Freemanan:

The more people rationalize cheating, the more it becomes a culture of dishonesty. And that can become a vicious, downward cycle. Because suddenly, if everyone else is cheating, you feel a need to cheat, too.


It can't be stopped... Just controlled

donTbone:

If it can be controlled.... then its gonna make those cheating lesser
than those that are not.

The point still remains, there is a need to realy control infidelity!

Freemanan:

I really Dont see any need to control infidelity in relationship. Anyone who cheats clearly do not deserve the partner he/she cheated on..... You can't cheat on who you love.... I see no rationality it it.

If you cheat on someone, it simply means that person you cheated with have something which your spouse lack so you have to switch. Simple. All those claiming cheating is a mistake are standard bastards....


I might cheat someday, and I will never hold anything against my spouse if she carries out any rash action... Cheating shouldn't be controlled .. It seems natural now even.


My advice to all those who aren't strong enough to withstand temptation is, stay away from compromising situations. Like late night chat with a female friend, visiting a crush and the likes...

MRBrownJ:
there is absolutely NO WAY to stop someone who desires to cheat, NONE! if someone is hell bent on cheating, then they will regardless of what anyone does/says. so there is a personal decision that needs to be taken from that person, and that person only.

Cutehector:
Sex toyyyyyys

donTbone:

And how abt the victim of seduction and temptation.. how we gonna do that?

donTbone:


Can u please pretend to be normal for this thread...abeg!

MRBrownJ:


makes no difference.... if someone does NOT want to cheat, they wont. what you wrote are the cheap excuses that cheaters give after they bust a nut.

donTbone:

Nah! i disagree...

Not all those who heat had the intention. That i drink beer once doesn't say i have the intention of doing so.
Mind you, we are human and liable to fail some temptation.

What i know is that, the reaction after it matters most...
and if it occurs more than 2ce, then its intentional.!

donTbone:

ok.... How will you describe someone who was drugged into the action?
#justLearning

MRBrownJ:


if someone was drugged then this is NOT cheating, because i doubt a passed out person can have sex with anyone.... but even if they do, that would be a crime (aka RAPE).

forandy:
 One thing that could control cheating in a relationship is having respect for your partner (yes, I'm assuming the love's been there already).
That said, when you have respect for your partner, it tends to give a raise to how much you value the relationship, making you feel somewhat more resistant that you normally would have to temptations which could make one derail. So, when that value is there, it keeps your conscience alert such that even when you get close to violating the "faithful rules", you get that whip on your inner self and believe me, it does help a great deal to curb cheating.

PS: I just typed from experience

Freemanan:

Well, I expect nothing less from the current generation of relationships. Cheating is now a part of it.. A girl even told me once that any relationship that haven't had a fair share of infidelity is a fake relationship and won't last... It further buttress the shaming fact that cheating is a mistake that must be admitted into relationship.


Chief, if my spouse cheat once, I swear, thunder and lightening go visit whoever begs on her behalf. She can't even come for reconciliation because she is aware of the ground rules.... If I do cheat, same fate befalls me.

Mate, once again, no one can mistakenly have sex... Aside being drunk, drugged or raped... How can you have a enjoyable sex with someone aside your partner and you say its a mistake?


Goodboiyy come hear

donTbone:
E go better to share your story for CLARITY!

lol. .oga calm down  

Cutehector:
u aint even happy i am commentin on ur thread.... U should b thankful sef.

nickkylawve:
_{Lemme balance here op I need a chilled drink btw nice post}

missKiffy:
Even when you do and undo, a partner that will cheat, will cheat

nickkylawve:
_{Lemme balance here op I need a chilled drink btw nice post}

donTbone:

Abeg, make the bolded clearer please!

matrix199:
Cheating shey?

Well, who are we not to cheat?! Father abraham cheated(though sarah consented to it). Jacob cheated(he ate dinner, leah and Rachel, and dessert, the two maids of his wives). King david cheated as well(bethsebah*).

So, if these forefathers of ours were caught in d act, who are we not to fall into temptation of cheating.

But on a serious note, dignity still holds a say in fidelity than love. Dignity is what we should look out for when choosing a partner, rather than love. People cheat because of indignity. Love is not an impetus that holds one back from infidelity. Dignity is.

Dignity is the reason why lovebirds stick together, even if one dies b4 the other.

Freemanan:

Well, I expect nothing less from the current generation of relationships. Cheating is now a part of it.. A girl even told me once that any relationship that haven't had a fair share of infidelity is a fake relationship and won't last... It further buttress the shaming fact that cheating is a mistake that must be admitted into relationship.


Chief, if my spouse cheat once, I swear, thunder and lightening go visit whoever begs on her behalf. She can't even come for reconciliation because she is aware of the ground rules.... If I do cheat, same fate befalls me.

Mate, once again, no one can mistakenly have sex... Aside being drunk, drugged or raped... How can you have a enjoyable sex with someone aside your partner and you say its a mistake?


Goodboiyy come hear

missKiffy:
Even when you do and undo, a partner that will cheat, will cheat