Inter ethnic marriage success depends on couples involved.

One thing always wondering my mind, how come the countries that have it citizens consists of mainly immigrants are able to excel while we nigerians that are mainly indigenous people cannot build a sensible and reasonable country.

jashar:



Sis, you married a strong and good man. Because sorry to say, most Yoruba families don't like their sons marrying 'outsiders'.

I wonder why?

That's a lie. Yorubas are very accommodating, it's igbos that don't allow their children to marry outsiders especially their Mother, ask anybody

BellaElla:
I am in an intertribal marriage and its working out perfectly. My husband is Yoruba and I am igbo. It is very common to see two tribes marry in cities and these marriages last. So saying 80% of inter tribal marriages crash is grossly exaggerating. I dated from my tribe before marriage, It didnt workout and I let go. My husband had the qualities I needed in a life partner so I married him. I have it good with him and wouldn't trade him for anyone.

God bless ur home sis. What do you have to say about yorubas?

pharmagba:

Your comment says all about you
You've still got a lot to learn about marriage
It's not about you it all about the other partner

If I may ask how long have you been married ?/lets exchange note cos me my first issue is like 9yrs ....so who is learning

Nikita1:
God bless ur home sis. What do you have to say about yorubas?

What is known about them ....

Nikita1:
That's a lie. Yorubas are very accommodating, it's igbos that don't allow their children to marry outsiders especially their Mother, ask anybody

Pls lets not take this tribal pls ....what makes you think the poster is igbo?


The way you guys jump into conclusion is baffling

funmercy1:
I'm with u dere more than 90,

How

tintingz:
It is only an "illitrate" and few educated dimwit people that sees many thing wrong in inter-tribal and inter-racial marriage(according psychology facts).

From generalizing to stereotypes.

All these cultural ish as been programmed to our brain and thinking that when someone marries from another tribe he or she has lost it.

As if marrying from same tribe guarantee happy marriage.

People lost their culture and language not because of inter-tribal marriage but because of not teaching our next generation the culture and language.

Oga abi madam

Take this or you leave it

The ratio of inter tribal marriage breakup is high ...it might sound harsh but it the fact
Just like that if inter racial


Take this or leave it


It has always been the most reasonable thing to stick with your type ..not that there won't be erring ones ....there will


Pls for not seeing from your perspective doesn't make someone dimwit ..what is wrong with you guys



Must we see from your view point

tonychristopher:



Pls lets not take this tribal pls ....what makes you think the poster is igbo?


The way you guys jump into conclusion is baffling

Why ar u taking this personal? I'm not tribalistic wen it comes to relationship/marriage. I will marry anywhere I find love be it hausa or igbo. I look out for personalities not tribes. Cool it down nigga, you are taking it too far.

tonychristopher:


What is known about them ....

You are loosing it

tonychristopher:

One I have lived outside Nigeria for years and I didn't get complacent to marry them...so its not location dear it complacency and lack of knowing what you want
I have also worked in a big bank for years ...maybe a Nigerian quoted bank isn't what you meant and in Lagos for that matter ..so the choice of partner didn't change ....still focus
Now maybe you think that parents are illiterate ..hell no very educated both pops and mumsy so it not upbringing
I think you were either complacent or infatuated then
But I tell u..in marriage love is the least thing to consider ... There are better stuffs like compatibility and cultural synergy..love grows
But wishing u the best....
Hey today is val !

Oga I hope you married from your clan, or better still from the compound next to yours in your village. it would be a shame if you didn't...really. see you championing for a cause that you have no business with. you do not know how long I dated my husband before marriage. you do not know our level of compatibility or lack of it thereof, but you have naively jumped into the conclusion that I was complacent or infatuated. the level of love and welcome I have received from my husband family, I cant even describe, my mother in law calls me to pray for on the phone almost everyday, so again I ask, why do you seat in your little closed world on and conclude on behalf of the millions of inter tribal families. who made you our spokesman? you have travelled the world does not mean you have learnt an iota of what life is all about. your first child is nine does not make you an expert on inter tribal marriages. why don't you focus on your clannish family and allow us the have broader minds to enjoy our uniqueness. I hope you are as passionate in your marriage as you are in your quest to prove that those of us married outside our tribes have less of a marriage than those married within their tribes. its people like you that would stand in the way of your children's happiness because of your tribalistic, bigoted mind set. oga wake up and smell the coffee biko. thank God I don't have someone as close minded as you in my family. I hope you don't do business with other tribes, or let your children go to the same school with them. abi they are only good for association but not for marriage. So people that think like you still exist. Chukwu zuputa kw'anyi n'aka ndi mgbochi uzo. Ekene kwa m gi!

