsolable and regretful. Such problematic situation should be prevented.

Another Nonsensical sanctimonious thread! You should have taken this question to the "religion section" motherfucker!

ronald4lif:
Too risky a route to take and I'd strongly kick against the arrangement of getting married without ascertaining the sexual compatibility of intending couples. Marriage is meant to be a lifetime union right? So why would someone want to exchange marital vows with someone they're clueless about their sexuality and proficiency. What if it turns he/she is gay and doesn't feel any attraction towards heterosexual sex? Gays don't have it written on their forehead.

How about he/she is a sex maniac and can't be contented even when the best gives in their best? This could be a recipe for cheating. And how about if they're easily exhausted while the other person is even yet to feel contented?

Sex is a very vital component of a marriage and can lead to it success or failure of the union in some cases. I understand religious doctrines frowns against this but when sexual frustration sets in it would inconsolable and regretful. Such problematic situation should be prevented.

Hahaha hahaha.... Sometimes I love your reasoning

redgem:



Hahaha hahaha.... Sometimes I love your reasoning

Sometimes?

Implying I goof other times

total abstinence is being preached by the bible, and as is the case with the bible, it is never wrong.
look at it this way, if everyone abstained from sex till marriage, do you think anyone would know that different men perform differently in bed? if there was abstinence from sex, no woman would ever expect so much in bed from her partner because whatever she gets sexually from her partner, she would believe it is the same other women are also getting from their partners, so therefore their won't be a need to compare one's sexual life with that of other people.
unfortunately since majority of people do not practice abstinence, women have come to learn and expect certain things sexually from their partner.

ronald4lif:


Sometimes?

Implying I goof other times

You didn't know?

ronald4lif:

Sometimes?
Implying I goof other times

Lol...... Maybe yes

Hmmm. Dunno wat to say,i'm torn between religion and common sense.

Oliviaarims:
I don't know if a thread's been created on this before now..I never came across any,but I've been wondering,is abstinence really ultimate? I'm very conversant with all d benefits that come with abstinence, but there's one very big clause... What if after abstaining so long nd waiting 4 the wedding night to consummate marriage,u discover that ur partner's hopeless in bed? Would the other partner be able to put up with it? Or is sex in marriage not so much of a basic need?...I need opinions,pls..bcoz in my thinking there's no way to guarantee that sex in marriage will be fulfilling having never had d experience with that particular partner prior marriage....
So if I'm right,don't u think total abstinence is a risk?
N.B: Nobody should judge me based on this..I simply want to know other ppl's say on this issue.













#Philosoher Quëën#

then you don't love her

iAmCharis:
You didn't know?

Bia nwokem, kpachala anya gi o.

Swerve this way========---

Hannysmilez:
Hmmm. Dunno wat to say,i'm torn between religion and common sense.

Well, the moment one employs common sense and critical thinking they'd declass religion. There's no logic in religion. One then wonders what would become of mankind if we jettison rationality for mythology. Hmmm

juizzyemmanuel:
then you don't love her

How does that answer d question?

Hmmmm let me sit back and read from others.

Kachisbarbie safarigirl MizMyColi HFOG BreezyRita Specialist900 kaboninc LordReed dearpreye

Whayasay??

PrimeMinisterr:
just for the records, it's philosopher not philosoher.

Lol...u,again!... Twas a mistake...fanks 4 pointing it out.

Shebarh:
Don't know wah to say.. but sometimes total abstinence is not the right option cos this person ya talking bout is going to be ya life partner and you will v to know his/her worth on bed... You can do total abstinence when you know the person ya dating is not the serious type

Sometimes it's not...but how dyu know when it's not?

ronald4lif:
Too risky a route to take and I'd strongly kick against the arrangement of getting married without ascertaining the sexual compatibility of intending couples. Marriage is meant to be a lifetime union right? So why would someone want to exchange marital vows with someone they're clueless about their sexuality and proficiency. What if it turns he/she is gay and doesn't feel any attraction towards heterosexual sex? Gays don't have it written on their forehead.

How about he/she is a sex maniac and can't be contented even when their partner gives in their best? This could be a recipe for cheating. And how about if they're easily exhausted while the other person is even yet to feel contented?

Sex is a very vital component of a marriage and can lead to it success or failure of the union in some cases. I understand religious doctrines frowns against this but when sexual frustration sets in it would be inconsolable and regretful. Such problematic situation should be prevented.

For most ppl,religious doctrines is why they abstain...I keep wondering what they get to find out in marriage.

funlord:


Another Nonsensical sanctimonious thread! You should have taken this question to the "religion section" motherfucker!

Go check d meaning of "sanctimonious"and come back to rant...The post's asking a question not an assertion....clueless fellow!

henribj:
total abstinence is being preached by the bible, and as is the case with the bible, it is never wrong.
look at it this way, if everyone abstained from sex till marriage, do you think anyone would know that different men perform differently in bed? if there was abstinence from sex, no woman would ever expect so much in bed from her partner because whatever she gets sexually from her partner, she would believe it is the same other women are also getting from their partners, so therefore their won't be a need to compare one's sexual life with that of other people.
unfortunately since majority of people do not practice abstinence, women have come to learn and expect certain things sexually from their partner.

Satisfaction isn't relative or dependent on what more yhu can get. Once u're satisfied,then u're satisfied!

Oliviaarims:
Lol...u,again!... Twas a mistake...fanks 4 pointing it out.

. . . . lol , so you still remember the previous episode ?

Oliviaarims:

For most ppl,religious doctrines is why they abstain...I keep wondering what they get to find out in marriage.

When the outcome is negative and unfavourable the malcontent fellow gets regretful, frustrated and unhappy and they're stock with the quandary infinitely. I'm guessing if the wife is the one with a problem the hubby got a free pass to cheat whilst if it's the hubby then the wifey would have to live with her misery and advised to put him in prayers.

Oliviaarims:

Go check d meaning of "sanctimonious"and come back to rant...The post's asking a question not an assertion....clueless fellow!

You must also be a dumb slag to think that I give a toss about your inconsequential and useless query!

Oliviaarims:
I don't know if a thread's been created on this before now..I never came across any,but I've been wondering,is abstinence really ultimate? I'm very conversant with all d benefits that come with abstinence, but there's one very big clause... What if after abstaining so long nd waiting 4 the wedding night to consummate marriage,u discover that ur partner's hopeless in bed? Would the other partner be able to put up with it? Or is sex in marriage not so much of a basic need?...I need opinions,pls..bcoz in my thinking there's no way to guarantee that sex in marriage will be fulfilling having never had d experience with that particular partner prior marriage....
So if I'm right,don't u think total abstinence is a risk?
N.B: Nobody should judge me based on this..I simply want to know other ppl's say on this issue.













#Philosopher Quëën#

how can your partner be hopeless in bed when the pornography industry is still thriving?

Oliviaarims:


Satisfaction isn't relative or dependent on what more yhu can get. Once u're satisfied,then u're satisfied!

true, but different people reach satisfaction faster/quicker than others, and some people... well they are plain "Oliver Twist".
besides, people expect more when they are aware that they might/can possibly get more, and the more you expect the more difficult it takes to get satisfied.

safarigirl:
how can your partner be hopeless in bed when the pornography industry is still thriving?

pornography only shows you a few of the skills that can be performed sexually, it does not in any way add to a man's stability in bed or staying power in bed.
besides, too much pornography is not good, it creates a lot of tension and expectations which might not be satisfied most times.