An happy marriage is tending towards hitting the rock because the wife says it is too stressful but the man no she must provide it.

This is a couple where the husband work while the wife is a full time house wife. The husband is used to taking daily prepared fresh soup when he gets back from the office and the wife have been doing it religious. Of a sudden the wife started complaining that she can't be making it everyday that it is too stressful while the husband insisted that she must cook it for him.

The man's argument is that she is a full time house wife, and everything needed to making the soup are already bought and refrigerated (she need not go to the market), the children school is just 10 minutes drive away from their house, yet the wife is saying she can't do such again.

Dear forumites, why could this woman be complaining and the husband insisting?

rofl@"fresh soup"

adeyemik:


Dear forumites, why could this woman be complaining ?

she might just be plain tired of making soups everyday,she wants to start working,shes preggie

adeyemik:

the husband insisting?

i can imagine what the above scene wud look like.perharps the man drums it in her ears that shes nothing but a housewife and MUST make his fresh soups everyday with little or no regard/respect for her.
This is a very tricky situation to be in and one has to thread with care.
Let the man sit down with the wife and with love and respect for each other,find out the reasons and sort it out.
the stresses of being a full time housewife. . .it gets monotonus and the fun fades too quickly

@OP,Forgive me but ur write up already have a concrete and valid reason.the woman said its stressful for her.its understandable.making fresh soups everyday is no joke.the man shld undertsand now ,haba Nigerian men and their love for food
On the other hand,the woman can make four/three diffrent types of soups say every saturday or monday and alternate it for the man.all she needs do is to prepare and store in a fridge

The woman is tired and the husband should try to find out an alternative. They could get one cook and let the wife rest. The fact that she has been cooking the soups before is commendable.

I dont see what the problem is.

Husband:

take two or three weeks vacation from work and spend the entire time cooking daily stew.

That way you can show your wife she's really lazy. Afterall, you'll do it with a smile on your face the whole time.



anyway

the wife should make giant stews and keep them in the freezer.

adeyemik:

An happy marriage is tending towards hitting the rock because the wife says it is too stressful but the man no she must provide it.

This is a couple where the husband work while the wife is a full time house wife. The husband is used to taking daily prepared fresh soup when he gets back from the office and the wife have been doing it religious. Of a sudden the wife started complaining that she can't be making it everyday that it is too stressful while the husband insisted that she must cook it for him.

The man's argument is that she is a full time house wife, and everything needed to making the soup are already bought and refrigerated (she need not go to the market), the children school is just 10 minutes drive away from their house, yet the wife is saying she can't do such again.

Dear forumites, why could this woman be complaining and the husband insisting?

What the heck is her problem??
She agreed to be a housewife so she shudnt complain

She agreed to be the house wife but stopped doing her duties after some time. Just find out the reason.

I absolutely agree wid u Ify.  . . . . (BTW. . . .longest time Sis. . . .how are ya, and the family as well?? God bless ya ma dear)

The fact she’s complaining doesn’t mean she has ever allowed her husband to go hungry. . . .has she now??

Or the children aren’t feed and properly taken care of. . . .To this I say the husband needs to relax. . . .

And be a little more accommodating to his wife’s feelings. . . .What’s wrong wid chicken, turkey. . . .??

Must it be fresh fish!!Or even going out to eat once a week, I mean variety is the spice of life!!

And most importantly appreciation goes a long way. . . .Let her know u really are appreciative of all that she does . . .

it isn’t easy being a full time house wife. . . . . .Catering and tending to the needs of the entire family . . . . .

it is imperative to give commendation where it’s due, it goes an awful long way!!!!

TOYOSI20:


And most importantly appreciation goes a long way. . . .Let her know u really are appreciative of all that she does . . .

I, 100%, agree with this statement.

Some men are so useeeeeeed to being looked after, that some actions seems to be expected, no longer appreciated anymore.

Maybe that's what the wife meant by "stressful".

I mean, imagine the husband coming home and asking things like "where's my dinner?" or "Are you ready tonight?". If I was her, I'd vex because he doesn't appreciate my move and actions like he used to anymore.

That's what we call being taken for granted.

Just because she's a full housewife does not mean she sits home and do nothing.

Husband works hard, I give him credit for that. But just because he brings the dough home does not give him the right to take her for granted.



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I don't understand why she's bitching if they had an agreement that she would be a fulltime housewife in their marriage.

Our traditional parents really deserve some pats on their backs for their hardwork.

C2H5OH:

I don't understand why she's bitching if they had an agreement that she would be a fulltime housewife in their marriage.

Our traditional parents really deserve some pats on their backs for their hardwork.

You know nothing abt what our traditional parents went through, so hush

Society expected them not to complain, and back then, it was easier for Naija men to wander about (to other women) without much ridicule

cant imagine a marriage felling just cox this simple thing that can be easily settled amicably between them

~Sissy~:

cant imagine a marriage felling just cox this simple thing that can be easily settled amicably between them

^{how u dey?}

True true, I agree.

Sis i dey fine oo, u nko?

didnt see ya online yesterday

*Toyinrayo:

I, 100%, agree with this statement.

Some men are so useeeeeeed to being looked after, that some actions seems to be expected, no longer appreciated anymore.

Maybe that's what the wife meant by "stressful".

I mean, imagine the husband coming home and asking things like "where's my dinner?" or "Are you ready tonight?". If I was her, I'd vex because he doesn't appreciate my move and actions like he used to anymore.

