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Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by Nobody: 8:09pm On Feb 08, 2016
What type of mother is yours?
Perfectionist, unpredictable, best friend, me-first or complete?
Family therapist and clinical
psychologist Dr Stephan Poulter
explains the five mother types and their corresponding strengths and legacies.
1. Perfectionist mother
Typically, an over-controlling,
fearful and anxious woman for
whom appearance is
everything. Her children tend to
be hypercritical of themselves,
feeling inadequate and
emotionally empty, says
Poulter.
Children of a perfectionist
mother…
Your strengths: You can have
a strong sense of commitment
in relationships, and are
responsible and reliable in
everything you do. You value
hard work and persistence as
core character qualities.
Emotional legacy: You always
feel that the opinions of others
are far more important than
your own. You often have a
heightened sense that the world
is watching and judging you.
2. Unpredictable mother
Anxious, angry, excessively
emotional, this mother is
overwhelmed by feelings so her
parenting style is based purely on mood. This type has the most
chaotic of the five styles. She
creates problems, issues and
crises in her mind, through her
emotions and relationships, and
passes them on to her children.
Children of an unpredictable
mother…
Your strengths: Excellent
people skills and the ability to be
empathic. Often great
motivators, you offer emotional
support to colleagues as well as
friends and family.
Emotional legacy: Growing up
with an ingrained need to take
care of people and their
emotional issues, you can be
overwhelmed by emotions such
as anger, anxiety and
depression. You learn early on
how to read people and
situations, in order to manage
the strong feelings of others.
3. The best friend mother
She enjoys treating her children as equals in order to avoid the
responsibility of setting
boundaries. This mother believes her life would be over if she
embraced motherhood so avoids
that role. Instead, both child and
parent assume the role of
emotional confidante and partner, leaving the child effectively
motherless. ‘In this situation, the
emotional needs of the mother are so consuming, she has to rely on the child to meet them,’ says
Poulter.
Children of a best friend
mother…
Your strengths: You
understand the importance of
boundaries between parents,
children, colleagues and
families. Because of your sense
of motherlessness, you are
often aware that you take the
lead and assume the
responsible role as an adult.
Emotional legacy: You may
feel emotionally neglected with
a fear of rejection. You can be
resentful and bitter in
relationships, tending to feel
unloved and under-appreciated.
4. The me-first mother
One of the most prevalent
mothering styles, me-firsts are
unable to view their children as
separate individuals and tend to be self-absorbed and insecure. Their offspring will learn from an early age that their role is to make their mother shine.
Children of a me-first mother…
Your strengths: You are
extremely good at supporting
others, and are intuitive and
insightful with people in all types
ofrelationships. You are loyal
and supportive, able to
appreciate other people’s needs
and solve problems.
Emotional legacy: You doubt
your own decision-making
abilities. You find it difficult to
trust your own feelings on any
matter because you view your
mother’s opinion as more
important and powerful than
your own.
5. The complete mother
This ideal is only experienced by
about 10 per cent of us, says
Poulter. The complete mother
combines the best elements of the other four styles. Emotionally
balanced, she can see her children as individuals and help them
achieve their own independence.
She isn’t necessarily perfect
herself but whatever her emotional circumstances, she is committed to
motherhood — regardless of other responsibilities outside the home.
Children of a complete
mother…
Your strengths: Because you
feel loved and understood you
can take risks, embrace change
and initiate relationships without
fear of rejection.
Emotional legacy: You will have
the ability and insight to
appreciate that other people,
colleagues and family members
have their own perspectives.
You’ll be able to navigate the
challenges of becoming
independent and won’t feel
emotionally enmeshed with your
mother.
source https://www.psychologies.co.uk/family/the-five-mother-types-2.html cc lalasticlala,mynd44
Re: Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by Nobody: 8:12pm On Feb 08, 2016
End time analysis
Re: Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by Nobody: 8:14pm On Feb 08, 2016
Complete mother.

@Op,
My mum has NL account.
If I shld tell u wetin dey my mind,

Hmmmm yawa go gas

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Re: Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by MzPecs(f): 8:19pm On Feb 08, 2016
Re: Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by kwencypresh(f): 8:19pm On Feb 08, 2016
kenonze:
Complete mother.
@Op, My mum has NL account. If I shld tell u wetin dey my mind,
Hmmmm yawa go gas
fear not

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Re: Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by Nobody: 8:19pm On Feb 08, 2016
kenonze:
Complete mother.
@Op, My mum has NL account. If I shld tell u wetin dey my mind,
Hmmmm yawa go gas
LOL wats her moniker?
Re: Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by Chanchit: 8:22pm On Feb 08, 2016
Everybody would claim their mother is no5, well my own mother is more than No5.

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Re: Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by ajokebelle(f): 8:26pm On Feb 08, 2016
Number 5 is an under statement for my mum
Re: Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by adren(m): 8:26pm On Feb 08, 2016
i didnt even have time to finish your long epistle but i know, undoubtedly that my mom is the best in the world...

gbam!!


number 7: best mother.. that is adren's mom..


maybe lalasticlala can come and choose him own mom from this long list

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Re: Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by Nobody: 8:28pm On Feb 08, 2016
ajokebelle:
Number 5 is an under statement for my mum
dats wat everybody will say.
Re: Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by Nobody: 8:34pm On Feb 08, 2016
adren:
i didnt even have time to finish your long epistle but i know, undoubtedly that my mom is the best in the world...

gbam!!


number 7: best mother.. that is adren's mom..


maybe lalasticlala can come and choose him own mom from this long list
i smell lies, even lalasticlala will tell lies.
Re: Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by Nobody: 9:02pm On Feb 08, 2016
My mum is simply the BEST....
Re: Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by Nobody: 5:38pm On Feb 09, 2016
Omavik:
My mum is simply the BEST....
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Re: Five Types Of Mothers, What Category Do Your Mother Fall Into? by Nobody: 5:45pm On Feb 13, 2016
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