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| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Nobody: 9:47am On Oct 25, 2015 |
MissAssy: My dear pls do not make any excuses for them,to me any parents that fail to look after their child/children are not fit to be called parents,even an animal doesn't leave their cobs to some other animals.What you went through is called child abuse,not only by your aunt,but by yr mom too. I hope you are in college now. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by aameyah(f): 9:49am On Oct 25, 2015 |
euromilion: Imagine. People are talking of child abuse and a fully grown man is saying this? @bummyla I'm not watering down your experience bummyla but you HAD a choice. Some 25 year olds are married so what are you talking about? If you had pride, you would have gone back to the village and started a farm or something. Upon all the suffering, its not like you got an oil job so what are we saying? Believe me, I stayed with other family from 10 to 14 and it wasn't funny. That is the age range that should complain of not having a choice....In other words, kids. Not adults. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by porozhniy(m): 9:56am On Oct 25, 2015 |
Amidst all this horrible experiences, i keeping wondering...where were the men of these households? e dey tear my mind to think these men weren't aware of the happenings in their household or they turned a blind eye to all of the abuses. As much as i would like to shout 'women are wicked' , i can't help but ask in a subdued voice...where were the men? 5 Likes |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by MrBLING(m): 10:02am On Oct 25, 2015 |
DICKtator: Look here Mr, I will quote you till thy kingdom come as long as you keep spilling your vile filled insensitive vomit on this thread created by such a courageous kind hearted lady. You surely have relatives as no one fell from the sky. For being so hateful God will make you suffer so that you will become reliant on those your perceived none existent relatives and like I said may they reign a thousand misery more than OP on you. Say a big AMEN!!! If I call you sewer rat, then it's an insult on sewer rats themselves 2 Likes |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by aameyah(f): 10:07am On Oct 25, 2015 |
Just this morning, my man's mum called me because I'm alone at home presently with him out of town to work and asked that why don't I want a small girl to stay with me? Instead of being lonely. I was like; Ah, but you know I am rarely at home myself. Im at home weekends only. Small girl ko, big girl ni. Me that I'm even an introvert. I can never be lonely even if im alone for 1 month. I have a cleaning woman who comes weekends. That is what I'm comfortable with. Even though I'm planning on changing her, I've gotten another mature lady lined up. Because the first woman is not keeping to the terms we agreed on. Even the cleaning woman testified I'm the first lady she's working for. She said she can't work for women, they are too wicked. She said she studied me well before agreeing to start the weekly cleaning. Just that I feel she's taking advantage of my magnanimity by not turning up most times and not calling. I know I'm not the most chatty or the warmest of women. But I can never be wicked or inconsiderate. God bless my mum. My home was always filled up with children and my mum would treat them just like her own. In fact when I got back from school one time, my mum had a little baby with her and she told me she gave birth to the girl. The way she was acting so lovingly to the baby, I actually believed her and was perplexed, so I'm no longer the only girl. Until the girls mum came to pick her up later in the evening.  11 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Nobody: 10:09am On Oct 25, 2015 |
Mudorsis: Cooldown Mr Rambo, We are not all Rambo,sometimes in life we've to go thru fire before the ocean,even Gold must go thru fire before it's preciousness is achieved. People go to relatives for different reasons only known to them,sometimes only known to their parents.but to me any parents allowing their little girl to face such a dangerous world,doesn't earn my respect,if I have a gun I can shoot them. 1 Like |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Amya(f): 10:22am On Oct 25, 2015 |
In the year 2001, my parents decided to move to Abuja due to the numerous riots happening in Kaduna at the time. That same year, I was also to move up to a new class in my school, ss3. My parents wanted me to change to a new school in Abuja and finish up my secondary education but I refused because of all my friends I'd miss in school. So it was decided I stay with my aunt, a widow, and her 3 kids and only come home(abuja) for the holidays. My aunty was stable financially, but my parents were doing much better financially. My mum stocked the woman's kitchen (amidst her complaints) and made sure my bank account was in such good stead that I'll never need anything from my aunt. That was the worst one year of my life! Aside the fact that I had to do all the chores in the household, I was endlessly ridiculed non-stop by both her and children. They called me names. Called me a thief. Said I'd get pregnant and disgrace my mother. Anything that would drag me to depression, they did. One day, I was reading for my WAEC in the tiny sitting-room whose rug also happens to be my bed every night when they all ganged against me. "what do you know you're reading sef!" "what do you know?" "you'll fail!" "we are outside gisting and you're here reading? do you think you're better that us? come out jor!" And they dragged me outside and made me the central theme of their mocking that night. My self esteem dropped to an all time low. My only respite was school. I also made sure I enrolled in all out of school lesson that would keep me away from the house. she fed my mum lies about me and once, when my mum came to visit made her brutalise me while they watched and laughed, all for something I didn't do. I couldn't tell my mum because she's one of those tough stance women that believe strangers rather than their own children. Years later, when I told her, she still didn't believe. 1 Like |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by bammo: 10:29am On Oct 25, 2015 |
