menix:
My friend u need a reset slap..

What did u say or how did u say it for her to ve asked you to go get the fund from ur dad..

A woman who ve trained you till ur last paper is now evil bah My brother quickly search within nd see what u re doing wrong..

If u re to wash plate to get ur funds all the years in school, am sure u would ve washed 50 containers of plate..

If I tell u part of my story, u will go nd wash her undies too...

menix:
My friend u need a reset slap..

What did u say or how did u say it for her to ve asked you to go get the fund from ur dad..

A woman who ve trained you till ur last paper is now evil bah My brother quickly search within nd see what u re doing wrong..

If u re to wash plate to get ur funds all the years in school, am sure u would ve washed 50 containers of plate..

If I tell u part of my story, u will go nd wash her undies too...

njiasi30:
U might ve offended her one way or d other without knowing it. Just cool down and talk 2 her, and also beg her 2 4give u in anyway u might ve wronged her.pray also dat she doesn't ve bad friend dat is influencing her wrongly. I know of a woman DAT change overnight and started maltreating her step kids, due 2 bad advice.
I wish u d best.

asadike:
My brother, the woman don try. When u keep depending on someone for a long time, d person will start seeing u as a burden. I advise you look for something to do, a job that can fetch u money, no matter how little. Even if it is loading job, working in a cyber, anything at all. atleast, it will make her see u as responsible and in another light esp when u come home with biscuits for d kids.

ViNeHaNds:
Hi nairalanders, i just finished my final exams early december, hence a graduate of biochemistry in one of the countries federal universities in the southeast, as i type this post, its with much pain and depression, i came over to one of my youngest aunts place who have been the backbone of my education, if not for her, would have forfeited the admission, since i lost my mum and dad, since my dad died about 6year ago, my aunt took me up and supported me when others said they cant afford entra expenses on a nephew, today i am practically a house boy in her house, she has allowed the devils to pollute her mind, isnt she suppose to be happy i am finally done with school but her actions tells otherwise, every time i raise a topic on my school matters, i get the bashing of my life, at an instance i wanted walking out of her house when she mentioned that i go get money from my dead father, i lost consciousness but i was somehow still standing on my feets, i barely can sleep recently, whats wrong with her, for Godsake has she forgotten her promises, i am owing the school a lot of money, my project has suffered, no funds, by now i am suppose to be back in school in that effect, my mates are far gone on theirs, while i am in my aunts house washing heaps of clothes, cleaning floors and all sort of chores and errands . I have been thinking much, i need advice please. I have prayed for God to change her for my sake, no noticeable change, she is not bothered at all. Should i just forget about her helping me and take sometime off school and get a job, raise funds and come back later to do my project and pay my outstanding fees, , , mature advice please. Thanks for reading.

Askseek:


Please clarify, are you a graduate or undergraduate in your final year?

ViNeHaNds:
if i could get that slap it would be better than this nonsense happening, my dad was on his sick bed while i was about taking my post UME, I attended his burial with my admission letter in my bag, since my year1 school fees she paid, year2 was 60% payment, the rest is story, anyways, now she has turn to something else, what have i done that she cant say. Her utterance was so shocking, i wish i was dreaming. Anyways, i cant see any reasonable advice in your post. If you have been in worst case, why the bashing me.

ViNeHaNds:
since my year2 she started showing this character, she has paid no bills for me since then, she was always promising. I dont bother her much, she gives me when she wants to, although always below requirements. Unless when i spend my holidays working for her i get food stuffs to return with else my schooling is by the grace of God

ViNeHaNds:
since my year2 she started showing this character, she has paid no bills for me since then, she was always promising. I dont bother her much, she gives me when she wants to, although always below requirements. Unless when i spend my holidays working for her i get food stuffs to return with else my schooling is by the grace of God

menix:


Since u know the bolded is her "MUMU" button, why not keep applying it till u become ur own man...

njiasi30:

Since u are in ur final year, try and seek help 4rm other relatives and friends 2 help u but if it's not possible den drop. Since it's only project dat is remaining. look 4 any decent job , Save money den go back and do ur project, also pay ur dues if any. I know of a distant relative DAT did it,after working 4 a year. He went back,did his project and went 4 service. Now he is working. It won't b easy o..but God will see u tru, it's just a matter of time. Such is life

menix:


I was not in anyway trying to advise you cous u need to advise urself first..
U re pompous that washing plate ain't ur style being a graduate..

