Often time we find ourselves in a relationship we wish it will never end. While a portion of us aren't that lucky. Do you know what it takes to be a "successful relationship"?

This is a question many guys/ladies cant give an accurate answer to. but the truth remains that for a relationship to be tagged "successful", much sacrifices are involved..

Im sure many of you will say 'I do my best', or 'I give my all to make it work', some guys will say 'I provided everything she ever wanted'. truth is, a successful relationship takes more than mere gifts.

You are free to list other ways you can have a "successful relationship " . im sure there are more experienced men/women in the house who has seen it all and, please feel free to educate us.

Trust, love, tolerance and understanding is the key. Money and gifts is not everything but happiness is ones most priority in a relationship

Relationship will last longer when there is freedom. Just let your partner do there thing, play along and don't be too possessive a good relationship don't focus too much on the past or d future they focus on the present.

It just feels right
He's not only your friend but that someone you can never get bore with
No matter how many hours you spend together always something to talk about
These relationships are rare
i must have been lucky to experience 2 of it
Can't say how it happened but I found out I was growing in love daily
Yes we might not talk for hours or days but I never was outta love
The bond was crazy

All I saw was a friend a brother a gossip mate a sexual toy a lover my play mate in him
Never regretted the love we shared
But hey sometimes you can't have all you ever want

I nagged him out(LDR)
Said I went crazy
I know
I COULD BE A TERRIBLE NAG especially when I WANT SOMETHING

Dyt:
It just feels right
He's not only your friend but that someone you can never get bore with
No matter how many hours you spend together always something to talk about
These relationships are rare
i must have been lucky to experience 2 of it
Can't say how it happened but I found out I was growing in love daily
Yes we might not talk for hours or days but I never was outta love
The bond was crazy

All I saw was a friend a brother a gossip mate a sexual toy a lover my play mate in him
Never regretted the love we shared
But hey sometimes you can't have all you ever want

I nagged him out(LDR)
Said I went crazy
I know
I COULD BE A TERRIBLE NAG especially when I WANT SOMETHING

What a sad way to loose such rare but wonderful relationship.

I hope you are cutting down on your nagging habit.

Dyt:
It just feels right
He's not only your friend but that someone you can never get bore with
No matter how many hours you spend together always something to talk about
These relationships are rare
i must have been lucky to experience 2 of it
Can't say how it happened but I found out I was growing in love daily
Yes we might not talk for hours or days but I never was outta love
The bond was crazy

All I saw was a friend a brother a gossip mate a sexual toy a lover my play mate in him
Never regretted the love we shared
But hey sometimes you can't have all you ever want

I nagged him out(LDR)
Said I went crazy
I know
I COULD BE A TERRIBLE NAG especially when I WANT SOMETHING

Tell me more about the LDR, Was is inter state, country etc? How did you both manage it. How did you manage it, personally?

You must be ready to learn and try put each days knowledge to proper constructive use right from the next day. To me, marriage is an institution where the acqisition of knowledge should be an everyday thing and that shall lead you aright on how much endurance, trust, tolerance, hardwork and reliability you d rather input for long sustainability.

uboma:



What a sad way to loose such rare but wonderful relationship.

I hope you are cutting down on your nagging habit.

Nope
That's part of me

I can't stop it
Hehehehehehe

Dyt:

Nope That's part of me I can't stop it Hehehehehehe

Lol.
Please learn to stop it. Its not healthy.

Adaobi12:
Tell me more about the LDR, Was is inter state, country etc? How did you both manage it. How did you manage it, personally?

Well
I think I managed it well at some point but I am a crazy kinda woman

I have had both of interstate and country
I must say I enjoyed it sha but when that thing stings ehn
Call it PMS

uboma:



Lol.

Please learn to stop it. Its not healthy.

Really?
Pla tell me not to nag him.when I am hot

Dyt:

Really? Pla tell me not to nag him.when I am hot

Try pouring very cold water on your head when you get hot next time.
Lol

uboma:



Try pouring very cold water on your head when you get hot next time.

Lol

Na
Makes it worse and it feels like I should devour the person

Don't make me start nagging you young man

Dyt:

Na Makes it worse and it feels like I should devour the person
Don't make me start nagging you young man

Lol.
I leave in peace biko before you get hot on me.

uboma:



Lol.

I leave in peace biko before you get hot on me.

alwelldinho:
Often time we find ourselves in a relationship we wish it will never end. While a portion of us aren't that lucky. Do you know what it takes to be a "successful relationship"?

This is a question many guys/ladies cant give an accurate answer to. but the truth remains that for a relationship to be tagged "successful", much sacrifices are involved..

Im sure many of you will say 'I do my best', or 'I give my all to make it work', some guys will say 'I provided everything she ever wanted'. truth is, a successful relationship takes more than mere gifts.

