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Concept Of Marriage In Islam by eluquenson(m): 8:39am On Dec 04, 2015
MARRIAGE IN ISLAM.
Islam, unlike other religions is a strong advocate of marriage. There is no place for celibacy like, for example the Roman Catholic priests and nuns. The prophet (pbuh) has said “there is no celibacy in Islam.

Marriage is a religious duty and is consequently a moral safeguard as well as a social necessity. Islam does not equal celibacy with high “taqwa” / “Iman”. The prophet has also said, “Marriage is my tradition who so ever keeps away there from is not from amongst me”.

Marriage acts as an outlet for sexual needs and regulate it so one does not become a slave to his/ her desires.

It is a social necessity because through marriage, families are established and the family is the fundamental unit of our society. Furthermore, marriage is the only legitimate or halal way to indulge in intimacy between a man and a woman.

Islam takes a middle of the road position to sexual relations , it neither condemns it like certain religions, nor does it allow it freely. Islam urges us to control and regulate our desires, whatever they may be so that we remain dignified and not become like animals.

The purpose of Marriage.

The word “zawj” is used in the Qur’an to mean a pair or a mate. In general it usage refers to marriage. The general purpose of marriage is that the sexes can provide company to one another, love to one another, procreate children and live in peace and tranquility to the commandments of Allah.

Marriage serves as a means to emotional and sexual gratification and as a means of tension reduction. It is also a form of Ibadah because it is obeying Allah and his messenger – i.e. Marriage is seen as the only possible way for the sexes to unite. One could choose to live in sin, however by choosing marriage one is displaying obedience to Allah.

Marriage is “mithaq” – a solemn covenant (agreement). It is not a matter which can be taken lightly. It should be entered into with total commitment and full knowledge of what it involves. It is not like buying a new dress where you can exchange it if you don’t like it. Your partner should be your choice for life. One should be mature enough to understand the demands of marriage so that the union can be a lasting one. For a marriage to be valid certain conditions must be met.

1) consent of both parties.

2) ” Mahr” a gift from the groom to his bride.

3) Witnesses- 2 male or female.

4) The marriage should be publicized, it should never be kept secret as it leads to suspicion and troubles within the community.

Is Marriage obligatory?
According to Imams Abu Hanifah, Ahmad ibn Hanbal and Malik ibn Anas, marriage is recommendatory, however in certain individuals it becomes wajib/obligatory. Imam Shaafi’i considers it to be nafl or mubah (preferable). The general opinion is that if a person, male or female fears that if he/she does not marry they will commit fornication, then marriage becomes “wajib”. If a person has strong sexual urges then it becomes “wajib” for that person to marry. Marriage should not be put off or delayed especially if one has the means to do so.

A man, however should not marry if he or she does not possess the means to maintain a wife and future family, or if he has no sex drive or if dislikes children, or if he feels marriage will seriously affect his religious obligation.

The general principle is that prophet (pbuh) enjoined up in the followers to marry.

He said
“when a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion , so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.”
This hadith is narrated by Anas. Islam greatly encourages marriage because it shields one from and upholds the family unit which Islam places great importance.

Selection of a partner:
The choice of a partner should be the one with the most “taqwa” (piety). The prophet recommended the suitors see each other before going through with marriage. It is unreasonable for two people to be thrown together and be expected to relate and be intimate when they know nothing of each other. The couple are permitted to look at each other with a critical eye and not a lustful one. This ruling does not contradict the ayah which says that believing men and women should lower their gaze.

– The couple, however are not permitted to be alone in a closed room or go out together alone. As the hadith says “when a man and a woman are together alone, there is a third presence i.e. shaitan.

– There is no concept of courtship in Islam as it is practiced in the west. There is no dating or living in defacto relationship or trying each other out before they commit to each other seriously. There is to be no physical relationship what so ever before marriage. The romantic notions that young people often have, have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved. We only have to look at the alarming divorce rate in the west to understand this point. e.g. the couple know each other for years, are intimate, live together and so on yet somehow this does not guarantee the success of the future marriage. Romance and love simply do not equal a everlasting bond between two people.

Fact: Romance and love die out very quickly when we have to deal in the real world. The unrealistic expectations that young people have is what often contributes to the failure of their relationship.

– The west make fun of the Islamic way of marriage in particular arranged marriage, yet the irony is that statistically arranged marriages prove to be more successful and lasting than romantic types of courtship.
This is because people are blinded by the physical attraction and thus do not choose the compatible partner.

Love blinds people to potential problems in the relationship. There is an Arabic saying: which says “the mirror of love is blind, it makes zucchini into okra”. Arranged marriages on the other hand, are based not on physical attraction or romantic notions but rather on critical evaluation of the compatibility of the couple.
This is why they often prove successful.

