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Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by xavier047: 3:27pm On Apr 10, 2016
@OP, it is clear you love your mum, if not a sane person would have move away to forge their lives and not get pulled back by parents who have lived their own lives and won't allow you to move forward.
This is my understanding of your mum, she is Technically MAD (sorry but it's the truth), once you understand this and get to terms with it, the solution is not far away.
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by DIVFAVOR(m): 3:30pm On Apr 10, 2016
I think am standing alone here, @OP look at the way u hv come out to paint your mum black and people are so happy to call her all sorts of names... well my grand mum will always say " nobody can judge against his/herself. Can we pls take a pulse.... if only OP's mum is here to say her own side of the story. My joy is that OP didn't criticize the prayer house or call them names. That means there are more to it.....
I pray for peace in your house... for your mum, she is only doing wat she feels is the best for the family... let's be careful with our words please.
Happy Mother's day to all mothers in d house.....

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Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by khadijah12(f): 3:37pm On Apr 10, 2016
Larryfly:
My mom and I


When a girl says she prefers to marry a guy whose mom is dead, it ll be like the girl is evil

Shey na person go get this one as mother in law.

As long as she's not Yoruba or cross river, I think his wife will be ok. She'll just have to bear with the excessive prayers but what wife doesn't have something to bear with her mother in law
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by freecocoa(f): 3:42pm On Apr 10, 2016
Jollymich:
At your age you are now a man and she is your mother and will always be your mother for sure but the issue here is " Absolute Control" she is trying to rob you of your fundamental right. Don't touch,assault,slap or beat her but if she tries to use physical force on you jack her throat against the wall for like 2mins just to instill fear on her so she will stop i pray she will not die she will be surprise. Protect your father so she will not cause HBP from her ignoramus. Seriously shout on her to stop . Me i beat my mama and she could not believe it i did not kill her if i dont beat her up the villagers would have set our house on fire but when they came to burn our house an saw me beating my mother they on rescued her and took her to police station for the crime she committed later our family when behind and bailed her since that time she remain loyal even report on time fear me more than her husband that is discipline. But the problem she is not following up so well with family affairs because i brought heavy shame on her andn she felt depressed till now some women are Adolf Hitler that require powerful invasion from manly acts. If you continue to do "Mpi-anya" you will die like one of my father and elder brother that lost there life listening to my mother. Now i made her realize that am incharge and i can send her home to her fathers house because i will occupy my fathers house and preside over it and not her what a rubbish.
Someone beating their mum is not in any way supposed to be funny but damn! This is the funniest thing I've read in a while.

This person is something else. grin grin grin grin

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Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by Nobody: 3:43pm On Apr 10, 2016
@ mctowel01

Your case is very simple to solve, I read your post a couple of times and I see a simple problem that can be easily solved. Your Dad had HBP because he reacted emotionally to a psychological problem. Your mum has a deep pyschological problem and only advance manipulation technique devoid any emotional entanglement will solve this permanently.

What if I was to tell you that your mum is right in all that she says, will you believe me ? The answer is, NO, you will not believe me, because she is obviously wrong. But there is nothing right or wrong in this world, it all depends on our state of mind. So, when you attain this level of understanding, you can manipulate nature, manipulate thoughts, manipulate HER.

Let's say, you want to convince your mum now, that you love her, then when she knows you love her, she will obey you. So, let's say we begin:

You walk up to your mum, and say you have a very terrible dream, that a vulture came down with palm leaves on its legs and vomited rivers of blood on your house and then vanished". Listen to what your mum will say, she will definitely say its evil and you should pray fervently. Go ahead and shout the prayers and curse all the demons and command them to die, shout very very well until your mum believes you are now with her. Then tomorrow morning, tell her in your dream you saw a glowing light and the face of Jesus of Nazareth, telling you "Son, by your works, your family has been healed". Then you receive inner peace and in that dream, you saw her (your mum) rejoicing, and singing "Hallelujah". Watch the countenance of your mum, she will totally believe you. Then ask her to go down on your knees so you can pray for her. Then shout the best acting prayer you can imagine. She will be so happy. Repeat these fake dreams and show you are now a spiritual conqueror and the spiritual eye of the family.