Inter-tribal marriage is nonsense, as senseless as this Igbo/Yoruba marriage that is in trend now. I agree with Tonychistopher 100%. What's the need marrying from a tribe where your own tribe is hated? Rubbish!

BellaElla:
Oga I hope you married from your clan, or better still from the compound next to yours in your village. it would be a shame if you didn't...really. see you championing for a cause that you have no business with. you do not know how long I dated my husband before marriage. you do not know our level of compatibility or lack of it thereof, but you have naively jumped into the conclusion that I was complacent or infatuated. the level of love and welcome I have received from my husband family, I cant even describe, my mother in law calls me to pray for on the phone almost everyday, so again I ask, why do you seat in your little closed world on and conclude on behalf of the millions of inter tribal families. who made you our spokesman? you have travelled the world does not mean you have learnt an iota of what life is all about. your first child is nine does not make you an expert on inter tribal marriages. why don't you focus on your clannish family and allow us the have broader minds to enjoy our uniqueness. I hope you are as passionate in your marriage as you are in your quest to prove that those of us married outside our tribes have less of a marriage than those married within their tribes. its people like you that would stand in the way of your children's happiness because of your tribalistic, bigoted mind set. oga wake up and smell the coffee biko. thank God I don't have someone as close minded as you in my family. I hope you don't do business with other tribes, or let your children go to the same school with them. abi they are only good for association but not for marriage. So people that think like you still exist. Chukwu zuputa kw'anyi n'aka ndi mgbochi uzo. Ekene kwa m gi!

So long a letter ....what I have said I have said ..
What I have written I have written


Our people said

Ochoro mgbafu siri na aluru ya Anya



Be passionate ..be loving ,be prayerful


But the truth is sacrosanct

DeMekus:
Inter-tribal marriage is nonsense, as senseless as this Igbo/Yoruba marriage that is in trend now. I agree with Tonychistopher 100%. What's the need marrying from a tribe where your own tribe is hated? Rubbish!

My dear even when isreal was in cannan lord even told them to marry from their Jewish tribe ....


The tendency for inter tribal marriage to breakdown is high ....lets face the fact

90% of people around the world marry from their own

Nikita1:
You are loosing it

I have found it dearie

How was your val...hope your husband took u out

tonychristopher:


Oga abi madam

Take this or you leave it

The ratio of inter tribal marriage breakup is high ...it might sound harsh but it the fact
Just like that if inter racial


Take this or leave it

Where is the proof @ bolded?

Religion is even more worst than inter-tribal marriage.

A Muslim man can marry a Muslim woman and tribe won't be a problem if they are not from same tribe.

It has always been the most reasonable thing to stick with your type ..not that there won't be erring ones ....there will

Wether type or specie there will always be clashes in marriage most time it is intolerance.

When two set of people tolerate each other there won't be problem in marriages.

Pls for not seeing from your perspective doesn't make someone dimwit ..what is wrong with you guys



Must we see from your view point

When it comes to racism, tribalism, stereotypes I see it as stupidity.

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tintingz:
Where is the proof @ bolded?

Religion is even more worst than inter-tribal marriage.

A Muslim man can marry a Muslim woman and tribe won't be a problem if they are not from same tribe.

Wether type or specie there will always be clashes in marriage most time it is intolerance.

When two set of people tolerate each other there won't be problem in marriages.


When it comes to tribalism, stereotypes I see it as stupidity.

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Maybe your are in Mars or Jupiter but it African ....marriage isn't about two people tolerating each other ...it about family

It is a unio. Between families


Just like a girl that disobeys the parents and went ahead to marry a boy thinking that love is the major ingredient in marriage ..when the marital crisis cones..who will she run to



I am not saying that inter tribal marriages don't work ...they do but there is very higher tendencies for those marriages to break up


Ask Stella damasus or clarion chukwura abiola


These are few case studies

tonychristopher:


My dear even when isreal was in cannan lord even told them to marry from their Jewish tribe ....


The tendency for inter tribal marriage to breakdown is high ....lets face the fact

90% of people around the world marry from their own

And there's more advantage marrying from your own tribe, or a tribe with similar culture as yours (like you pointed out earlier). Because you get to relate well with understanding. I can't imagine the degree of hate an Igbo girl married in an Igbo-hating Yoruba community would have to endure. They'd always refer to her as "awon oloshi omo Igbo, omo aje okuta ma mu omi" ... SMH!

DeMekus:

And there's more advantage marrying from your own tribe, or a tribe with similar culture as yours (like you pointed out earlier). Because you get to relate well with understanding. I can't imagine the degree of hate an Igbo girl married in an Igbo-hating Yoruba community would have to endure. They'd always refer to her as "awon oloshi omo Igbo, omo aje okuta ma mu omi" ... SMH!

