Etinosajay:

Thanks.
Give me regards to your little angel, & d daddy

Hunnydropps:


A couple things helped me be able to take this approach. The biggest factor was that their father had a decent income that allowed me to remain home. Actually teaching them at home was more economical because the cost of daycare would have eaten most if not all of the income I would've made.

So to bring in a little income I did babysitting for friends and neighbors at a very reasonable price. It not only help the household finances but gave my girls other toddlers to interact with and I would teach all the children together. I was sure to never have more than 2 children to babysit any given day so that I have plenty time to work with the kids. As far as keeping house and shopping, etc. I just involved the kids in everything. If I was cooking for instance I would turn it into a learning activity...like talking about say chickens....how they grow, that they lay eggs, etc.
We would talk about the heat used to cook food, count beans, point out colors of clothing during washing time.

I made EVERYTHING an opportunity to teach...explained how, why, when we do things. People were surprised how I was ALWAYS with the children and able to upkeep the home at the same time while educating them. Even my sister was perplexed at how I did it.

Finding a source of creating income that didn't take me out of the home (which for me also solved the issue of allowing my kids to properly socialize with agemates), setting a little amount of time to sit & teach them like they do in school, and then doing continuous teaching by incorporating the kids in all my activities were the keys for me. The other great thing that resulted from my approach was that the girls had an amazing vocabulary due to all the communication we had.

I wouldn't exchange those early years with them even if I was a millionaire that could've afforded to pay for those first years of schooling. Even though it was a 24/7 undertaking it gave me the most precious memories. I even hope to do this for my grandchildren one day.

Etinosajay:
Hi,

I would like parents here, as well as teachers or school administrators to share their opinion here.

What is the ideal or appropriate or "okay" age for a child (toddler) to be registered in school?

Say, Daycare, Toddler class, creche, as the case may be.

Etinosajay:


Hian...

Dat kind one fit finish high school @ 14years o

Arcard:
omo nawa na 3 yrs i tke enta oh, nur 3, pry 6, sec 12, com enta uni for 21 jamb una mama

DoraCuzz:
4 months, 23 days, 15 hours and 46 seconds old

Adedoks:
Am a young father n my child is just a month plus... So excited about him. Thanks Op for this thread Av leant some things. That boy is going to be the most mysterious man his generation will ever know.

Mujtahida:
First I am not yet a parent. I am single but I have some things to say on this very important subject. The thing is this:What is education? Is it the mere accumulation of facts? For a little child is it the ability to say A for Apple, B for Ball? What is intelligence? What is school and schooling? Do you want your child to be educated or you want them to be schooled. Do you know that each child is a unique embodiment of God's creative genius, a living soul, full of potential, a germ of great possibilities a rare gem entrusted to your care?

As a parent you should know that you are your child's first and greatest teacher. The reason is simple. No one knows or ought to know more about your child than you. No one loves or ought or can love your child like you. Go back and examine your life. Who were your best teachers? Let me guess. The ones that showed you love, the ones that singled you out and gave you personal attention. Right? How much more would it matter if your child can get in large doses what precious and treasured trickles of love you got from your own teachers. Presence is what we need for we are deeply incarnational beings. Man cannot thrive in a world devoid of life, love and light. That is why Johnny weeps when it's time to go to school. His emotional structure is not yet strong enough to bear the crushing weight of being separated from you. Sure he will adapt but what could be hidden from your eyes is the fright, the horror, the pain, the sense of uprootedness and confusion, the idea that he is not wanted! His inner world may be in frazzled for all you know. The Word must become flesh or man will die!

The great geniuses of the past were never harried off to school. A child is barely weaned from sucking his/her mothers paps and he/she is sent off to school to be schooled, to be meshed and even mashed up in the cold, abstract atmosphere of school. The child's personality and unique soul genius has not fully manifested and the lines of his character has not clearly been outlined and all the parents think of is sending the child to school because a) that is the popular and normative thing to do. b) parents want to shirk their responsibility or are even plainly ignorant that teaching their child/children is their responsibility not that of so called teachers.

