Hello. I'm an AA woman living in the Midwest. At my job there are many people from all over the world.However I attract African men the most (mainly Nigerians but that's due to them being a large number at the job). Actually any male of African blood I attract (Haitians, Jamaicans, Afro-Latinos, etc) They're always so friendly and it's so easy to chat with them. I can not say the same about the Nigerian females.I feel awkward going to Nigerian events with my male friends and being the only woman sitting amongst the men. I also don't like it when a woman brings me a plate among the men. I feel like I should have gotten my own instead. I also don't like the fact that I only chat with the men at my job. I want to be able to chat with the women as well but it seems so hard. The men are my only gateway to communicate with them rarely. There have been occasions where I enteract with a few. There was a 9ja gal as outgoing as me that I befriended at a party (she sat on my lap tho lol). Also I asked one to teach me how to cook a nigerian plate before. She did a couple of times but that was far as it went.

So if you could, please give me a couple of suggestions and tips to befriend a 9ja gal. I'm tired of only befriending the men.

Thanks

welp guess I just won't bother anymore. Oh well.