Deafndumb:
Thanks for the advice. I sincerely don't know what to do after reading different opinions.

Should I tell my parents about the discoveries I made?

I'm pretty sure they won't go there with me and that's going to heat things up.

Your parents should know. I am very sure they will resist you accepting a suspicious pregnancy. Let the child come first and do a DNA test before accepting any responsibility.

Deafndumb:
Thanks for the advice. I sincerely don't know what to do after reading different opinions.

Should I tell my parents about the discoveries I made?

I'm pretty sure they won't go there with me and that's going to heat things up.

You can't handle this on your own.

You may have put a very young girl in the family way and your parents would find out sooner or later. It's best they hear this from you now especially as there is a very real possibility that you could be thrown in prison for this.

This is a serious matter and your parents should be in the know now, so they can help you out. And yes, be forthright and tell them everything you know. Let them know your part in all of this too. Expect them to be disappointed in you but you're their son. In time they'll forgive you and get over it too.

For now, you need all the support you can get from your family.

baby124

You seem to be far removed from the situation.

This guy slept with a minor. They take this to the police and they would go apeshit on him. They might even force him to take responsibility by signing an agreement towards such.

Now he has an opportunity. Play it cool. Dont accept responsibility. Let the parents of the girl know that he has knowledge of the sevral side acts of the lady and someone has already rejected the pregnancy.

Accept to finance this, but sternly state you would be going for a DNA immediately she gives birth. That money he would spend should serve as his punishment.

Sometimes you need tact to deal with issues. If she were above 18. Then you can go gun blazing. At least you can claim it is consensual as she is an adult already and can make decisions for her self but as of now. He is in no position to push such.

Thanks for your advice

x240:
baby124

You seem to be far removed from the situation.

This guy slept with a minor. They take this to the police and they would go apeshit on him. They might even force him to take responsibility by signing an agreement towards such.

Now he has an opportunity. Play it cool. Dont accept responsibility. Let the parents of the girl know that he has knowledge of the sevral side acts of the lady and someone has already rejected the pregnancy.

Accept to finance this, but sternly state you would be going for a DNA immediately she gives birth. That money he would spend should serve as his punishment.

Sometimes you need tact to deal with issues. If she were above 18. Then you can go gun blazing. At least you can claim it is consensual as she is an adult already and can make decisions for her self but as of now. He is in no position to push such.

What is the real difference between what you wrote and what I wrote? My own issue is that he waits till DNA is proven before shelling out money. Every other poster was asking him to pretend and play cool, then secretly carry out DNA after she gives birth. What has happened has happened. He did the deed, there is no excusing that or running away from it. You just blended both differing advices and made it your own.

baby124:

What is the real difference between what you wrote and what I wrote? My own issue is that he waits till DNA is proven before shelling out money. Every other poster was asking him to pretend and play cool, then secretly carry out DNA after she gives birth. What has happened has happened. He did the deed, there is no excusing that or running away from it. You just blended both differing advices and made it your own.

Ok. I agree.

You win the brownie points for tbe advices offered.

We good now?

I just sealed my fate this evening

You are on a long thing. When u were digging the girl u don't know. Plus what do u mean sealed ur date

Nigerian law says the legal age for sex is 11years. Please correct me if I'm wrong. So OP are you saying the girl was like 10? I doubt. So there are no criminal implications.

Brother stop panicking.
There is a lesson to learn,that is the most important aspect of this situation.
The less you talk to her parents the better for you because so much of what you say will be used against you in anywhere.
Agree to whatever they say and save towards getting a DNA after baby is born.
That is when you can stand up for yourself,for now...melo..melo!
Again,do not tell them of your DNA intentions...do not.
Do not also buy every buy buy they tell you,buy the necessary,otherwise you will become their First bank,especially if you have a car and a job.
Looking on the brighter side,you may fall in love with this new cutie on the way (I love them babies)

Baby, you have to endure this huge embarrassment and torture for not shooting the loads in the right soil. However, ensure there is no marriage before baby is born. Once the little Angel arrives, the fowl yanshh shall be blown.


Meanwhile, enjoy your 30seconds of fame as baby daddy.

deafndumb

I endorse x240's advice. As much as possible tactly decline making any commitments to marriage or anything her parents may try to bring up. This period will be difficult but man up and swallow the consequences of your actions in good faith.

I don't know how financially buoyant you are but you might need to get legal advise on this issue.

GodnGold:
Brother stop panicking.
There is a lesson to learn,that is the most important aspect of this situation.
The less you talk to her parents the better for you because so much of what you say will be used against you in anywhere.
Agree to whatever they say and save towards getting a DNA after baby is born.
That is when you can stand up for yourself,for now...melo..melo!
Again,do not tell them of your DNA intentions...do not.
Do not also buy every buy buy they tell you,buy the necessary,otherwise you will become their First bank,especially if you have a car and a job.
Looking on the brighter side,you may fall in love with this new cutie on the way (I love them babies)

Thanks.
The family wants me to start taking responsibility immediately.

My family is in not aware of the possibility of me not being the father of the baby.

GodnGold:
Brother stop panicking.
There is a lesson to learn,that is the most important aspect of this situation.
The less you talk to her parents the better for you because so much of what you say will be used against you in anywhere.
Agree to whatever they say and save towards getting a DNA after baby is born.
That is when you can stand up for yourself,for now...melo..melo!
Again,do not tell them of your DNA intentions...do not.
Do not also buy every buy buy they tell you,buy the necessary,otherwise you will become their First bank,especially if you have a car and a job.
Looking on the brighter side,you may fall in love with this new cutie on the way (I love them babies)

The mum is already pushing that I play the role of the hubby if u grab.
Outrightly Refusing it would arouse suspicions which may result to confrontation. How do I go about that?