Consent of parties.
There is a halal arranged marriage and a haram one. It is OK to arrange marriages by suggestion and recommendation as long as both parties are agreeable. The other arranged marriage is when parents choose the future spouse and the couple concerned are forced or have no choice in the matter.
One of the conditions of a valid marriage is consent of the couple.
Marriage by definition is a voluntary union of two people.
The choice of a partner by a Muslim virgin girl is subject to the approval of the father or guardian under Maliki school. This is to safeguard her welfare and interests. The prophet said “the widow and the divorced woman shall not be married until she has consented and the virgin shall not be married until her consent is obtained. The prophet did revoke the marriage of a girl who complained to him that her father had married her against her wishes.

The husband/wife relationship.

-The wifes rights – the Husbands obligations.

(1) Maintenance

The husband is responsible for the wifes maintenance. This right is established by authority of the Qur’an and the sunnah. It is inconsequen tial whether the wife is a Muslim , non-Muslim, rich, poor, healthy or sick. A component of his role as “qawam” (leader) is to bear the financial responsibility of the family in a generous way so that his wife may be assured security and thus perform her role devotedly.

The wifes maintenance entails her right to lodging, clothing, food and general care, like medication, hospital bills etc. He must lodge her where he resides himself according to his means. The wifes lodge must be adequate so as to ensure her privacy, comfort and independence.

If a wife has been used to a maid or is unable to attend to her household duties, it is the husbands duty to provide her with a maid if he can afford to do so. The prophet is reported to have said: The best Muslim is one who is the best husband.

(2) “Mahr “

The wife is entitled to a marriage gift that is her own. This may be prompt or deferred depending on the agreement between the parties. A marriage is not valid without mahr. It does not have to be money or gold. It can be non-material like teaching her to read the Qur’an. ” Mahr” is a gift from the groom to the bride. This is the Islamic law, unlike some cultures whereby the brides parents pay the future husband to marry the daughter. This practice degrades women and is contrary to the spirit of Islam. There is no specification in the Qur’an as to what or how much the Mahr has to be. It depends on the parties involved.

(3) Non-material rights.

A husband is commanded by the law of Allah to treat his wife with equity, respect her feelings and show kindness and consideration, especially if he has another wife. The prophet last sermon stresses kindness to women.

The wife obligations – the Husbands rights.

One of the main duties of the wife is to contribute to the success and blissfulness of the marriage. She must be attentive to the comfort and wellbeing of her husband. The Qur’anic ayah which illustrates this point is:

“Our lord, grant us wives and offspring who will be the apples of our eyes and guide us to be models for the righteous”

The wife must be faithful, trustworthy and honest she must not deceive her husband by deliberately avoiding contraception. She must not allow any other person to have access to that which is exclusively the husband right i.e. sexual intimacy. She must not receive or entertain strange males in the house without his knowledge and consent. She should not be alone with a strange male. She should not accept gifts from other men without his approval. This is meant to avoid jealousy, suspicion and gossip. The husband possessions are her trust. She may not dispose of his belongings without his permission.

A wife should make herself sexually attractive to her husband and be responsive to his advances. The wife must not refuse her husband sexually as this can lead to marital problems and worse still – tempt the man to adultery. The husband of course should take into account the wifes health and general consideration should be given.

Obedience.
The purpose of obedience in the relationship is to keep the family unit running as smoothly as possible. The man has been given the right to be obeyed because he is the leader and not because he is superior. If a leader is not obeyed , his leadership will become invalid -Imagine a king or a teacher or a parent without the necessary authority which has been entrusted to them.

Obedience does not mean blind obedience. It is subject to conditions:

(a) It is required only if what is asked from the wife is within the permissible categories of action.

(b) It must be maintained only with regard to matters that fall under the husband rights.

Courtesy: http://www.bettermuslims.com/forums/topic/concept-of-marraige-in-islam/

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Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by Nobody: 2:37pm On Dec 04, 2015
Today is Friday yet no Islamic thread as of yet made Fp.
Mods kindly push this to fp.

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Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by Nobody: 2:39pm On Dec 04, 2015
eluquenson:
MARRIAGE IN ISLAM.
Islam, unlike other religions is a strong advocate of marriage. There is no place for celibacy like, for example the Roman Catholic priests and nuns. The prophet (pbuh) has said “there is no celibacy in Islam.

Marriage is a religious duty and is consequently a moral safeguard as well as a social necessity. Islam does not equal celibacy with high “taqwa” / “Iman”. The prophet has also said, “Marriage is my tradition who so ever keeps away there from is not from amongst me”.

Marriage acts as an outlet for sexual needs and regulate it so one does not become a slave to his/ her desires.

It is a social necessity because through marriage, families are established and the family is the fundamental unit of our society. Furthermore, marriage is the only legitimate or halal way to indulge in intimacy between a man and a woman.

