naniawini:
Please I need help oooo

naniawini:
Please I need help oooo
My relationship is crashing. Have being dating a guy since 2013 one thing led to another I got pregnant for him so we refused to abort it.

naniawini:
There are thing my fiance has been doing, like giving out his number on every social Media platform he get to, girls calling him every now and then, he even brings them 2 the house when I travel, sex chat with them and tell me he's teasing them.

naniawini:

So I decided to pay him back I want him 2 feel the pains I go through. There is this guy that has been pestering me for long tho he knew I live with a Man last nite he called when my fiance was around and I wasn't feeln comfortable all of a sudden my fiance took the phone and they started talking.

naniawini:

My fiance has refused to let go telling me he is not going to forgive mi that am leaving his house I can't stay in his house and flirt. He has never caught mi with a man not 4 once even when I told him I dnt have anytin 2 do with d guy dat I jst wanted him 2 feel the pain of a guy calling mi but he has refused 2 understand.

naniawini:
Pls dear Nairalanders I luv this guy I can't let go, pls wat do I do?

naijathings:


Please... do you guys refuse to abort it or YOU refused to abort it. How did he react when you told him you were pregnant ?




There is a HUGE difference between boyfriend, baby daddy, sex partner and fiance. from what I see in your story, this guy is still unmarried and he still has the right to do whatever he wants to do even if he wants to kick you out of his house, even if he chooses to throw a sex party in his house.



You obviously did not understand the real nature OR the current status of your relationship. from your man's attitude, which you explained here, Do you think you will still be in that house if that guy could find a way to make you varnish without raising questions ? and you want to go on a flirting competition with him, in his house ? when you are not his wife ? when he is just enduring you ? that was a very smart move but you forgot that he is the one holding the gun here.



How do you want him to understand when this is this type of chance he has been waiting for so he can get rid of you and I have a feeling that this is not the first time that he has tried to push you out of the house. you provided the nail for him to cruxify you.



Be Honest, do you really love this guy or you just hold on to the hope that one day he is gonna change and finally bring out that list from wherever he dumped it and do the needful? Do you love him ..... OR you are STUCK with him ?

naijathings:


Please... do you guys refuse to abort it or YOU refused to abort it. How did he react when you told him you were pregnant ?




There is a HUGE difference between boyfriend, baby daddy, sex partner and fiance. from what I see in your story, this guy is still unmarried and he still has the right to do whatever he wants to do even if he wants to kick you out of his house, even if he chooses to throw a sex party in his house.



You obviously did not understand the real nature OR the current status of your relationship. from your man's attitude, which you explained here, Do you think you will still be in that house if that guy could find a way to make you varnish without raising questions ? and you want to go on a flirting competition with him, in his house ? when you are not his wife ? when he is just enduring you ? that was a very smart move but you forgot that he is the one holding the gun here.



How do you want him to understand when this is this type of chance he has been waiting for so he can get rid of you and I have a feeling that this is not the first time that he has tried to push you out of the house. you provided the nail for him to cruxify you.



Be Honest, do you really love this guy or you just hold on to the hope that one day he is gonna change and finally bring out that list from wherever he dumped it and do the needful? Do you love him ..... OR you are STUCK with him ?

Khd95:
Welcome to d baby mama league,unfortunately ur guy isnt popular



how many ladies on NL ve learnt a lesson frm dis lady here....never get pregnant for a guy who hasnt married u yet

naniawini:
am really seeing hell

naijathings:
One thing led to another ... Okay.

Still reading.

naniawini:
Please I need help oooo
My relationship is crashing. Have being dating a guy since 2013 one thing led to another I got pregnant for him so we refused to abort it. Then he came to see my people and took list. But what we were expecting didn't come so uptill now we've not made it Official but tho have being living with him. There are thing my fiance has been doing, like giving out his number on every social Media platform he get to, girls calling him every now and then, he even brings them 2 the house when I travel, sex chat with them and tell me he's teasing them. So I decided to pay him back I want him 2 feel the pains I go through. There is this guy that has been pestering me for long tho he knew I live with a Man last nite he called when my fiance was around and I wasn't feeln comfortable all of a sudden my fiance took the phone and they started talking. My fiance has refused to let go telling me he is not going to forgive mi that am leaving his house I can't stay in his house and flirt. He has never caught mi with a man not 4 once even when I told him I dnt have anytin 2 do with d guy dat I jst wanted him 2 feel the pain of a guy calling mi but he has refused 2 understand. Pls dear Nairalanders I luv this guy I can't let go, pls wat do I do?

