This is an issue that had bothered me for a while now, and after a two hour long argument with a stranger on a bus, I have decided to come to you romancelanders. Have you ever reached for a spouse's phone and they'd hurriedly snatch it away? Has a spouse ever stepped out every single time they had to make a call? Does your partner always keep their whereabouts, friends, family history, finance e.t.c a secret? As for me, i am confused. Is there a place for privacy or is there not?

My Dear, the moment he or she steps out to make calls when they're together or uses a security lock on phone, you know something isn't right. It will always arouse suspicion which isn't good for any healthy Relationship. For me, privacy is a NO NO! When it comes to Finance, I can open up my Basic salary to her but won't let her know the extra allowances I get.

Mrking, isn't hiding your allowie details a bit of privacy also? But I do agree with you, it raises a lot if suspicion. I mean if you're clean, what's there to hide?

Yea take for instance, my fiancee is much aware of my Basic salary! There's this attitude of most ladies already planning how your salary would be spent hence they know the exact amount. If u decide to be open, then you should also be ready to give account of how the money was spent. Personally, I use the other allowances I earn to solve family issues. I mean my own family. (Mum, siblings).

Privacy should be respected in any form of human relations....problem only arises when ppl begin to go to certain extents to keep secrets all in the name of privacy. Certain things shouldn't necessarily be private in a relationship...be it marital or not.

I'd have been more specific,but I find I don't have the enthusiasm to type so much tonight.

While I am all for respecting the other person's privacy and personal space, I mean this is a marriage (or at least, its headed that way). Why must there be privacy in the first place?