MurphyG1:
Madam can't your husband teach? I know many people who live in Suleja and work in Abuja.

Secondly, if he cannot teach he should sit up! Walk into the 1,001 private organisations ( hotels, laundry services, restaurants etc) and request to see the manager. Most times there are vacancies and until u try before you know this. Mind you, you do not need to know anybody before you do this!


He needs to improve his hussling spirit!

yebo36:
Hi all, am pretty new here on this section but am impressed that matters of the heart is being addressed here.

Its been four years of marriage and I have been the only one with a monthly income of just 30k supporting the family. Truly am tried but just hanging on.

Recently, i discovered that my husband can't perform well on bed, hardly eats and losing weight. Just this evening i asked if he was sick but he said no its his finances that is affecting him.

Please to all the married men and women in the house your advice will be highly appreciated.

I tried fivver, freelancer writing articles but its not easy to write and meet deadline with kids and so much responsibility of running the home. So I had to put it on hold.

yebo36:

We talked on that before, h[b]e said he does not like teaching and for th[/b]e hotel, he walked as a manager in one hotel in gwarimpa but they still owe him 1 year salary so he had to stop

yebo36:
Hi all, am pretty new here on this section but am impressed that matters of the heart is being addressed here.

Its been four years of marriage and I have been the only one with a monthly income of just 30k supporting the family. Truly am tried but just hanging on.

Recently, i discovered that my husband can't perform well on bed, hardly eats and losing weight. Just this evening i asked if he was sick but he said no its his finances that is affecting him.

Please to all the married men and women in the house your advice will be highly appreciated.

I tried fivver, freelancer writing articles but its not easy to write and meet deadline with kids and so much responsibility of running the home. So I had to put it on hold.

Eketem:



At this point he should be more concerned about putting food on the table not about what he likes or doesn't like. When he doesn't have mouths to feed and bills to pay he has the chance to be picky.
What did he want to do when he read philosophy.
Okay what does he want to do? Like I said he needs to be the one growing up, you can try all you want but if he doesn't have the determination there is little you can do

Acidosis:


I think you should create and dedicate some time for the freelance writing. Fivver will definitely give you some crazy deadlines so I won't encourage you to continue with fivver. You can be independent and successful.

I could help out by issuing some of my unending tasks with considerable timeframe. I've tested fivver and I can assure you of the fact that you'll make double of what you earn from fivver as an independent freelancer.

How long will it take you to complete a 3000 word paper (without outright copying/plagiarism)?

Do you do statistics, or market research?

EfemenaXY:


Aren't they a books / product reviewing website?

Acidosis:


Yes, some clients seek the expertise of freelance reviewers, but I don't think such deals are easy to come by

EfemenaXY:

What deals? To review?

Acidosis:
Yes, to review

EfemenaXY:


Maybe, maybe not.

Quantity speaks for itself on that site. The more books / products a reviewer has under their belt + rankings received, the better.

As an author, if I get a shoddy / copy & paste review, I certainly won't find it funny. Some claim to review literature in 24 hours but I find those reviews dubious. The reviewer has to take into context the range of subject matter, complexity, and most importantly genre. There is no one size fits all.

And I'm sorry to be harsh here but going by the quality of language she's used in posting on here, I wouldn't recommend she reviews literature - unless short stories. But certainly not novellas and definitely not novels.

No one wants a "rushed" review and with 2 young kids under 4? I don't think so.

yebo36:


We talked on that before, he said he does not like teaching and for the hotel, he walked as a manager in one hotel in gwarimpa but they still owe him 1 year salary so he had to stop

Acidosis:


I perfectly understand your stance. In fact I won't advise her to delve into story writing/literature/fiction, and other areas where one needs to transform & transfer imaginations into writing.

I'm believing she'd do well in the area of business writing, essays & may be academic briefs where people like me depend vastly on secondary/primary sources (without outright copying/pasting). The challenge however as you've rightly mentioned is TIME/distraction.

cedaraustine:

Please, how can I reach you? On this same subject matter.

MurphyG1:


They owe him one year salary?

Has the hotel closed down? Didnt they pay any other staff during that period?

If your story is true then please intensify your prayers!

EfemenaXY:


Good questions.

And that's why I'd like to know what he was doing for a living pre-marriage. Hustling isn't for every one and if that be the case, then she's got her work cut out, especially as there seems to be a pattern here.

He was working with Union insurance before marriage.

ogawisdom:
Op ur husband is still talking abt wat he likes n doesnt like to do when u pay rent, feed him and his children for 4years and counting. He shld man up and start thinking abt survival of his family at this point and shld b ready to do any legal thing to provide for his family. He shld
1. Learn hw to drive keke, taxi,bus, okada
2.Learn hw to Barb n start barbing saloon
3. Take up teaching job in primary/sec whether he likes it or nt his family needs d money
4. Football viewing center
5. Go to construction sites there are alot to do n earn a living there
6. Learn skills in demand in his area

He must bring sth to d table monthly, BC even God is nt happy with him as he is worst than an infidel nw. Talk to him and encourage him to hustle harder

yebo36:


I also think he is not trying enough at times but maybe I don't know how to put it across to him cos we always end up quarreling. Am thinking of talking to an elderly person i know he respect to talk to him

Eketem:
For one allow him to grow up
You seem to be doing all the work for him getting money for him to start business, sending him for prayers etc.
He needs to own up and stand on his own two feet. What kind of business is he doing and did he have any training or experience before jumping in?
Most times we just " start business" without laying foundations just because we see people suceeding in that business.

The Igbos do years of apprenticeship before opening their own business for a reason.

If his business isn't going well it means he needs to learn how to run it profitably let him humble himself and learn from someone else who has gone far in the relationship.

He read philosophy in reality his chances of employment are limited.

My advice is don't have more kids for now
Both of you draw up a five year plan
Let him help out more with the kids so you can meet your deadlines and make more money.

A family needs both hands on deck to succeed, he needs to get out of self pity and put his families survival first. This happens when people go into marriage hoping destiny or fate will better their fortunes instead of proper planning

thelish:
Madam if u pamper this ur husband join this laziness, na be say u go quick old ooo.
I was once In ur shoe. The problem is, they feel too big n proud to do some certain jobs irrespective of d cash in flow. U can report him to anybody he respects.

thelish:
Madam if u pamper this ur husband join this laziness, na be say u go quick old ooo.
I was once In ur shoe. The problem is, they feel too big n proud to do some certain jobs irrespective of d cash in flow. U can report him to anybody he respects.

yebo36:


Yes i agree with this part, i really think he should learn a skill i think that's were we need to concentrate.

We stay in Suleja Niger state about 30mins drive to Abuja. Do you think he needs to relocate to maybe Lagos? I suggested it once though and i told him i don't mind staying behind so he can find his part. What do you think sir?

Rukemi291:
Ahh. I just saw that he doesn't like teaching. I don't think this is a matter of what he likes or doesn't like o. He has to intensify his efforts. You have tried in your way.