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Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by Nobody: 1:10am On Jan 29, 2016 |
My dear I feel ur pain. Letting go of someone whom you supposedly Loved and even had kids with is a tough decesion to make. If only you have a source of income it would have made it easier for you to cater for ur kids without him Who says a woman cannot make it without a man. For ur peace of mind And dignity, give that man a very long gap. Think up of a trade or businessn whatever to support you If ur husband is truly a pastor man of God as he claims, he shold be able to support His childrens education. If he does not, don't worry about it. God will send help to you through persons you don't expect. Just make sure you live a holy life in the process and pray to your God, then watch what this awesome God will do for you. 3 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by chinoify: 1:11am On Jan 29, 2016 |
Madam... I have followed this case from the first thread and have deduced the following. 1. You are the cause of ur problems. 2. You come here to seek what you can't have. 3. You are a prayless mum. 4. You are not fit to be a pastor's wife, you where never in support of his ministry. 5. I see you as some1 who gossips slot. 6. I see the whole problem as you. Until you change, this whole mess remains. 7. I see a nagging wife. 8. I see a woman who assumes (falsely)a lot. In Africa, they say there's no smoke with out fire. Making ur story incomplete. You have lived with this man for some years, you alone knows where it went wrong, what went wrong, how it went wrong and who went wrong. All the people asking you to leave your home will still insult you tomorrow for not been patience. Finally my recommendations... 1. Have a personal retreat, retrace the whole saga. Search to seek where you missed it. 2. Seek to get back the heart of your husband, you know him better, you know the man you married, he has not changed and won't change. 3. Pray to God, to give you a heart to accommodate his calling. Using the term 'his church' makes me believe you are far from his calling... And this man needs people he will work with, so people including ladies must occupy ur position and have less regard for you. 4. Pray for your home.. When a problem arises anywhere, there are basically two things to do, pray or complain. You have done the later, I guess it didn't work. So try the former. Spend more time with God than man on issues. It gives more results. 5. When 4. Is ongoing, begin to participate in church activities... I don't want to hear ' he won't let me', if it happens you have disbelieve in your prayers.. So pray and participate in church activities, reclaim your position as pastors wife. Though it will take some time. 6. Practice what I call Advance Forgiveness, before he or anyone offends you have forgiven. 7. Pray pray pray pray... 8. Come back here in some weeks to testify on the new heart God has given your husband. Selah. 3 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by airsaylongcon: 1:12am On Jan 29, 2016 |
My mum taught me that sometimes in life you stoop to conquer. Perhaps in this case you should be stooping on your knees and crying to the author and finisher of our faith. #IwillNeverBowDown #WeWillBowDownToNoMan |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by blessedfavoured: 1:14am On Jan 29, 2016 |
bennywise30: What is this? Pray and fast? You didn't read the part that said the man is a pastor. Of course she didn't put it here, but I'm 98percent sure he beats her. Emotional abuse is just as bad. And she's only 28? Marriage is for better for worse, of course it is siince she's not the one that cheated.. Or the one nagging and abusing him. Infact I think you're confused, first you said leave then went on to say she should stay put. 7 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by HighKing01(m): 1:24am On Jan 29, 2016 |
I know a strong babalawo here in badagry he will work for u, considering ur present state u can tank him leta wen d deed is done....shikina I know a strong babalawo here in badagry he will work for u, considering ur present state u can tank him leta wen d deed is done....shikina 1 Like |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by StPete: 1:27am On Jan 29, 2016 |
I would hate to advice you nkasiobi87 because YOU DO NOT TAKE TO ADVICE! Tomorrow you will still open another thread about this same issue. You no dey listen and you no dey tire? People have painstakingly given you the best advise but I doubt if you read through. Instead, you repeat the same mistakes all over again. The worst yet is that, amidst all what your husband has done, you still open leg for him everytime and you're now pregnant for the 6th child. Madam abeg cover your face in shame. Your attitude is really annoying. 10 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by Miami11: 1:43am On Jan 29, 2016 |
chinoify: And who are you to make such assumptions, you sound like that jerk of a husband, How can you blame her if the husband has moved a mistress in to the matrimonial home 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by Originalsly: 1:44am On Jan 29, 2016 |
Hmmm.....this is very extreme.... there is something more to this. When your husband was in distress and needed you most....you travelled with your last child... leaving the door open for ehmmm... the witch to step in. Don't you think this is like karma?... you not caring a damn about him then and he not caring a damn about you now? You can do all he is now asking. ..and more... in the end nothing would change for the better. I think you are now history in his eyes.... get a divorce and move on if we u don't want to be clown of the town. 1 Like |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by Miami11: 1:50am On Jan 29, 2016 |
Pregnant with the 6th child at 27, Don't they have family planning poster in your location, Your major mistake was dropping kids as if there is no tomorrow I pity this innocent babies 2 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by chinoify: 1:54am On Jan 29, 2016 |
Miami11: I don't match issues with singles... Sorry, cos you won't and can't understand the mystery of marriage and also the mystery of been a pastors help meet. If you care to read.. Go back to my recommendations to finish reading. Selah. |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by yemi15(m): 1:57am On Jan 29, 2016 |