Islam takes a middle of the road position to sexual relations , it neither condemns it like certain religions, nor does it allow it freely. Islam urges us to control and regulate our desires, whatever they may be so that we remain dignified and not become like animals.

The purpose of Marriage.

The word “zawj” is used in the Qur’an to mean a pair or a mate. In general it usage refers to marriage. The general purpose of marriage is that the sexes can provide company to one another, love to one another, procreate children and live in peace and tranquility to the commandments of Allah.

Marriage serves as a means to emotional and sexual gratification and as a means of tension reduction. It is also a form of Ibadah because it is obeying Allah and his messenger – i.e. Marriage is seen as the only possible way for the sexes to unite. One could choose to live in sin, however by choosing marriage one is displaying obedience to Allah.

Marriage is “mithaq” – a solemn covenant (agreement). It is not a matter which can be taken lightly. It should be entered into with total commitment and full knowledge of what it involves. It is not like buying a new dress where you can exchange it if you don’t like it. Your partner should be your choice for life. One should be mature enough to understand the demands of marriage so that the union can be a lasting one. For a marriage to be valid certain conditions must be met.

1) consent of both parties.

2) ” Mahr” a gift from the groom to his bride.

3) Witnesses- 2 male or female.

4) The marriage should be publicized, it should never be kept secret as it leads to suspicion and troubles within the community.

Is Marriage obligatory?
According to Imams Abu Hanifah, Ahmad ibn Hanbal and Malik ibn Anas, marriage is recommendatory, however in certain individuals it becomes wajib/obligatory. Imam Shaafi’i considers it to be nafl or mubah (preferable). The general opinion is that if a person, male or female fears that if he/she does not marry they will commit fornication, then marriage becomes “wajib”. If a person has strong sexual urges then it becomes “wajib” for that person to marry. Marriage should not be put off or delayed especially if one has the means to do so.

A man, however should not marry if he or she does not possess the means to maintain a wife and future family, or if he has no sex drive or if dislikes children, or if he feels marriage will seriously affect his religious obligation.

The general principle is that prophet (pbuh) enjoined up in the followers to marry.

He said

This hadith is narrated by Anas. Islam greatly encourages marriage because it shields one from and upholds the family unit which Islam places great importance.

Selection of a partner:
The choice of a partner should be the one with the most “taqwa” (piety). The prophet recommended the suitors see each other before going through with marriage. It is unreasonable for two people to be thrown together and be expected to relate and be intimate when they know nothing of each other. The couple are permitted to look at each other with a critical eye and not a lustful one. This ruling does not contradict the ayah which says that believing men and women should lower their gaze.

– The couple, however are not permitted to be alone in a closed room or go out together alone. As the hadith says “when a man and a woman are together alone, there is a third presence i.e. shaitan.

– There is no concept of courtship in Islam as it is practiced in the west. There is no dating or living in defacto relationship or trying each other out before they commit to each other seriously. There is to be no physical relationship what so ever before marriage. The romantic notions that young people often have, have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved. We only have to look at the alarming divorce rate in the west to understand this point. e.g. the couple know each other for years, are intimate, live together and so on yet somehow this does not guarantee the success of the future marriage. Romance and love simply do not equal a everlasting bond between two people.

Fact: Romance and love die out very quickly when we have to deal in the real world. The unrealistic expectations that young people have is what often contributes to the failure of their relationship.

– The west make fun of the Islamic way of marriage in particular arranged marriage, yet the irony is that statistically arranged marriages prove to be more successful and lasting than romantic types of courtship.
This is because people are blinded by the physical attraction and thus do not choose the compatible partner.

Love blinds people to potential problems in the relationship. There is an Arabic saying: which says “the mirror of love is blind, it makes zucchini into okra”. Arranged marriages on the other hand, are based not on physical attraction or romantic notions but rather on critical evaluation of the compatibility of the couple.
This is why they often prove successful.

Consent of parties.
There is a halal arranged marriage and a haram one. It is OK to arrange marriages by suggestion and recommendation as long as both parties are agreeable. The other arranged marriage is when parents choose the future spouse and the couple concerned are forced or have no choice in the matter.
One of the conditions of a valid marriage is consent of the couple.
Marriage by definition is a voluntary union of two people.
The choice of a partner by a Muslim virgin girl is subject to the approval of the father or guardian under Maliki school. This is to safeguard her welfare and interests. The prophet said “the widow and the divorced woman shall not be married until she has consented and the virgin shall not be married until her consent is obtained. The prophet did revoke the marriage of a girl who complained to him that her father had married her against her wishes.

The husband/wife relationship.

-The wifes rights – the Husbands obligations.

