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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by steffans(m): 11:15pm On Nov 10, 2015
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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by sheftyxz(m): 11:15pm On Nov 10, 2015
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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Software202(m): 11:18pm On Nov 10, 2015
really?
Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by martineverest(m): 11:19pm On Nov 10, 2015
Nigeria: Land of hypocrites

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Nobody: 11:24pm On Nov 10, 2015
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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by hollandis(f): 11:25pm On Nov 10, 2015
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Nigerians are obsessed with se.x, we just pretend not to be.

In this article, I am going to be talking about pornography – Internet pornography to be precise (and ancillary issues). But I do so with an upfront caveat – I do not intend to moralise as it is not my place to debate the morality of what adults indulge in on their devices, in their spare time. However, as a student of culture and behavioural development, I am concerned about vulnerable groups; particularly children and young teenagers. So, my article will focus on these two groups and tangentially, on women.

In 2015, I was privileged to work on two projects. The first was Jack & Jil Therapy – a free telephone based platform for those needing help for critical sexuality & life issues. The second project was #SaveMirabel, a movement to raise urgent funds for Lagos’ only rape crisis centre – The Mirabel Centre. As a result of my involvement with these two initiatives, I was exposed to a treasure trove of information about sexuality issues in Nigeria. I will share some of them in this article.

In 2014, the popularity of Nigerian Google searches for pornography (relative to other searches) on a scale of 0 to 100 was above 80. (Google ranks as 100 any item that constitutes 10% or more of all searches in a country.) The number of average monthly searches by volume was 165,000 and the States with the greatest popularity for porn searches were: Lagos, Oyo, Delta, Rivers, Cross River and Abuja. The relative popularity of rape pornography videos was also above 80, with Lagos State leading the charge and Nigeria ranked third globally for the most Google searches for Gay pornography. (We were ranked second in 2013.)

Since 2009, pornography search popularity has always risen above 70 every December, save one. In December 2009 and 2010, Nigeria outstripped America in the popularity of searches for pornography – a nation twice our size.

A popular pornography site is among the top 50 sites visited by Nigerians according to Alexa.com. It is more popular than the leading jobs and news sites.

Stupidd research .Nigeria outstripped American indeed.What megabytes do you guys have to be downloading those huge HD videos and pictures? In America all the cafes have free WiFi

Your foolish statistic ,assumptions and conclusion is false and a waste of financial resources if any

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by God2man(m): 11:26pm On Nov 10, 2015
Thank God ooooo for this great post.

God will bless image 123.

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by speedyGonzales: 11:26pm On Nov 10, 2015
what Gay pornography ? in a country were gay is banned?
Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Nobody: 11:27pm On Nov 10, 2015

Reads first post . . .

closes porn tab . . . .

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by unbeat007(m): 11:29pm On Nov 10, 2015
cococandy:

Tell me something grin

But we hate gayness na.
You want to tell me a high population of Nigerians watch gay porn?

Abeg bring the stats here before I believe you.
It might be the inquisitiveness to know how it works causes it. the oyibos don't search for it cause they know how it works. THEY PRACTICE IT.
Pls don't miss quote. just defending my country as a Law student grin

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Nobody: 11:29pm On Nov 10, 2015
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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Nobody: 11:30pm On Nov 10, 2015
@ OP

Yeah! I am told Nigerians like intimacy a lot. Why is that? Through the unguarded intimacy they end up increasing the population. They should be educated on it and how to practice it safely.

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Nobody: 11:30pm On Nov 10, 2015
OP i totally disagree with you.
may be you are talking about another Nigeria not my dear country. naija ke
Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by cococandy(f): 11:32pm On Nov 10, 2015
unbeat007:

It might be the inquisitiveness to know how it works causes it. the oyibos don't search for it cause they know how it works. THEY PRACTICE IT.
Pls don't miss quote. just defending my country as a Law student grin
lmao. Very funny
Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Damalex4luv(m): 11:32pm On Nov 10, 2015
hollandis:


Stupidd research .Nigeria outstripped American indeed.What megabytes do you guys have to be downloading those huge HD videos and pictures? In America all the cafes have free WiFi

Your foolish statistic ,assumptions and conclusion is false and a waste of financial resources if any

It's possible bro. In America sex is cheap compared to Nigeria where you need to be a sharp guy before you can get a girl. Most people here in Nigeria prefer to learn the tricks very well online b4 approaching girls.