At a point she will come to you first with her 'revelations' and always respond that you know, that it was revealed to you in the dream, that you have conquered it all, then end with a prayer. Allow her to be your friend, and become the chief armour of the family. Tell her the family is covered and the "Lord" has revealed everything to you.

Play her very very well, until she sees you as spiritual leader and tell her not to worry, that you have a vision always, and you will lead the family.

All she goes through is manipulation and can only rescue her by manipulating. Life is all game and games and gamessss.

I have done this, and I stopped the madness of my family, and even my wife hides now if she goes on fasting, cos I stopped all that nonsense in my house. But the one I am thinking of how to stop is my junior brother that the wife has turned to a spiritualist that sprinkles oil and holy water at my compound gates in the village.

Ignorance kills, but manipulation has always come to rescue.

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Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by Nobody: 3:50pm On Apr 10, 2016
khadijah12:


As long as she's not Yoruba or cross river, I think his wife will be ok. She'll just have to bear with the excessive prayers but what wife doesn't have something to bear with her mother in law

That woman sees everybody around her as an agent of the devil and now the son wants to rebel. She ll definitely blame it on her daughter in law. She cant escape that regardless of her tribe

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Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by sky2000: 4:09pm On Apr 10, 2016
kevoh:


Your mum's case is irredeemable and tending towards disguised form of insanity. Her brand of religion has made her ANTI-SOCIAL.

As for you, she still has some control over you probably because you are somewhat dependent on her for a few financial aid else I don't see any reason why you should be bothered and not be able to tell her off when she comes with all those advices, visions and prayers filled with hatred against other people.

Till you have your own apartment and start being independent, I doubt there will be much you can do to curb your mum's actions (I stand corrected) meanwhile I advise you focus more on your Dad's health. Getting HBP over issues like this is not worth it.


It is real sad and disturbing about your relationship with your mother over your freedom of choice!! But my advice is simple. Just take it easy and keep praying more and more to Heavenly Father with all your faith and trust and I assure you that all those problems will come to an end in one way or another...thus you will have peace of mind and maybe your mom will come to realize that she has been doing wrong.

With your Dad, never let him alone but do your best to help him as much as you can.
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by tosyne2much(m): 4:26pm On Apr 10, 2016
All I can say is that you need to use violence to gain amnesty... It reminds me when my mom also wanted to be in control of my life and failure to yield to her command always resulted in quarrel and all that not until one day that I para for her and gave her a warning. The truth of the matter is that some of our parents are unnecessarily being protective which may often mislead us


Ever since then she don free me to live my life as an adult... So OP, you are the one that will fight for yourself not nairalanders
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by dicefrost(m): 4:28pm On Apr 10, 2016
mctowel01.... I'm not trying to make a joke. Is there a history of mental illness in your mother's family? I think she is exhibiting symptoms of paranoid schizophrenia. It may still be in the prodromal phase, but she could deteriorate. I have seen several cases just like this. Just watch her closely. And playing along with her will only fuel the behavior. Stand your ground, deviate from her false reasoning. Make sure she is the only one who believes her fables.

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Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by sirnature: 4:48pm On Apr 10, 2016
mctowel01:

I envy you o, even with their positions. My mum is just an ordinary member sef and it was war before she stopped disturbing me to go. Messages no dey finish there.
Your mother is a teacher or you mean visioner?
my parents still attend dat church,my mother is not a visioner, I discussed abt ds ur post to my mum she jst laughed and waz like dat ur mum should handle it wit maturity, dat u she dsnt need 2 follow all the visions, my mum even said dat it got 2 a point dat one of the visions almost destroyed our home wen I waz still little but she jst handled it wit maturity and wisdom....

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Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by Tellemall: 4:53pm On Apr 10, 2016
mctowel01:
This will be really long, but I beg you to try to read to the end. Its long cos I want you to really understand the situation. This is one of the deepest parts of my life I am about to share. I should have opened a new account for it, but, well, does it change anything. I have to be real here. By the way, this issue cuts across both religion and family.