(1) Maintenance

The husband is responsible for the wifes maintenance. This right is established by authority of the Qur’an and the sunnah. It is inconsequen tial whether the wife is a Muslim , non-Muslim, rich, poor, healthy or sick. A component of his role as “qawam” (leader) is to bear the financial responsibility of the family in a generous way so that his wife may be assured security and thus perform her role devotedly.

The wifes maintenance entails her right to lodging, clothing, food and general care, like medication, hospital bills etc. He must lodge her where he resides himself according to his means. The wifes lodge must be adequate so as to ensure her privacy, comfort and independence.

If a wife has been used to a maid or is unable to attend to her household duties, it is the husbands duty to provide her with a maid if he can afford to do so. The prophet is reported to have said: The best Muslim is one who is the best husband.

(2) “Mahr “

The wife is entitled to a marriage gift that is her own. This may be prompt or deferred depending on the agreement between the parties. A marriage is not valid without mahr. It does not have to be money or gold. It can be non-material like teaching her to read the Qur’an. ” Mahr” is a gift from the groom to the bride. This is the Islamic law, unlike some cultures whereby the brides parents pay the future husband to marry the daughter. This practice degrades women and is contrary to the spirit of Islam. There is no specification in the Qur’an as to what or how much the Mahr has to be. It depends on the parties involved.

(3) Non-material rights.

A husband is commanded by the law of Allah to treat his wife with equity, respect her feelings and show kindness and consideration, especially if he has another wife. The prophet last sermon stresses kindness to women.

The wife obligations – the Husbands rights.

One of the main duties of the wife is to contribute to the success and blissfulness of the marriage. She must be attentive to the comfort and wellbeing of her husband. The Qur’anic ayah which illustrates this point is:

“Our lord, grant us wives and offspring who will be the apples of our eyes and guide us to be models for the righteous”

The wife must be faithful, trustworthy and honest she must not deceive her husband by deliberately avoiding contraception. She must not allow any other person to have access to that which is exclusively the husband right i.e. sexual intimacy. She must not receive or entertain strange males in the house without his knowledge and consent. She should not be alone with a strange male. She should not accept gifts from other men without his approval. This is meant to avoid jealousy, suspicion and gossip. The husband possessions are her trust. She may not dispose of his belongings without his permission.

A wife should make herself sexually attractive to her husband and be responsive to his advances. The wife must not refuse her husband sexually as this can lead to marital problems and worse still – tempt the man to adultery. The husband of course should take into account the wifes health and general consideration should be given.

Obedience.
The purpose of obedience in the relationship is to keep the family unit running as smoothly as possible. The man has been given the right to be obeyed because he is the leader and not because he is superior. If a leader is not obeyed , his leadership will become invalid -Imagine a king or a teacher or a parent without the necessary authority which has been entrusted to them.

Obedience does not mean blind obedience. It is subject to conditions:

(a) It is required only if what is asked from the wife is within the permissible categories of action.

(b) It must be maintained only with regard to matters that fall under the husband rights.

Courtesy: http://www.bettermuslims.com/forums/topic/concept-of-marraige-in-islam/
Hmm. The part about celibacy being Had an though, won't I disagree with it now?
Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by MakeWeTalk: 2:21pm On Jul 15, 2016
THE MOST GLARING DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ISLAM & CHRISTIANITY IS HOW THEY TREAT THEIR WIVES

ISLAM COMMANDS YOU TO BEAT YOUR WIFE

Qur'an (38:44) -
"And take in your hand a green branch
AND BEAT HER WITH IT,

Qur'an (4:34) -
"Men are the maintainers of women because
Allah has made some of them to
....... BEAT THEM;


THE CHRISTIAN GOD COMMANDS TO LOVE YOUR WIFE

Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Colossians 3:19
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES,
and
BE NOT BITTER AGAINST THEM.


IN FACT IN CHRISTIANITY IF YOU BEAT YOUR WIFE, YOUR PRAYERS ARE STOPPED

1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife,
as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.


WHEN IMAMS TEACH TO BEAT YOUR WIVES DOES IT HELP ISLAMIC PRAYERS?



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-Tw7WhH_aQ


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKBmHWUSJI4


THE BEATING OF MY MUM BY MY DAD IS WHY I LEFT ISLAM.
MY DAD SAID IT'S ISLAMIC, SO HE HAS HE RIGHT TO BEAT MY MUM.

SO MY MUM SAID SHE WILL NEVER LET ANY OF MY SISTERS MARRY A MUSLIM.

