olac21:


Indeed,many are mad but......(Stop being a retard girl,it won't add anything to your life)

lastnogood:



And yes, my father had a 3 bedroom flat and a car when he married my mom, she gave birth to me 10 months later in a nice comfortable home. Haven both of them worked and toiled, they now own several homes and travel to the Caribbean every month with their grandchildren. That is being made. That is success, being able to do the things you want with the people you love. Being able to provide a safe and comfortable place for your family to live in is called being responsible. Learner...

Vinshu:


You realize you cannot compare a government worker in Nigeria with an Entrepreneur in Europe! Can you compare? My currency alone is bigger than yours. Perhaps you don't know who you quoting. Again, get a life.

Speaking of a house, yes i do have a house. Our government is sooooo good that every working class person is entitled to housing. I bet your government couldn't do that for you thats why you all run down here.

harveyspec:


Please did your grand father either maternal or paternal have a 3bedroom apartment & car before getting married ?

I ask because if you dad could have those things before marriage, most likely he came from a comfortable background, someone had to pay the price along the line!!

A level 8 graduate with the civil service whose salary is 80k per month, shouldn't get married if he is able to live within his means, just because he doesn't own his own apartment.

The Op even stressed that the apartment must be a rented one, my God!!

Car is a luxury here in this part of the world not in developed countries. Why should I buy a car when I can move around comfortably in a train?

There are folks who will never own a house or stay in a 3bedroom flats, it's not a curse but reality of life, everyone has its level

owning a house or car should NEVER be a yardstick in marriage decision (it's a nice to have but it is never a must have quality)

The keyword is living within ones means & being able to take care of someone else.

lastnogood:


Lol my friend, as I said, that isn't being made. That is what any capable grown person should be able to accomplish with their own hands before marriage. Talk less of a man, who normally gets paid at least 25% more in salary than his female counterpart.

Only lazy, non ambitious and unserious men would find this expectation a real challenge or setback. We are talking about marriage here, so by extension you are talking about your future children. If your wife takes in on your honeymoon, you'll expect her to put to bed in your one room flat? Ok, have you ever gone to work after being in the same room as a crying baby? You don't even take your own health seriously lol. I pity you

And yes, my father had a 3 bedroom flat and a car when he married my mom, she gave birth to me 10 months later in a nice comfortable home. Haven both of them worked and toiled, they now own several homes and travel to the Caribbean every month with their grandchildren. That is being made. That is success, being able to do the things you want with the people you love. Being able to provide a safe and comfortable place for your family to live in is called being responsible. Learner...

sukkot:
bros you be real MVP. i like the house. looks very british. cute house. bros how much did it cost to build that house ? if you are not comfortable telling me its OK.

Rotentina:


I bought the bricks at the rate of #180 as at 2014, and I bought 2000 pcs........!!! But as at today, it goes for 230 per one.

I spent roughly 150k from foundation to the level and I spent 260k for the roofing, I spent 60k on the ceiling, yet to finish, and 40k on the flooring, yet to finish. I spent roughly 15k on the electrical (I did the wiring myself) roughly 885k and I AM HAPPILY SLEEPING THERE WITH MY FAMILY, no more under the threat of Landlord.

iyke2k4:
are you married? If no, you are yet to face reality. That your dad was successful before marrying your mum, isn't an assurance yours must start that Way.

manie:




I am sure the house is not in Lagos, because the cost of building is high in Lagos. You did not include the cost of the land. Have you done the plumbing, floor tiles and the necessary finishing.

adeaks:



And the majority of girls who will support this are lazy, gold diggers who are only looking for already-made men that they can just pop out babies for without any thought of adding something tangible to the guy's life.

Ioannes:
hilarious. so let me get this straight. rich dudes should marry BROKE girls?

yeah that sounds right...or NOT.

frakdon:
mua GERARAHERE, emekwa'm anya mpi....now you got mouth to talk, because I allowed that small boy to score that goal..
happy thinking, indeed...
It won't matter, what type of house it is, as long we would have where to put our head down peaceful and hopeful, after each day's hustle? (you go be my orente) smiles*
yeah, I did went out with a friend, it was great day..

do you drink? Alcohol

streetzdreamz:
your opinion is solely yours,will you go hang if i tell you i hate kids and dont want any??or that marriage to me is the last form of legal slavery a man can ever get into? The problem with you people is taking pills for others pains,how does my opinion affect you?i wont have kids i cant cater for every of their needs,you can go ahead and make babies while living in a face me i slap you rented apartment,hellsbells!!!!

