jeffizy:
I'm sure you omitted the part where you paid for her school fees and hostel accommodation too.

On a serious note, I sense some insecurity about you wanting to get married to her severally.

The lady must have gotten to the stage where mixing with people on campus has given her a wider horizon. If u know what I mean.

Just ask her without sugar coating it. “Are u for me or against me"?

jomoh:
She's broken up with you already.




Bro its time to move on. The earlier you did the earlier she realises what she lost.

SirJeffry:
Brother, that lady ain't into you anymore. Better move on now by yourself or get kicked in the @ass.

Edited: don't you have a bottle of champagne at home? Drink and sleep abeg, ladies come ladies go, nwa guy remains.

scantee:
what do u mean by wanting to get marry to her severally? I said we agreed to get marry after her school, since are both still young no rushing, as for school fees & hostel whatever that is not a topic bro, i never said i did but if i do is nothing to regret because someting you do out of love is nothing, my major concern here is not about whatever i spent on her, that is nothing...my only problem is that i feel hurt for i so much trust her bro.

jeffizy:

I perfectly understand your heartbreak .
I intend to shake you awake so that you'll realise it can only go two ways.
Either she's just busy or the inevitable is here.

Don't sit and hope, be your own driver.
Ask her directly so you don't be a clockwork.....

I hope its gonna be in your favor bro.

scantee:
ya i undersands ur point just that is not that easy knowing how far you have gone with ur plans for over 3yrs now, it hurts more because i singlehandedly relegated all my female friends to the bench only to make her comfortable & win her trust, believe me i have hundreds of female crushers but i never gave them the chance just to make her happy..<in my next world i would never date a student> again....

SirJeffry:
She's probably having other suitors now and being a gullible fellow, she is now confused.
The raw truth you need to know is that for her to be confused means she has been cheating on you for awhile now. A lady starts comparing two men when she has tested them both and the second/newest man always seem to be sweeter to them.
She has been trying to figure out how to leave until you gave her a soft landing by asking her if she was tired of you.

Brother trust me, move on with your life and give other ladies chance to earn your Benz's front seat abeg.

scantee:
ya i undersands ur point just that is not that easy knowing how far you have gone with ur plans for over 3yrs now, it hurts more because i singlehandedly relegated all my female friends to the bench only to make her comfortable & win her trust, believe me i have hundreds of female crushers but i never gave them the chance just to make her happy..<in my next world i would never date a student> again....

scantee:
bro i understands u quite alright, my major concern here is that she seem to be confused about what she is doing as if she is under something, she is a different person when we are 2geda, we have issues mostly when she is school.

tooman:


hhmm bro. why letting it disturb u?

pls allow the babe test life without you care about her.
Nd try to look another babe.

scantee:
i think i will bro, though she hardly admits having any suitor, she always make believe she don't give room for such knowing well that she with me already. I have to now just that it may not be easy, but i think is right time, though the two families is gonna be @ crosshead but i don't care anymore. All i needed now is someting to take away mind off her, unfortunately this is happning @ the wrong time because i am on leave now, & i always spent such my leave time with her. I think i just have to travel out for now.

scantee:
i think i will bro, though she hardly admits having any suitor, she always make believe she don't give room for such knowing well that she with me already. I have to now just that it may not be easy, but i think is right time, though the two families is gonna be @ crosshead but i don't care anymore. All i needed now is someting to take away mind off her, unfortunately this is happning @ the wrong time because i am on leave now, & i always spent such my leave time with her. I think i just have to travel out for now.

scantee:
bro love is a very wicked thing, maybe i should just rush into new r/ship to get her rid of my mind, though her family will be hurt & sad but i think i have no other choice now b4 i die of HBP.

jomoh:


Bro. Women are the most deceptive beings ever created by God. Even God himself said it in Bible and Qurans.


They are they only set of people that have the ability to live more than two deifferent lives successfully without mixing it because they believe what they do.


What ever she says or do whenever you're together is not and never will be the yard stick for judging them. They mostly live by a rule that guys are starting to adopt- "she's yours whenever she's with you. She's lost whenever she's not". Play by that rule and see her run after you.


BTW I went through your threads and some comments on it. Broda, you need to quickly and urgently disconnect whatever you have with that babe now and forever. She's never going to be faithful. I even read the part where you claim to here male voices in the background which she confirmed. Twice for heavens sake. For Gods sake you're not a cripple are you?


I won't sugar coat anything for you cos am a guy like you. This is not love. She never loved you. She only took you as a benefactor, her money bag.


Its time you concentrated more on your own job and give her less than 5% of you time.


Also, you don't need all this distant relationships very few people can sustain it. Especially not sexually active people. Especially not students who have a lot of time on their hands to mess around. Consider dating a working class babe like you who probably have little or no time on her hand to be messing around. Bankers are good if you get a nice one. They don't have much time to socialise, so they appreciate the ones that come for them much better.


Wish you all the best.

scantee:
i think i will bro, though she hardly admits having any suitor, she always make believe she don't give room for such knowing well that she with me already. I have to now just that it may not be easy, but i think is right time, though the two families is gonna be @ crosshead but i don't care anymore. All i needed now is someting to take away mind off her, unfortunately this is happning @ the wrong time because i am on leave now, & i always spent such my leave time with her. I think i just have to travel out for now.

SirJeffry:
Yea, take a vacation or something and please don't be harsh to ladies because of this else you loose your sense of judgment on women. Give them a level playing ground to prove themselves.

scantee:
thanx bro much appreciated...sad reality of life, believe me some gals is the reason why many guys turn to playboy, seem few don't appreciate real love. What a wasted years. I think i just have to go & get tourist visa & get lost out of this curel environment 4 a while.

pinkycute:
She's confused for real and she don't want to loose you as wel.

But have it in mind, there's this guy out there disturbing her, talking sweet nonsense to her, making her to lost interest in everything and it might affect her final.

@Op, you just have to be the man here, don't call her again, if you've the time, go and see her as a surprise, talk to her and make her understand that she'll be save in your hands this's the time she needs you most

Don't listen to all this NL guys concluding what they don't know. She might still love you, but confused due to pressure concerning some sitting things, of which she has already confirmed to you. You know her very well more than we here. And i believe you're not a kid, and you can tell if someone is breaking up with you. So my dear, do the needful and save your relationship

jomoh:



Trust me bro. There's nothing that makes a woman jealous like seeing that her guy doesn't give a hoot about her. You're giving her too much time and that has put her in the drivers seat.


Ever heard the saying-

"The person who cares most in a relationship suffers most while the person that cares less controls the relationship"

Its time to mingle. Go out, meet girls, flirt around. She's too comfortable. Give the ones crushing on you chance. Make her feel insecure.