THAT JESUS COMMANDS TO LOVE NOT BEAT YOUR WIFE

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Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by Murry05(m): 2:45pm On Jul 15, 2016
Jazakallah Bi Khair Brother
Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by Maghan37: 2:51pm On Jul 15, 2016
May Allahh continue to provide u with wisdom inorder 4 u to post more enlightening trend like this.
Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by Nobody: 3:04pm On Jul 15, 2016
MakeWeTalk:
THE MOST GLARING DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ISLAM & CHRISTIANITY IS HOW THEY TREAT THEIR WIVES

ISLAM COMMANDS YOU TO BEAT YOUR WIFE

Qur'an (38:44) -
"And take in your hand a green branch
AND BEAT HER WITH IT,

Qur'an (4:34) -
"Men are the maintainers of women because
Allah has made some of them to
....... BEAT THEM;


THE CHRISTIAN GOD COMMANDS TO LOVE YOUR WIFE

Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Colossians 3:19
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES,
and
BE NOT BITTER AGAINST THEM.


IN FACT IN CHRISTIANITY IF YOU BEAT YOUR WIFE, YOUR PRAYERS ARE STOPPED

1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife,
as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.


WHEN IMAMS TEACH TO BEAT YOUR WIVES DOES IT HELP ISLAMIC PRAYERS?



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-Tw7WhH_aQ


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKBmHWUSJI4


THE BEATING OF MY MUM BY MY DAD IS WHY I LEFT ISLAM.
MY DAD SAID IT'S ISLAMIC, SO HE HAS HE RIGHT TO BEAT MY MUM.



SO MY MUM SAID SHE WILL NEVER LE ANY OF MY SISTERS MARRY A MUSLIM.

THAT JESUS COMMANDS TO LOVE NOT BEAT YOUR WIFE
Thrash!!! Thrash!!!

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Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by braining01: 3:05pm On Jul 15, 2016
JAZAKUMLAHU KHAIRAN
Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by ganiyu26(m): 3:14pm On Jul 15, 2016
MakeWeTalk:
THE MOST GLARING DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ISLAM & CHRISTIANITY IS HOW THEY TREAT THEIR WIVES

ISLAM COMMANDS YOU TO BEAT YOUR WIFE

Qur'an (38:44) -
"And take in your hand a green branch
AND BEAT HER WITH IT,

Qur'an (4:34) -
"Men are the maintainers of women because
Allah has made some of them to
....... BEAT THEM;


THE CHRISTIAN GOD COMMANDS TO LOVE YOUR WIFE

Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Colossians 3:19
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES,
and
BE NOT BITTER AGAINST THEM.


IN FACT IN CHRISTIANITY IF YOU BEAT YOUR WIFE, YOUR PRAYERS ARE STOPPED

1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife,
as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.


WHEN IMAMS TEACH TO BEAT YOUR WIVES DOES IT HELP ISLAMIC PRAYERS?



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-Tw7WhH_aQ


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKBmHWUSJI4


THE BEATING OF MY MUM BY MY DAD IS WHY I LEFT ISLAM.
MY DAD SAID IT'S ISLAMIC, SO HE HAS HE RIGHT TO BEAT MY MUM.

SO MY MUM SAID SHE WILL NEVER LET ANY OF MY SISTERS MARRY A MUSLIM.

THAT JESUS COMMANDS TO LOVE NOT BEAT YOUR WIFE
Please always shut that your lips up when you don't know the full knowledge of what islam is all about...fools like you will still cause mayhem in the supposed religion you claimed u accepted. May Allah guide you though and not make me as well go astray as...smh
Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by wasak(m): 3:14pm On Jul 15, 2016
Ma Sha Allah, a really enlightening piece.
Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by Nobody: 3:15pm On Jul 15, 2016
Masha Allah. May Allah bless us with our righthful spouse.
Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by Nobody: 3:15pm On Jul 15, 2016
MakeWeTalk:
THE MOST GLARING DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ISLAM & CHRISTIANITY IS HOW THEY TREAT THEIR WIVES

ISLAM COMMANDS YOU TO BEAT YOUR WIFE

Qur'an (38:44) -
"And take in your hand a green branch
AND BEAT HER WITH IT,

Qur'an (4:34) -
"Men are the maintainers of women because
Allah has made some of them to
....... BEAT THEM;


THE CHRISTIAN GOD COMMANDS TO LOVE YOUR WIFE

Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Colossians 3:19
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES,
and
BE NOT BITTER AGAINST THEM.


IN FACT IN CHRISTIANITY IF YOU BEAT YOUR WIFE, YOUR PRAYERS ARE STOPPED

1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife,
as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.


WHEN IMAMS TEACH TO BEAT YOUR WIVES DOES IT HELP ISLAMIC PRAYERS?



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-Tw7WhH_aQ


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKBmHWUSJI4


THE BEATING OF MY MUM BY MY DAD IS WHY I LEFT ISLAM.
MY DAD SAID IT'S ISLAMIC, SO HE HAS HE RIGHT TO BEAT MY MUM.

SO MY MUM SAID SHE WILL NEVER LET ANY OF MY SISTERS MARRY A MUSLIM.