I am having serious problem with my mother. When I say serious I mean where its come to a do or die affair. The thing is that I am the first son, so I get to be told from my mum about my destiny, how I was born, what I have to do and that evil people want to spoil my destiny. My problem is that my mum has been attending a spiritual church where they see visions. Sometimes the vision could be as vague as "There is something bad in front of you in the spirit, pray against it" to visions of the past like " You use to steal/lie...go and make amend with God before coming back". My problem with the place is that it kept messing with my mind, I didn't know myself cos I was dependent on what one visioner says about me, my mind was revolving around too many things which in most cases re bad things. You know when your conscience i not calm, you are fighting so many thoughts and questions. I cant really explain it but a lot was going on in my head.

My mum is the complete definition of a home-based fanatic(she doesnt go about evangelizing), but her case is so bad that she doesnt even have any friends, and she made sure we never had or played like we should when we were kids all because, she felt our neighbours are evil, the mother of my primary school friend who she has seen just once is evil, our landlord and his wife who even doent live with us are evil and into juju against us, the house they lived in just after marriage was filled with evil people who are plotting against us, all our housemaids are evil and the people who sent them are evil and using them to plot against us, our 2 drivers who use to pick us from school are evil,anybody she quarells with is evil, and finally, Yoruba people are evil while all calabar girls are demonic, infact this caused tension when she said I must not select cross-river for my nysc choice of state because calabar girls are evil. If you have noticed, I have not talked about her view on my fathers relations because it warrants that I talk extensively about ut

My father's immediate brother is evil, his wife is also evil, they are plotting evil against us. His last brother in the village is evil, infact all of his siblings in the village are evil, and they are trying to bring him down. His mother is a witch, his 2 sisters are also witches, so travelling has always been an unpleasant journey I ve never anticipated doing with my mum because it becomes awkward when you try not to eat the general food cooked by all the wives in the family compound, because they are all evil and wicked people or when my mum publicly sprinkles holy water around family members in the compound(family compound) whie binding demons there. It got really bad when she said that my dad's recently divorced junior sister is evil, that they are all conniving together and plotting against us. This is how she puts it "the other day ozy(my aunt) came and was looking at us, when she saw me she started smiling and looking around, looking for where to penetrate and attack from, she now said 'have my children eaten', so that she will know whether to feed them poison." Its really sad and anytime I do not agree with her, a serious quarell ensues. And am really trying to stay on my own. Did I even talk about our tenants?, when we became landlords, one was calabar, so she was always fighting with her, and obviously she was seen as evil to the extent that anytime she called any of us concerning maybe water or light, my mother would be nervous, trying to ask too many questions, from me, before raining curses on her. And it doesnt ened there, we ve been doing all manner of fasting and prayers concerning all these people that God should destroy them and all. We engage into serious aggressive prayers saying that the woman is planning something in her kitchen against us and all, so we should bind the juju. So my mum makes us do all those prayers, that God should destroy all these people with my dad's family members, but they are all alive, living their lives. To her, my father is not himself, he is just the effect of a manipulation from his family members and any good thing that my dad brings to the house(like new car or promotion etc) is as a result of her prayers, cos my father is not himself.

And I am tired, I am really tired, this is not my life, this is not the life I bargained for.This has been on ever since I had consciousness, about 20 years now and yet the same story. My biggest problem which I see is that the more you pray, and yet nothing happens, convinces her that much more prayer is needed and the people are really evil, so more prayer, and hence more prayer for really really evil people. This is going into an endless pointm like a closed curve where you think you ve gotten to the end, but you are still on the same path, but with stronger conviction that you are dealind with something really deadly.

This is where my dad comes to the whole scenario. We are foundationally Catholics, but when I was young my dad, who is catholic before anything else, missed mass on sundays cos of work so was never really spiritual. My dad and mum are complete opposistes in this religion thing. He is not atheist, but he tends to dwell on scientific and logical paths before anything else. Let me say, he is just a simple christian and yess, he has very strong moral nd ethical values. He has never even prayed with us(family prayer). So with my parents being opposite, I guess that's why I wasnt fully indoctrinated doubtlessly into any path, as my mum was a fake catholic then who just went cos of marriage and for sunday ceremony and even held the chapel(spiritual visions church) in higher regard. So it took me a while(2013)to define and decide my stand, where I feel comfortable, and my conscience was at peace. I was one atheist, tho for a short period, but now, I consider myself catholic, tho not a strong one, cos I am not a full believer in all of catholic doctrines. I just can't be part of the Nigerian Pentecostal movement.

