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| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by greggng: 1:18am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Your grammar is very good and yet ur father calls you a black sheep. Assuming I know ur age I would ve advised to live his house if you re of age. Go and struggle and when you become someone, he will begin to appreciate. I don't think ur dad hates you, he just want the best for you. Behave yourself and earn his respect and admiration |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Elebiju: 1:19am On Nov 24, 2015 |
i am a very blunt yoruba man and i wont mince words,you are a product of a bad memory but there is a way out, pray and work hard. 1 Like |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 1:19am On Nov 24, 2015 |
porrigeyam: Best advice. |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 1:20am On Nov 24, 2015 |
@op How old are you? |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 1:22am On Nov 24, 2015 |
@ OP your dad doesnt hate you he was probably raised in a similar way. The only way out is for you to leave that house. I think you're old enough, go make your own way I and the public know What all schoolchildren learn, Those to whom evil is done Do evil in return. - W.H. Auden 1 Like |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by raayah(f): 1:23am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Afrok: WTF Man! This man is being physically and emotionally abused by his father and you're telling him to show him love?? What Love? Love for somebody that rubs pepper on your body and flogs you 42 lashes will nud^e  Don't be delusional. His father is a monster!!I bet his father must have been maltreated as a kid also, this is why I am against any kind of physical abuse on children, because Nigerians will do horrendous things and call it discipline. TO OP!, I don't know how old you are, but its time for you to MOVE OUT OF THAT HOUSE. Find a friend's couch you can sleep on, get ANY Job and start living. Please also make sure to see a therapist in the future or talk to somebody. You need help, if I were close to your location, I would have helped you. NO ONE SHOULD SUFFER LIKE THIS. Therock5555, Please know that Its not your fault, Your FATHER IS AN EVIL MAN! May GOD HELP YOU. 12 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 1:24am On Nov 24, 2015 |
....... 5 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by slevin1(m): 1:25am On Nov 24, 2015 |
You're experiencing this kind of problem and you're asking nairalanders for help. One chance. From my view, the story is centered on ur dad. Where and how does ur mum feature in ur life? If with what you've written I was to give my perspective, I'd say maybe you're not his. But what the hell do I know. It's time to swap ur sheep wool colour to white and call on God's grace. You'll be needing it. |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 1:26am On Nov 24, 2015 |
It's unfortuate dt u find urself in dis situation, bt wat i cn say is to pray cos if dere's a man to pray, dere's God to answer |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Truckpusher(m): 1:26am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Leave the house, fake your own death and see how happy he is about it....lol let's be serious here  Ask questions that will demand for an answer and you might just discover some secret you'll never wish to know about. My brother bone them and leave that house and see what life has in store for you. I'm tired of young vibrant people waiting for their dad's permission to feel good about themselves . Tell him to his face that you're leaving and you'll come back as something he will wish to have and will never have till he dies. And just walk away and do not look back. 5 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by coolscott(m): 1:27am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Therock5555: [size=13pt]Your father is the wrong one. It is written in the Bible, Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. It is also written there... Fathers, provoke not thy children to anger. Go and check it out. I wonder what your age is. If you are soon going to graduate, just patiently wait till you get a job and go for service. Once you get a source of income on account of which you can afford not to come home anymore if you so choose, then...[/size][size=14pt] Lay hold on the life you thus find[/size] 3 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by SpotlezDonald25(m): 1:29am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Wuris u talking ?@OP o boy!! As long as u remain in dah house and eat moma's food, he will never stop maltreating u.. Make sure u make peace with him and den quietly take a bold step outta dat house. Be a man and a survivor..pray dat God blesses you and keep Him alive to see wut u'll become. Believe me he'll come looking for u afterwards. #word |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by lee007(m): 1:29am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Guy i wish i can talk to you on the phone...if you dont mind |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Emmaesty(f): 1:30am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Totfulguy:He's above 18 |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by coolscott(m): 1:30am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Therock5555:[size=13pt]If I remember correctly, there are 3 places in the bible where the Lord asks us to be obedient to our parents. In 2 of those places, just immediately after, it tells parents not to provoke their children to anger[/size] |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 1:35am On Nov 24, 2015 |
If you're still alive at this point, your father is not trying to kill you...oya go prostate for Baba and say sorry for all the bad bad things you used to do...dat's a good boy 2 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by raayah(f): 1:36am On Nov 24, 2015 |
GogobiriLalas: Please stop telling that boy to apologize. In a civilized country, his father would be in jail because of the physical harm that he has caused this young man. He hasn't done anything to deserve such wickedness and nothing to apologize for. I am even scared that if his father sees this post, he will ause the OP some more. OP needs to get out of that house ASAP! 10 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by ricki: 1:37am On Nov 24, 2015 |
there are 2 sides to every bullsh1t...... 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by iPopAlomo(m): 1:37am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Lmao... hahaha... like you just wrote a bit of my story... you know what...? it's all a phase... you'll get over it... how do I know... because I did... Yours is even small... it's nothing compared to mine... 2 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by raayah(f): 1:39am On Nov 24, 2015 |
ricki: Physical and emotional abuse is not bullshit. 1 Like |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by raayah(f): 1:41am On Nov 24, 2015 |
iPopAlomo: He's is not small, don't compare your pain to others. It may seem small to you but he's in pain. No need for one-upping on a vulnerable and abused young man. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by MrBLING(m): 1:43am On Nov 24, 2015 |