THAT JESUS COMMANDS TO LOVE NOT BEAT YOUR WIFE
Seek for knowlegd. I'm from a muslim family. Dad has never beaten my mother. And i will never beat my wife.

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Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by Rahym001(m): 3:18pm On Jul 15, 2016
Allhamdulillah

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Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by prstge007: 3:27pm On Jul 15, 2016
MakeWeTalk:
THE MOST GLARING DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ISLAM & CHRISTIANITY IS HOW THEY TREAT THEIR WIVES

ISLAM COMMANDS YOU TO BEAT YOUR WIFE

Qur'an (38:44) -
"And take in your hand a green branch
AND BEAT HER WITH IT,

Qur'an (4:34) -
"Men are the maintainers of women because
Allah has made some of them to
....... BEAT THEM;


THE CHRISTIAN GOD COMMANDS TO LOVE YOUR WIFE

Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Colossians 3:19
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES,
and
BE NOT BITTER AGAINST THEM.


IN FACT IN CHRISTIANITY IF YOU BEAT YOUR WIFE, YOUR PRAYERS ARE STOPPED

1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife,
as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.


WHEN IMAMS TEACH TO BEAT YOUR WIVES DOES IT HELP ISLAMIC PRAYERS?



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-Tw7WhH_aQ


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKBmHWUSJI4


THE BEATING OF MY MUM BY MY DAD IS WHY I LEFT ISLAM.
MY DAD SAID IT'S ISLAMIC, SO HE HAS HE RIGHT TO BEAT MY MUM.

SO MY MUM SAID SHE WILL NEVER LET ANY OF MY SISTERS MARRY A MUSLIM.

THAT JESUS COMMANDS TO LOVE NOT BEAT YOUR WIFE
Exactly the point, marraige in islam is a very important institution,the amazing thing is that God himself is the one giving guideline on how to go about resolving issues at home. look online and check the statistic of places in the world where divorce is in the highest one will begin to ask what is really wrong with what is been practised on the two sides.
NOw to the real issue, Allah ave steps as to correct a woman who is been rebellous sitdown and think about it exactly the way its laid down then bring out the fault in the method of GOD. 1- admonish her 2- Refuse to share bed with her and 3- beat her without leaving a mark, wound or injury which was futher explain by one of those that God gave the best understanding that the best way to go about beating a woman wiht all the criteria mentioned by Allah can best be achieve by Handkerchief or toothpick.
Honestly just think over what you heard ponder over each step you will fully understand what Allah is driving at.
Admonish which is what anyone will firstly do
Refuse sharing bed....thats the couch
beat her---not in the face, no wound or injury (ibn abbas said with handkerchief, what an amazing God who do not want lady to suffer or want divorce) Quran is truly a manual for those who think of the day of recompence)
GOTO a pastor that your wife is been rebellious ---let see what advice you will get.
Goodluck

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Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by holadguy(m): 3:27pm On Jul 15, 2016
Thanks so much to op,i hope this has enlight some people that don't know their duty towards marriage been a man or woman involved,and also hope some people that wanna embark on the journey to know their duty towards each other,may Almighty Allah bless you with more knowledge.
Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by Nobody: 3:53pm On Jul 15, 2016
MakeWeTalk:
THE MOST GLARING DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ISLAM & CHRISTIANITY IS HOW THEY TREAT THEIR WIVES

ISLAM COMMANDS YOU TO BEAT YOUR WIFE

Qur'an (38:44) -
"And take in your hand a green branch
AND BEAT HER WITH IT,

Qur'an (4:34) -
"Men are the maintainers of women because
Allah has made some of them to
....... BEAT THEM;


THE CHRISTIAN GOD COMMANDS TO LOVE YOUR WIFE

Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Colossians 3:19
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES,
and
BE NOT BITTER AGAINST THEM.


IN FACT IN CHRISTIANITY IF YOU BEAT YOUR WIFE, YOUR PRAYERS ARE STOPPED

1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife,
as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.


WHEN IMAMS TEACH TO BEAT YOUR WIVES DOES IT HELP ISLAMIC PRAYERS?



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-Tw7WhH_aQ


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKBmHWUSJI4


THE BEATING OF MY MUM BY MY DAD IS WHY I LEFT ISLAM.
MY DAD SAID IT'S ISLAMIC, SO HE HAS HE RIGHT TO BEAT MY MUM.

SO MY MUM SAID SHE WILL NEVER LET ANY OF MY SISTERS MARRY A MUSLIM.

THAT JESUS COMMANDS TO LOVE NOT BEAT YOUR WIFE
Qur 38 vs44 "And take in thy hand a little grass, and strike therewith; and break not (thy oath). Truly We found him full of patience and constancy. How excellent is the servant! Ever did he turn (to us)!

Qur 4 vs 34
"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allaah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance) for Allaah is Most High, Great (above you all)".