You are free to list other ways you can have a "successful relationship " . im sure there are more experienced men/women in the house who has seen it all and, please feel free to educate us.

@bold

I am glad that you put successful in quotation marks because I was wondering who taught you that a successful relationship requires sacrifice.

I disagree completely. A successful relationship is full of love, fun and joy. It feels like home. Even when you have disagreements, they serve you to develop the relationship and make the relationship interesting and exciting. A successful relationship FLOWS.

Don't let anyone tell you that you need to work hard to get it or to make sacrifices. The opposite is true.

Mindfulness:


@bold

I am glad that you put successful in quotation marks because I was wondering who taught you that a successful relationship requires sacrifice.

I disagree completely. A successful relationship is full of love, fun and joy. It feels like home. Even when you have disagreements, they serve you to develop the relationship and make the relationship interesting and exciting. A successful relationship FLOWS.

Don't let anyone tell you that you need to work hard to get it or to make sacrifices. The opposite is true.

I disagree.
A successful relationship doesn't just flows.
It requires hard work.
It requires sacrifices.
It requires being mindful of your partner.
His/her needs.
It feels like home when you make it home.
Compromise.
It is filled with love, joy and fun when both parties give up their selfishness in whatever form and however minute it is.
Disagreement makes the relationship healthier only when both parties sit to talk and sort out the issues causing disagreement.
You don't let disagreement flow. You don't sulk when their is disagreement.
You talk about it in an healthy way, however inconvenient that is.
No matter how long it takes for both parties to calm down, you have to talk about it.
Those are some of the hard work which at the end of the day results in successful relationship.

Dyt:

Well I think I managed it well at some point but I am a crazy kinda woman I have had both of interstate and country I must say I enjoyed it sha but when that thing stings ehn Call it PMS

PMS, whats that?

Adaobi12:
PMS, whats that?

Pre menstrual syndrome

DollyParton1:


I disagree.
A successful relationship doesn't just flows.
It requires hard work.
It requires sacrifices.
It requires being mindful of your partner.
His/her needs.
It feels like home when you make it home.
Compromise.
It is filled with love, joy and fun when both parties give up their selfishness in whatever form and however minute it is.
Disagreement makes the relationship healthier only when both parties sit to talk and sort out the issues causing disagreement.
You don't let disagreement flow. You don't sulk when their is disagreement.
You talk about it in an healthy way, however inconvenient that is.
No matter how long it takes for both parties to calm down, you have to talk about it.
Those are some of the hard work which at the end of the day results in successful relationship.

Do I sense you talking about changing for my partner, not accepting me for me?
This is me a nag, whoever wants to love me will with all my imperfections
If a man is stingy and I know but still loves him, he can't change lai lai, me sticking with him is accepting his imperfections and making it perfect.

This is the logic
Don't hide yourself
Show this is you and trust me you won't ever have any issues to worry

All we want is just that someone that makes us feel perfect
That one that completes us no matter his or her flaws
That one you can go on and on and on with and still crushes on him
That very one made for you
Don't change for me as you will always get back to yourself if something lacks
Just be you and that your complete will meet you half way

Me I kuku have lots of imperfections
I nag
I am impulsive
And some bolt don't just loose, they fly off sometimes ask mynd44


Damn some men stinginess get grades sha

DollyParton1:


I disagree.
A successful relationship doesn't just flows.
It requires hard work.
It requires sacrifices.
It requires being mindful of your partner.
His/her needs.
It feels like home when you make it home.
Compromise.
It is filled with love, joy and fun when both parties give up their selfishness in whatever form and however minute it is.
Disagreement makes the relationship healthier only when both parties sit to talk and sort out the issues causing disagreement.
You don't let disagreement flow. You don't sulk when their is disagreement.
You talk about it in an healthy way, however inconvenient that is.
No matter how long it takes for both parties to calm down, you have to talk about it.
Those are some of the hard work which at the end of the day results in successful relationship.

This is your opinion.

I don't work hard on my relationship and I don't make any sacrifices but I enjoy it a lot.

He.he.he..This thread seem wierd to me. I can't relate with it. I think I can relate with "when the wrong one loves you right"

Fkforyou:
He.he.he..This thread seem wierd to me. I can't relate with it.
I think I can relate with "when the wrong one loves you right"

it has always been when THE WRONG ONE LOVES YOU RIGHT but I decided to put a twist to it. I can assure you that I have learnt alot from comments seen so far

alwelldinho:
it has always been when THE WRONG ONE LOVES YOU RIGHT but I decided to put a twist to it. I can assure you that I have learnt alot from comments seen so far

Thats Good, to me they are all sounding like they are telling a fictional story. So when am inlove with someone am just going to lose myself entirely and spend my life trying to kiss their ass.....wow...thats hardwork.

