Im not sure what men want out of a woman nowadays, help me out please. What kind of woman do you desire to live with for better and for worst, til' death do you part?

the list is quite long:

- someone honest
- someone trustworty
- someone respectful (of us but also others)
- someone compatible (physically, mentally and sexually)
- someone intelligent
- someone emotionally ready
- someone fun
- someone driven, with goals
- someone who can communicate with you and understands you
- someone who doesnt nag all day
- someone not afraid to be herself
- someone who knows how to step away from an argument with a smile
- someone strong minded
- someone beautiful and sexy
- someone that can ride and die with you
- someone not afraid to show affection in public
- someone who wont give up trying to seduce me the day that ring is on her finger
- someone who is ready to go on dates for the rest of our lives(even after 15yrs)
- someone who can say whats on their mind (them daily "i love you" are perfect)
- someone who can listen when its needed without making it a confrontation
- someone who understands that being sexy is part of life and that if your man aint sexually attracted to you then the marriage will suffer
- someone who keep fit and who will work hard to loose the extra baby fat

and when all these points are met, she has to be a freak in the sheets whenever required.

you see. its not easy finding the right mate unless a person is willing to settle for less.

PS: thats only MY humble opinion and shouldnt be taken as a more than that.

MRbrownJAY:

the list is quite long:

- someone honest
- someone trustworty
- someone respectful (of us but also others)
- someone compatible (physically, mentally and sexually)
- someone intelligent
- someone fun
- someone driven, with goals
- someone who can communicate with you and understands you
- someone who doesnt nag all day
- someone not afraid to be herself
- someone who knows how to step away from an argument with a smile
- someone strong minded
- someone beautiful and sexy
- someone that can ride and die with you
- someone not afraid to show affection in public
- someone who wont give up trying to seduce me the day that ring is on her finger
- someone who is ready to go on dates for the rest of our lives(even after 15yrs)
- someone who can say whats on their mind (them daily "i love you" are perfect)
- someone who can listen when its needed without making it a confrontation
- someone who understands that being sexy is part of life and that if your man aint sexually attracted to you then the marriage will suffer

FINDING all this is almost impossible

sexyLeamon:

FINDING all this is almost impossible

unfortunately yes and thats why some people settle for less but thats the aim.

remember that even if all these were met, a man could still cheat on you because sometimes cheating has absolutely nothing to do with being with the right person.

i think the bible already has the perfect description of such woman:

Proverb 31:10-31

The Woman Who Fears the Lord

An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.

The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.

She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.

She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.

She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.

She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household
and portions for her maidens.

She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.

She dresses herself [2] with strength
and makes her arms strong.

She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.

She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her hands hold the spindle.

She opens her hand to the poor

She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet. [3]

She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.

Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.

She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.

Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.

She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.

She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.

Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:

“Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.

i thought the question was "what men want out of a wife?" not "what the bible says a wife should be?".

MRbrownJAY:

i thought the question was "what men want out of a wife?" not "what the bible says what a wife should be?".

dont twist it. you stated yours and posted mines so why the fuss

~Sissy~:

dont twist it. you stated yours and posted mines so why the fuss

hey, no fuss here. just thinking that using the bible is a poor way to "choose" a wife, seeing that in the good book, women are below men and not equal.

but hey, to each their own

MRbrownJAY:

hey, no fuss here. just thinking that using the bible is a poor way to "choose" a wife, seeing that in the good book, women are below men and not equal.

but hey, to each their own

i understand you better now , but like you said to each his own. some ppl will seek the guidance of the bible in such things while others wouldn't.

IMO, at last all that matters is that you get what you're looking for.

even if i didnt post that, i betcha ya one of 'em men r going to post it, so i just saved them stress

it's not even as if any woman have all those qualities imo

fair enough but would you stick to whats written in the bible all the way?! or just parts?

there are some verses in there that can be shocking:
1 Corinthians 11:3 Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

1 timothy 2:9-10  I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.

1 timothy 2:12-15 I do not permit a woman to teach or to have authority over a man; she must be silent. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.

if we'd all use and stick to the bible in marriages, there would be less problems.LOL

anyway back to the subject.

LOL, you didnt have to do all that, not everyone fellows the bible, i betcha ya most men r first to quote that proverbs

~Sissy~:

LOL, you didnt have to do all that, not everyone fellows the bible, i betcha ya most men r first to quote that proverbs

i thought that you were a bible follower since you posted a beautiful quote about what a women should be, from the good book, and sounded like you stood by it. lol

MRbrownJAY:

i thought that you were a bible follower since you posted a beautiful quote about what a women should be, from the good book, and sounded like you stood by it. lol

LOL, you misunderstood me

~Sissy~:

LOL, you misunderstood me

ok i am sorry then

MRbrownJAY:

ok i am sorry then

lol no worries, sorry too if i misunderstood u too .

@Poster

It seems you are getting ready for the lyf of being Mrs hence your question.
Its cool sista you will get there.

be a virgin

sweetpie23:

be a virgin

LMAO

sweetpie23:

be a virgin

This alone scores the most points for most guys!

MRbrownJAY:

the list is quite long:

- someone honest
- someone trustworty
- someone respectful (of us but also others)
- someone compatible (physically, mentally and sexually)
- someone intelligent
- someone emotionally ready
- someone fun
- someone driven, with goals
- someone who can communicate with you and understands you
- someone who doesnt nag all day
- someone not afraid to be herself
- someone who knows how to step away from an argument with a smile
- someone strong minded
- someone beautiful and sexy
- someone that can ride and die with you
- someone not afraid to show affection in public
- someone who wont give up trying to seduce me the day that ring is on her finger
- someone who is ready to go on dates for the rest of our lives(even after 15yrs)
- someone who can say whats on their mind (them daily "i love you" are perfect)
- someone who can listen when its needed without making it a confrontation
- someone who understands that being sexy is part of life and that if your man aint sexually attracted to you then the marriage will suffer
- someone who keep fit and who will work hard to loose the extra baby fat

and when all these points are met, she has to be a freak in the sheets whenever required.

you see. its not easy finding the right mate unless a person is willing to settle for less.