Since I have known my parents, they have always quarreled, which I know to be common in many marriages. So I don't know what happened first; whether its the visions given to her that came before the arguments started or the arguments led her to go deep in those vision thing and fully dwelling and basing life on it. My dad has made it very clear that he doesnt want to hear all these visions, he doesn't want to hear that you had a dream at night, infact he lost his mind one day, flared up, high bp took in and was hospitalized cos of this before. But to my mum, its still manipulation on him from the village.

So, my mum has been disturbing my life ever since. I have said that I don't want to be part of all these spiritual stories. It was only bringing complications. This life is too short to be spending it with complications which, at the end of the day, even the devoted mfm memebers go through the same life challenges and misfortunes as an atheist. Unless we want to decieve ourselves, even if Nigerians pray and fast from now to the end of the year, misfortunes or rather challenges will still come, and good things will also come. Luck will always favour some, while some will have to grind much harder for what they want, whether religious or atheist. Change will not come from prayers alone. My mum is part of the people that attributed GEJ's tenure to spiritual issues, that all Nigerians need to come together to pray for GEJ. I have never seen when americans needed a change and rather than fighting for it, decided to pray. It doesnt make any sense. My mum has gotten to the extent of coming to wake me every night to pray, that she saw something in the spirit, that she saw vision, that the house is being spiritually attacked.

The only way I can really explain this is like to be forcing a christian to be moslem, making it a do or die affair, like a life ambition. It cannot happen. Everyday, no peace. I have said I will just pretend for the sake of peace, she doesnt even want me to rest even when I pretend. I will be starting service soon, but what about before then and when next we see.When we pray in the morning, its always drama, because my mum says I must bind different kinds of spirits in my life, that I am praying petty prayer not meant for us. The only passage in the bible she knows is "Since the days of John, the kingdom of God suffered violence and the violent take it by force", and the psalms for war prayer.. We dont talk about the new testament or Gospels. Even when I try to be on my own, my mum wakes me up at night to pray mfm fire prayer, with all the annoying spiritual talks during the day. The other day, she said I should carry my certificate to mfm to pray. I cant do that.. Its not my life. I dont even understand the mindset people use in doing all that, but, I can never confront someone on his choice of beliefs. I believe its personal and as far as you find peace in it, and you are not constituiting nuisance, thats what matters.

I really appreciate my mum, with what she has sacrificed for me. But the fanaticism is really irksome. She has made it unequivocally clear that she wont stop till she sees me grrounded in battleground prayers. Anytime, we are together, she can just flare up and start telling me about all the evil people our family is contending with. Infact it was so bad that we reall had a tough time when the son of my dad' sister, young in his early 20's, came to stay with us after his school, so as to kickstart his career and setup himself. It was war everyday, he was seen as devil sent. This guy was earning 30k/month when he first came, and was trying to be self sufficient to a good extent...Yet my mum said that he was their route to monitor us. Nothing he did was considered good and my mum was forcing me to comply with it. It got so bad that he initially use to buy little stuff like bread and groundnut, when he saw that we were throwing it away, he stopped. My mum accused him of not showing warm regards by buying little things(which she will still throw away). That he is very evil and all. I was really wondering how someone who has a life ahead of him will be having time for all those rubbish. She made sure he didnt have peace till he left. It was so bad that she will be praying midnight, the go to his door and be raining curses on him and his family. Whenever she told me to pray and I didnt curse him also, we always quarreled. I am really tired.

My dad traveled recently, so she sent one of the visioners from the church to come talk to me. I felt stupid. And I have made it clear that I don't want any of those rubbish. I found peace in my choice of religious life in 2013 and made a decision to do away with all these spiritual stories, yet my mum never stops saying that "I will pray to go to the village to possess my possession and inheritance"

Please, is someone also going through this, please advice a brother. I am getting sick of all these.

Pardon us, but have you ever heard of mental illnesses?
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by specimenC: 5:01pm On Apr 10, 2016
asalimpo:

is your sense of comparison working well at all? I condemned his mom's actions - but his religion (false)
is also an issue.
Grow up.

