now this my neighbor is asking the wife to apologise to the galfrend or ready to be divorced for even talking kindly to his galfrend to pls leave her husband. what are Nigerian men turning cheating to? they have made our women to learn from them kos it has pass to them tru blood. what do I advise this wife?

BluStreak:


May I digress a lil'bit.
@queenfav, having not been married and you are in an organisation that exposes you to marital problems mediation which most might likely be as a result of infidelity on the man's part, I am just wondering (I have not implied that you do) if it will not cause you to have trust issues with men. How are you dealing with that?

I left the ministry of justice last month after the completion of my NYSC.As for the trust issues thing,my cases got to me emotionally for a while.I was always imagining how uncertain marriage is.I just had to learn to forget about my clients and the entire mediation session at the close of work.If I choose to relect on most cases for too long,I no go even marry sef!To be honest,in a day I can get all sorts of cases that will just make you ask "why bother getting married,if this is how it may end?"From domestic violence, infidelity,custody issues and other nasty cases.Fortunately,I used it as a learning ground for myself,since I was opportuned to know the mistakes most of the couples made.It taught me a lot about what makes a good marriage.That it requires patience,constant forgiveness, hardwork,commitment and true partnership in all areas of your lives .I can say I don't have trust issues with my fiance for now,however nothing he does in future can shock me!That's why I keep praying for the ability for us to stay truly committed and respect each other's feelings.

@Nevanevaland Hope you were able to resolve issues with your husband.

dinachi:

As usual, you missed the whole pont! it is not about cheating here, it is about getting close to the man she once called husband to know what is happening, not coming to nairaland to whine about divorce but what do you know? This is not a homosexual relationship so you wouldnt know how it works would you?

plz i beg u,don answer or even think of having a discussion wif dis boy,he is 18 nd born 4rom an 16 years old girl.his mum had him when she was
16 years old.he said it himself dat his mum is 34 dis month.now people u see why dis boy is the way he is.at 16 his mum must hav been critiisized,ostrocized,insulted nd condemn by family nd friends.i am very sure his father didnt take any responsibility,4rom his birth till now.i really pity anyone dat takes dis boy seriously.imagine a teenage mother?possibly drop out of school no wonder he hate men

coogar:


they would soon be here to clear my name....

Yea right.

freecocoa:
Yea right.

cocoa my coco
did your kid sister deliver my message that i came visiting on sunday?

coogar:


cocoa my coco
did your kid sister deliver my message that i came visiting on sunday?

That girl sha, she just said someone came and that he said he'd call, I didn't get any call yet, so you were the one? Thought it was Audu o

freecocoa:
That girl sha, she just said someone came and that he said he'd call, I didn't get any call yet, so you were the one? Thought it was Audu o

so no be only me dey come your house?

coogar:


so no be only me dey come your house?

Coogar, you are a bad friend sha, see as you just sideline Tim in this game? sootay, freecocoa and Tim no dey see eye to eye again God dey o

coogar:


so no be only me dey come your house?

Na only you dey come legitimately, the Audu na stalker.

FrancisTony:

Okay!.
I've gotten what I want.
This is how christians read bible -- pic attached!

You're preaching to dinachi?

Keep wasting your time.

You think he will advice a man with a cheating wife to get closer to her and know what's happening before whining about divorce?

Their own version of the Christian God is the God of men who has no love for women.

Kimoni:


Coogar, you are a bad friend sha, see as you just sideline Tim in this game? sootay, freecocoa and Tim no dey see eye to eye again God dey o

Lol, Abeg leave me o.

freecocoa:
Lol, Abeg leave me o.

no be your fault jare, that Coogar is too smooth ni. Tim trusted him too much

No issues sha, Idowu is arranging one pepperless for Tim. Na result we dey wait for now

deliandy:
now this my neighbor is asking the wife to apologise to the galfrend or ready to be divorced for even talking kindly to his galfrend to pls leave her husband. what are Nigerian men turning cheating to? they have made our women to learn from them kos it has pass to them tru blood. what do I advise this wife?

Well divorce is bad so she should apologize to the babe and save her precious marriage.
When the lady comes visiting, she (wifey) should make some delicious meals for her too. Fix the bed for her and Oga and take the guest room.

Anything that will lead to divorce as long as the man is the one doing it must be tolerated.

Kimoni:


Coogar, you are a bad friend sha, see as you just sideline Tim in this game? sootay, freecocoa and Tim no dey see eye to eye again God dey o

haha!
there was no sidelining

deliandy:
now this my neighbor is asking the wife to apologise to the galfrend or ready to be divorced for even talking kindly to his galfrend to pls leave her husband. what are Nigerian men turning cheating to? they have made our women to learn from them kos it has pass to them tru blood. what do I advise this wife?

Chai

coogar:

haha!
there was no sidelining

Lol..so what is it?

Kimoni:


no be your fault jare, that Coogar is too smooth ni. Tim trusted him too much

No issues sha, Idowu is arranging one pepperless for Tim. Na result we dey wait for now

Wait o, you didn't know cougar and bodaashee are engaged? Abeg Don't put asunder o, So Idowu is the one whispering to Tim eh? and I thought she was my friend "women sha"

Awww!
She quotes with an alternate moniker and keeps multiplying lies.