Vinshu:
In order to reduce the level of poverty amongst homes, in my opinion I think a man who has not enough money to buy a house of his own not rent at least a 3 bed room flat and a car to move him and his family around should not get married.

When he gets married in his low credit, the family tends to suffer. The probability that he will get rich is actually 0.5 not up to 1 because Sundry expenses will now become expenses when married. Things he could ignore when single will now be important.

When children arrive, the probability of getting rich falls to an all time low of 0.2. Have you observed that most men have a higher credit score when single? If you have $500 at the end of every week when single if your job/income doesn't change or upgrade when you get married your $500 falls to $200 because you no longer feed yourself but feed a woman and probably a child.

When the child grows older school fees will set in. And other bad debts will be incured .

Don't get me wrong, I ain't saying he will never make it but in the mean time, why bring a child to the world to suffer? Even if it's for 6 years before you make it? Why take a woman from her father's comfy house to hardship in the name of marriage?

I advice ladies never to get married no matter how cool a guy is unless he is proven to be able to cater for your needs and that of your children financially in all ramifications both expenses and sundry expenses.

It doesn't make any sense, what you enjoy when single as a lady why stop enjoying it because your husband has no money or your money now goes to supporting him?

They say women ain't equal to men. Ok let the men be rich and rich enough to take care of their wives 101% before getting married. In fact, studies show most men marry for sex.

keyman0007:
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I hear you and analysis there maybe some sense in what you just said however to me that is an abnormality, . Your thinking is weird dude and i say this for the reason below:

I wld nt knw if you are a christian but if yes cool. do you remember what Jesus christ did to that tree that did not bear fruit, he cursed the true and it dried up. In Gen 1:28 God said be fruitful and multiply. Dont let all this yankee culture and mentality carry you away. someone brought you into this world, this same person raised you (assuming), it is also ur responsibility to bring someone else and to raise that person providing for their needs.


Brother go and hustle have a steady source of income and start a family. all this your "what if " scenario only leads to analysis paralysis. There is never a perfect time and the money will never be enough. that my word for you this morning.

And why we sometimes respond to comments on this forum is some people learn alot from here and someone can post very misleading post, it is our duty to counter.

streetzdreamz:
true,its an abnormality but i love it,not everyone on earth is grateful for the gift of life,i for one aint!!!so you see not everyone thinks and wants the same thing from life,either u succesful or not,have kids or not,get married or not,poor,rich the adjectives goes on,but guess what?it all ends @death,so whats the fuss about life? Life is meaningless but most people wont agree with that,but the truth is,its all bullsh*t!!!its like sex,u only enjoy the pleasure for some minutes,the second u done,the pleasure ceases and u wouldn't even remember how it feels,thats why its insatiable...you know the crazy part??no one asked or got our consent before we were given birth to,we just found ourselves on earth,and now when we die,we gonna burn in sulfur if our ways aint right with the creator right?its more like a predestined tragedy,so we have to strive,pray,hope to avert going to hell?i mean its crazy,bet i know more of the scriptures than you do,so dont lecture me about the bible.......

Monalisa185:


hehehehe... make I leave the above first...

alcohol, yeah, I do, buh minimal.. why

keyman0007:




I really am speechless on your perception of life.

Life is no bullshit to me and will never be for you.

And remember it is nt how much you know but what you do with what you knw.

adeaks:
Only guys with houses and cars should even date.


Simple question: when your dad was dating your mom, did he have a house and a car?

Let's start from there.

Diddyydiva:
I support you op




I believe marriage is a limitation,It makes your chances of success slimmer. Its a distraction too .


Its easier to succeed without marriage,





This applies to both genders tho. If financial responsibilities are not left to the husband alone, The family will have a better standard of living.

redwriter:


I see upright boobs are now a prerequisite for a good marriage. And to think this is your common sense.I wonder what your uncommon sense would be.

neoapocalypse:


If this is your thought about marriage then you're in the wrong marriage

Diddyydiva:
I am not married

neoapocalypse:



Okay , but please and please don't go into marriage with this notion , finding your better half shouldn't be to your disadvantage as a couple. You guys are supposed to get better in every facet of life.