Is your sense of reasoning working well at all? Did u even digest the story before turning yourself into a prophet?
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by goodman31: 5:07pm On Apr 10, 2016
Please you need to encourage your mother to see psychiatry doctor. From all you've wrote down it seems she's suffering from a form psychiatry problem. She's virtually paranoid about everybody around her. If care is not taken she will also take you as an enemy especially if you're not doing what she wanted. This form of illness sometimes hide under religion and you may not know on time. I'm talking from medical point of view because I have managed patient who are like that. All the best. It's well.
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by jamesgudman: 5:27pm On Apr 10, 2016
bro ....its happens especially to Fearful Christians..... they anticipate evil before it comes.your mum didn't v d genuine belief in God and what is capable of doing.
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by GeneralTee: 5:39pm On Apr 10, 2016
Mctowel01

I feel for you BC this is really bad. But sharing this has encouraged me.

I'm married to a wife who also possesses this thing for MFM although not as pronounced as your mother's. Your story tells me one thing, to raise my children in the path of godliness.

Unfortunately somehow you didn't recognize the source of the problem. While your mother is far gone, the real problem is your father. Your Dad didn't offer a sound spiritual environment and made room to be filled with these garbages you describe. That is the trouble with Roman Catholicism. There is this liberality about them that leads ultimately to no religion.

I am Protestant in faith. Calvinists in doctrine and my profession of Cessationism makes no room for all these spiritual Churches.

There is a light for you though. Nysc. When you go for service, you must quickly find your feet. Also establish relation with your Dad and give your mother some space. When you are truly independent, you will be able to talk to her.

As for the state she is in, she's deceived. And thank God you do not agree with the madness.
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by StoneColdBiceps(m): 5:51pm On Apr 10, 2016
mctowel01:
This will be really long, but I beg you to try to read to the end. Its long cos I want you to really understand the situation. This is one of the deepest parts of my life I am about to share. I should have opened a new account for it, but, well, does it change anything. I have to be real here. By the way, this issue cuts across both religion and family.

I am having serious problem with my mother. When I say serious I mean where its come to a do or die affair. The thing is that I am the first son, so I get to be told from my mum about my destiny, how I was born, what I have to do and that evil people want to spoil my destiny. My problem is that my mum has been attending a spiritual church where they see visions. Sometimes the vision could be as vague as "There is something bad in front of you in the spirit, pray against it" to visions of the past like " You use to steal/lie...go and make amend with God before coming back". My problem with the place is that it kept messing with my mind, I didn't know myself cos I was dependent on what one visioner says about me, my mind was revolving around too many things which in most cases re bad things. You know when your conscience i not calm, you are fighting so many thoughts and questions. I cant really explain it but a lot was going on in my head.

My mum is the complete definition of a home-based fanatic(she doesnt go about evangelizing), but her case is so bad that she doesnt even have any friends, and she made sure we never had or played like we should when we were kids all because, she felt our neighbours are evil, the mother of my primary school friend who she has seen just once is evil, our landlord and his wife who even doent live with us are evil and into juju against us, the house they lived in just after marriage was filled with evil people who are plotting against us, all our housemaids are evil and the people who sent them are evil and using them to plot against us, our 2 drivers who use to pick us from school are evil,anybody she quarells with is evil, and finally, Yoruba people are evil while all calabar girls are demonic, infact this caused tension when she said I must not select cross-river for my nysc choice of state because calabar girls are evil. If you have noticed, I have not talked about her view on my fathers relations because it warrants that I talk extensively about ut

My father's immediate brother is evil, his wife is also evil, they are plotting evil against us. His last brother in the village is evil, infact all of his siblings in the village are evil, and they are trying to bring him down. His mother is a witch, his 2 sisters are also witches, so travelling has always been an unpleasant journey I ve never anticipated doing with my mum because it becomes awkward when you try not to eat the general food cooked by all the wives in the family compound, because they are all evil and wicked people or when my mum publicly sprinkles holy water around family members in the compound(family compound) whie binding demons there. It got really bad when she said that my dad's recently divorced junior sister is evil, that they are all conniving together and plotting against us. This is how she puts it "the other day ozy(my aunt) came and was looking at us, when she saw me she started smiling and looking around, looking for where to penetrate and attack from, she now said 'have my children eaten', so that she will know whether to feed them poison." Its really sad and anytime I do not agree with her, a serious quarell ensues. And am really trying to stay on my own. Did I even talk about our tenants?, when we became landlords, one was calabar, so she was always fighting with her, and obviously she was seen as evil to the extent that anytime she called any of us concerning maybe water or light, my mother would be nervous, trying to ask too many questions, from me, before raining curses on her. And it doesnt ened there, we ve been doing all manner of fasting and prayers concerning all these people that God should destroy them and all. We engage into serious aggressive prayers saying that the woman is planning something in her kitchen against us and all, so we should bind the juju. So my mum makes us do all those prayers, that God should destroy all these people with my dad's family members, but they are all alive, living their lives. To her, my father is not himself, he is just the effect of a manipulation from his family members and any good thing that my dad brings to the house(like new car or promotion etc) is as a result of her prayers, cos my father is not himself.

