what you need now is a good friend and not a relationship/affair

Monicaa:
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-289891.0.html

i have been writing some posts about still having feelings 4 my ex though it has been so long nd he did treat not so well in terms of honestly nd fidelity but he never laid his hands on me. i keep telling my self i deserve better nd since i am a good woman, i would meet someone better though i did, but had to end it because of feelings for my ex.

After i told my ex, i was moving on, nd hopefully, i meet some1 better, it is not happening. Instead i'm meeting worse people that r still the same, lying nd others. He doesn't know, im sure if he did, he would be laughing nd see me as d loser here.

There is a guy that has been disturbing me since only 4 me to find out yesterday he had a girl friend nd he is still denying it. Honestly im scared of being in a relationship now or sumwhat. It makes me feel that though my ex wasn't all that good 2 me, i'm still on the losing side, meeting some jerks nd some others, i have no real feelings. My ex has really spoilt my emotional life 4 me. pls any advice?

I think you need to meet me.

gen2genius:



Sorry, but aren't you being unrealistic here? How do you expect him to see her - like someone who knows what she's doing? See, this is a reality of life: whether you're a man or woman, the moment you begin to act like you can't do without someone or that it's the person that holds the key to your happiness and fulfilment in life, you risk becoming the person's slave!

@ Monica. . .I'm not saying you shouldn't go back to him or anyone else, but bear that fact in mind as you take the decision

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awesome

Monicaa:
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-289891.0.html

i have been writing some posts about still having feelings 4 my ex though it has been so long nd he did treat not so well in terms of honestly nd fidelity but he never laid his hands on me. i keep telling my self i deserve better nd since i am a good woman, i would meet someone better though i did, but had to end it because of feelings for my ex.

After i told my ex, i was moving on, nd hopefully, i meet some1 better, it is not happening. Instead i'm meeting worse people that r still the same, lying nd others. He doesn't know, im sure if he did, he would be laughing nd see me as d loser here.

There is a guy that has been disturbing me since only 4 me to find out yesterday he had a girl friend nd he is still denying it. Honestly im scared of being in a relationship now or sumwhat. It makes me feel that though my ex wasn't all that good 2 me, i'm still on the losing side, meeting some jerks nd some others, i have no real feelings. My ex has really spoilt my emotional life 4 me. pls any advice?

cutiepie,i tis tempting to call you pathetic.
First, for expecting perfection from mere humans-that are dust. You should learn to accept people for who they are. If you read my thread on love versus infatuation,i wrote love accepts a person wholeheartedly not minding what he or she is gaining in a relationship or the other flaws.you have nver loved,you have only been a naive desperate girl who looks for the ideal man.
2. Dont blame your ex for your misery,you wanted him out of your love life, he is gone,stop making references to him or comparing him or using him as a standard. You are accountable for yourself.
Make yourself whole,love yourself, then love thers as well

Monicaa:
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-289891.0.html

i have been writing some posts about still having feelings 4 my ex though it has been so long nd he did treat not so well in terms of honestly nd fidelity but he never laid his hands on me. i keep telling my self i deserve better nd since i am a good woman, i would meet someone better though i did, but had to end it because of feelings for my ex.

After i told my ex, i was moving on, nd hopefully, i meet some1 better, it is not happening. Instead i'm meeting worse people that r still the same, lying nd others. He doesn't know, im sure if he did, he would be laughing nd see me as d loser here.

There is a guy that has been disturbing me since only 4 me to find out yesterday he had a girl friend nd he is still denying it. Honestly im scared of being in a relationship now or sumwhat. It makes me feel that though my ex wasn't all that good 2 me, i'm still on the losing side, meeting some jerks nd some others, i have no real feelings. My ex has really spoilt my emotional life 4 me. pls any advice?

you are what you attract

id just advise you to stop seeing dating as a competition because from what you wrote,you dont want him to laugh at you or win you. if you want to date someone new,date him because you want to n not because you want it to pepper your ex. thats childish. right now,i dont think you need to be dating anyone yet,ure obviously still hurting and anybody u date now will suffer for it. just take life in stride,sometimes the best things in life happen when we least expect.