espionagesavvy:
Dear Cynthia
I caught my husband of five years sniffing the panties of my 15 years niece. I don't know if I should confront him or let the issue lie.
I also think he bought my niece a new blackberry phone because the day I insisted on making my niece tell me where she got the phone, he became too overprotective of her and we almost fought over the issue.

My niece recently lost her father, making my sister a widow who let go of her children to stay with her relatives, that is how my niece came to stay with me,
On the 26th of November 2015, I saw him at the backyard next to the heap of clothes my niece brought out to wash, he picked up a pant, my niece's pant and sniffed it, I almost screamed where I was.
Also I keep noticing the look they exchange, very flirtatious.

Lastly my niece is acting like she is his wife, she dishes his food even before the children's food, doesn't knock before opening the door of our bedroom, and the most disturbing is, she asks my husband where he is going when he wants to go out as if she is his wife, my husband is 37 and this girl is 15, I suggested to my husband that we send her off to a boarding school, he rejected the idea and even got angry with me saying it will affect the girl psychologically, as if I want to dump her in a boarding house and run away. I want to confront my husband but I have no evidence, and for my niece I respect my eldest sister so much that I don't know what to do, I feel like an outsider in my own home.

P.S. My husband is a banker and also a pastor at our church.

I sincerely need your advice.
Thank you.

Sad depressed housewife in Ikeja

Sincere4u:

Easy on me please. I'm not a saint but have never slept with more than one lady in my life and I'm well over 30yrs.
By my records haven't I tried?. How can i not be faithful, If you don't believe me, marry me to find out for yourself and if you feel I deserve castration over a comment, I'll accept it if you will do the castration with your own hands...lol

HaneefahRN:

Sometimes I don't understand how some men reason. How wld someone try to justify a man having sexual relations wt his wife's 15yrs old niece by saying the girl is tempting.
Does being a man give u a justification to be irrational, not to think wt ur brain but little head, being selfish and wicked when sex is related.
Bunch of hypocrites, if it were a woman that is seemingly having an affair wt her husband's nephew, all hell will be let loose, but since it's d man, there is no big deal, the woman has to be mature and shut up to try to save her marriage.

HaneefahRN:

Being tempted by the woman's 15yr old niece? Do u listen to urself? I don't understand what u're driving at.
OP, sorry but ur husband is a mad, shameless man without conscience. It's better u confront him and also take that girl away from that house. From their body language something is definitely going on already.

espionagesavvy:
Dear Cynthia
I caught my husband of five years sniffing the panties of my 15 years niece. I don't know if I should confront him or let the issue lie.
I also think he bought my niece a new blackberry phone because the day I insisted on making my niece tell me where she got the phone, he became too overprotective of her and we almost fought over the issue.

My niece recently lost her father, making my sister a widow who let go of her children to stay with her relatives, that is how my niece came to stay with me,
On the 26th of November 2015, I saw him at the backyard next to the heap of clothes my niece brought out to wash, he picked up a pant, my niece's pant and sniffed it, I almost screamed where I was.
Also I keep noticing the look they exchange, very flirtatious.

Lastly my niece is acting like she is his wife, she dishes his food even before the children's food, doesn't knock before opening the door of our bedroom, and the most disturbing is, she asks my husband where he is going when he wants to go out as if she is his wife, my husband is 37 and this girl is 15, I suggested to my husband that we send her off to a boarding school, he rejected the idea and even got angry with me saying it will affect the girl psychologically, as if I want to dump her in a boarding house and run away. I want to confront my husband but I have no evidence, and for my niece I respect my eldest sister so much that I don't know what to do, I feel like an outsider in my own home.

P.S. My husband is a banker and also a pastor at our church.

I sincerely need your advice.
Thank you.

Sad depressed housewife in Ikeja

Sincere4u:

You ladies are so hard on men in your judgements. We are human beings and not God.
A lot of 15yr olds are already deep in relationships. I'm not saying it's right but when you come to think of the fact that some are already married one begin to wonder if the men that married them weren't attracted to them.
If they can be attracted to the minors then they might as well fall for a temptation from them.
At what age did you first develop emotions for a guy?. For most ladies they were teenagers at the time. Peace.

catlova:

Amin ooo.
Same to u.
U no know say u suppose dey write?

otokx:
So because the woman became a widow they distributed her children? This extended family system is wrecking Nigeria. this woman is about to loose her husband.

daretodiffer:

This is not the man's first time! I am very certain of that

misspicy:

If ah write will you be my publisher?

daretodiffer:

This is not the man's first time! I am very certain of that

cococandy:
Pls remove that girl from harm's way.
If you guys want to help, let her go back to her mother and you can pay her fees from your home.
Tell her it's for the best. She will appreciate you when gets older and knows better.

If your husband is a closet paedophile then you have more than your niece to worry about. You're married to someone who will sexually molest a budding child left in his care. Even the ones maybe related to him. That should give you the creeps and goosebumps.

catlova:


Who knows? Anything is possible oooo.

kikikikiki ....then I have a story to tell buh I don't think am much of a writer though

ifyjohnson:
Hmmm madam posters above me have said it all but for emphasis I think you should be more worried about the little girl.
You said she is now acting like his wife you have observed this things so don't turn a blind eye to it. Mind you she is acting that way because of the attention been given to her by your husband.
so take her to another relative in another town but make sure you cater for her needs in any way you can
Then talk to your husband I mean serious talk don't nag or scream but be firm in telling him your position about the issue. You are his wife for crying out loud







And be more observant about your little daughters

asadike:
madam, what are u still waiting for? u no go use style save your marriage? pls contact another family member of yours in another state and send d girl to her. dont confront your husband, he will deny it. why would you allow her to serve your husband food in d first place? is it her duty? pls send her away and start acting like a wife just like your niece used to do.

SAMBARRY:
sharia laws only apply to some people and not every one.if not why would most northern elites marry their grand children's age mate while their own kids travel to the best schools in uk Canada and Australia for their masters or PhD and marry at 27 or 28 .sharia no consain those ones but some children of "nobodies" are the ones wey sharia consain. At 13 they sell them off as sex slaves to a retarded sociopath/pedophilile.

neoapocalypse:


Exactly , we have never heard of daughters of Northern elites being stoned to death for adultery or their sons receiving 100 lashes of cane. Some are truly above the law.