And I am tired, I am really tired, this is not my life, this is not the life I bargained for.This has been on ever since I had consciousness, about 20 years now and yet the same story. My biggest problem which I see is that the more you pray, and yet nothing happens, convinces her that much more prayer is needed and the people are really evil, so more prayer, and hence more prayer for really really evil people. This is going into an endless pointm like a closed curve where you think you ve gotten to the end, but you are still on the same path, but with stronger conviction that you are dealind with something really deadly.

This is where my dad comes to the whole scenario. We are foundationally Catholics, but when I was young my dad, who is catholic before anything else, missed mass on sundays cos of work so was never really spiritual. My dad and mum are complete opposistes in this religion thing. He is not atheist, but he tends to dwell on scientific and logical paths before anything else. Let me say, he is just a simple christian and yess, he has very strong moral nd ethical values. He has never even prayed with us(family prayer). So with my parents being opposite, I guess that's why I wasnt fully indoctrinated doubtlessly into any path, as my mum was a fake catholic then who just went cos of marriage and for sunday ceremony and even held the chapel(spiritual visions church) in higher regard. So it took me a while(2013)to define and decide my stand, where I feel comfortable, and my conscience was at peace. I was one atheist, tho for a short period, but now, I consider myself catholic, tho not a strong one, cos I am not a full believer in all of catholic doctrines. I just can't be part of the Nigerian Pentecostal movement.

Since I have known my parents, they have always quarreled, which I know to be common in many marriages. So I don't know what happened first; whether its the visions given to her that came before the arguments started or the arguments led her to go deep in those vision thing and fully dwelling and basing life on it. My dad has made it very clear that he doesnt want to hear all these visions, he doesn't want to hear that you had a dream at night, infact he lost his mind one day, flared up, high bp took in and was hospitalized cos of this before. But to my mum, its still manipulation on him from the village.

So, my mum has been disturbing my life ever since. I have said that I don't want to be part of all these spiritual stories. It was only bringing complications. This life is too short to be spending it with complications which, at the end of the day, even the devoted mfm memebers go through the same life challenges and misfortunes as an atheist. Unless we want to decieve ourselves, even if Nigerians pray and fast from now to the end of the year, misfortunes or rather challenges will still come, and good things will also come. Luck will always favour some, while some will have to grind much harder for what they want, whether religious or atheist. Change will not come from prayers alone. My mum is part of the people that attributed GEJ's tenure to spiritual issues, that all Nigerians need to come together to pray for GEJ. I have never seen when americans needed a change and rather than fighting for it, decided to pray. It doesnt make any sense. My mum has gotten to the extent of coming to wake me every night to pray, that she saw something in the spirit, that she saw vision, that the house is being spiritually attacked.

The only way I can really explain this is like to be forcing a christian to be moslem, making it a do or die affair, like a life ambition. It cannot happen. Everyday, no peace. I have said I will just pretend for the sake of peace, she doesnt even want me to rest even when I pretend. I will be starting service soon, but what about before then and when next we see.When we pray in the morning, its always drama, because my mum says I must bind different kinds of spirits in my life, that I am praying petty prayer not meant for us. The only passage in the bible she knows is "Since the days of John, the kingdom of God suffered violence and the violent take it by force", and the psalms for war prayer.. We dont talk about the new testament or Gospels. Even when I try to be on my own, my mum wakes me up at night to pray mfm fire prayer, with all the annoying spiritual talks during the day. The other day, she said I should carry my certificate to mfm to pray. I cant do that.. Its not my life. I dont even understand the mindset people use in doing all that, but, I can never confront someone on his choice of beliefs. I believe its personal and as far as you find peace in it, and you are not constituiting nuisance, thats what matters.