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Akinz0126(m): 11:33pm On Nov 10, 2015
Bullshit!so known of the northern state was included among the number of state that love watching porn online?Look like our Abokis don't fancy watching it they better practicalized it cause sex is one of there hubby here in the north.Once upon a time I love watching porn movies I must confess.













Quotes me @ your own peril.

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Ibebe: 11:35pm On Nov 10, 2015
In 2014, the popularity of Nigerian Google searches for pornography (relative to other searches) on a scale of 0 to 100 was above 80. (Google ranks as 100 any item that constitutes 10% or more of all searches in a country.) The number of average monthly searches by volume was 165,000 and the States with the greatest popularity for porn searches were: Lagos, Oyo, Delta, Rivers, Cross River and Abuja. The relative popularity of rape pornography videos was also above 80, with Lagos State leading the charge and Nigeria ranked third globally for the most Google searches for Gay pornography. (We were ranked second in 2013.)

WTF?


@ gay pornography

Not surprising. Nigerians are the most hypocritical people on the planet.

99% of the anti-homosexuals on NL are in the closet.

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by quickly: 11:35pm On Nov 10, 2015
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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by AreaFada2: 11:36pm On Nov 10, 2015
andromida:
I see why rape cases have been on the increase they've been feeding their minds with rape pornography at the rate they are watching gay porn even people who are not gay will begin to believe they are gay or dabble into gay sex. This is alarming.

I have consistently maintained here that 9ja is full of hypocrites. I wasn't expecting the gay part but doesn't really surprise me.

Those who scream kill gays, kill rapists etc may actually have sordid sexual depravity in private. They say so to avoid suspicion.

Look at corruption. Everyone claims that it is devil's very own trademark. Yet corruption is everywhere and getting worse.

Now tell me, is it Martians/aliens who carry out the act in Nigeria? grin cheesy

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Ibebe: 11:38pm On Nov 10, 2015
AreaFada2:


I have consistently maintained here that 9ja is full of hypocrites. I wasn't expecting the gay part but doesn't really surprise me.

Those who scream kill gays, kill rapists etc may actually have sordid sexual depravity in private. They say so to avoid suspicion.


Look at corruption. Everyone claims that it is devil's own very trademark. Yet corruption is everywhere and getting worse.

Now tell me, it's it Martians/aliens who carry out the act in Nigeria? grin cheesy

lmaooooo grin grin grin

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by quickly: 11:38pm On Nov 10, 2015
by the time u lift that skirt na easy access ...shuu

all those boys rapying should be rapp by dunga make dem no how it feels

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by hollandis(f): 11:39pm On Nov 10, 2015
Damalex4luv:

It's possible bro. In America sex is cheap compared to Nigeria where you need to be a sharp guy before you can get a girl. Most people here in Nigeria prefer to learn the tricks very well online b4 approaching girls.

America sex is cheap?Brother if you think girls in Nigeria are gold diggers then that's an understatement compared to North America.

Here ,girls are very faithful and stick to one guy mostly ,usually the guy is rich handsome and young

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Damalex4luv(m): 11:44pm On Nov 10, 2015
hollandis:


America sex is cheap?Brother if you think girls in Nigeria are gold diggers then that's an understatement compared to North America.

Here ,girls are very faithful and stick to one guy mostly ,usually the guy is rich handsome and young
What am saying is that America sees sex as a normal thing. They don't really count it as something of big importance. I know they can be faithful but that's only after marriage.

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by SavageGarden(m): 11:44pm On Nov 10, 2015
yanabasee:


Nigerians are f00lish...

America will introduce rubbish to the world and even via movies to make sells... And in real life will restrict her citizens with high laws set to guide them... But nigerians will watch this movies and without delay jump on it...

