Crazy About Him For Travelling Sake,but Now

Hi everybody in d house,let me go straight 2 d point,my guy processed my visa 2 uk but d problem is dat everyday he beats me,he doesnt allow me to talk to my parent except if he gives me d permission,now am tired of d relationship but i dont want him to see me as ungrateful person becos he spent alot before i could get to uk,so pls i need ur help becos i really want dis relationship 2 work but most times he beats hell out of me whenever i provoke him.thanks

modern day slavery.
this was the same thing kunta kinte went tru, only he dint have access to the net like u.
make use of ur opportunity now b4 him changeur name to kunta sister.

r u in the UK now?

yes am in uk presently but am very sad,i thought getting to uk would make me smile everyday but am very lonely and sad.

Call the police. I am sure they have shelters there where you can stay. If you stay with him he will kill you one day.

Bleep what he thinks, you must protect you and get out of that r/s, it ends in your dealth or perm. disablity.

have you talked to him about how you feel?
and if yes, what was his response?

@ sisterwoman thanks alot,as soon as he processed my work permit he seized my passport,he didnt allow me to open my own bank account,my money is being paid into his own personal account,all i get every week is my travel card money but i dont want to be ungrateful,i really want things to work out but i dont know how?

You still with him because you don't want him to see you as an ungrateful person?   . . .someone who beats you? your still considering this same person? 

Please stay with him till he kills you. . .


And am surprised you stay in the UK and you do not know what to do. . .I mean its not like nigeria where you do not get support against domestic violence. . .You had better call the Cops!!!!!!! 

look this is fucking slavery.
those prostitutes that were shipped to italy, they suffered the same fate.
if u can, get him reported. but be rest assured u r on ur way home.

i dont wanna call cops on him becos of his CRB,all i want is advise on what to do so dat things can really work out,he said i need to go and learn how women treats their husband at home,dats why i need advise on how to make things work.

well in ur judgement do u feel u r not doing what u r supposed to be doing as a wife?
thats if u are one aniways cos i dont see where u said u are marriedto him, or about to.

he will always find one thing or another wrong with you.

He will always beat you until he kills you.

He will always make you feel like you are to blame.

He will kiss you and tell you "look what you made me do" and then he will turn around and beat you somemore.

I dont care if it ment be being homeless in the street w/ nothing but trash to eat I could not/would not ever allow any man to put his hands on me.
I am not speaking from what if. I am speaking from experience. I had a bf that put his hands on me. and like a dumbass i took him back, the second time he put his hands on me I had him sent to jail.

No man has a right to hit a woman, unless she is stabbing the Bleep out his ass.

Thanks alot,d last he beats me i had a shoulder dislocation dat i had to call 2 d ambulance dat took me to A&E,i decided to leave him then but he promised not to lay his hands on me but d beatings still continue.I think is time i move on wit my life,although he always said dat i cant survive on my own,which always brings fear to my mind 2 stay wit him.I know God will help me,once again thanks for d advise.

lizzy A:

Thanks alot,d last he beats me i had a shoulder dislocation dat i had to call 2  d ambulance dat took me to A&E,i decided to leave him then but he promised not to lay his hands on me but d beatings still continue.I think is time i move on wit my life,although he always said dat i cant survive on my own,which always brings fear to my mind 2 stay wit him.I know God will help me,once again thanks for d advise.

Girl, call the police! When he is arrested tell them, he has your passport and they will make him give it back to you. Just call them.

Well, either way you're going to end up leaving the guy anyway.

It just depends how you do so.

It's either:

1. You leave on your own accord due to the way the lunatic is maltreating you
or
2. He eventually kills you

The choice is yours.

I do sympathise with you but you don't seem to be educated enough to know what your rights are as a human being. If you're married to him consult a legal aid and strip yourself off him.If not, tell him you want to leave him and the UK and if he refuses to give you your passport which he won't call the police.People get scarred for life from abuse.
Do this sooner before you bear a child for him otherwise you're in it for a very long time.

Ok its shit like this that REALLY pisses me off. It does because these kinda guys get the loyal women and the guys who arent jerks like this guy get treated like trash.

I hear this kinda story all the damn time. And unfortunately women always go back to these kinda men.

ok ok ok,
why are you scared of leaving this guy? or better still calling the cops?
oh wait, are you an illegal immigrant?

Let us know if you need physical support. I'm sure there are enough NL-ers willing to lend a hand. Just pray he doesn't find out about NL otherwise you're fried gizzard!

Dont call the cops, shit gets escalated when it hits the fan. . .  Even u are not safe when the cops step in.  They'll just push u to press charges, then when he's gone to jail, what will u do?  

What sort of papers did he even process for u? What status do u currently have? can u work?

Am not an illegal immigrant,dis guy is a british,i have my work permit ,and am working at d moment in a very good place.

then do his bidding, ''the real reason why u both agreed to get u to the uk nah!  

This story is NOT complete!

There is a lot that is missing because this doesn't make sense. She is not an illegal. He beats the crap out of her yet walking round a free man and she concerned about him getting locked up obviously.

Something not right here.

Maybe its just me

bia, the least you can do is leave that guy.

Lax75:

This story is NOT complete!

There is a lot that is missing because this doesn't make sense. She is not an illegal. He beats the crap out of her yet walking round a free man and she concerned about him getting locked up obviously.

Something not right here.

Maybe its just me

Nothing is missing. That is how abused women behave.

Na wah oh. How can we make her do what she obviously needs to do before she die?

lizzy A:

Am not an illegal immigrant,dis guy is a british,i have my work permit ,and am working at d moment in a very good place.

Did he process your papers as his wifeor did he just invite u over as his girlfriend?

whitelexi:

Did he process your papers as his wifeor did he just invite u over as his girlfriend?

dude, she's got a work permit. and she's working.
if what she is said is anythin to go by then its hard to understand what she is still doing with the guy.

all this ontop UK. Not even berra place.

Is he aware that domestic violence isnt allowed over there

Then again since you wanted to travel so much who are you to speak out now

If mr slave master allows you to work

Make some money and get a place of your own.

whitelexi:

Dont call the cops, shit gets escalated when it hits the fan. . .  Even u are not safe when the cops step in.  They'll just push u to press charges, then when he's gone to jail, what will u do?  

What sort of papers did he even process for u? What status do u currently have? can u work?

   

Jesus God of Nazareth!!

What kind of advice is this?

i came in as his wife,he has been here for a very long time,thanks alot 4 all ur advises,i dont wanna call cop on him becos i love him so much,he has really done alot for me,am just tired of his anger and beatings.

Can I just ask what kind of things does he beat you up for?

Also can you not change your bank account at work?
Find out how to open one shebi you have internet access?