This is created to counter the one created by Vinshu, titled Any Guy Who Doesn't Have A House And A Car
Should Not Get Married Or Even Date


www.nairaland.com/3000453/guy-doesnt-house-car-should

In as much as I wouldn't deny the fact that men are naturally born providers. Most ladies of this century grew up with wrong and fact-bending orientation about relationships which is the main reason behind their selfishness, coveteousness, laziness, gold-digging and self-centredness yet they all want to reap where they did not sow.

However, most ladies dwell in the erroneous belief that a man is expected to work his life out just to please a lady and as well provide for the family basic needs. It's perfectly deemed wrong for a lazy/financially handicapped lady to consider marrying a not so rich dude, while it's perfectly deemed right for a dude who struggled to make it against all odds to date or marry a lazy/poor woman who have little or nothing to contribute to the family in the area of finance.

It's even so saddening that many ladies see marriage as an escape route out of poverty and a result of this, many of them don't want to work, they don't venture into productive things that will brighten their future, they only want to go to school so that their parents will sell them at a costly price for men who will come for their hand in marriage. In fact, they are always concerned about a man that will come from another planet and relief them from their financial burden.

If we should face a reality here; of what legacy are these ladies laying for their unborn daughters whom they will bring up with this same ideology when they get to a relationship as poverty alleviation scheme? All we hear daily is their unrealistic targets that a man should be ashamed of living with his parents at the age of 25; a guy of 25years without a car should not be in a relationship but it's deemed right for a lady to be 30 years and above yet demanding for MTN recharge cards and money from these same "alleged" broke dudes. Tomorrow, they expect a man who has not built a house of his own unworthy of getting married or being in a relationship. The funniest thing is that these ladies are only concerned about what will better their lives but you will never see them discussing about how to better a man's life

God Himself gave Eve to Adam to help accomplish his goal and help manage the resources which he laboured for. God never created Eve to reap where she did not sow just the way Nigerian ladies are.

Ladies, don't let anybody deceive you. Also strive as much as men do so that your man will not enslave and also not to be stereotyped a "liability". The world is fast evolving, therefore, don't think you will be as luck as your lazy friend was fortunate to marry a rich man.

Endeavour to also strive hard to attain greatness. Don't be swayed when you see a write-up giving you fallacious reasons as to why it's no big deal for a woman to plan for her future or possible hardship. Don't ever think all men can only be compensated with kitty-cat


The problem with Nigerian ladies is that majority of them are still tying their futures to the men in their lives and don’t consider what might happen if, for whatever reason, those men one day disappear,”

I don't even blame the senators who refused to accept the bill that would bridge the gap between gender inequality. This is because they know that most Nigerian women cannot pay the sacrifice for the benefits and privileges which they want to enjoy.

To the guys, I will strongly advise you never to consider dating a lady that's financially handicapped or lazy. They will not in any way help build your dreams but to bring calamity into your lives


A word is enough for the wise!


Cc

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Neyoor:
Insanity is when you think or believe men are to provide for all your needs.



Even God can't satisfy our insatiable needs.

ClassCaptain:
A man is the head of the family.. Fine

A man is the provider for the house.. Fine

this assumption of marriage is not a partnership is the reason why must women suffer in marriages till date.

Anybody who believes once a man marries her, he has to cater for every and every need and wants of the family should then not be seen as a friend, a wife and a companion as God intended for eve, rather she should then be seen as a PROPERTY acquired for pleasure and reproduction.

A property never has to contribute anything. All it does is to perform its function, the maintenance. Use and disposal is subject to the dictates of the owner.

Why would any lady want to be a liability to her husband..

Everyday i pray to God., never let me experience a situation where my wife will share or contribute in paying our children school fees or house rent

Tallesty1:
True that.
God gave them eyebrows but they prefer to shave them of and draw it back their own way.

Trying to satisfy them is waste of time, just do your best and buy them a vibrator so that they can go and Bleep themselves if they're not satisfied.

wristbangle:
With respect to vishu post which says guys who does not not have car, 3 bedroom flat and other material stuffs are not qualified to marry let alone date a lady shows that she and her fellow cohorts who agree with her are chronic gold diggers.

A lady who is expecting her boyfriend or husband to cater for all her needs is not a wife material/wife and can never be.

When I hear cases of billionaires, politicians and business tycoon men dumping some babes like dust bin, one should not pity these ladies because they deserve such treatment.

joyberry:
In as much as I agree with some points,on the previous thread I still agree with you,A woman should also have a reliable source of income to support her family.You should have something else to offer a man other than sex ,food and children. what of if the man has a financial breakdowns?Also lazy guys should not just jump on this thread as an excuse to support your laziness, a man should provide fr his family .Marriage is a long time engagement, whether we like it or not,money is an important factor in this our economic system, don't blame most ladies at times in their unwillingness to marry poor men,whose money do you want to feed and provide ur family with?Work hard,find a woman willing to work hard with you,don't disappoint her when you are rich ,And also ladies if you want a rich man,be rich yourself too.