That's what we call being taken for granted.

Just because she's a full housewife does not mean she sits home and do nothing.

Husband works hard, I give him credit for that. But just because he brings the dough home does not give him the right to take her for granted.


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Gbam!!. . .infact double Ggam sef. . . . .

~Sissy~:

Sis i dey fine oo, u nko?

didnt see ya online yesterday

Yup, . . . .same here oo . . . .well Happy sunday to yah ladies!!!

~Sissy~:

Sis i dey fine oo, u nko?

didnt see ya online yesterday

Why are y'all surprised?

I drove hundred miles outta town

Cook soup daily . . . hang me now.

*Toyinrayo:

Why are y'all surprised?  

I drove hundred miles outta town  

nah . .  sis just making sure u r were alright now u r normally online

oh now, i rem. you drove 110 miles to that ekiti family reunion, so how was it?

@ TOYOSI20

how u dey?

~Sissy~:

nah . . sis just making sure u r were alright now u r normally online

oh now, i rem. you drove 110 miles to that ekiti family reunion, so how was it?

you dey spy on me?

That's doing the summer. Not going!!

Nah, I went with a friend to Ocala

stillwater:

Cook soup daily . . . hang me now.

@TOYOSI

I see you oh, shotigbo.

maa ki mi

*Toyinrayo:

you dey spy on me?

That's doing the summer. Not going!!  

Nah, I went with a friend to Ocala  

they havent told you?

i work as spy 4 d CIA

If they agreed for her to be the housewife and the cooking ingredients are made available without stress, I don't see why she should be complaining.

If he works and brings all the bacon, he is entitled to want specific things. How would she feel if he says he wants to reduce the money he's bringing home because it's too stressful?

A deal is a deal - if she agreed to it initially, they must both agree before things change.

debosky:

If they agreed for her to be the housewife and the cooking ingredients are made available without stress, I don't see why she should be complaining.

If he works and brings all the bacon, he is entitled to want specific things. How would she feel if he says he wants to reduce the money he's bringing home because it's too stressful?

A deal is a deal - if she agreed to it initially, they must both agree before things change.

Thank you jare

Nike sweets. . . i was shouting both of u out naa!! Missed yah!!

Sissy. . . . . .I'm great oo. . . . .just chilling oo jare!!, u nko. . .how body??

Post

Its all about coming to a mutual understanding for real. . . . .who else would work things out for them??

~Sissy~:

they havent told you?

i work as spy 4 d CIA

I believe you!

debosky:

If they agreed for her to be the housewife and the cooking ingredients are made available without stress, I don't see why she should be complaining.

If he works and brings all the bacon, he is entitled to want specific things. How would she feel if he says he wants to reduce the money he's bringing home because it's too stressful?

A deal is a deal - if she agreed to it initially, they must both agree before things change.

That's just plain wrong!!!

That's why it's best not to date/marry rich men (I didn't say I dnt want o jk), because they're so special, they're entitled to specific things.

Oh plzzzzzzzz!!! And if it was the other way around. . . . .na bullcock sh*T advice they'd be giving

TOYOSI20:

Nike sweets. . . i was shouting both of u out naa!! Missed yah!!

eh ehn, I no want

How you dey treat my bro? Haven't heard from him

*Toyinrayo:

I believe you!
That's just plain wrong!!!

That's why it's best not to date/marry rich men (I didn't say I dnt want o jk), because they're so special, they're entitled to specific things.

Oh plzzzzzzzz!!! And if it was the other way around. . . . .na bullcock sh*T advice they'd be giving

What's wrong about it? Did someone force her to be housewife? Why do something religiously for a while and then suddenly stop? Why not object to it from the get go?

I'm sure the man made it clear from the onset - I like my fresh soup daily and she agreed. Now she wants to change things on the man, why? It is unfair - given that everything is available for her to cook, I don't see the reason for complaining.

@ TOYOSI20

my dear body dey fresh

@ ebony



@ post

i still think this a minor issue that they could resolve mutually

Who eats the remaining soup that Oga has condemned as dregs since it isn't fresh? Her palava anyway.

debosky:

What's wrong about it? Did someone force her to be housewife? Why do something religiously for a while and then suddenly stop? Why not object to it from the get go?

I'm sure the man made it clear from the onset - I like my fresh soup daily and she agreed. Now she wants to change things on the man, why? It is unfair - given that everything is available for her to cook, I don't see the reason for complaining.

Did someone force him to marry a housewife?

Kilo n complain fun?

Debo, we both don't know the full story. We don't know why she suddenly stopped, if he caused it or not.

You can't condemn [b]HER [/b]based on what you read here, [size=3pt]but you can always condemn him for not appreciating his wife [/size]

rotfl@ bolded. No be only fresh soup.

*Toyinrayo:

eh ehn, I no want

How you dey treat my bro? Haven't heard from him

Ejo ema binu si mi. . . . big sis. . . . .ma loff!!. . . . LOL!!!. . . . .like a King that he is naa!!. . .  .

@ POST

They always say u never know what u have until u actually lose it. . . .he best be careful seriously!!

Some people are just never satisfied oo for real!!

TOYOSI20:

Ejo ema binu si mi. . . . big sis. . . . .ma loff!!. . . . LOL!!!. . . . .like a King that he is naa!!. . . .

Yes!!!!!!!!! I'm "mi loff"
Can I get a whoot whoot!!

Call am to this thread. Still surprised he's not here yet