Creamish:
As long as he is certain he will marry her...no second thoughts..and she agrees to take in, then It wont be a problem. Everyone has their own solution to issues.

A Childless marriage can be viewed in different ways. U may have kids but they all die young.. the marriage is still childless. She may get pregnant before the wedding but due to some unfortunate circumstance, a miscarriage happens after the wedding.. ..still no child..

It's not a guarantee but if it helps him sleep at night, no qualms. There is no moral justification for a lot of things we do.. Children come by the grace of God.

Joromi1:

I think the issue here is to ascertain her fertility status

Joromi1:

I think the issue here is to ascertain her fertility status

Creamish:


Women who have miscarriages are fertile. Getting pregnant before the wedding is no guarantee that the child will be born.

DeMekus:

It's not just about fertility. Most of these girls have lost their wombs in the series of abortions they had

Elosky20:

bt did they impregnate their self. it a 50-50 blame on both the man and the woman.

jmoore:
What if there is a miscarriage after the wedding?

What if the baby dies later, and the lady can't take in again?

What if the man dies before the wedding?

What if the man changes his mind after the pregnancy and decides to marry another girl?


If you want to be sure of her fertility, go to a hospital for a comprehensive medical test.

Joromi1:

I think the issue here is to ascertain her fertility status

DeMekus:

I've seen couples who got positive mark on fertility from doctors but still remain childless. Abeg, make she carry belle first jor. Mind you, it works in the favour of ladies who wish to know their men's fertility status too

PresVA:
Answer the other important questions he asked...

DeMekus:

You mean the "ifs"? There is an "if" to almost everything we do but leave that for another discussion. Let her get pregnant first then we'd know how to deal with the #ifs#

PresVA:
The funny thing is that many of you guys suggesting this can't allow their sisters go through this...given that marriage to the guy isn't guaranteed. . So, I wonder whose sisters would be used for the experiment?


And who told you that fertility issues can arise from only women? The cases of male infertility is on the rise... drinking, smoking et al have caused a lot of guys to be shooting blanks. .. Your bro should ascertain his own first..

Joromi1:
I brought this topic up because my elder brother told me in secret that he would never propose to his girlfriend unless she gets pregnant for him. When I asked why, his reply was that he loves children a lot and doesn't want a childless marriage. He would not love to adopt too, meaning he wants his own children. Then he gave instances of some married couples in the neighbourhood with no children. He wouldn't want to be like them. I see sense in what he said but I don't know if there's any moral justification to it, and for that I can't advise him in any way.
Any ideas, guys?

PresVA:
His simple message was 'getting pregnant before marriage doesn't eliminate childlessness because anything can happen' ..so your method of trying to eliminate childlessness is totally flawed... it also places the lady on a huge risk; what if the guy doesn't marry her? It's also like tempting God because it's not man to grant pregnancy..

I can't marry a guy that base the happiness of his marriage on kids because it's not human to grant pregnancy. . If for a few months you don't take in or miscarry, the stress and anxiety he'll put you through eehh will decrease your chances of conception instead of him working together with you to achieve better results. ..

As he said, go to the hospital for whatever test you wish..including the man... can't stoop too low to prove to any man I can get pregnant...

May God bless all our marriages with lovely Children, Amen..

DeMekus:

Yes, God will bless your marriage with as much lovely children as you want. But this is one problem about Nigerian Christians. They tend to place all their burdens on God, then fold their hands and wait for miracle. But they forget that even the Bible said 'heaven helps those who help themselves.' As for me, I can't risk marrying a woman I don't know her fertility status. Death is inevitable, when your time comes you'll die but it's not certain that every pregnancy will miscarry. So I'm ready to take the risk. Team #pregnancyBeforeMarriage#

DeMekus:

Yes, God will bless your marriage with as much lovely children as you want. But this is one problem about Nigerian Christians. They tend to place all their burdens on God, then fold their hands and wait for miracle. But they forget that even the Bible said 'heaven helps those who help themselves.' As for me, I can't risk marrying a woman I don't know her fertility status. Death is inevitable, when your time comes you'll die but it's not certain that every pregnancy will miscarry. So I'm ready to take the risk. Team #pregnancyBeforeMarriage#

PresVA:
@bolded, Amen ..

Your mentality is funny. . So waiting till after marriage to get pregnant is folding one's hands..
For your mind, you're helping God by impregnating someone before marriage? Nnaa, I don't understand. .

You'll keep hopping from one lady to the other till one gets pregnant? Success in your quest bro..

jmoore:

Bros, which version of the bible is that? Give me the Chapter and verse.

*sighs* apparently, people of that mindset want baby factories instead of a wife.
Some posters above me have given enough justification why the idea is totally crazy.

DeMekus:

Yes, God will bless your marriage with as much lovely children as you want. But this is one problem about Nigerian Christians. They tend to place all their burdens on God, then fold their hands and wait for miracle. But they forget that even the Bible said 'heaven helps those who help themselves.' As for me, I can't risk marrying a woman I don't know her fertility status. Death is inevitable, when your time comes you'll die but it's not certain that every pregnancy will miscarry. So I'm ready to take the risk. Team #pregnancyBeforeMarriage#

it's amazing how people who don't know or read the Bible are so eager to quote it; or 'think' they can quote it rather.
Interesting

Dyt:
Lol
I think that way sha
No preggy no marriage
I cannot shout

amtheone:


Even dyt is in support. Ok ohhhhh