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I"ve learnt, lol! by ezinne1212(f): 11:05am On Jun 06, 2009
cool
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by justwise(m): 11:43am On Jun 06, 2009
, i know who the sensible guys are so i don't push them away for these losers anymore!


I love that last part of ur sentence. U see, this is the problem in rela/ship especially when u know exactly wht u looking for but suddently u come across 2 big jokes(men/boys) and the experience they left u with might determine how u treat the next guy u will meet.

U become abit judgmental, mind reader, body language expert, etc. approach every rela/ship with an open mind, don't keep comparing him with the previous failed encounter.

I don't know about other guys but personally i hate it with passion when  i'm been compared to an ex  by a gf.

U may have to meet 2-4 bad ones b4 hitting the jackpot.

Good luck
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by sexyLeamon(f): 11:47am On Jun 06, 2009
the problem is that the aren't many good guys left. you have to look look before you find one. my advice, do not
just go for the wealth and their look.
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by whitelexi(m): 11:49am On Jun 06, 2009
sexyLeamon:

the problem is that the aren't many good guys left.

Or perhaps good women who dont focus on what they can get off u

Men are getting wise my dear, all that era of deception is losing its grip cool
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by sexyLeamon(f): 12:01pm On Jun 06, 2009
whitelexi:

Men are getting wise my dear, all that era of deception is losing its grip cool
so wise that they are going insane
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by whitelexi(m): 12:04pm On Jun 06, 2009
sexyLeamon:

so wise that they are going insane

It is no wonder people like the poster are having difficulty, if every wise man they meet is insane, grin grin grin
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by jabbok(m): 12:36pm On Jun 06, 2009
@ poster,

To get the 'right' guy, learn how to get ur thighs/legs closed. smiley
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by opuro(m): 12:43pm On Jun 06, 2009
jabbok:

@ poster,

To get the 'right' guy, learn how to get ur thighs/legs closed. smiley
and demand less
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by Sasha009(f): 12:49pm On Jun 06, 2009
to be honest? stop searching.
No matter how old you re. Just believe, be yourself and focus on your life goals.
The right guy will come along sooner or later,
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by MAURI: 1:01pm On Jun 06, 2009
Poster,
You come accross as decent and upright, but this is one side of the story.
Personally, I must say the experiences you've described in your post are very unfortunate. While life and being in a relationship has all the potentials to be great and wonderful, your experiences have been the opposite. Having said this though, it might also be very important to have some sort of self reflection and self-criticism as it were, since it takes two.
are a complete nightmare and turn a sane individual into a frustrated dam!
People will take you as far as you let them, in as much as we are products of our experiences and other factors, I will say: do not allow yourself to be put down and be turned into a dam (as you said) by these individuals. Try and break yourself from the negative impact of these experiences. The heroine lies in you! Time will heal your pain and in due course you will meet the kind of people you bring you the love, peace and harmony you deserve.
But if you allow negative experiences to take over and dominate you, you might come accross the right guys and lose them 'cos of your negative radiations without you knowing it. Or they might sence this and scram.
We are often surrounded by happiness and peace. We can make our cups either half-full or half-empty.
Be good and good luck with life.
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by chykeo(m): 1:03pm On Jun 06, 2009
A lot of good guys are around. Look well before you leap. Dont get carried away by physical attractions and wealth. Having come this far now, I assume you know what you want in a relationship so you must be careful.

Past experiences should not make you wary of the next guy that comes. Give it your all and you get all. Dont be judgemental and no comparisons.

Bear in mind no guy is perfect. You have to learn as well to be patient
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by brein: 1:14pm On Jun 06, 2009
@Poster.
Jabbok and Opuro has got one big point for ya consideration though it may sound funny but of utmost importance.
Just watch ur every bit of actions and words towards ur guy cos most guys are out there to find faults, so wisen up in d general sense.
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by whitelexi(m): 1:16pm On Jun 06, 2009
brein:

@Poster.
Jabbok and Opuro has got one big point for ya consideration though it may sound funny but of utmost importance.
Just watch ur every bit of actions and words towards ur guy cos most guys are out there to find faults, so wisen up in d general sense.

And dont even think of pretending about it grin
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by kaypinchi(m): 1:36pm On Jun 06, 2009
@ poster

Permit me to correct you, 'The Wrong Men are Choosing You'
I guess there is something in you that is attractive to the 'wrong' men.

The way out is to make change, start doing somethings (like where you meet men, the way you dress/make your hair, your view to life, how you relate to peers, what you do on a first date etc.) differently and you'll be suprised at the power behind change. This could be a few things or a combination of some of the few things mentioned above.

Trust me, it works.
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by whitelexi(m): 1:39pm On Jun 06, 2009
kaypinchi:

@ poster

Permit me to correct you, 'The Wrong Men are Choosing You'
I guess there is something in you that is attractive to the 'wrong' men.