I did nanny for my Snr Broz, washed plate nd swept the house happily but if I tell you while doing it I had something I could easily dispose nd ve nothing less than 15 million naira in my account but I humbled myself, that was after I lost my banking Job.
Do I tell you I stopped getting Breakfast, Lunch Yet I was a happy man who respected all..
With hunger I still go to bring back the kids after skool with Joy..
I can imagine what u went tru. What I like about u is dat u are humble,some men won't do it BC of pride. knowing fully well dat u worked b4 and earned money,u still humbled urself. It is only God DAT can exalt u. I wish u all d best in life.


@njiasi30... can't say all here...

ViNeHaNds:
yea, last big money from her was my 60% school fees, she has not given me anything above 10k ever since, that's after working my ass out and some food stuffs, it do go a long way though, but right now, she has to full fill her promises, debts has to be paid, project funds but instead its quarrels upon quarrel, I feel I am wasting my time here, she will give me 10k and some food stuff, when i tell her I am goin back to school. How will this solve all these problems?

menix:


Thanx..

menix:


Thanx..

ViNeHaNds:
thanks alot

fabby27:
From your title, I somehow can understand your thought pattern. Now i may not be able to write much but this is what i will tell you. In this world, nothing goes for nothing and people will do anything to keep whatever puts food on their table. Firstly, remove that mindset of being a graduate, don't let that deceive you. Some people that have graduated years before you are doing one menial job somewhere to survive. Secondly, please take pride away from your heart, you may not its pride but it is. humility is what will take you places. just look at jesus, a whole jesus, stooping so low to wash his disciples feet. just imagine that and that is not a fairy tale. it's reality. so just be like him and see what happens. your aunty has always been there for you. Regardless of whether she's taking advantage of her assistance towards you should not be your concern, serve her and do what she wants n tells you without complain. when you begin to complain and talk back at her, then you loose the compassion that has been gingering her to help you and start suffering for nothing. you just have to be a 'fool' to get what you want in this circumstance, afterall in two to three years time, you will have got a job and be on your own. So go now and apologise to her, telling her you appreciate all she's been doing for you n see her just like your own mother n she shouldn't relent on her efforts towards you, n that you promise not to disappoint her.Let her know those pressing needs that matter to you amicably. i think it would be to your best interest you do that unless you want to take the loggerhead and go out there in the world and hustle like some of your mates are doing but i tell you, you won't find it palatable. it is said that 'If the ax be blunt and one does not whet the edge, then must he put to it more strength; but wisdom is profitable to direct'

menix:


U re lucky u get some cash..
I wept the day a friend said bye to us because he had no one to raise him 1 naira to continue his schooling..

So now my advise comes, since u ve started the plate washing continue but with happiness, do more chores ask her for more, this will go nd undo the wickedness in her heart.

Finally go nd apologize, with this if she gives you 10k when going know that the devil in her is the Main Lucifer u hear about nd not his servant..

All the Best..

ViNeHaNds:
my father trained her through school , she never did all this i have done for her , for him and gave her hand out in marriage as the eldest son, I have never spoken back at her or stand to think twice in what so ever she is need of me, there is no wrong I have done. She has listen to the wrong people, I will still do as you have said, thank you

ViNeHaNds:
she didnt do all that in her own university days, but i am doing it, my father took care of her,,, apology,,, apology... what am I apologising for? I have never done her wrong

johnson232:

My brother u sound like a potential ingrate honestly...

Is she your blood sister?
If no, always appreciate her, we really do have few of her kind...

U wouldn't know what she has done for u until after your NYSC...

but in all in all, u really do sound like a potential in grate, if not u wouldn't have opened this ungrateful thread.

Do u know what it means to see someone through school?

U never enter life....

menix:


Men nd Pride..
Do u know I was in my village last week just to go apologize to someone angry with me cous I stoped sending money due to my finance issues.

When my uncles said I should apologize I almost detonated knowing I ve done no wrong but for man to live at peace with the next I had to..

The same man my father trained chats with a Chairman(his former deputy) of a Notable commission in Nigeria that when I heard they were doing underground recruitment I told him I wanted in, instead he asked me get the advert placement of the job....

ViNeHaNds:
for a fact I HV done her no wrong, but this night I am gonna kneel before her and apologise.. thank you, I pray God touches her heart

ViNeHaNds:
she didnt do all that in her own university days, but i am doing it, my father took care of her,,, apology,,, apology... what am I apologising for? I have never done her wrong