Atmmachine:But you are a KID 1 Like |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by MrBLING(m): 10:40am On Oct 25, 2015 |
The common them here.. Emotional and physical abuse along with neglect of children in the hands of extended family who were entrusted with care and nurturance Also most of the perpetrators are women!! Why our women folk?? Why do you dish out such treatment to children that are left in your care?? Btw was also a child victim to a female relative   4 Likes |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by stayceeL(f): 10:41am On Oct 25, 2015 |
I saw your pic and I went 'oh, dear'.. How could people be so cruel. I have never had such experience before so I wouldn't exactly know how it feels but no one deserves to b treated that way.. U turned out beautiful and strong, u should be proud. Seems the pepper made your face smooth and spotless. Just kidding dear. U are going to b a blessing, to your family and the world at large. Someday that wicked woman would see u and look for the nearest hole, her kids would seek your assistance. M so grateful u shared this story with us. God bless u superwoman. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by LBTY(f): 10:45am On Oct 25, 2015 |
itsmine: Not just women my dear, men aswell. I have a Friend who willingly stayed with her brother and his family to look after their new born daughter since she wasn't working then (she'd tried applying but nothing was forthcoming). This brother of hers used to be somewhat close to her right before her decision to stay with them so it was to her surprise when after she stayed with the family for a month or there about, he flipped!. He would insult her at any given opportunity. He brought down her self esteem so much and he termed it 'tough love'. She couldn't tell their parents ofcourse. It was such a trying time for her. I know her not to be the lazy type, but the guy just was never pleased with what she did. One would have thought all that meanness was gonn be done by the sister in law, but she herself couldn't do much or say much or try to stop her husband than console the poor girl. That dear brother of hers destroyed her morales but now it has only pushed her to work for herself, though kinda messed up her idea of what an ideal family should be like and their relationship (brother and sister) is synonymous to nonexistent. But mentally, she's getting herself back gradually. |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Sylver247: 10:47am On Oct 25, 2015 |
I no get strength to type my own experience cos its too long. Buh all I can say is that our women shud be careful how they treat extended family members. I dont know why hatred, jealousy and wickedness is always the case when they see extended family. My eldest brothers wife till today doesnt allow the man do anything for our family, not even for my mum. She made sure my sister and I saw hell while staying with her, always stiring hatred in the mind of my brother against us. I dont know why women are like that, they always start well but later turn into something else when they see the husband family members. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by stonecoldcafe: 10:58am On Oct 25, 2015 |
FOREXMART:As you are. |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by makizee(m): 11:12am On Oct 25, 2015 |
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| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by aameyah(f): 11:20am On Oct 25, 2015 |
Sylver247: It is not just women. Men also have the tendency, but greater with women. I would advise everyone to please take care of their own kids than sending them to learn, help or holiday etc. Even if it's dry morsel you are eating in your house, it's better than the richest meal in another man's house. A word is enough for the wise... |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Eleganza33(f): 11:23am On Oct 25, 2015 |
Hahaha kia u no get mawt sha na,sum women just wicked so much,do u wana knw my own exprience,wateva she did my aunt dare nt anoys me she knws i do revenge.al dis was happening i was eleven then she was childles she wanted a child to live wit wen she told my parents[her husband was my dad cousin]my mum told me nt to go bc it was benin city wher piple believe to b ful of witch crafty,my family was living in aba.one day she sent me to uselu market so i lost #120 for elephant detergent wen i kem bk i told her she was sayin i sent d moni to my mama [kai 120 ooo to my mum who was far away in aba]she didnt punish me bt she told me to use hands nd wash my anus afta pooing witawt 1st cleaning wit paper as a child then i might nt wash my hands clean soon afta dat i fall sick she did nt wana treat me bc of 120 my uncle hardly notice cos he was busy wit work nd i didnt reali mind either cos i was afraid of drugs,as days goes by it bekem worst she took me to ubth where they admit me nd my mum came she was told i av toilet infection they gav me argumentin it made me pee blood they change anoda 1 ceftazidime it was this ceftazidime dat cost me my happines d injection av got a syd effect nd it hit me it made me bekem hard of hearing,i got hearing loss since then its almost 10yrs nw bt 1 cn neva knw unles told cos am active,i use it nd did al my schooling.jus thank God u didnt loose ur sight i av 4given her thou cos God have blessed me, my uncle is nt marid to her again he caught her cheating. MissAssy: 3 Likes |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by michealekene(m): 11:34am On Oct 25, 2015 |
MissAssy: u v a good heart,....it's never easy to cope such things. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by activelyA(f): 12:24pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
