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Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by naijagobetter(m): 11:13am On Mar 05, 2016 |
yemi16:if that's what you want then why must your wife know when and how you help your brother? There are things your wife must not know or when you do them for peace to reign. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by ariyike23(f): 1:47pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
scantee: jes checked,didnt get ur messages |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Seun(m): 6:10pm On Apr 30, 2016 |
yemi16:Stupid? Sorry, couldn't resist. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by DonBobes(m): 6:35pm On Apr 30, 2016 |
yemi16: Am so convinced you saw the signs but you overlooked them because of the love you have for her which is now going sour because of her nagging attitude. Left to me, if i saw these signs before marriage & still find it difficult to let go off of the lady then i will have a prenuptial agreement before marriage. Which is "she misbehaves during marriage & looses all" not just this, we will also go our separate ways. Better live as a divorced man & go to hell rather than force myself through a marriage of unending ruckus and still go to hell. Either ways i will still end up in hell. Just my opinion though! |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by tosinjay(m): 12:38am On May 01, 2016 |
Op, I'd like to add my 2kobo, although this post is old by now but your marriage is for a lifetime. Please still read and consider this. First of all, what we forget in life are the principles of dealings, more so you being a Christian. Marriage is a godly institution, was originated by God, and must be founded upon Him. I will not join the league of those who say get a mistress, show her that you're the man or any other thing unlike what's becoming of a true Christian. yemi16:To be sincere, the first thought i had while i read through a bit was that, wow this woman acts like a wi*ch. Because she'd rather have you throw something in the bin than give your brother how much more an outsider? Please i say this because you are a Christian so I'd like people who have other beliefs aside being a Christian to respect our view. Do people still search for God fearing these days? Do people even understand the meaning/necessity of someone being God fearing? I ask those questions because in your courtship days according to what you shared you weren't seeking for the relevances before going into marriage. People think love overrides the thought of God, it doesn't. As a Christian we ought to act on the will of God. Like, is this person the right one for me? People say i have to choose myself because i have feelings, but the essence of knowing the right one according to God's will is because He instituted marriage and even when you think you've seen it all He knows the hidden things and the future. Some may say, i shouldn't talk unless am married but you know what? Being a Christian that we are, even a 15yrs old with the right godly wisdom can say the right things. I was having a girl friend back in 2011 and things weren't going as i wanted and i made a simple prayer, Lord if she's not the right person let's peacefully depart, i was only 21 then but i could think about praying because i had been brought up to get serious and get married on time rather than flirt around. Well after that relationship i went bad and dated anyhow. But I've got my acts right with God now and no more same, reason for that tale is to further explain my position. Now i have a fianceƩ who's God fearing and hardly acts outside the box. We get to scripturally sort issues, that's what's becoming of Christians. Women are supposed to be help meets and one flesh with the man, so your burden should be hers, so therefore that your brother is facing hard time is meant to be her concern too. You're married to her, no divorce no matter what the outcome may be. Am not saying it's gotten worse to that extend of mentioning divorce but i know what marriage can be like. What you just have to do is pray for her and help her to get close to God, study the bible and let her know the position which she is, facing the mirror of God's word. Don't cheat on her but correct her in love once you people are in that route, i would have rather said you keep somethings like your help rendering to your family from her but she's meant to be involved you know, because in marriage you people are supposed to be open to one another. But the bible says wisdom is profitable to direct so therefore., for the atts she's putting up you need to keep those things from her knowledge while you help her and yourself become Christlike. As she's going in making her attitude known to your brother she could cause issues that'd go down for a long time if your brother is not the type that forgives and forget. Just as someone said, let her get into church activities but i hope you worship at a church where they really nourish with the word that will pierce her heart to knowing how evil are actions has been and help her become the best for you and God. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Mayflowa(m): 5:19am On May 01, 2016 |
yemi16: But can't you help anyone or ur brothers without her knowledge. I hv given 1m out without my woman knowing because she wud be sad and depressed. Though her own is extreme but women believe they own their husband and all he has |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by mutiply: 5:56pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
mutiply:My own brother left me alone for form more 10 years cause of a woman too, seeing this post just made me realize that some of us who give advice are actually going through same experience. its well |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Blissquare(f): 10:10pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
She is selfish. Does she even have a job? I don't mean a business that is disguised unemployment where you are the one paying the rent Andy she renders nothing tangible. Your money Andy your property, that you worked for alone is not hers to decide how it is used or replaced or disposed. Nobody is perfect but this is a very bad trait that should not be overlooked. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by 2goodbobo(m): 10:26pm On Aug 10, 2020 |
For National peace to reign, please whenever you want to assist you bro dont let your Wife know. This will save you all these stress. |
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