Love, lots of love to build up and color the inner life of a child is what they need in their infancy and early years. A child needs to have a deep sense of security and confidence to flower and blossom. Confidence is foundational to knowledge. Watch nature and copy her:the great trees in the forest spend their first years sending down their roots. Why? The foundation matters! Read up on the genius of the Chinese bamboo and understand the wisdom at work therein. Take the Elephants for example. They are, like humans, one of the most intelligent and highly social animals. An Elephant spends between 5-10years with its mother before it is completely weaned depending on how quickly the next sibling is born. This prolonged period of dependency is vital for the calf. Or look at the Dolphin, another animal whose breadth of intelligence is simply stunning and prodigious. The Calves of Dolphins usually stay with their mothers for 3-6 years. During this time the calves must learn how to catch their prey, how to avoid dangers, and how to find their way within the home range. Why have I bothered to bring all this examples to your knowledge? It is because Animal wey dey for Bush get sense pass modern man! Yes modern man, because the Ancients were wiser and more in tune with nature than we moderns in our cold, denaturalized, commercial consumer oriented world where human souls, so precious, so valuable are regarded as products, as numbers, as things to be robotised, categorised, conglomerated, gutted and glutted in the soulless mass of crowd institutions!

As a parent seeking the best for your child, have you studied the child? Leonardo da Vinci, genius par excellence, famed painter of the Mona Lisa, botanist, aeronautical pioneer, hydrologist, humorist, sculptor,optician etc was first observed by his father when the first signs of his multifaceted personality began to bud. You parent have you spent time with your child? Have you created a loving, colorful, free atmosphere at home for your child?(and ohhhhhh don't tell me about money. Damn money! You are wealth! You. Yes you! All that is truly needed is you, your commonsense and heart). Laughter, play, dancing and discipline is much needed for emotional growth. Read to them, tell them stories. Sharpen their powers of observation, stir their curiosity. Social interaction. Don't wall them up inside the house. Tell them stories. Reduce TV time. Too much of it numbs their minds(do your research on the effects of TV on children) Speak positive words to them- Johnny you are the best, you are intelligent, you are strong, you will be a great man one day etc

I commend Hunnydropps. May more honey drop from your soul. You are a parent, a mother, a builder and sustainer of the race! Etinosajay, your child you say is smart abi? More than school, he needs love. He needs you! Have you guys forgotten how when we were kids we just loved being with our parents, how heavenly and soul enriching it felt? How magical and sweet it felt to be with them. How we used pine and wait for the shadows to fall and Papa would be home? How we used to hide behind objects and furniture to peep into their world, to hear them talk? Mama and Papa and us together-it was the sum of our dreams. Don't you guys remember how positively terrifiying the mere thought of being separated from our parents chilled our young hearts? What was the fear of Willy Willy in the presence of your father or mother? It simply vanished away. Oh the fraud of a civilization that would take parents especially mothers from this noble work, from this deeply challenging yet blessed work of nurturing their children all in the name of work, employment and money.Wowzer I salute you. MISSCONGENIALITY I doff my hat for you-be strong! Musicwriter you are the man.

Please I'd love for you guys to read up on Education, school etc. Go online. Do your research. Read the books by John Taylor Gatto especially the "Underground History of Education in America". Have you guys heard about alphaphonics method of teaching children to read? Do you guys know that our modern schooling methods are barely more than 200years old? How did men, solid men of the past get round this education thing?

We are in a hurry, too much in a hurry. 8months to creche? 1 year, 2years?haba! Wetin dem dey teach them. Not to talk of the expense and the emotional toll on the child. Anyway do what you feel is best for your child. I ain't in your shoes. I have no clue how it is with you.

My child/children will NEVER fail. They might fail your school Abc, 1,2,3 but when it comes to the substance of life, of courage, of resilience, of beauty, of real intelligence, of knowledge they will never fail. You know why? That category doesn't exist-not for my child/children. Go read up on Alexander the Great tutored by the great Aristotle but taught by his mother who told him he was a god! Yes. He knew no defeat. He never lost a single battle. The only battle he lost was the one he never fought! Read up on the impressive Suzannah Wesley, mother of Charles and John Wesley who taught her brood of children herself(read her bio-info on Wikipedia). What of Thomas Edison? what of Napoleon Buonaparte in whose life the dominating influence was his mother Letizia.
Don't be thoughtless, don't do things because that is the done thing. Let's be bold. Bottom line - Love your child!

MISSCONGENIALITY:
A very beautiful write up.
I tell u if parents follow what u have recomended, u won't see people here who come to tell us that they can't bear staying with their parents again. Children are sent off to school so early that when they finally finish and begin to spend most time at home, they find it hard to understand their parents or be understood by their parents.
U just hit the nail on the head

Hunnydropps:
Im so happy to see so many parents/future parents in agreement about keeping our little ones home and training them ourselves longer than many people do today.

@omostar, I'm loving the fact that you're adding sight words to your routine. It sounds like you've been doing a terrific job...keep it up. Have you incorporated writing of letters and numbers yet? Do you have any pointers to share that may help other parents doing this or that may be considering it?