Owliver: For this your comment alone, the ever loving God will hold you accountable... This just shows that you are in no way different from those you are burning, you only were at their mercy and lacked opportunity. If you had the opportunity, you comment shows you will do worst. And as for you last statement, not all are given the opportunity to explain and ask for forgiveness after a wicked act. God isn't foolish, He is a consuming fire . .. ask Annaias and Safira, Dathan and Abiram, pharoah. Etc So please clear that mentality from your head brotherly...if I use a sharp knife to cut you and I throwaway the knife, that doesn't mean you will stop bleading. God forgives us for our sins but that doesn't mean we won't bear the consequences and the scar it brings, 1 Like |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Owliver(m): 12:31pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
activelyA:why would you assume if i had the opportunity i would do worse? do you even know me? one thing about me is I HARDLY FORGIVE. but God forgives. he is a loving father. have a nice sunday 1 Like |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by activelyA(f): 12:37pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
Owliver:How could you to all those things you mentioned earlier to a fellow human... Haba!!! I am not justifying these wicked people and offenders but for you to say you will do all that to them is just.. . Happy sunday to you too |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Nobody: 12:41pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
MissAssy:How is your relationship with them today? |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Owliver(m): 12:45pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
activelyA:let God be the judge |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by DICKtator: 1:38pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
MrBLING: OK. Now I understand!!!. Some people can't move on from their past and it is obviously affecting their present!! So unfortunate because those that committed such atrocities have moved on and probably healed while some of the victims are still seething in rage And holding on to a past that they can't change and if they could,they have refused to. Only if they would move on and see the sunny side of it,maybe that is when their true healing would manifest!!!! It is just funny when they feel such affliction should befall others because they went through it.lmao!!!!!! Life is not fair,the earlier one knows ,the better!!!  |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by anumide(f): 1:46pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
CecyAdrian:I hear stories like yours everyday, and they break my already fragile heart. truth is, life isn't Fair but the good news is, you can emerge a winner. you cannot afford to fail, you cannot afford to lose. that's what suicide will make you: a loser who couldn't fight to finish. sweets I need your story to end well, so that millions of orphans can read it and have hope. just take one day at a time, fight, hold your head high and smile. it is well with you. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by MrBLING(m): 1:51pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
DICKtator: Please who understand gibberish should interpret in English please. You have an antecedent of writing filth on threads seeking attention. You fail to comprehend that there are some topics that should be off limit to children. Everyone has trauma from their past. Closure means forgiveness but not necessarily forgetting. You remember in order to learn from the experience and use it to mentor others passing through similar. However for your kinds, with sub i.diotic IQ and mouths/fingers moving faster than their pea sized brains this is another thread to comment nonsense Ode!!! 10 Likes |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by isacolukay(m): 2:13pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
Oyind17: Forgive wetin! God will not forgive you for forgiving them. By the way, MissAssy, u b fine gal! 2 Likes |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by DICKtator: 2:30pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
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| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by stanvesco(m): 2:33pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
porozhniy:d men don talk tire, I pray 4 a God fearing,people loving, sensible wife, i pray 4 u luwiluwi, kai, i fit kill my wife with hand if she turns out to be a bad woman 1 Like |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by Adortem: 2:52pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
project7:Please ask them o o,one Aunty did that to me,after working so hard till my body aches,she ended up telling my brother and my brother told my mum that I didn't do anything. I was so angry that I vowed that I would not go there again unless its extremely necessary,and I must have something doing,then leave! Not to mention that that my Aunty's son is like 10 years can't even hold a broom,talkless of sweeping...most of them raise very lazy kids 1 Like |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by MrBLING(m): 3:04pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
DICKtator: Give up these repetitively boring funny faces and just disappear from here to joke section where you belong |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by bummyla(m): 3:09pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
iamkingzlee:It Was Just GOD Alone! He Did Not Allow Me To Give Up On Him! http://www.bummyla.com |
| Re: My Horrible Experience When Living With A Relative. by bummyla(m): 3:16pm On Oct 25, 2015 |
aameyah: Pray You Don't Find Yourself In A Situation Where It Seems All Hopes Are Lost! Where It Seems Heaven Is Shut Against You! But Thank GOD Something Beautiful Came Out Of It! I Became BORN AGAIN! http://www.bummyla.com 2 Likes |
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