Just Out Of Curiosity, Is It Possible To Have A "small" Wedding In Nigeria?

I'm asking in terms of people that will attend. At my older sisters wedding, there were soooo many people, including some that just seem to have appeared. My sis says it isn't worth fighting with your in-laws to reduce the number of people at the wedding. However, my other sister(who is a little more stubborn) says you can just be harsh and not invite people you don't to invite. The thing is, you know how people can be, such as mum and dad's coworkers who want to be there, and that midwife who bathed you after you were born, and that uncle who gave you 'money for biscuit' when you were 10. I was just wondering if its actually possible to have a wedding in 9ja with only 100 of the closest fam and friends. What do you guys think? How should one go about it? (I'm not getting married yet,lol) peace out

100 is 2 much.i don't like crowd.family and close friends r enough.

yes you can have a small wedding in naija
it all depends on the couples involved

i think you can although you might have to do alot of apology to so many people thereafter n thats if parents from both side can respect your desire for a small ceremony.

yes you can. But you need to carry your people and his people along.

I've attended weddings of less than 100 people
1, at the registry
2, at a church service (evening service)
3, parlour wedding - just close family and friends.

I hope for such (less dan 100 guests) kinda weddings in ma own time.
But trust naija nao! After de wedding, comes de begging! But me no send!

@Poster,
Yes you can do a small wedding(crowdwise) here is Nigeria,The determining factor is the couple and their immediate families.
A court wedding and a private reception will do the magic.

It is possible as I recently went to my cousins wedding in naija, and it was small, but you have to let the invitees know they are the ones being invited. As I have also been to weddings that were meant to be small and ended up large because invitees were inviting others, lol Court/Registry wedding would be a start.

spikedcylinder:

The best thing is not to inform people you are getting married. Just go to the registry with your intended and members of your immediate family.
No one is going to kill you if you tell them "hey, I got married last weekend".

LOL if only things were that simple here in naija, i would have pulled that stunt. if i done that, my parents will prolly say "well,  thats your business, now we're now going to throw a massive wedding ceremony that'll be the talk of the town" trust yoruba people. there's nothing we love than over the top weddings.

You can absolutely have 'pocket-size',small wedding here in Nigeria.Now look at it this way,if you set your priority well and know the limit of your purse,will it be better you wedd and go abegging the next morning.Even if you aint going hungry next morning but will have to over-adjust becuase you wedded,wont it be good you wedd small and help your lives positively with the finances you have.
FACT IS THAT WEDDING DOESNT COST MONEY ,WHAT COST MONEY IS THE PARTY AFTER THE WEDDING.SO WHY DONT YOU PARTY TO YOUR SIZE?

never heard of a small Nigerian wedding outside of the marriage registry.

spikedcylinder:

The best thing is not to inform people you are getting married. Just go to the registry with your intended and members of your immediate family.
No one is going to kill you if you tell them "hey, I got married last weekend".

This is exactly the type of wedding i want to have and then get back home to have a parlour wedding and chops and nothing like an after-party behind me, i already told my family members and my guy has to be ready for it whether he likes it or not.

LOL if only things were that simple here in naija, i would have pulled that stunt. if i done that, my parents will probably say "well,  thats your business, now we're now going to throw a massive wedding ceremony that'll be the talk of the town" trust yoruba people. there's nothing we love than over the top weddings.

That is so true, I can imagine my folks saying dat, and family also sayin "I av bin to all my friends kids weddin why should my own be different (na momsy they talk dat one d most sha)".

I hope someday, naija would reach a place where u can av a church weddin with those u really want and not necessarily having to go to the registry.

am struggling with that at the moment . . . . . personally 150 is just perfect but from what i hear that's a very selfish notion in naija weddings. Am real pissed. i think it just might work if i do it Invitation only. but apparently that is real snobbish!!!!

Do these people even think money is involved HEAVILY in this thing?

Dont mind me am just ranting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Had less than 50 persons in ma marriage in Naija, the marriage is for both of us and not for the crowd.

Yes it is possible.

is possible but you still have to add at lease 25 or more uninvited guests

I was in the park on sarutday and i saw the most beautiful, organised and simple wedding i ve seen in Nigeria. Garden wedding started at 4pm finished at 6, less than 50 guest. Am sure bride and groom did not break their bank account to have a "society wedding". Thats my dream wedding.
You can have a small wedding if you do it in a nuetral city, say your family is in lagos and you come to Abuja to get married, you can be sure there will be no uninvited guest.

If u want a small wedding,u and ur family shldn't go to other ppls wedding and parties uninvited.
@Topic,its possible but quite rare.

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yes! cuz we had just 200 ppl at my wedding. the secret is no invitation cards and probably a registry wedding.

i dream of a small wedding. the traditional only the immediate family no drums or dancing outside after the bride price. the white wedding close friends and close family members no mum/dad's friends from fellowship, place of work vice versa. i have my work cut out for me and i know i'd have to meet them halfway.

yes it is. i had less than 30people at my weding.I actually wanted about 3people only, but had a bit more than that.i dont like weddings and the fanfare involved, its a bore.luckily i married a man who wanted a small wedding also

It can happen if you move the location of the wedding.
For instance,our Yoruba friends should fix their wedding in Owerri or Njikoka
Those in Igboland should do their wedding in Ijebu ode or Abeokuta
The Calabar ones should tie the knot in Kafanchan and the northerners should have their's in Yenegoa.
That's the only way you're guaranteed a small wedding and at the same time see other parts of the nation.
No gate crashers

never possible. we only did our thanksgiving in naija. no cards no publicity. my dad and cheif organiser said maximum 300 including church people sister nwando it was more than 1200.

i only personally invited 5 people so plus wife lets say 10. bearing in mind the mrs dont know no soul there so they were all my people if you ask me. till today there are still people quarelling i didnt allow them attend my wedding. never knew my famiily was that large.

JJYOU:

never possible. we only did our thanksgiving in naija. no cards no publicity. my dad and cheif organiser said maximum 300 including church people sister nwando it was more than 1200.

i only personally invited 5 people so plus wife lets say 10. bearing in mind the mrs dont know no soul there so they were all my people if you ask me. till today there are still people quarelling i didnt allow them attend my wedding. never knew my famiily was that large.

my brother long time

how about the people tripping over themselves and about to "assasinate" those sharing out the free umbrellas and clocks.
It's a miracle I didn't die in my hometown last December

now u got me scard to marry in 9ja oh

platinumnk:

now u got me scard to marry in 9ja oh

why the scariness?

Absolutely . . . for whatever reason, whether it be cos of a limited budget. . . .Or privacy or what have u,

plan well, invites strictly by invitation and most importantly a small setting would greatly help, . . . .

Cos u wouldn’t rent a huge hall and expect folks not to turn out . . . .It’s all about planning ahead and being savvy!!

Why are you people scared of making extra akpu na rice for wedding crashers?. I don't think it's the food that makes a wedding expensive rather it's the costumes, hotel and other trivial things the bride    add to jack up the budget.

@OP, yes you can have a private small wedding in Naija. In igboland, it's called 'morning mass wedding' or 'father, abeg doam quick quick'.