Most crazy dresses we say white girls dress with aren't snapped outdoors... But our crazy pictures u see on instagrams and other social media are snapped outdoors...

Quite stupid...

This people brought religion to us...and now they're changing the table from christianity to church of lucifer... And very soon... They'll twist our heads and you wouldn't know when many ppl will side the church the government will be forced to establish such churches here in Nigeria...

Rubbish...

Nigerians don't have any sense... The government fvcks us with condom... While America fvcks our government raw and without condom!

I'm done reading this shitz!!!
You're clearly the slowpoke just have a second read of the nonsense you wrote. Does it make any sense to you? No! Neither does it make sense to me and to every other Nigerian who read that crappy imbecilic write up of yours. You clearly lack common sense you just open ur filthy mouth and spew thrash you must come from the gutter. Another deluded depraved animal on the loose.

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Ibebe: 11:44pm On Nov 10, 2015
hollandis:


Stupidd research .Nigeria outstripped American indeed.What megabytes do you guys have to be downloading those huge HD videos and pictures? In America all the cafes have free WiFi

Your foolish statistic ,assumptions and conclusion is false and a waste of financial resources if any

You can't argue with google analytics. This isn't your typical epa&garri stats culled by lazy Nigerian researchers.

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by pansophist(m): 11:45pm On Nov 10, 2015
Nigeria is a sexually heated society but sexually pent-up. Our materialistic girls are part of the cause. since them don restrict their kpomo from the broke mass niggas while the few yahoo criminals enjoy them in its varieties. Lol

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Ibebe: 11:46pm On Nov 10, 2015
Damalex4luv:

What am saying is that America sees sex as a normal thing. They don't really count at as something of big importance. I know they can be faithful but that's only after marriage.

Divorce in America is 51%. Wanna bet how many of that percentage is caused by unfaithful partners?

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by switboi: 11:47pm On Nov 10, 2015
Meanwhile sex and joblessness/unemployment is the best recipe for poverty/hardship. I guess Nigeria is definitely a big proof to that too.

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by mmsen: 11:56pm On Nov 10, 2015
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Now, back to Nigeria.

Nigeria currently enjoys about 37% internet penetration. This means 63 million people enjoy internet access, a significant portion of them being teenagers. (For perspective, the population of connected Nigerians is about that of the entire population of the United Kingdom.)

In 2014, A.T. Kearney, the global management consulting firm revealed the countries with the most devoted Internet users. Nigeria was number 2. Nigerians do not just have access to the Internet; they love to use it.

Nigeria’s Ministry of Information & Communications projects that the country will have 76% broadband penetration by 2020. Are we ready for the increased access to Internet pornography that this will create?


These are my main concerns: Will a nation without credible and well resourced policing structures be able to protect minors and the vulnerable from online solicitation or the expressions of sexual deviants and psychopaths? Who ensures that minors with little understanding of or a frame of reference for sexuality are protected from early access to sexual material? Who tells them that what they are seeing isn’t real? Who manages their expectations of real life intimacy? Who deals with the fall-out of a child whose first experience with sex may be cruelty and domination? Where are the professionals required to assist a growing youth population grappling with sexuality issues? Who treats the addicted?

According to the National Association of Clinical Psychologists (NACP), there are only 42 Clinical Psychologists and 180 Psychiatrists registered with the association in Nigeria. Taken together, this is a ratio of 1 mental health professional to 766,000 Nigerian citizens. Dr. David Igbokwe, a Nigerian Clinical Psychologist and Psychotherapist posits that if we take into consideration the broader ecosystem of mental health professionals – Occupational Therapists, Social Workers, Psychotherapists, Clinical Psychologists, Psychiatrists and Trained Counsellors – including those in private practice, Nigeria may have up to 1,200 mental health professionals. This is a paltry number if Internet pornography addiction were to take firm root in Nigeria. Already, in one month of existence of the Jack & Jil Therapy platform, addiction to pornography & masturbation has been the most recurrent issue.

