no biggy about it
he should let the past be his past
tho we know the past is always infleuncing the future but we shouldnt let it take control of our emotions
so my advice is that he should attend the wedding

Forget it, i won't because it would bring back too much memories but that is if i still love him, but if i don't feel a thing for him anymore i would definitely attend the wedding, i will also give him a very beautiful gift to let him know i was there.

AS you said. . .shit happens! He wasn't fast enough. . .better luck next time! So he should simply go and celebrate with her. . .dang!  

let bygone's be bygone's, he shld go 4 d wedding, he had his chance, it's no use crying over split milk

Yes, i'll go there 2 cause havoc!

Sure. . . Wat the deal. .

She's an Ex getting married. .

patwhizkid:

Yes, i'll go there 2 cause havoc!

LMAO

yes i'll go and maybe i might get lucky and it might end up being my wedding

Why dont guys respect themselves? The fact that u are asking the question means that it is under consideration!
How can you go to ur Ex's wedding after she dumped you?
(1) She obviously does not respect u by inviting u, as she thinks you will accept the invite
(2) She obviously does not respect her Husband to be by inviting her LAST ex to the wedding.

If my wife to be invited her ex to our wedding, she would know that wedding would be cancelled on that day!

he shldnt go o. . .he shld send a nice gift but he shldnt show face der. . .emotions are unpredictable he cld end up being very happy for here there or sad that he lost out. . .

netotse:

he shldnt go o. . .he shld send a nice gift but he shldnt show face der. . .emotions are unpredictable he cld end up being very happy for here there or sad that he lost out. . .

like i said

naaaa. no point attending jare

netotse:

he shldnt go o. . .he shld send a nice gift but he shldnt show face der. . .emotions are unpredictable he cld end up being very happy for here there or sad that he lost out. . .

i agree with you on this

Naw. It's congratulations. That's all.

But then I don't really have an ex so

If you havent got plans, then go, no biggie.

However, if you think you are gonna be riled up with some uncontrollable emotions, then send a gift and card. Finito!

Or you can always IGNORE the msg as if you didnt see am!

Whether we are still best of friends or otherwise, I am not attending. She had better not send an invite to me. She is an ex, and everything about her remains so. My text or email (if I remember) wishing her well should suffice and be sufficient.

Happened to me. I had this girl i loved so much back home. We were still close, but she told me later on that she was getting married. She was about two years older than me, and she finished serving b4 i even finished my final year in skool. she told me once that she'll luv me to drive her to her church on her wedding day. The day b4 her wedding, i just called her nd wished her a very fruitful nd married life.

Crazy people, Move on with your life. Don't look back, just go forward. Life to short to hang on or make amends of the past. Past is dead. kick the dust off your boots and leave it all behind.

E go hard sha! whether or not I will attend depends on the circumstances that let to our break up. Though its unlikely I will. . .

topup:

In a way, attending the wedding can make everything REAL, he can accept his loses, instead of wonder if there was anything he could have done or if there was any reluctancy.

I think that it all depends on how highly this guy rates his ex, he obviously was able to let his pride dictate things for long enough - because he thought she'd always be around. How are we sure that it's not only because she is unavailable that the feelings have become harder to hide?

Anyways, I don't think what your friend does with the invite matters too much, he'll just have to decide to do what he believes is best for him, or if he is no longer keen on using rational and now wants to follow his heart, he can do just that - then he'll find his answer.

Everyone's different, some will go and they get closure, others won't go and they can save the memories or put them away in a neat box and move on.

The emphasis is on moving on - he should try his best to move on.

what?

Go there and dont 4get to raise you hands that you are not in support of the Union.

follypimpi:

Go there and dont 4get to raise you hands that you are not in support of the Union.

roflmao.

tonye-t:



when we both read this, yeah i know my friend was actually trying to put up his ego, but emotions couldnt but helped him reflect back on all those good memories they both shared, and i as the friend i still know how they both loved each other , it was so hot that they were tagged "One heart", and i know my friend still loved her but man's pride didnt let him make up until a sharper G stole her. maybe prolly because she relocated from PH to calabar

Don't go or else you will end up "putting down" your ego

I won't answer the question but i'll say these people never move forward to the future cuz they keep holding on to something that belongs in the past.and that something means hate/revenge/contempt. The best you can do is be there and be happy for her that's the only way you'll advance in life.who knows the one might be waiting for you there.

I won't answer the question but i'll say these people never move forward to the future cuz they keep holding on to something that belongs in the past.and that something means hate/revenge/contempt. The best you can do is be there and be happy for her that's the only way you'll advance in life.who knows the one might be waiting for you there.

@Post
Yes i'll attend. . .but NOT to cause havoc cuz she inviting me already is inviting HAVOC. . .

When the pastor says "If anyone in this congregation wishes that this marriage NEVER see the light of day, let him/her speak NOW of FOREVER hold their piss"

I won't hold my piss o. . . ra ra. . .na there story go start. . .then she'll wish she hadn't invited me. . .

Igwe.:

If my mood tells me no, I'm not going anywhere, else not I'd attend , just to show my face and disappear before things get complicated.

gbam

follypimpi:

Go there and dont 4get to raise you hands that you are not in support of the Union.

haba, beta dont go atal abeg make u no spoil d lucky man's day

Your going for the wedding depends solely on you. I would rather you not go but call her and wish her well. Why do you want to put yourself thru emotional stress when you know you do not need it? Since it appears you have not forgotten the pains of the past, your prayer should be for God to provide you with your own mate with whom you'll walk down the aisle just like your ex.

@v3,
Please be mature in reasoning. Going to another person's wedding to cause havoc is truly uncalled for, immature and needless(remember you both were never married but just dated).