That's the fact ...my aunty married an educated Yoruba family ..but if I tell you what she saw..hmmmmm she literally saw hell ..what about my cousin ..what about my coursemate


My dear the stories are all the same ..I have even started druming it in my little girls ears as early as 9 ..I just don't bloody care ...she has to bring my tribes man home . that's is me and I don't owe any body apology


Well by the grace of God she will t be the black sheep of the family

Probably, I am not so moral person to close my eyes on such conceptions as ethnicity. What do you mean by judging? Of course, society cannot forbid to someone marry (I think), but I suppose, that we are able to have opinions. If it is that you call "judge" - yes, we have rights. Love is great, but there are things which I consider more important than feelings.


If going away of your types and kind favours you...if you want to be the one that will go out if the norm suits you .so be it


I have my conviction

juman:
Inter ethnic marriage success depends on couples involved.

One thing always wondering my mind, how come the countries that have it citizens consists of mainly immigrants are able to excel while we nigerians that are mainly indigenous people cannot build a sensible and reasonable country.

If you want to know Nigeria's problems, read this thread. They cannot fight the people from their tribe robbing them blind and depriving them of basic healthcare, but will attack the neighbour suffering with them in the name of tribal differences. They cannot put their differences aside to look for the greater good. When I say Nigeria's problems will be best solved by some nuclear attacks, people then get angry.

Henceforth, I fully support asking people what tribe they come from before offering help on NL. Your money should not be the only thing acceptable to them.

tonychristopher:


I have found it dearie

How was your val...hope your husband took u out

No biggie about val. I'm not married + I was inside my room watching a movie.
How was yours?

From what I can read here ...I think tonychristopher is a realist while Bellaella is an idealist

Nikita1:
No biggie about val. I'm not married + I was inside my room watching a movie.
How was yours?

Oh you were lonely.... It's a pity... Can you pm me....tony Christopher seams to take them to cleaners and he has been taken from what I can read

Onegai:


If you want to know Nigeria's problems, read this thread. They cannot fight the people from their tribe robbing them blind and depriving them of basic healthcare, but will attack the neighbour suffering with them in the name of tribal differences. They cannot put their differences aside to look for the greater good. When I say Nigeria's problems will be best solved by some nuclear attacks, people then get angry.

Henceforth, I fully support asking people what tribe they come from before offering help on NL. Your money should not be the only thing acceptable to them.

Oga take that to politics

This is romance and we are soft here ....inter ptribal marriage us cultural not political

ariesbull:
From what I can read here ...I think tonychristopher is a realist while Bellaella is an idealist

It's not been idealist or realist ...a spade should be a spade and that's what's it should be called

tonychristopher:



It's not been idealist or realist ...a spade should be a spade and that's what's it should be called

Noted

ariesbull:


Oh you were lonely.... It's a pity... Can you pm me....tony Christopher seams to take them to cleaners and he has been taken from what I can read

No, thanks. I'm not in for that at the moment.

Nikita1:
No, thanks. I'm not in for that at the moment.

Then buy a didloo or vibratorrs don't do girls ooooo

Try my magic stick... It works wonder ..what tribe are you from anyway

ariesbull:


Then buy a didloo or vibratorrs don't do girls ooooo

Try my magic stick... It works wonder ..what tribe are you from anyway

Oh
So, from your view, it's about sex
I'm disappointed
Last question: does not really matter

Onegai:


If you want to know Nigeria's problems, read this thread. They cannot fight the people from their tribe robbing them blind and depriving them of basic healthcare, but will attack the neighbour suffering with them in the name of tribal differences. They cannot put their differences aside to look for the greater good. When I say Nigeria's problems will be best solved by some nuclear attacks, people then get angry.

Henceforth, I fully support asking people what tribe they come from before offering help on NL. Your money should not be the only thing acceptable to them.

It was the very long rule of the military that destroyed the country. One nigeria has already failed us.

Ordinary nigerians are wonderful people.

But free and fair election will compel people to work together and it will promotes unity, love and togetherness where our difference will be celebrated but not be barrier among us.

Any useless "leaders" would be voted out.

Nikita1:
Oh
So, from your view, it's about sex
I'm disappointed
Last question: does not really matter

Honey you shouldn't be disappointed... Relationship is hinged on compatibility and sexual compatibility is the number one lets not pretend

As of tribe . it matters alot ..me I am igbo and I am not ready to marry a woman, that will be bringing this aso oke today, aso ebi tomorrow , party today ,owambe tomorrow or when we have a simultaneous organsm we do one party,when we have good kids we do another party ..I do not want these broda mi, uncle mi, ore mi

I want just u and u


So all matters