Me i want to be loved by the right one too but the wrong ones keep coming my way, any help

ToroJah:
Me i want to be loved by the right one too but the wrong ones keep coming my way, any help

Then love them right. Gracias.

Mindfulness:


@bold

I am glad that you put successful in quotation marks because I was wondering who taught you that a successful relationship requires sacrifice.

I disagree completely. A successful relationship is full of love, fun and joy. It feels like home. Even when you have disagreements, they serve you to develop the relationship and make the relationship interesting and exciting. A successful relationship FLOWS.

Don't let anyone tell you that you need to work hard to get it or to make sacrifices. The opposite is true.

I beg to disagree with you too Sir. A successful relationship doesn't come natural, and it isn't spontaneous. Sacrifices: time, resources etc must be made. Tolerance, empathy, understanding are all essential ingredients of a "successful" relationship. #my2cents

@op...what's your definition of a successful relationship?

PiperAlpha:

I beg to disagree with you too Sir. A successful relationship doesn't come natural, and it isn't spontaneous. Sacrifices: time, resources etc must be made. Tolerance, empathy, understanding are all essential ingredients of a "successful" relationship. #my2cents

@op...what's your definition of a successful relationship?

It doesn't come natural because most of us were trained to think that it requires hard work but from my experience if it requires hard work then something is wrong. If the relationship is right, it flows. You don't feel like you are making a sacrifice for making out time with your spouse, you are keen on doing it. If you don't feel like spending time with your spouse and it feels like a sacrifice to you, what's the point of the relationship?

If I go shopping and see something that my spouse needs, I get it for him when the money is there and I enjoy getting it. I don't think of it as having made a sacrifice.

I don't tolerate my spouse. I appreciate my spouse.

As for empathy and understanding, it is required in all spheres of our life. I don't think it is hard work either.

Mindfulness:


It doesn't come natural because most of us were trained to think that it requires hard work but from my experience if it requires hard work then something is wrong. If the relationship is right, it flows. You don't feel like you are making a sacrifice for making out time with your spouse, you are keen on doing it. If you don't feel like spending time with your spouse and it feels like a sacrifice to you, what's the point of the relationship?

If I go shopping and see something that my spouse needs, I get it for him when the money is there and I enjoy getting it. I don't think of it as having made a sacrifice.

I don't tolerate my spouse. I appreciate my spouse.

As for empathy and understanding, it is required in all spheres of our life. I don't think it is hard work either.

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Oya move body
Make you ring alarm
Shake body

Dyt:


Oya shake body
Oya move body
Make you ring alarm
Shake body

[size=3pt]I like your jolly kind of nature. Keep it up.[/size]

Mindfulness:


It doesn't come natural because most of us were trained to think that it requires hard work but from my experience if it requires hard work then something is wrong. If the relationship is right, it flows. You don't feel like you are making a sacrifice for making out time with your spouse, you are keen on doing it. If you don't feel like spending time with your spouse and it feels like a sacrifice to you, what's the point of the relationship?

If I go shopping and see something that my spouse needs, I get it for him when the money is there and I enjoy getting it. I don't think of it as having made a sacrifice.

I don't tolerate my spouse. I appreciate my spouse.

As for empathy and understanding, it is required in all spheres of our life. I don't think it is hard work either.

Bro, your second paragraph has laid credence to my assertions. Albeit, you are seeing that you haven't made any sacrifice,but realistically, you made a sacrifice. This act is not something that you'd do for a a random person.
The money given up there is a sacrifice. You can as well choose not to buy her anything at that moment, and you would have done nothing wrong.

The hard work I speak of is about being serious, making efforts, making compromise and being sensitive to your partner's needs.

I still stand by my opinion that a successful relationship will not come on a platter of gold. Sacrifice: resources (money), time etc must be made.

Cheers.

PiperAlpha:


Bro, your second paragraph has laid credence to my assertions. Albeit, you are seeing that you haven't made any sacrifice,but realistically, you made a sacrifice. This act is not something that you'd do for a a random person.
The money given up there is a sacrifice. You can as well choose not to buy her anything at that moment, and you would have done nothing wrong.

How is spending money you have on someone you love a sacrifice? I would choose not to spend the money if I didn#t have it or if I didn't derive pleasure from spending it. I don't make sacrifices.

The hard work I speak of is about being serious, making efforts, making compromise and being sensitive to your partner's needs.

I am not serious, I am joyful. I don't make efforts, I have fun. If I didn't enjoy the relationship, I would remain single.

I still stand by my opinion that a successful relationship will not come on a platter of gold. Sacrifice: resources (money), time etc must be made.

Cheers.

My definition of a successful relationship is a relationship full of love, pleasure, joy and fun. If a relationship doesn't feel like it, it is not successful.