PS: thats only MY humble opinion and shouldnt be taken as a more than that.

Easy! My future wife has all these qualities! Baby, are you reading this?

sweetpie23:

be a virgin

lol omg very well said

i knew someone will be on this thread. hahahhah

is it me you are referring to? what have i done this night

RichyBlacK:

This alone scores the most points for most guys!

yep , actually these guys only need this to seal the deal and then down the line, the bride lack some or all of the quality i previously stated and then they start wondering why the union didnt work out.

C2H5OH:

is it me you are referring to?  what have i done this night

what am i a monster now? lol God dey o

because your motto is to try and get on people's nerves.

@topic
respect in a good wife
commitment in a good wife

sweetpie23:

be a virgin

guys is that really true?

MRbrownJAY:

unfortunately yes and thats why some people settle for less but thats the aim.

remember that even if all these were met, a man could still cheat on you because sometimes cheating has absolutely nothing to do with being with the right person.

u said some people settle for less. does that mean that some others don't settle for less despite the "impossibility" u mentioned?
in either case, i disagree with u. no one is perfect and i don't think people go around with a list of qualities in their mind. there are even more minor things that are not included on that ur personal list and ur list will prolly never end if u decide to continue listing them.

it's funny how u didn't mention anything pertaining to kids upbringing, how she handles finances or spouse family/friends. 'cause these stuff tend to destroy marriages more than whether ur wife kisses u in public (on ur list) or skips on the "i love you" for one day.
keep in mind the topic says "good wife" not "good girlfriend". these two are totally different things.

sissy's list is more conceivable as it talks about every member of the family and basic household responsibilities. even though not all might agree with each individual points.

oyinda.:

u said some people settle for less. does that mean that some others don't settle for less despite the "impossibility" u mentioned?
in either case, i disagree with u. no one is perfect and i don't think people go around with a list of qualities in their mind. there are even more minor things that are not included on that ur personal list and ur list will prolly never end if u decide to continue listing them.

it's funny how u didn't mention anything pertaining to kids upbringing, how she handles finances or spouse family/friends. 'cause these stuff tend to destroy marriages more than whether ur wife kisses u in public (on ur list) or skips on the "i love you" for one day.
keep in mind the topic says "good wife" not "good girlfriend". these two are totally different things.

sissy's list is more conceivable as it talks about every member of the family and basic household responsibilities. even though not all might agree with each individual points.

men and women see marriage differently. other settle for what they are searching for because their list might be smaller. we are all different. i cant compare myself with the next man and vice versa.
this is a man's list, my list. of course this person will probably never be found but it doesnt mean that men should not hope and aim for it.
kid upbringing is something that we both deal with, that is not a woman's job (not in my world anyway) so i have absolutely no criteria for this subject because i will be there to make sure they get the right upbringing.
how she handles finances?! sorry i live in a different world. she works and pay her share, i work and pay my share right down the middle. we set money aside for all the necessities of life (bills, house, family vacation, clothing, kids etc etc etc) whatever is left on her salary after all this is her decision what to do with it not mine. dont think i can ever get down with someone without a job or without prospects.
handle family and friend?! as i said on my list "respectful of us and others" thats all that matters.

in my world my spouse has to be my friend, my lover, my mother, my sister, my wife all in one so the same way that i handle my gf is the same way that she will have to be. no difference in my book. i do not need someone that is one way while we are dating and getting to know and love each other and then turn out into something else the day we get married. NOPE!!!!!

do not forget, this is my list(my humble opinion), what i think are the qualities a woman need to have before i pop the question. i may never find her but i am not too keen on marriage anyway so all is well on my part.

RichyBlacK:

This alone scores the most points for most guys!

How? i am yet to meet a guy who wants to marry a virgin. i think that is old school. Most guys actually prefer a lady to know what she's doing. Easier to learn new skills from there instead of teaching from scratch.

MRbrownJAY:

yep , actually these guys only need this to seal the deal and then down the line, the bride lack some or all of the quality i previously stated and then they start wondering why the union didnt work out.

I totally agree.

oyinda.:

u said some people settle for less. does that mean that some others don't settle for less despite the "impossibility" u mentioned?
in either case, i disagree with u. no one is perfect and[b] i don't think people go around with a list of qualities in their mind.[/b] there are even more minor things that are not included on that ur personal list and ur list will prolly never end if u decide to continue listing them.

it's funny how u didn't mention anything pertaining to kids upbringing, how she handles finances or spouse family/friends. 'cause these stuff tend to destroy marriages more than whether ur wife kisses u in public (on ur list) or skips on the "i love you" for one day.
keep in mind the topic says "good wife" not "good girlfriend". these two are totally different things.

sissy's list is more conceivable as it talks about every member of the family and basic household responsibilities. even though not all might agree with each individual points.

Maybe you don't but don't conclude for other people. I did and i think it's a good idea to have a list of qualities that one desires in a spouse. True not all might be met but then one should select the must haves and decide which qualities can be lived without. IMO, a list increases the likelihood of compatibility(after a reasonable period of dating to test the theory). Some lists are demanding but hey it's the person's list.

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