I met her 5 years ago through her brother who happened to be my mentor, We became friends and shared a lot of thoughts together, Just 3 months ago, I asked her out and she declined telling me ''We're just friends'',''I can't date you'' and all that, I was so sore hearted because I was expecting an affirmative since we are so close.

A very close friend of mine tried to convince her but she stood her ground, She would send me ''Hi'' first on Whatsapp and FB and I'd wait for like 2 minutes before replying her even after I might have read the message, She keep chatting me up and I reply harshly most times, Now I'm really confused because she was not like that before, She would send me greetings, like and even comment on my statuses which she doesn't do before and so many signs, Now I'm really confused ''Could she be tripping for me''?

You don't need to be confused

Nothing wrong in all what she's doing

The signal still remains RED.

She's just a friendly person that
Finds your chat interesting
and to get herself out of boredom

My mom normally say, never sniff what you know you won't eat, and that's what an average sizable number of our ladies normally do


She expected you to be stalking her both online and offline just to make her special, hence, making it look like she wants to do you a favour by dating you

The ball is in your court. Now is the time to do shakara

No she isn't. You see? What you guys fail to understand most times is that when a woman "first" turns down your request for a relationship, she actually means it. Trust me, if she "loves" you, she won't turn you down but instead wish and pray in her heart that you'd ask her out just so she'd say yes. She may be tripping now, but in my opinion, its just "frustration attraction". This happens when you feel drawn towards someone "only" cuz they withdrew or distanced themselves from you.

But then, I MAY BE WRONG

Trust me brother, wen I disturb a girl, like try to associate wit her and she doesn't pick or return my calls, texts or social media chats, I stop disturbing them... So do the same brother.

came here to read comments cause me and op wear d same shoes

nothing there
doesn't mean she is tripping.
so just face ur front

Chief Friend zone officer!!!! Ride on

lol

Bro, na zoning things for you o

Yes! She digs you. Thing is, her turning you down at first might have been due to shock as she possibly never thought about the possibility of you two dating before. It must have taken her some time to adjust to the reality.
As for her initiating chats and stuff, that's the green light, seeing as she never use to do those before. A lady who doesn't send you wouldn't even bother.

tosyne2much:
My mom normally say, never sniff what you know you won't eat, and that's an average sizable number of our ladies normally do


She expected you to be stalking her both online and offline just to make her special, hence, making it look like she wants to do you a favour by dating you

Now is the time to do shakara

Exactly! Op.

BTW, what's waiting for 2 minutes before replying? You should either ignore her chats occasionally or reply the next day even when you are online. If you want to get half a shot at getting this lady, starve her of your attention. 2mins is a mad rush!

Also, I do not think its about answering her harshly rather its by having your own opinions, and expressing your self without seeking her endorsement.

Cc: Holyfield1

Homguy:
Exactly! Op.

BTW, what's waiting for 2 minutes before replying? You should either ignore her chats occasionally or reply the next day even when you are online. If you want to get half a shot at getting this lady, starve her of your attention. 2mins is a mad rush!

Also, I do not think its about answering her harshly rather its by having your own opinions, and expressing your self without seeking her endorsement.

Cc: Holyfield1

Believe you me

If he starves her his attention as regards to replying her chats or leaving it till next day.


It will only take a matter of days or highest weeks for her to get rid of the affection she has developed for him(if any though)


Don't forget,love/feelings can be grown so also hate.

Holyfield1:
I met her 5 years ago through her brother who happened to be my mentor,We became friends and shared alot of thoughts together,Just 3 months ago I asked her out and she declined telling me ''We're just friends'',''I can't date you'' and all that,I was so sore hearted because I was expecting an affirmative since we are so close,A very close friend of mine tried to convince her but she stood her ground,She would send me ''Hi'' first on Whatsapp and FB and I'd wait for like 2 minutes before replying her even after I might have read the message,She keep chatting me up and I reply harshly most times,Now I'm really confused because she was not like that before,She would send me greetings,like and even comment on my statuses which she doesn't do before and so many signs,Now I'm really confused ''Could she be tripping for me''?

she's obviously tripping.
if you still like her you can take the chance.
if not bounce her off and stop wasting her time.

Op mayb she just likes you....no strings attached,can't u think of it dah way ni??

kellyJames5:



Believe you me

If he starves her his attention as regards to replying her chats or leaving it till next day.


It will only take a matter of days or highest weeks for her to get rid of the affection she has developed for him(if any though)


Don't forget,love/feelings can be grown so also hate.

I agree. Nothing should be over done. There should be a balance. Personally, even if I ignore a particular lady, I sometimes do start up chats with them, but cut it off at my own timings.

What I think is wrong is giving the impression you can't live without her, the impression that you are not busy, rushing to reply her messages and begging her to reply like some guys do. Those IMO are counter productive.

I also think once in a while Op should find lighter /jovial/funny ways of teasing her and passing his message across. Not that serious business like mode some guys tune into when they want to pop the question.


These are my opinions tho, peace.

Homguy:
I agree. Nothing should be over done. There should be a balance. Personally, even if I ignore a particular lady, I sometimes do start up chats with them, but cut it off at my own timings.

What I think is wrong is giving the impression you can't live without her, the impression that you are not busy, rushing to reply her messages and begging her to reply like some guys do. Those IMO are counter productive.

I also think once in a while Op should find lighter /jovial/funny ways of teasing her and passing his message across. Not that serious business like mode some guys tune into when they want to pop the question.


These are my opinions tho, peace.

Great opinion!

That's what I'm talking about!

Harbosede02:
Op mayb she just likes you....no strings attached,can't u think of it dah way ni??

See as I just dey look you

tosyne2much:
See as I just dey look you

Abi I af

Abi I af allowed her back niI wee just be talking normally

Hot

U don't just xpect her 2 say yes instantly. She gast form n do some shakara ..now dat she has giving u d green light,u can now make ur move

If u still love her ask her out again

Ehhn ehhn u see them

Make she no fall down.

Why ask why? Go for her.

Bro this your information is incomplete you didn't tell us the part that she found that you got a job in NNPC

Women's love is like bread and butter when money is involved


Bro go chop your food asap

pretydiva:
U don't just xpect her 2 say yes instantly. She gast form n do some shakara ..now dat she has giving u d green light,u can now make ur move

op listen to this girl and u have fuvked up