Also this is a fatwa:
If a woman rebels against her husband and disobeys his commands, then he should follow this method of admonishing her, forsaking her in bed and hitting her. Hitting is subject to the condition that it should not be harsh or cause injury. Al-Hasan al-Basri said: this means that it should not cause pain.
‘Ata’ said: I said to Ibn ‘Abbaas, what is the kind of hitting that is not harsh? He said, Hitting with a siwaak and the like. [A siwaak is a small stick or twig used for cleaning the teeth - Translator]
The purpose behind this is not to hurt or humiliate the woman, rather it is intended to make her realize that she has transgressed against her husband’s rights, and that her husband has the right to set her straight and discipline her.
And Allaah knows best.
Islam Q&A


So bro, how u go jus pick anyhow.. For instance, 'the hausa man was killed by the woman....the media will den say...'The hausa man killed the woman' . This is what d media does, and dis is what u just did.. Pls if u av any question abt Islam, ask a knowledgable muslim, don't just copy n paste without reasoning. Thanks.

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Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by Hertheywarlay: 5:00pm On Jul 15, 2016
MakeWeTalk:
THE MOST GLARING DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ISLAM & CHRISTIANITY IS HOW THEY TREAT THEIR WIVES

ISLAM COMMANDS YOU TO BEAT YOUR WIFE

Qur'an (38:44) -
"And take in your hand a green branch
AND BEAT HER WITH IT,

Qur'an (4:34) -
"Men are the maintainers of women because
Allah has made some of them to
....... BEAT THEM;


THE CHRISTIAN GOD COMMANDS TO LOVE YOUR WIFE

Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Colossians 3:19
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES,
and
BE NOT BITTER AGAINST THEM.


IN FACT IN CHRISTIANITY IF YOU BEAT YOUR WIFE, YOUR PRAYERS ARE STOPPED

1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife,
as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.


WHEN IMAMS TEACH TO BEAT YOUR WIVES DOES IT HELP ISLAMIC PRAYERS?



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-Tw7WhH_aQ


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKBmHWUSJI4


THE BEATING OF MY MUM BY MY DAD IS WHY I LEFT ISLAM.
MY DAD SAID IT'S ISLAMIC, SO HE HAS HE RIGHT TO BEAT MY MUM.

SO MY MUM SAID SHE WILL NEVER LET ANY OF MY SISTERS MARRY A MUSLIM.

THAT JESUS COMMANDS TO LOVE NOT BEAT YOUR WIFE
Have you heard what they told you? Try to understand this verse. God(Allah) does not say husband should beat her as he wishes and before one will decipher Qur'an one MOST consult the TAFSEER (explanatory) of the verse(s) because we can't know and understand the QUR'AN on else we read and understand what the Prophet(saw) said about the verse(s) or his companions because they were there when Angel Gabriel was revealed the QUR'AN to the Prophet. And do you know that Jesus(peace be upon him was prophet of God. (Allah) when he was on surface of the earth and he was MUSLIM, even Qur'an says more about him and his family than Bible. Please try to do research about Islam. May God guard you to the straight path(ISLAM). Thanks.

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Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by Dikolas(m): 5:27pm On Jul 15, 2016
MakeWeTalk:
THE MOST GLARING DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ISLAM & CHRISTIANITY IS HOW THEY TREAT THEIR WIVES

ISLAM COMMANDS YOU TO BEAT YOUR WIFE

Qur'an (38:44) -
"And take in your hand a green branch
AND BEAT HER WITH IT,

Qur'an (4:34) -
"Men are the maintainers of women because
Allah has made some of them to
....... BEAT THEM;


THE CHRISTIAN GOD COMMANDS TO LOVE YOUR WIFE

Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Colossians 3:19
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES,
and
BE NOT BITTER AGAINST THEM.


IN FACT IN CHRISTIANITY IF YOU BEAT YOUR WIFE, YOUR PRAYERS ARE STOPPED

1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife,
as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.


WHEN IMAMS TEACH TO BEAT YOUR WIVES DOES IT HELP ISLAMIC PRAYERS?



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-Tw7WhH_aQ


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKBmHWUSJI4


[b]THE BEATING OF MY MUM BY MY DAD IS WHY I LEFT ISLAM.
MY DAD SAID IT'S ISLAMIC, SO HE HAS HE RIGHT TO BEAT MY MUM.

SO MY MUM SAID SHE WILL NEVER LET ANY OF MY SISTERS MARRY A MUSLIM.

THAT JESUS COMMANDS TO LOVE NOT BEAT YOUR WIFE

Why don't you quote the full verse? you brought a single line to mislead others
Q38:44, is a verse about prophet Ayub (Job) and he made an oath to his maker when he was sick, you can read Q38:43 the fulfillment is Q38:44.

