sugabelle:

stay there dey ask. You are open to three situations:

date a girl who's not so rich, and fail to give her a regular allowance, then prepare to be cheated on as she sleeps around with those who will give her what she needs. she might keep u as her bf but will certainly have a richer and more generous lover to meet her demands

or, date a rich girl who won't need your dough but will still expect you to "shake bodi" just so she won't feel it's you dating her for her money. In short, rich girls demand just as much bc it feels better telling her friends "my bf bought this/dat for me

OR date a poor girl who's not demanding but would love to have the good things of life(which she's afraid to ask you for money to buy), and notice she might be secretly unhappy and this will put a strain on the r/ship. Who won't like to have good phone, enuf credit, nice clothes and hair, and if the bf can afford it, why not?

If you want her enough to ask her out, you should be ready to take care of her needs. If you can't afford a definite weekly/monthly allowance, at least make some funds available from time to time.

In conclusion and sorry to say, but real men in love don't ask this question you're asking.

sugabelle:

stay there dey ask. You are open to three situations:

date a girl who's not so rich, and fail to give her a regular allowance, then prepare to be cheated on as she sleeps around with those who will give her what she needs. she might keep u as her bf but will certainly have a richer and more generous lover to meet her demands

or, date a rich girl who won't need your dough but will still expect you to "shake bodi" just so she won't feel it's you dating her for her money. In short, rich girls demand just as much bc it feels better telling her friends "my bf bought this/dat for me

OR date a poor girl who's not demanding but would love to have the good things of life(which she's afraid to ask you for money to buy), and notice she might be secretly unhappy and this will put a strain on the r/ship. Who won't like to have good phone, enuf credit, nice clothes and hair, and if the bf can afford it, why not?
If you want her enough to ask her out, you should be ready to take care of her needs. If you can't afford a definite weekly/monthly allowance, at least make some funds available from time to time.
In conclusion and sorry to say, but real men in love don't ask this question you're asking.

sugabelle:

stay there dey ask. You are open to three situations:

date a girl who's not so rich, and fail to give her a regular allowance, then prepare to be cheated on as she sleeps around with those who will give her what she needs. she might keep u as her bf but will certainly have a richer and more generous lover to meet her demands

or, date a rich girl who won't need your dough but will still expect you to "shake bodi" just so she won't feel it's you dating her for her money. In short, rich girls demand just as much bc it feels better telling her friends "my bf bought this/dat for me

OR date a poor girl who's not demanding but would love to have the good things of life(which she's afraid to ask you for money to buy), and notice she might be secretly unhappy and this will put a strain on the r/ship. Who won't like to have good phone, enuf credit, nice clothes and hair, and if the bf can afford it, why not?

If you want her enough to ask her out, you should be ready to take care of her needs. If you can't afford a definite weekly/monthly allowance, at least make some funds available from time to time.

In conclusion and sorry to say, but real men in love don't ask this question you're asking.

sugabelle:

hmm'n, it would be rubbish to those who find it hard to even give N1 to their babe, just bc they don't want her to be a gold-digger. I didn't say she should demand  it of him, but that he needn't wait for her to ask. If you thought her worth asking out, then why won't she be worth spending on? Simple giving does wonders in a r/ship. It doesn't guarantee everlasting love, but when the affair is serious, it makes it all easier. Real men treat their babe like their own sister/mum and make sure she lacks for nothing they can easily provide.

d-ROC:

I have asked a few girls out in my time and I've gotten responses like:


How much do you earn?
Can you afford me?
How much you wan give me sef, Abeg your money no reach?
I need a monthly allowance of XXXX  before I can say yes.
I have needs.
I'm the first daughter so I need a man that can give me enough to support my family.
My ex-boyfriend was this and that so I cant settle for less sorry.
Excuse me, I don't see any diamonds with you so I'm sorry.

Rofl

sugabelle:

lol> calling me a gold digger like it's a dirty word , who cares? Sticks and stones, dude. You on the other hand, show the tell-tale signs of being an aka-gum(stingy tight-fist) There's a four out of five chance your babe has a second or third bf.

Maybe because I have a generous and caring boo, and I see what my pals go through with their stingy bfs. But they want her to open her legs when ever and however they like. Shior. But of course you don't have to be loaded to be entitled to a girlfriend, so to the OP, I'm sure if the guy is broke, and the girl knows he's sincerely not able to provide, then she'll have to understand. But when the chap is obviously okay financially and decides, out of that old-fashioned "gold-digger mentality" that he will not "pay" to date her, then that makes me sick. I never have to "beg" or demand my man for anything, he knows the drill. And in turn he gets my full and deepest devotion.

sugabelle:

lol> calling me a gold digger like it's a dirty word , who cares? Sticks and stones, dude. You on the other hand, show the tell-tale signs of being an aka-gum(stingy tight-fist) There's a four out of five chance your babe has a second or third bf.

Maybe because I have a generous and caring boo, and I see what my pals go through with their stingy bfs. But they want her to open her legs when ever and however they like. Shior. But of course you don't have to be loaded to be entitled to a girlfriend, so to the OP, I'm sure if the guy is broke, and the girl knows he's sincerely not able to provide, then she'll have to understand. But when the chap is obviously okay financially and decides, out of that old-fashioned "gold-digger mentality" that he will not "pay" to date her, then that makes me sick. I never have to "beg" or demand my man for anything, he knows the drill. And in turn he gets my full and deepest devotion.

whitelexi:

I used to do that, then i heard news about where my money was really going. . . So i had to revisit the issue and now, the only person who has a monthly allowance from me is my mum. Not like it achieves much for her, no, but the mere fact that she will appreciate it and pray for more blessings for u - that alone is a good incentive.

@Topic: Thats a no-no!

@TheSeeker - 110% correct!

sugabelle:

hmm'n, he wasn't a "baller" when we started dating; we were students in uni, and I stuck with him because what he lacked in giving cash, he made up for in being supportive and loving. And now that he's rolling in dough, who else is he going to blow it on but me, huh? . LovePeddler-talk or not, guys are demanding in their own rights, and if the babe is relunctant bc she feels he is too stingy to deserve her most prized possession, na crime? And for the record, I'm quite comfortable in my own right, but it feels extra nice when your man chooses to be generous and not act like he thinks you're a prostitute because you expect him to spend a little.