Or perhaps, something in u that drives the good men away grin grin grin
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by justwise(m): 1:41pm On Jun 06, 2009
whitelexi:

Or perhaps, something in u that drives the good men away grin grin grin

Hmmm, food for thought
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by Sam Milla(m): 1:47pm On Jun 06, 2009
Look into yourself and see if you can make some adjustments that will allow you to accommodate some negativities.
You must remember that you are dealing with other human beings.
You must learn to tolerate, exercise patience, teach, learn and accept things that you cant change.
There is nothing like prince charming out there.
There are always faults.

So, like someone said up there, dont look for Brad Pitts and Boy Georges alone.
Create  a room inside your mind for the likes of MR IBU grin.
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by YafaJo: 1:50pm On Jun 06, 2009
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Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by proudly9ja(m): 2:04pm On Jun 06, 2009
Like sasha said, stop searching!

There's loads to do than search for a man. Focus on ur goals and career/education. Improve on yourself. Its the man's job to search and when he does find you, don't push him away.
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by YafaJo: 2:17pm On Jun 06, 2009
Youngaahnaija and Milan
Have fun on the net, meet others and make money with others.
Get the best business links and promote, sell yourself or your business.
Become something at a young age and feel confident try out new things and meet new interesting people.
Meet black, african entre's and get free tips from them.
Learn new skills and tactics and find what you are looking for in just one place.
Tell all your people about this site and forward this message to all your contacts.
Have a nice day!!! From Yafa (aka-Milan)

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/youngaahnaija/
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by damola1: 2:33pm On Jun 06, 2009
whatever,

Girls in Nigeria are too damn materialistic!!!!!,

I am a good guy with good intentions, and I don't even want any of them!!!!, cos I get to pay for everything, screw dat, I am on my own, don't need no stress,
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by argent(f): 2:34pm On Jun 06, 2009
Sasha009:

to be honest? stop searching.
No matter how old you re. Just believe, be yourself and focus on your life goals.
The right guy will come along sooner or later,

That is it, stop searching and focus more on you. Try to work towards becoming a better you and focus more on the things you want to achieve. Its just a matter of time, the right man will come along. Please, don,t allow your past experiences to affect how you relate to men.
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by Sam Milla(m): 2:58pm On Jun 06, 2009
rockhaven:

hear yourself well enough and you will discover you have a wrong approach to  men .because of your wrong approach only the wrong men that l you will eventually reject will come your way.


you need to ask  yourself what exactly do you want  in a man and  be  expressive enough  so that men who dont have it and  who are self respecting will simply  move away.

you sound like someone with a  very high opinion of yourself and i deduced that from your chioce of words.GOD give grace to the humble and resist the proud.out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.until you are the right woman dont expect to find the right man.
the meek wil GOD direct.pray for the meek spirit.favour  of GOD is needed to find the right man or woman



I like that bolded sentences, They sound spiritual and yet true
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by Nezan(m): 3:27pm On Jun 06, 2009
The problem with most girls is they look too desperate. Every girl you meet wants to get married. So long as this attitude remains, guys will continue to be dishonest with girls.
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by ,amebo no1: 3:37pm On Jun 06, 2009
@topic

more like how can the right men stop choosing you(the wrong woman) undecided
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by Sam Milla(m): 3:38pm On Jun 06, 2009
,amebo no1:

@topic

more like how can the right men stop choosing you(the wrong woman) undecided

lol
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by TyeeA: 4:02pm On Jun 06, 2009
I think u need to losen up abit, no one is perfect we all work towards perfection.
I would advise that u try another approach, i.e. friendship first then u can take it to any level u want after assessing the guy but it doesn't imply that u know everything about him.

So all u need is just be focused and i believe ur dream guy is out there waiting to meet.
Oh and pray about it first before committing urself and its lovely that u know who u what as a partner.

I wish u all the best. grin
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by ezinne1212(f): 4:08pm On Jun 06, 2009
Wow, i'm really surprised. After those incidents I've done a lot of soul searching and I've prioritized certain things, but because it's easier for people who don't know you to be straight with their opinions i decided to post it here for feedback. All of the responses directed at me made sense, and they are things i'm already trying to adopt.  I'm just glad i let off steam, it's the only way i could clear my mind and focus on a brighter future. Thanks all.
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by ezinne1212(f): 4:13pm On Jun 06, 2009
,amebo no1:

@topic

more like how can the right men stop choosing you(the wrong woman) undecided


lol, if they are your definition of right men, goodluck, u'll need it.
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by kok(m): 4:18pm On Jun 06, 2009
Just like the common saying,  "different tales for different folks" the good guys end up with the wrong girls and the vis-a-vis. Just who is the wrong guy and who is the right girl? I think attitude express it all. like someone said up there, probably u 've got some stuffs in you that you need to dispose, so try and dispose them off and you will find urself sailing in the right ship.
Let me draw my curtain with this, Resist the evil within u [stand firm against it], and he will flee from you. meaning the wrong guys will flee from you if you are the right person.
Peace!
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by wanville(m): 4:31pm On Jun 06, 2009
smiley
Re: I"ve learnt, lol! by C2H5OH(f): 4:34pm On Jun 06, 2009
Do you have nasty habits that turn them off?
Attitude problems? Are you a loud mouth?
Are you trustworthy? Stubborn?

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