On Q 4:34, I got you this from Wikipedia

There are a number of translations of
this verse from the Arabic original,
and all vary to some extent. Some
Muslims, such as Islamic feminist
groups, argue that Muslim men use
the text as an excuse for domestic
violence.
Ibn Abbas, a companion of
Muhammad (S.A.W) wrote the earliest
commentary on the Quran, and to this
part he himself said this is only a light
tap. When asked about the light
hitting, he said it refers to using a
siwak (toothbrush). There are
sources that say that Muhammad (S.A.W)
himself never hit a woman and
forbade it. Furthermore,
Muhammad (S.A.W) commented on this
verse, where he (S.A.W) said “a light tap that
leaves no mark.”
There have been several fatwas(Islamic rulings)
against domestic violence.

Don't be of those who knows the truth but conceal it for a small price.
Salam

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Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by zeyney(f): 8:30pm On Jul 15, 2016
RABIUSHILE04:

Qur 38 vs44 "And take in thy hand a little grass, and strike therewith; and break not (thy oath). Truly We found him full of patience and constancy. How excellent is the servant! Ever did he turn (to us)!

Qur 4 vs 34
"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allaah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance) for Allaah is Most High, Great (above you all)".

Also this is a fatwa:
If a woman rebels against her husband and disobeys his commands, then he should follow this method of admonishing her, forsaking her in bed and hitting her. Hitting is subject to the condition that it should not be harsh or cause injury. Al-Hasan al-Basri said: this means that it should not cause pain.
‘Ata’ said: I said to Ibn ‘Abbaas, what is the kind of hitting that is not harsh? He said, Hitting with a siwaak and the like. [A siwaak is a small stick or twig used for cleaning the teeth - Translator]
The purpose behind this is not to hurt or humiliate the woman, rather it is intended to make her realize that she has transgressed against her husband’s rights, and that her husband has the right to set her straight and discipline her.
And Allaah knows best.
Islam Q&A


So bro, how u go jus pick anyhow.. For instance, 'the hausa man was killed by the woman....the media will den say...'The hausa man killed the woman' . This is what d media does, and dis is what u just did.. Pls if u av any question abt Islam, ask a knowledgable muslim, don't just copy n paste without reasoning. Thanks.
masha Allah .may Allah increase u in knowledge
Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by gaffig: 9:52pm On Jul 15, 2016
MakeWeTalk:
THE MOST GLARING DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ISLAM & CHRISTIANITY IS HOW THEY TREAT THEIR WIVES

ISLAM COMMANDS YOU TO BEAT YOUR WIFE

Qur'an (38:44) -
"And take in your hand a green branch
AND BEAT HER WITH IT,

Qur'an (4:34) -
"Men are the maintainers of women because
Allah has made some of them to
....... BEAT THEM;


THE CHRISTIAN GOD COMMANDS TO LOVE YOUR WIFE

Ephesians 5:25 (KJV)
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Colossians 3:19
Husbands, LOVE YOUR WIVES,
and
BE NOT BITTER AGAINST THEM.


IN FACT IN CHRISTIANITY IF YOU BEAT YOUR WIFE, YOUR PRAYERS ARE STOPPED

1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife,
as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.


WHEN IMAMS TEACH TO BEAT YOUR WIVES DOES IT HELP ISLAMIC PRAYERS?



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-Tw7WhH_aQ


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKBmHWUSJI4


THE BEATING OF MY MUM BY MY DAD IS WHY I LEFT ISLAM.
MY DAD SAID IT'S ISLAMIC, SO HE HAS HE RIGHT TO BEAT MY MUM.

SO MY MUM SAID SHE WILL NEVER LET ANY OF MY SISTERS MARRY A MUSLIM.

THAT JESUS COMMANDS TO LOVE NOT BEAT YOUR WIFE
May Allah guide you back aright, Alquran is not a book that one understands without the teaching of an Alim (a knowledgeable) thru the teaching of the prophet, it sounds as if you believe xtians don't beat their partners, that aside in Islam it is wrong to harm ones partner, one is not even allowed to leave marks on her for whatsoever reason..I advise you read tafsir on the verses you quoted. Allahu Musta'al.
Re: Concept Of Marriage In Islam by MakeWeTalk: 9:34am On Jul 16, 2016
gaffig:

May Allah guide you back aright, Alquran is not a book that one understands without the teaching of an Alim (a knowledgeable) thru the teaching of the prophet, it sounds as if you believe xtians don't beat their partners, that aside in Islam it is wrong to harm ones partner, one is not even allowed to leave marks on her for whatsoever reason..I advise you read tafsir on the verses you quoted. Allahu Musta'al.

go back to islam when allah cannot save anybody, not even mohammed.
meanwhile Jesus saves.

Listen to a man that found out that he has been lied to.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n0f280g60G8

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