And omostar...you're very right about some not having the opportunity to stay home due to work. I applaude them too for providing a place to learn while they're working. For these parents, supplementing the school curriculum with additional info works too. Fit it in wherever you can...possibly after school or on weekends when things arent as busy at home.

musicwriter:
If I have children they'll not go to school, but they'll be the most educated among their peers. I'll school them myself. Nobody will brainwash my children.

Well, if their mother insist they go to school, that would be after I've tutored them to secondary school. By then they would be able to differentiate between what is chaff and real education.

Just this evening I was in a bookshop sifting to buy a book, and I saw this book with nice caption and flipped the pages randomly (as I usually do) soon I saw a line saying "Fidel Castro initiated steps to colonize Congo". I immediately dropped the book cause I knew then it must be a book espousing American view of history of Africa instead of doing an unbiased job. You begin to wonder how many people that have read that book thinking it's a true historical account.

omostar:


I just let her scribble whatever she wants mainly for now, although I try to make her write 1s and zeros if she is interested. And she will be the one to say :I want to write " most of the time. Basically, I simply just let move at her own pace. I have discovered that they will pick things up faster when you are not too pushful with them. I do play some educational videos for her to watch when I am very busy, but we practice with everything in the house.

Awsome!
I love it when kids scribble like that bc I suspect in there own minds they are writing something important to them. I would always wonder what they were thinking. Lol

Hunnydropps:


A couple things helped me be able to take this approach. The biggest factor was that their father had a decent income that allowed me to remain home. Actually teaching them at home was more economical because the cost of daycare would have eaten most if not all of the income I would've made.

So to bring in a little income I did babysitting for friends and neighbors at a very reasonable price. It not only help the household finances but gave my girls other toddlers to interact with and I would teach all the children together. I was sure to never have more than 2 children to babysit any given day so that I have plenty time to work with the kids. As far as keeping house and shopping, etc. I just involved the kids in everything. If I was cooking for instance I would turn it into a learning activity...like talking about say chickens....how they grow, that they lay eggs, etc.
We would talk about the heat used to cook food, count beans, point out colors of clothing during washing time.

I made EVERYTHING an opportunity to teach...explained how, why, when we do things. People were surprised how I was ALWAYS with the children and able to upkeep the home at the same time while educating them. Even my sister was perplexed at how I did it.

Finding a source of creating income that didn't take me out of the home (which for me also solved the issue of allowing my kids to properly socialize with agemates), setting a little amount of time to sit & teach them like they do in school, and then doing continuous teaching by incorporating the kids in all my activities were the keys for me. The other great thing that resulted from my approach was that the girls had an amazing vocabulary due to all the communication we had.

I wouldn't exchange those early years with them even if I was a millionaire that could've afforded to pay for those first years of schooling. Even though it was a 24/7 undertaking it gave me the most precious memories. I even hope to do this for my grandchildren one day.

Mujtahida:
First I am not yet a parent. I am single but I have some things to say on this very important subject. The thing is this:What is education? Is it the mere accumulation of facts? For a little child is it the ability to say A for Apple, B for Ball? What is intelligence? What is school and schooling? Do you want your child to be educated or you want them to be schooled. Do you know that each child is a unique embodiment of God's creative genius, a living soul, full of potential, a germ of great possibilities a rare gem entrusted to your care?

As a parent you should know that you are your child's first and greatest teacher. The reason is simple. No one knows or ought to know more about your child than you. No one loves or ought or can love your child like you. Go back and examine your life. Who were your best teachers? Let me guess. The ones that showed you love, the ones that singled you out and gave you personal attention. Right? How much more would it matter if your child can get in large doses what precious and treasured trickles of love you got from your own teachers. Presence is what we need for we are deeply incarnational beings. Man cannot thrive in a world devoid of life, love and light. That is why Johnny weeps when it's time to go to school. His emotional structure is not yet strong enough to bear the crushing weight of being separated from you. Sure he will adapt but what could be hidden from your eyes is the fright, the horror, the pain, the sense of uprootedness and confusion, the idea that he is not wanted! His inner world may be in frazzled for all you know. The Word must become flesh or man will die!

The great geniuses of the past were never harried off to school. A child is barely weaned from sucking his/her mothers paps and he/she is sent off to school to be schooled, to be meshed and even mashed up in the cold, abstract atmosphere of school. The child's personality and unique soul genius has not fully manifested and the lines of his character has not clearly been outlined and all the parents think of is sending the child to school because a) that is the popular and normative thing to do. b) parents want to shirk their responsibility or are even plainly ignorant that teaching their child/children is their responsibility not that of so called teachers.

