Should you get married to someone that you love or someone that loves you. My little experience in this business tells me that you never really finds someone you love that loves you back equally.

Yes
Some people are so lucky to get reciprocated

I had said I would be with who loves me more but I keep longing after that man I loved
I had been with whom I loved but he loved someone else
And yes I had the experience of being loved and loving back but some natural life matters wouldn't let us enjoy it


Deep sigh

dont even kno i rada marry who loves me with time i wud love dis can cos i kno mysef

Bt to marry who dont love me dats why divorce rate is high it cant work

My friend go to church

it's complicated a world bruh

Can't y'all just give all this shii a rest..... at least for Sunday sake.

Dyt:
Yes
Some people are so lucky to get reciprocated

I had said I would be with who loves me more but I keep longing after that man I loved
I had been with whom I loved but he loved someone else
And yes I had the experience of being loved and loving back but some natural life matters wouldn't let us enjoy it


Deep sigh

I would give anything for that opportunity. Screw the natural life matters! I understand though. Probably medical...

emoticonist:


I would give anything for that opportunity. Screw the natural life matters! I understand though. Probably medical...

Well

Good luck on your search for happiness
There's true love
It exists
Real of it
I believe in it and I always do
But......

both so that there will be respect and love wil be symbiotic

cruzita:
both so that there will be respect and love wil be symbiotic

Should you then demand that the person you love loves you back equally or just let go of your crush if not reciprocated?

emoticonist:


Should you then demand that the person you love loves you back equally or just let go of your crush if not reciprocated?

you don't have to force yourself on anybody because to every man there is a woman.so when you find your Mrs right u won't have toforve to love I because the love will be there already

Its complicated mehn @op.

But wetin man go do

Excuse me, if everyone decides to marry who loves them not who they love, We won't be having this discussion because no one will be getting married at all.

Think about that then read your post again.

One thing I have learnt during my time as a therapist, is that people see marriage as an obligation. If you do not find love equated do not marry. That's what I advice people. If A does not love B but B loves A. A and B should not get married. Until A loves B as B loves A and their probability for happy ending is 1 before they should marry. But how many people think to that dimension? Everyone wants to marry at all cost without understanding the concept of marriage in the first place.

#out

adepeter26:
Its complicated mehn @op.
But wetin man go do

adepeter26:
Its complicated mehn @op.
But wetin man go do

Strahovski1:
Excuse me, if everyone decides to marry who loves them not who they love, We won't be having this discussion because no one will be getting married at all.

Think about that then read your post again.

One thing I have learnt during my time as a therapist, is that people see marriage as an obligation. If you do not find love equated do not marry. That's what I advice people. If A does not love B but B loves A. A and B should not get married. Until A loves B as B loves A and their probability for happy ending is 1 before they should marry. But how many people think to that dimension? Everyone wants to marry at all cost without understanding the concept of marriage in the first place.

#out

I think your premise then is that the person being loved would eventually develop feelings for the partner doing the loving otherwise it will never lead to marriage? But I say the "developed" love rarely ever becomes as strong as the original....and after years for that matter if ever!

emoticonist:


I think your premise then is that the person being loved would eventually develop feelings for the partner doing the loving otherwise it will never lead to marriage? But I say the "developed" love rarely ever becomes as strong as the original....and after years for that matter if ever!

My point is, there shouldn't be marriage at all until there is love between both parties. Not one loving the other first and waiting for the second to develop the love.

Strahovski1:


My point is, there shouldn't be marriage at all until there is love between both parties. Not one loving the other first and waiting for the second to develop the love.

Fair enough.