Barren old hag! You are pained forever.

cococandy:


You're preaching to dina chi?

Keep wasting your time.

You think he will advice a man with a cheating wife to get closer to her and know what's happening before whining about divorce?

Their own version of the Christian God is the God of men who has no love for women.

Heheee!

freecocoa:
Wait o, you didn't know cougar and bodaashee are engaged? Abeg Don't put asunder o, So Idowu is the one whispering to Tim eh? and I thought she was my friend "women sha"

engaged?? Are you kidding me? Coogar, you are smoother than I thought o

Where is sister Sarah in all this biko? For home games only? So who is it? Sister Sarah, freecocoa or bodashee

Meanwhile Coogar, did you see how GM police trolled Rooney? By declaring him missing on twitter? And he showed them he wasn't by scoring the next day

queenfav:
Infidelity is one of the "for worse" scenarios every married person should prepare for.That's why nobody should have high expectations of their spouse.Its easier hoping for the best and also being prepared for the worst if it happens.

So in a situation where one of the worsts like infidelity happens and the woman decides to leave, where is the crime in that?

Kimoni:


Lol..so what is it?

the lord's doing.
timbuktou got to her house 35 mins after i got there.

Kimoni:

engaged?? Are you kidding me? Coogar, you are smoother than I thought o
Where is sister Sarah in all this biko? For home games only? So who is it? Sister Sarah, freecocoa or bodashee

Meanwhile Coogar, did you see how GM police trolled Rooney? By declaring him missing on twitter? And he showed them he wasn't by scoring the next day

rooney needs to be chased out of greater manchester. i have had enough of him there.

coogar:

rooney needs to be chased out of greater manchester. i have had enough of him there.

Lol...you and Rooney

Kimoni:


Lol...you and Rooney

that fat boy pisses me off....

coogar:


that fat boy pisses me off....

but why he's got the records o, all time highest goal scorer no be beans o

Kimoni:


but why he's got the records o, all time highest goal scorer no be beans o

it's taken him 14 years to get there. my great grandmother woulda achieved the same.

coogar:


it's taken him 14 years to get there. my great grandmother woulda achieved the same.

Coogar, free this boy biko

Remember they say it's not how far but how well...at least he did it, others did not

My grievance is with the youngsters from the academy. From Januzaj to Welbeck to Wilson, I think we are making too much excuses for them their performance should naturally oust Rooney.

Kimoni:


Coogar, free this boy biko

truth is there are many others who feel like i do. some people tweeted his wife that she shouldn't open her legs until rooney scores a hatrick for man utd.

Remember they say it's not how far but how well...at least he did it, others did not

others were not allowed to stay for that long. he got a 6-year contract at 29. players close to 30 normally get 1 year rolling contract. there's a force out there that wants him to beat that record.

My grievance is with the youngsters from the academy. From Januzaj to Welbeck to Wilson, I think we are making too much excuses for them their performance should naturally oust Rooney.

how would it oust rooney?
rooney has been made the golden boy. his mistakes & poor performance get overlooked by the pundits. it only takes 1 or 2 bad games for the others to get slaughtered by the british media. rooney has been shyte for 18 months but you won't find any top journalist criticising him.

coogar:


truth is there are many others who feel like i do. some people tweeted his wife that she shouldn't open her legs until rooney scores a hatrick for man utd.
others were not allowed to stay for that long. he got a 6-year contract at 29. players close to 30 normally get 1 year rolling contract. there's a force out there that wants him to beat that record.
how would it oust rooney?
rooney has been made the golden boy. his mistakes & poor performance get overlooked by the pundits. it only takes 1 or 2 bad games for the others to get slaughtered by the british media. rooney has been shyte for 18 months but you won't find any top journalist criticising him.

Who will not like the golden boy naa? but for GM police to do that publicly, it shows it's becoming very obvious his time may be up or he might just need a change of environment. But when you start thinking like that, he responds immediately like he did in CL

Kimoni:


Who will not like the golden boy naa? but for GM police to do that publicly, it shows it's becoming very obvious his time may be up or he might just need a change of environment.

it's about time for him to be shipped out to LA galaxy.

But when you start thinking like that, he responds immediately like he did in CL

even a broken clock would be correct twice in a day. the goal can't even paper the cracks. i am starting to think you have a big crush on wazza.

Kimoni:


no be your fault jare, that Coogar is too smooth ni. Tim trusted him too much

No issues sha, Idowu is arranging one pepperless for Tim. Na result we dey wait for now

Coogar should be feared in this forum. While I was driving my jallopy to PH, the Coog landed with a parachute on Free's house. How do you think I felt? Anyway, turns out the gods had other plans . I'm sure Chief Priest Bellong had something to do with it . One never knows who's interceding on their behalf.

coogar:


the lord's doing.
timbuktou got to her house 35 mins after i got there.

No thanks to Nigeria's bad roads. Took me three days by road.