Love, lots of love to build up and color the inner life of a child is what they need in their infancy and early years. A child needs to have a deep sense of security and confidence to flower and blossom. Confidence is foundational to knowledge. Watch nature and copy her:the great trees in the forest spend their first years sending down their roots. Why? The foundation matters! Read up on the genius of the Chinese bamboo and understand the wisdom at work therein. Take the Elephants for example. They are, like humans, one of the most intelligent and highly social animals. An Elephant spends between 5-10years with its mother before it is completely weaned depending on how quickly the next sibling is born. This prolonged period of dependency is vital for the calf. Or look at the Dolphin, another animal whose breadth of intelligence is simply stunning and prodigious. The Calves of Dolphins usually stay with their mothers for 3-6 years. During this time the calves must learn how to catch their prey, how to avoid dangers, and how to find their way within the home range. Why have I bothered to bring all this examples to your knowledge? It is because Animal wey dey for Bush get sense pass modern man! Yes modern man, because the Ancients were wiser and more in tune with nature than we moderns in our cold, denaturalized, commercial consumer oriented world where human souls, so precious, so valuable are regarded as products, as numbers, as things to be robotised, categorised, conglomerated, gutted and glutted in the soulless mass of crowd institutions!

As a parent seeking the best for your child, have you studied the child? Leonardo da Vinci, genius par excellence, famed painter of the Mona Lisa, botanist, aeronautical pioneer, hydrologist, humorist, sculptor,optician etc was first observed by his father when the first signs of his multifaceted personality began to bud. You parent have you spent time with your child? Have you created a loving, colorful, free atmosphere at home for your child?(and ohhhhhh don't tell me about money. Damn money! You are wealth! You. Yes you! All that is truly needed is you, your commonsense and heart). Laughter, play, dancing and discipline is much needed for emotional growth. Read to them, tell them stories. Sharpen their powers of observation, stir their curiosity. Social interaction. Don't wall them up inside the house. Tell them stories. Reduce TV time. Too much of it numbs their minds(do your research on the effects of TV on children) Speak positive words to them- Johnny you are the best, you are intelligent, you are strong, you will be a great man one day etc

I commend Hunnydropps. May more honey drop from your soul. You are a parent, a mother, a builder and sustainer of the race! Etinosajay, your child you say is smart abi? More than school, he needs love. He needs you! Have you guys forgotten how when we were kids we just loved being with our parents, how heavenly and soul enriching it felt? How magical and sweet it felt to be with them. How we used pine and wait for the shadows to fall and Papa would be home? How we used to hide behind objects and furniture to peep into their world, to hear them talk? Mama and Papa and us together-it was the sum of our dreams. Don't you guys remember how positively terrifiying the mere thought of being separated from our parents chilled our young hearts? What was the fear of Willy Willy in the presence of your father or mother? It simply vanished away. Oh the fraud of a civilization that would take parents especially mothers from this noble work, from this deeply challenging yet blessed work of nurturing their children all in the name of work, employment and money.Wowzer I salute you. MISSCONGENIALITY I doff my hat for you-be strong! Musicwriter you are the man.

Please I'd love for you guys to read up on Education, school etc. Go online. Do your research. Read the books by John Taylor Gatto especially the "Underground History of Education in America". Have you guys heard about alphaphonics method of teaching children to read? Do you guys know that our modern schooling methods are barely more than 200years old? How did men, solid men of the past get round this education thing?

We are in a hurry, too much in a hurry. 8months to creche? 1 year, 2years?haba! Wetin dem dey teach them. Not to talk of the expense and the emotional toll on the child. Anyway do what you feel is best for your child. I ain't in your shoes. I have no clue how it is with you.

My child/children will NEVER fail. They might fail your school Abc, 1,2,3 but when it comes to the substance of life, of courage, of resilience, of beauty, of real intelligence, of knowledge they will never fail. You know why? That category doesn't exist-not for my child/children. Go read up on Alexander the Great tutored by the great Aristotle but taught by his mother who told him he was a god! Yes. He knew no defeat. He never lost a single battle. The only battle he lost was the one he never fought! Read up on the impressive Suzannah Wesley, mother of Charles and John Wesley who taught her brood of children herself(read her bio-info on Wikipedia). What of Thomas Edison? what of Napoleon Buonaparte in whose life the dominating influence was his mother Letizia.
Don't be thoughtless, don't do things because that is the done thing. Let's be bold. Bottom line - Love your child!

Souljaboi1:


Saving this for my future wifey In shaa Allaah.

Aunty Dyt, care to apply ?