A friend of mine shared a (mockery) story about a friend who after listening to some "relationship talk" and decided to take her relationship to another by asking the guy to define the relationship.
The guy told her that he is not yet ready for marriage if it's what she wants to hear.
And since the lady is ready to settle, she let go of the guy without having any serious one around.

So this engendered my asking, as a lady is it right to ask a guy to d.t.r when our instinct should tell us where the relationship is heading (call me old-fashioned).

IM not a lady but i think it does not make sense, even without asking d both of u shud have an idea dat yes this relationship will lead to marriage and even if u ask him and he said yes, he might still dump u tommorow.

i think the lady shud be bold enof to ask d guy to define d r/shp, esp if shez seeing mixed signals.

Well it's not possible to marry evry boyfrnd u"v dated so I really duno why most girls will be always thinkn marriage marriage.
A relationship is just meant to make u learn new things.. aside frm d sex part.

Ladies who are desperate to settle down shud not date guys who are not ready. To avoid "he used and dumped me".

LaurelP:
Ladies who are desperate to settle down shud not date guys who are not ready. To avoid "he used and dumped me".

Lol!!!! But that's the reality of the day.

Many times, we always make d mistake of having a kinda perception about relationships, like d "made in vendressa" notion, meanwhile it is not always so, in fact almost all relationships has its own huddles. Nonetheless there is no harm in asking as there is need where u are headed,then it will be left to you to decide if you really wanna be in or out

If I don't see you as a potential wife, I can't start a date. I can't kiss someone who can't carry my kids and spend her entire life with me.