Khd95:
it would ve been easier for u if u were not pregnant for it


anyways try to reach his friends,parents(thats if they accepted u frm d start)nd also pple u think he respect,let them intervene,but dnt go into his house until he comes to marry u fully

ve a nice day ma'am

tearoses:


You see, if you were his wife, had made vows to you, loved you and had people that can hold him accountable, then maybe your stunt could have worked.
This is why I always say that everyone's situation and relationship dynamics are different and people should study their own situation well before doing things and making decisions.

Already the guy was just tolerating you and had done everything to frustrate you so that you leave the relationship & now you have given him an opportunity.

You said you both refused to abort the pregnancy........I'm not so sure. I think that you were the one who wanted to keep the pregnancy and he didn't.
He sounds like he doesn't want to be where he is right now.

Anyway he is irresponsible so I don't know why you are hell bent on being his door mat. It takes 2 to make a baby.
You sold yourself short.

Anyway, moving on, the damage has already been done and you wont be the first single mother
Life goes on.
Get up, brush yourself down, and get something doing.
Improve yourself in all areas and take very good care of your kid, both financially, emotionally and morally.
When the guy sees that you are getting on with your life maybe he will have a rethink.....if not then pls just get on with looking after your kid.
We all make mistakes, but that does not mean that we need to keep on wallowing in them.

Adedsbeads:
Dont marry a man because he got you pregnant, if he cannot respect u while stil in d relationship, wat makes u think he will wen u two eventually get married? if he doesnt want u, move on with u life, u wil be more happier wen ur babh finally arrives. u shouldnt be going through emotional trauma with a baby in your womb, u wil end up thinking of suicide. dont be imprison yourself, move out of his house and find a way to take care of urself and your baby. take care and Happy Easter.

cococandy:
This guy is not married to you yet.
Why are you bent on ruining your life by getting him to marry you?
You think he'll change when you get married? You want to marry a man who can't keep his hands off other women and even brings them to a house he shares with you? How can you live with such disrespect? You're like someone walking into fire with their eyes open.

More than likely, he will feel trapped in the marriage because it happened as a result of the pregnancy.
Having a child together does not mean you must get married. I mean it's best if you do (for the sake of your child) but if it won't be a happy marriage, then it's worse than not being married.

Imagine someone who has no qualms messing around with other women having the guts to be pissed at you because of a call. The guts.

Better have some respect for yourself.

Deejavuu:
Dude has been looking for a reason to throw you out of that house. He cheated, did everything but you didn't bulge. You just gave him a reason to kick you out. You jsut made it easyyy for him. The stunt you pulled don't work with every guy, especially one that isn't into you anymore

Sweetie, move on already. It's gonna be hard at first, but trust me you will pull through. No one deserves to be disrespected.

Good luck!!

eyinjuege:
Woman, he has kicked you out of his house and life.

Time to move on with yours. Love is not by force and I just wonder at people who try to force it.

Also time to put more effort into your work, and remember you need the support of your family now more than ever. You need to hustle hard to support your child, and hope he won't deny his child financial support, but if he does you just have to continue the struggle.

Good luck

naniawini:
Going home 2 my parents now especially my dad is nt gona accept mi but i'll beg

naniawini:
Thanks! Really goin tru a lot nw. Feel lik dying

naniawini:
Please I need help oooo
My relationship is crashing. Have being dating a guy since 2013 one thing led to another I got pregnant for him so we refused to abort it. Then he came to see my people and took list. But what we were expecting didn't come so uptill now we've not made it Official but tho have being living with him. There are thing my fiance has been doing, like giving out his number on every social Media platform he get to, girls calling him every now and then, he even brings them 2 the house when I travel, sex chat with them and tell me he's teasing them. So I decided to pay him back I want him 2 feel the pains I go through. There is this guy that has been pestering me for long tho he knew I live with a Man last nite he called when my fiance was around and I wasn't feeln comfortable all of a sudden my fiance took the phone and they started talking. My fiance has refused to let go telling me he is not going to forgive mi that am leaving his house I can't stay in his house and flirt. He has never caught mi with a man not 4 once even when I told him I dnt have anytin 2 do with d guy dat I jst wanted him 2 feel the pain of a guy calling mi but he has refused 2 understand. Pls dear Nairalanders I luv this guy I can't let go, pls wat do I do?

naniawini:
I dnt even see d reason he was angry. Have caught him sex Chating a gal nd I 4gave him but he cudnt spare d mistake of mine