An0nimus:
deafndumb

I endorse x240's advice. As much as possible tactly decline making any commitments to marriage or anything her parents may try to bring up. This period will be difficult but man up and swallow the consequences of your actions in good faith.

I don't know how financially buoyant you are but you might need to get legal advise on this issue.

Finance is an issue. I don't know if any lawyer her can help me out.
The bill has started to pile up. This week they want me to get her registered for antenatal. Her clothes don't fit anymore I think they want to shift that responsibility to me.
Unfortunately I just expended most of my savings last year on a failed business and festivity

How much does it cost to have a DNA test

Fortissimo:
Nigerian law says the legal age for sex is 11years. Please correct me if I'm wrong. So OP are you saying the girl was like 10? I doubt. So there are no criminal implications.

I think it's 18 and liable to the tune of life imprisonment

dacool1:
You are on a long thing. When u were digging the girl u don't know. Plus what do u mean sealed ur fate

I meant my family went there to appease her family without the knowledge I have. So my family agreed to most terms and conditions.
The conditions are so so strict and scary like I will be held responsible for her health and life. Something I have no form of control over.

Why would you get involved with a minor in the first place? You should have screen munch her conversation with the other boys and sent it to your phone.

You had better informed your folks and try and play along with the parents of the girl. You might need to get a job if you don't have one or get a weekend job to supplement your day job.

Brace yourself for tough times ahead. When you see the next minor you will do a "Ben Johnson"

debetmx:
Why would you get involved with a minor in the first place? You should have screen munch her conversation with the other boys and sent it to your phone.

You had better informed your folks and try and play along with the parents of the girl. You might need to get a job if you don't have one or get a weekend job to supplement your day job.

Brace yourself for tough times ahead. When you see the next minor you will do a "Ben Johnson"

I'm sure if I inform my parents they will break the peace treaty

Deafndumb:


Finance is an issue. I don't know if any lawyer her can help me out.
The bill has started to pile up. This week they want me to get her registered for antenatal. Her clothes don't fit anymore I think they want to shift that responsibility to me.
Unfortunately I just expended most of my savings last year on a failed business and festivity

Ante natal at how many months?

Enjoy the ride.

Deafndumb:


Thanks.
The family wants me to start taking responsibility immediately.

My family is in not aware of the possibility of me not being the father of the baby.

And why didn't you tell them the full story? Why give them half truths?

Tell your family everything thats going on

EfemenaXY:


And why didn't you tell them the full story? Why give them half truths?

Because they will never agree to it and the other family needs a scapegoat

Lol, ok. This must be a superstory. How did your parents go from not knowing anything, to going behind your back to sign peace treaty. Please don't spoil this section for genuine people.

baby124:
Lol, ok. This must be a superstory. How did your parents go from not knowing anything, to going behind your back to sign peace treaty. Please don't spoil this section for genuine people.

Arrrggghhhh!!!!


You this woman! You got there before me.

Deafndumb:

I meant my family went there to appease her family without the knowledge I have. So my family agreed to most terms and conditions.
The conditions are so so strict and scary like I will be held responsible for her health and life. Something I have no form of control over.

Are these the words of a "man" in his mid-twenties? Or a JSS1 student trying it on here?

Deafndumb:

Finance is an issue. I don't know if any lawyer her can help me out.
The bill has started to pile up. This week they want me to get her registered for antenatal. Her clothes don't fit anymore I think they want to shift that responsibility to me.
Unfortunately I just expended most of my savings last year on a failed business and festivity

Of course.

She's probably about to drop the baby any minute from now. Ramp up the story a notch or two.

@OP. You've had your fun. Now kindly move on with your tales.

EfemenaXY:


Arrrggghhhh!!!!


You this woman! You got there before me.



Are these the words of a "man" in his mid-twenties? Or a JSS1 student trying it on here?



Of course.

She's probably about to drop the baby any minute from now. Ramp up the story a notch or two.

@OP. You've had your fun. Now kindly move on with your tales.

Hahahahha. Op doesn't know that we have been through hell with more creative fakers on this section.

baby124:

Hahahahha. Op doesn't know that we have been through hell with more creative fakers on this section.

That is eh...

When I read this:

Deafndumb:
I just sealed my fate this evening

My reaction was: "Mtcheeeeeeeeeeewwwww"

Because a real man won't go all jelly on us. Na from this point I dey suspect the @op na minor himself...

@OP In as much as i dont want to give my advice publicly , i will want a private conversation , I've been in ur position and let me guess d girl is from Ogun state ?

baby124:
Lol, ok. This must be a superstory. How did your parents go from not knowing anything, to going behind your back to sign peace treaty. Please don't spoil this section for genuine people.

You probably didn't read the whole story. I didn't say my parents aren't aware of the issue. They are just not aware of the fact that there are other potential fathers

EfemenaXY:


Are these the words of a "man" in his mid-twenties? Or a JSS1 student trying it on here?
.

You read it in English. Read in yoruba you would get a better understanding of what I'm trying to say

baby124:

Hahahahha. Op doesn't know that we have been through hell with more creative fakers on this section.

You sincerely have no idea. I have been on nairaland since 2007, though a passive user, created a couple threads. I had to get this moniker to reduce the possibility of anyone finding out who the true characters are. I understand a lot of fake stories are out there.

If my story is not properly organized I am truly sorry for that, it's due to my current psychological pressure, plus y would I be on nairaland at this time of the day if not because I am having a sleepless night regretting that I let my parents go there begging for my freedom and consenting to conditions they could have negotiated