Salam, please I need your opinion on this argument i have with my friends. Is it allowed for a sister to see a fellow muslim brother, admire his faith and fear of Allah, and propose to him? I know it is frowned on in our society but what of Islamically?

It is 100% hallal and accepted in islam. The prophet's (PBUH) wife Khadija RA proposed to him and she was 40 while he was 27. She was impressed with his impeccable character and honesty.

Another of the prophets wife proposed to him as well i just cant remeber her name right now.

There is nothing wrong in it in islam and we should care less about what the society says about it. If you fancy a man go for it with full confidence and dignity.

Lagosboy:

It is 100% hallal and accepted in islam. The prophet's (PBUH) wife Khadija RA proposed to him and she was 40 while he was 27. She was impressed with his impeccable character and honesty.

Another of the prophets wife proposed to him as well i just cant remeber her name right now.

There is nothing wrong in it in islam and we should care less about what the society says about it. If you fancy a man go for it with full confidence and dignity.

You said it all. There is nothing wrong in proposing to a Muslim man as long as you said he fears Allah. If he does, he would not use that as an avenue of unnecessary exploitation.

justnaby:

Thanks. Sincce it is a sunnsh and we are advised to follow the sunnah. Its just a shame people discard it for westernization. For. e.g. saying hello to fellow muslim instead of the distinct Asallamualaikum to each other.

Very true indeed. People forget that salam alaekum is a dua on the other persona and the reciprocation is dua itself. shame !!

Lagosboy:

Very true indeed. People forget that salam alaekum is a dua on the other persona and the reciprocation is dua itself. shame !!

Yes!
Shame indeed.

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it is allowed. Prophet Muhammad and Khadijat marriage proves a worthy example.

but pride wont let our sisters do that. i can understand how difficult it is for a present day sister to propose. she can at best show love signals and i know men aint slackish when they see signals.

lol ;

fizzybaba:

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it is allowed. Prophet Muhammad and Khadijat marriage proves a worthy example.

but pride wont let our sisters do that. i can understand how difficult it is for a present day sister to propose. she can at best show love signals and i know men aint slackish when they see signals.

And salamu alaikum is the best greeting and earn for a reward

mukina2:

lol ;

I am so wondering what the teeth is all about

nothing oh

of course it is allowed,do you know the ratio of islamic men to women these days?

@poster :

Afterall Khadijah proposed to Muhammed first. Although Khadija is older than Muhammed.

If she can't make a direct proposal due to bashfulness or fear of being turned down, she may go through someone who knows the brother well and has the wisdom to carry out the job well.

A case happened around me recently. The sister liked the brother and was too shy to go to him so she went to the brother's friend and started asking questions about the brother. The brother understood what she wanted and asked her if she didn't mind the brother. She affirmed and the brother got to work.

The wisdom he applied that I really liked was that he didn't go to tell the brother in question that hey sister so and so likes you. he just told his friend that he's been watching that particular sister and thought they could be compatible. the friend said, really? and watched the sister for a couple of days too and found that he liked what he was seeing. At the long run, it was the brother who went to propose to the sister. And did she accept!

So different ways can be used that won't put the sister in a difficult situation because the truth is, though Islam permits it, it's not so easy for a woman to walk up to a man and propose.

zayhal:

If she can't make a direct proposal due to bashfulness or fear of being turned down, she may go through someone who knows the brother well and has the wisdom to carry out the job well.

A case happened around me recently. The sister liked the brother and was too shy to go to him so she went to the brother's friend and started asking questions about the brother. The brother understood what she wanted and asked her if she didn't mind the brother. She affirmed and the brother got to work.

The wisdom he applied that I really liked was that he didn't go to tell the brother in question that hey sister so and so likes you. he just told his friend that he's been watching that particular sister and thought they could be compatible. the friend said, really? and watched the sister for a couple of days too and found that he liked what he was seeing. At the long run, it was the brother who went to propose to the sister. And did she accept!

So different ways can be used that won't put the sister in a difficult situation because the truth is, though Islam permits it, it's not so easy for a woman to walk up to a man and propose.

Love the story !!!

funny.am proposing to someone already but hes proving hard, dnt know why

good luck sister

YEAH YEAH MUKI,dnt know why hes been like that,hes not acting according to sunnah

maybe he is scared

@muki,about my moonface or what?

A brother shouldnt do shakkara o when a sister proposes, he should either accept or be polite enough to let her know why he his declining. There should be no pretence in serious matters like this. But some sisters dont propose directly and feel the brother should understand the message , often times they are wrong and the bro doesnt have a clue while the sis thinks he his being mean.

A woman once proposed to the Prophet PBUH and he politely declined and other proposed to him and he accepted so there is nothing wrong in it either way.

uplawal:

@muki,about my moonface or what?

dunno what you talking about jare

@ topic
i proposed to lagos boy and he is running away

sister muki uve forgotten u once called me moonface(makeup tingy)

and why is lagosboy running away?maybe you re too beautiful,anyways,its Abuzola baby i wanna propose to right now, am just praying he accept my humble proposal

uplawal:

sister muki uve forgotten u once called me moonface(makeup tingy)

i already apologised , didnt mean it, and i hope you forget about it too

uplawal:

and why is lagosboy running away?maybe you re too beautiful,anyways,its Abuzola baby i wanna propose to right now, am just praying he accept my humble proposal

abuzola? i nor talk oh

@mukina,am only joking about the moonface tingy,av forgotten since ,pls just do me a favour,dont shy away from it, i seriously want Abuzola,i love his zeal

chei you love want Abuzola?

Good luck in that dear

thank you sis

you need it

uplawal:

funny.am proposing to someone already but hes proving hard, dnt know why

he probably isnt interested in female jihadists.

this false "sis, bro" going on between slaves is quite funny. How can you be "bros and sis" when there is NO biological or spiritual link to you?

I don't know anything about Islam
because I'm a Christain.