Nkasiobi87: Lady, this is a toxic situation, why don't you get out by divorcing him and live your life, there is nothing wrong being a single mother, look for a well paying job or go into business to raise your kids. Life is too short to be stressed out and demeaned by another person. My 2 cents 2 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by Nobody: 1:59am On Jan 29, 2016 |
chinoify: A woman with 5 children is physically, emotionally and mentally abused by her husband, a church worker and a fuccking mistress and all you had to do is blame the poor wife? If she Is that bad a wife, why did he knock her up the 5th time? Infact what kind of useless church is that? So she should help a ministry that glorifies sexual immorality and slavery? You're not a serious person. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by yemi15(m): 2:01am On Jan 29, 2016 |
Nkasiobi87: You could get a restraining order against him even during the divorce case and look for an apartment. Lady, do you want your young children to be motherless and cursing you in the grave because of your folly. My 2 cents 3 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by Nobody: 2:03am On Jan 29, 2016 |
Miami11: Abeg just leave that idiooot! ! I'm still baffled at such level of shameful stupidity! Some people just carry water for head alone as brain. 12 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by oodua1stson: 2:05am On Jan 29, 2016 |
How about you divorce that son of a b1tch you call husband. He's not worth it I swear 1 Like |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by Nobody: 2:09am On Jan 29, 2016 |
I won't advice this woman to leave her husband, not just yet though. A woman who isn't financially stable should be physically strong or mentally hardened. All these kind thing no fit happen na, she for don dey mad since ke? I will render her useless already? Pray ke? I dint have that time o.By this time on a normal day, she don dey sleep for market. Me ke? Beg my husband mistress? Haaaaaaaaaaaaa! !*shudders* If my husband no take time, him go join her for that market! 2 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by eyinjuege: 2:09am On Jan 29, 2016 |
rolled: She's pregnant with the 6th FYI |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by Opoki(m): 2:18am On Jan 29, 2016 |
NFT |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by Brunel(m): 2:23am On Jan 29, 2016 |
Nkasiobi87: Deceive not thyself woman. Thou are NOT married. This isn't how marriage supposed to be 6 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by chinoify: 2:37am On Jan 29, 2016 |
EggovinMma: You only heard one side of the story... You can't make a balanced judge.... |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by yemi15(m): 2:45am On Jan 29, 2016 |
arixsto2: Lol, in the 21st century, someone saying divorce is not an option? So she should die there abi because divorce is not an option smh, some people sha 2 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by baby124: 2:49am On Jan 29, 2016 |
Your husband is mentally handicapped with the thinking capacity of a 2yr old. The creatures some women call husband and won't let us rest. Come OP, are you not ashamed of yourself? What kind of dirty and daft gist is this? Is this a joke? 1 Like |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by Nobody: 2:53am On Jan 29, 2016 |
chinoify: And you on hearing her side of the story is quick to tag her all manners of unprintable names.Why not also wait to hear the other side of the story first before basing your conclusions on that part you're yet to hear.Your assumptions are totally flawed and despicable! There's no justification to blame this woman for a crime perpetrated by religious and sanctimonious dimwits parading as MOG! And of course a married man of God with a mistress! huh?! You claimed she doesn't know what it takes to be a pastor's wife right? Do you also ask the husband, if he knows what it takes to he called a MAN OF GOD? 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by Nobody: 2:56am On Jan 29, 2016 |
If you don't get your dignity back and leave this man. He loves her, NOT you. You can't force a man to love or respect you. He made his choice and it wasn't you. I am sorry to say but just cut your losses and move on. No one ever dies from a divorce. 2 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by banmee(m): 2:58am On Jan 29, 2016 |
Nkasiobi87: There is no difference between a Nigerian/African woman and a slave. Some will come out and say vehemently that they are not but their actions proves otherwise. 5 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by loffyloffy: 3:02am On Jan 29, 2016 |
madam...reading through your posts..one thing is clear to me..your husband is diabolic..wether he is a pastor or not..and his so called mistress is his superior in the spirit world..you are currently being held in a spiritual bondage..because somehow your destinys are tied..they need you around because they are getting something (most likely spiritual ) from you. You need immediate deliverance ..you can achieve this yourself by going on a fast and asking God to help..or you can look for people you trust to pray along with you as you fast..not anyone from your church. meanwhile stop openly fighting and resisting them..play along be nice..fight your spiritual batles with prayers and fasting behind the scene. it is well 1 Like |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by banmee(m): 3:09am On Jan 29, 2016 |
loffyloffy: What are you saying? it is more like she is being held by a s.tupidity bondage. 7 Likes |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by Analysiscorner: 3:14am On Jan 29, 2016 |
Please, how did your marriage to him happen? Through arrangement of others or not? Did he marry you cause of circumstances like unprepared pregnancy? Were you friends after the marriage that he can disclose his innermost worries and cares to you? How come it that the time he was depressed so much to the extent of contemplating suicide he could not see a friend in you to confide in? Tell us how you people have been living from the beginning. |
Re: Must I Befriend My Husband Mistress Before There Will Be Peace In My Home? by armyofone(m): 3:22am On Jan 29, 2016 |
How did you manage to make 5 babies in this our century? How old are your children? You should not be taking such BS by the way. If your children are older, please vamoose and go find your paths in life. |
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