There are always two sides to a story. @ op. You said your father is a nairalander. Hopefully he sees this thread and we get the opportunity to hear his views. |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Ilaje44(m): 1:45am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Atmmachine:Dont fight anybody! I had a terror of a boss back then. There's nothing you can do to satisfy him. He always found something to complain about even if it was not my fault, however, it was a lucrative job. So one day, I decided to show him, that morning, we had deliveries, when I saw that everything was set, I told him that I am resigning. He couldn't believe it, because nobody dared face him. He was the one that was sending people off on flimsy excuses. But I went, and his day/schedule was ruined, and I gained my freedom. My advice, if you can afford, and you're an adult, just move out of the house, and try to establish yourself. It maybe painful at the beginning, and his words will echo in your mind during the trying periods, but in the long run, the experience will make you strong. Please don't go and join any gang or cult, or try to fight your father. You need your freedom. Go for it. 5 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Urine: 1:47am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Therock5555: What are you doing at the moment? Are you in school or you have graduated? 1 Like |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by friends4ever(m): 1:51am On Nov 24, 2015 |
CALL MAURAY SHOW AT 1-888-456-2879 HE TAKES CARE OF FAMILY DRAMA. NOTE: DNA MUST BE CONDUCTED TO PROVE, HE IS OR NOT YOUR FATHER, IT WILL BE AIRED ON NATIONAL TV THOUGH. |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Kalvan: 1:55am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Atmmachine: Omo yeegbo. You people enjoy fighting your old parents. Lol! 3 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by iPopAlomo(m): 1:56am On Nov 24, 2015 |
raayah: It really is small... he can't hold on to the pain forever... otherwise... he won't be living his life... lemme tell you and the OP a quick story... I finished up my NCE at 18/19 years... can't remember... so I went home after graduating... and I went to play football... on environmental sanitation day... who turned up at the field...?! my dad... with OPC... he actually paid them to give me 200 stokes on my back... yes... 200 strokes from an OPC member... at some point... my back couldn't take it... so I raised my hand... to cushion the cane from hitting my back... till tomorrow... those marks are still on my hands... and that's just one of many stories... I really hated him then... but... he's my father afterall... I can't kill him... So... to the OP... take it on the chin... put your head down and keep doing what you're doing... hell come around... Oh... I'm the first born too... I'm willing to bet a lot of money on you that you're the first born too... Me and my dad... we're not close... true... but I bare no ill will towards him... I even worked for him a while till I resigned... chin up mate... it's all a phase... until you see another man's farm... your father's farm is still the biggest... 5 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by abbey621(m): 2:00am On Nov 24, 2015 |
OP- I'm going to be very frank with you! As a child all the way till my first year in the university I was flogged often and mercilessly by my father and/or uncle. The worst thing with my father is that he didn't just stop at the flogging, he would deprive me of food, make me walk to school during my secondary school days and as if that was not bad enough, he wouldn't stop speaking bad about me everywhere he went. I've been embarrassed publicly many times by him and I often wondered if I was adopted or stolen. I grew a deep hatred for him but things changed all of a sudden when I decided to stay away and be a MAN! I decided to stay in school and hustle, I would cut grass, beg, even sold handouts just to survive. This single act of courage stopped all the maltreatment, he started seeing me more as independent and would often tell people that he doesn't know why I don't come to see him, he doesn't know why I don't ask for money or for him to pay my school fees. OP You have to be strong and claim your independence, it's not about fighting him or being rude, it's about removing that layer of dependency and being your own person. This is your father's point of view, he feeds you, clothes you and provides shelter for you, he basically owns you! This is the way most African parents think and until you prove that you are not a leech, he'll continue to maltreat you. I just laughed when I read your post because to most people 48 strokes seems brutal but to me I don chop am many times, I've been punched, kicked even bashed on the head with a kondo all by the same man but today I thank God, 15 years ago I couldn't even dream of a peaceful life and that peaceful life did not come until I let go of all the hatred. Free your mind young lad and look at the bigger picture! 22 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 2:00am On Nov 24, 2015 |
raayah:Today's civilised world is tomorrow's jungle; in those so called civilised Societies you need to see what their youths have become and the sorts of ideas they espouse; it's only a question of time before it all comes crashing down. Spare the rod spoil the child, your flower child mentality may find this abhorrent, but it works. Granted it should be laid sparingly and with kindness, but one must apply the rod in proportion to the gravity of the offense and the depravity exhibited by the offender; this is a kid that was looking under skirts since he was 2yrs old and how many kids do you know who publish corporal punishments on public forums ? My guess is we have a special case on our hands and besides it's not wise to take sides based on one person's narrative...but from my experience, I will presume that a father wants the best for his child; hence my admonition. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Etizz: 2:03am On Nov 24, 2015 |
And do u think he's your biological father? Of course, he is not....... It's high time u move on without him..... D father dat says his child will not sleep, dat father will not sleep also........ I will wish him dead also....... |
| Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Abiagirl777(f): 2:05am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Hmmm,took me back memory lane though from my mom.one night she sent me out in the cold because I spoilt my watch,that night was the most horrible day of my life.I sat in front of the gate to ll past 12,the only one in the street,a child of 10 years in the name of discipline.i saw all sorts of nocturnal anlmals dat night,it severed whatever love I had for her and always kept to myself even when I saw my 1st period and almost got raped,my eldest sis became our mother She came for my Omugwo and something brought it up,she couldn't look at me.I don't blame her atall,I've forgiven her but its deeply etched in my heart. I promised myself I'll be her exact opposite,by his grace I shall 6 Likes |
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