In a society where the family unit is increasingly becoming fractured and where parental oversight is not what it used to be, we cannot afford to add a layer of sexuality issues to our national troubles. We simply do not have the structures in place to deal with it. Presently, Nigeria has little or no restrictions to internet access. This includes an absence of restrictions to child pornography and lack of protection for children and teenagers who may be exploited or behaviourally programmed. Teenagers already have easy access to real life sexual liaisons on the Internet. From the Lagos Sex Network to Twitter After Dark to Creamy Escorts, opportunities abound if you’re looking for a sexual partner via the Internet. Snapchat has also introduced Snapcash, making it easy to pay for shared nudes.

There are at least 93 million internet users in Nigeria, not sure where you pulled your stats from.

http://www.ngrguardiannews.com/2015/09/internet-users-in-nigeria-rise-to-93-5m/

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Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by Nobody: 11:57pm On Nov 10, 2015
Hmmmmm.....this thing has so fried some peoples brain that they cant be rehabilitated, that why you find people going for the children without remorse
Re: Nigerians, We’ve Got A Sexuality Problem by MrCork: 11:58pm On Nov 10, 2015
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From the foregoing, we can surmise that Nigerians have a robust interest in Internet pornography. This is not just a Nigerian phenomenon. According to Google Facts, pornography sites get more visitors globally each month than Netflix, Amazon and Twitter combined. According to Pornhub, the world’s leading online pornography aggregator, the largest consumed categories of pornography among millennials are cosplay (the practice of dressing up as a character from a film, book, or video game) and hentai (a subgenre of the Japanese genres of manga and animje). In other words, there’s escape from reality into the world of fantasy. Gaming and virtual reality are now influencing the type of pornography millennials are consuming. Now even though over 70% of Nigeria’s population are millennials, we have no data on the type of pornography they are consuming.

Some may argue that watching pornography is part of the normal sexual exploration and growth of a young person and should be encouraged. But let’s consider commentary from leading neurologists:

An article by Frank Powell describes the key highlights of a TED talk by Gary Wilson, a retired neurologist. The talk was titled “The Great Por.n Experiment.” In the video, Wilson details the devastating effects of long term consumption of pornography on the developing brain including, Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), social anxiety and depression. Pornography also numbs the ability to feel real life intimacy. The longer a brain is exposed to pornography, the more hyperactive it becomes at the sight of pornography. In other words, the more you view pornography, the more your brain desires it. It is a vicious cycle that ultimately erodes your willpower and self-control.

A study published in 2014 by Cambridge University tracked the behaviours of compulsive pornography users: over 50% of subjects (average age 25) had difficulty achieving erection with real partners yet could do so with pornography.

Here’s more from Gary Wilson: Pornography is particularly appealing because of the Coolidge Effect, a phenomenon seen in mammalian species where males (and to a lesser extent females) exhibit renewed sexual interest if introduced to new receptive sexual partners. This is because of the novelty factor. With internet pornography, you can experience more variety in 10 minutes of clicking than you may experience in an entire year of real life, hence, its appeal. According to Gary Wilson, consistent consumption of pornography rewires the brain of developing teenagers, leading to desensitisation, a drop in libido & willpower and eventually erectile dysfunction in real life scenarios. Intriguingly, research shows that older men who did not grow up with high speed Internet recovered faster than younger men from pornography related erectile dysfunction because their sexual preferences were set in their brains long before they got hooked on Internet pornography.

Although there are exceptions to every rule; the exception generally proves and tests the presence of a rule. Pornography is especially devastating to a child or teenager’s brain and sexual development.

It is interesting to note that those who are in the tobacco business speak about the principle of generational addiction. Because nicotine is addictive, if you can get people smoking when they’re young, you’re guaranteed a significant population of life-long customers. The same principle applies to pornography. In "Por.n On The Brain", a UK Channel 4 documentary, a neurologist found that the brains of compulsive pornography users were altered similarly to those suffering from other addictions.





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was wrong wit watchin poooono......u dont like women?
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