What will you Do?

Teach her like my hubby did me.

Or send her to one of your friends wifes to learn like he has also done for me.

Addtionally I have also download recipes off the net and just cooked it.

http://www.motherlandnigeria.com/recipes.html#recipes
this page is booked marked both here at the office and at home.

She has to have a willingness to learn and you should have discovered that in her before you married her.

If you are just now finding out that she does not want to learn then that is your bed and you must lay in it.

sistawoman:

Teach her.

Exactly

how u take marry who no sabi cook nigeria food in the first place?  

smooooooth:

how u take marry who no sabi cook nigeria food in the first place?

maybe na white woman

all u gota do is teach her.

I dont know how to cook it except my little sister who come for visit can cook it but she is not ready to learn it and she prefer I eat how own food and i am tired and I always fly to Lagos once a weeks to eat there.I am really tired for that trips always.She does not want to learn she prefer I eat her own type which I am sick and tired of it.

if u fink you've got no time to teach her, let her be and u both starve to hunger

sistawoman:

Addtionally I have also download recipes off the net and just cooked it.

i dey fear this kind wife, na poti/concotion the food dey turn out to be

bblacky:

maybe na white woman

all u gota do is teach her.

how i go take teach am, white woman fit pound yam?

OneNaija:

I dont know how to cook it except my little sister who come for visit can cook it but she is not ready to learn it and she prefer I eat how own food and i am tired and I always fly to Lagos once a weeks to eat there.I am really tired for that trips always.She does not want to learn she prefer I eat her own type which I am sick and tired of it.

That my dear is your own fault.

You should found that out before you said I do.

So contiune doing what you are doing.

sorry but that is your own cross to bear.

@Ben20001  What ur Business na? I say I dont know how to cook it and she is not ready to learn it from my little sister who know how to cook it.oboy i dey hunger for eba and egusi soup.

smooooooth:

i dey fear this kind wife, na poti/concotion the food dey turn out to be

Actually everything I have tried to make on my own has turned out wonderfully.  My husband says I cook just like his mom   and he was very close to her.

I have always been a self-taught type of girl/woman anyway.

OneNaija:

@Ben20001  What ur Business na? I say I dont know how to cook it and she is not ready to learn it from my little sister who know how to cook it.oboy i dey hunger for eba and egusi soup.

Any friends that can cook it then

u don how to cook, so eat am anyhow she cook am, simple

sit her down and explain to her, that one of the very imortant things in marriage is the mans food.

trimandtrendy:

sit her down and explain to her, that one of the very imortant things in marriage is the mans food.

Dont you think he should have done this before saying "I Do"?

Why marry someone knowing how they are then try to change them after marriage?

sistawoman:


Actually everything I have tried to make on my own has turned out wonderfully.  My husband says I cook just like his mom   and he was very close to her.

I have always been a self-taught type of girl/woman anyway.

what you expect him to say, or u want him to sleep on the couch and miss all that super sistawoman moves at nite.

smooooooth:

what you expect him to say, or u want him to sleep on the couch and miss all that super sistawoman moves at nite.

lmao

@sistawoman wetin be your own na?Abeg if you nur get advice abeg leave me jara stop saying nonsense.abi i nur fit marry person wen i love from my heart just because she nur sabi cook food.


The problem I dont have much time to learn and cook because i work.

St☆rStruck:

Maybe you should ask your little sister to teach you and then you can cook for yourself.

gbam

smooooooth:

what you expect him to say, or u want him to sleep on the couch and miss all that super sistawoman moves at nite.

LOL

What and ever. . . . talk to the hand.

He always invites his friends over to sample my dishes. And smiles so proudly when they are licking thier fingers and singing my prasies

OneNaija:

@sistawoman wetin be your own na?Abeg if you nur get advice abeg leave me jara stop saying nonsense.abi i nur fit marry person wen i love from my heart just because she nur sabi cook food.


The problem I dont have much time to learn and cook because i work.

This is my concern:

Did you know that she did not want to learn before you married her?

so leave d woman alone, continue eatin outside, na love blind ur eyes wey make u no check 4 all dis b4 bringin her in

OneNaija:

@sistawoman wetin be your own na?Abeg if you nur get advice abeg leave me jara stop saying nonsense.abi i nur fit marry person wen i love from my heart just because she nur sabi cook food.


The problem I dont have much time to learn and cook because i work.

guy sharrap!! she dey talk sense, why u marry person wey no sabi cook, when u know say u like food

oya since na love push you, then chop love and stop complaining.

sistawoman:


LOL

What and ever. . . . talk to the hand.

He always invites his friends over to sample my dishes. And smiles so proudly when they are licking thier fingers and singing my prasies

guys can go to any lenght when they need to make a lie look true. prolly u shld put a camera in the dinning hall and see why the dishes get empty really fast anytime u go get some more juice, they all pour it in dat bag they bring to the table.  

smooooooth:

guys can go to any lenght when they need to make a lie look true. prolly u shld put a camera in the dinning hall and see why the dishes get empty really fast anytime u go get some more juice, they all pour it in dat bag they bring to the table.

LOL

I think I will do that next time.

lol. just ry and talk to her sha

my bf on the other hand loves american food, and when i saw that it was hindering us somehow, i got him to start teaching me how to make those things one after the other. so try and teach her, or at worst carry her to yetkem cooking school

wetin i marry if my wife no fit cook nigerian food,she go return to her father's house ni oo

sistawoman:


LOL

What and ever. . . . talk to the hand.

He always invites his friends over to sample my dishes. And smiles so proudly when they are licking thier fingers and singing my prasies

sisterwoman are you part of nollywood stars?

una too like nollywood show for una house

u should av expressed ur fears b4 marriage, but u can also teach her

e bad?or wetin do am? if u teach am na crime? mmmsshhhhheeewwwww hiisssss

Your best bet is to teach her yourself. Maybe she just feels like she is being forced to change. I am sure you did not make it seem so important to her before marriage. You probably wanted her to marry you at any cost because you loved her so much. The two of you should be able to compromise. You should learn your food first, teach her and then also learn her food. Ask her if you can cook each others food. Like Mon-Fri she cooks the Nigerian dish you helped her learn and weekends you cook her food. It can be a bonding experience. If she also works though you might need to make it a more even split.

You said you work and that is why you cannot learn. Throughout your life have you been working? Also how long do you think it will take you to learn one dish? As long as it takes you to fly to Lagos?

Some people just don't like hypocrisy. You are saying it is so important for you to eat this dish, yet you don't know how to make it yourself. Forget being a 'man' - the excuse i know people are ready with. If you landed a job in London today and went there quickly, who would cook your Egusi for you, if you did not know how? Would you go to restaraunts (£20 per Nigerian so like £900 per month - most of your salary) or eat English food (which you would still have to learn or eat ready meals) or fly to Lagos every month (again cash and time) or starve?

Please the best leaders lead by example. As the 'leader' of your home, learn the things you want to teach others. This goes for any example i.e. housechores, respect, work-ethic, kindness, parenting, loyalty etc. Your married life will be easier if you can. Hope this helps you open your eyes and mind.