I really appreciate my mum, with what she has sacrificed for me. But the fanaticism is really irksome. She has made it unequivocally clear that she wont stop till she sees me grrounded in battleground prayers. Anytime, we are together, she can just flare up and start telling me about all the evil people our family is contending with. Infact it was so bad that we reall had a tough time when the son of my dad' sister, young in his early 20's, came to stay with us after his school, so as to kickstart his career and setup himself. It was war everyday, he was seen as devil sent. This guy was earning 30k/month when he first came, and was trying to be self sufficient to a good extent...Yet my mum said that he was their route to monitor us. Nothing he did was considered good and my mum was forcing me to comply with it. It got so bad that he initially use to buy little stuff like bread and groundnut, when he saw that we were throwing it away, he stopped. My mum accused him of not showing warm regards by buying little things(which she will still throw away). That he is very evil and all. I was really wondering how someone who has a life ahead of him will be having time for all those rubbish. She made sure he didnt have peace till he left. It was so bad that she will be praying midnight, the go to his door and be raining curses on him and his family. Whenever she told me to pray and I didnt curse him also, we always quarreled. I am really tired.

My dad traveled recently, so she sent one of the visioners from the church to come talk to me. I felt stupid. And I have made it clear that I don't want any of those rubbish. I found peace in my choice of religious life in 2013 and made a decision to do away with all these spiritual stories, yet my mum never stops saying that "I will pray to go to the village to possess my possession and inheritance"

Please, is someone also going through this, please advice a brother. I am getting sick of all these.

OP, i wont say ur mum is schizophrenia but i'll leave it like that. if ur d only child, then ur mum s over protective. Do not cause problem for her. Dnt let ur action give her HBP as well. Its ur time to protect nd come to her aid. Pray for her. Preach to her instead, if ur deep in the bible. Dnt underestimate d power of a true penticostal churches like MFM nd some Redeem churches. Tleast im not a member but i attend sum of their programs. Help ur mum befor u loose her...
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by ndcide(m): 6:00pm On Apr 10, 2016
If this story is true, then the @op, himself has a big problem.

Is @op, truly born again, living a victorious Christian life by the word of God?

I'm not supporting anyone from your story, because I'm not really interested in the picture of your mom you just painted. If it's true, you may not be able to do much about it. In fact, it is twisted. Yes it is. But what is obvious in your story is your weak christian life, both in word, prayer and power.

In fact you can easily dump your faith as it stands, that's why I asked that first question in this post.

You need to be born again, associate with Word and worded christians, determine to live a victorious Christian life, not a nominal church person... Sorry I'm not into bandwagon effect that's why I'm saying this.

Your weakness is just too obvious. People who are not deep can't see it. This has nothing to do with visions, binding and casting. If this is you, don't make the devil happy. You should be a light I your home, a pace setter and a trail blazer.... At the level of this story... I laugh... because something is wrong.

When children of native doctors and spiritualist are shining out, braking grounds and influencing and taking over by the power of God through the Holy Spirit,.... and we have this?

I'm sorry I can't give you a validation. There's a hole in your story.
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by ndcide(m): 6:11pm On Apr 10, 2016
DIVFAVOR:
I think am standing alone here, @OP look at the way u hv come out to paint your mum black and people are so happy to call her all sorts of names... well my grand mum will always say " nobody can judge against his/herself. Can we pls take a pulse.... if only OP's mum is here to say her own side of the story. My joy is that OP didn't criticize the prayer house or call them names. That means there are more to it.....
I pray for peace in your house... for your mum, she is only doing wat she feels is the best for the family... let's be careful with our words please.
Happy Mother's day to all mothers in d house.....

I true spirit filled person can see through his post. I already told him. That's If this story is not one of those funny stories that have a manipulative mind control objective, that's being unleashed.

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Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by lionphil(m): 6:24pm On Apr 10, 2016
Jollymich:
The mother is the real witch and witches do not deserve pity if you pity them they will bring bad luck so let her down after all your father bring the money she only annex it that women selfish nature my wife has freedom over everything around my but there are times and limitations i put i place to supervice her excesses and omissions she wouldn't want me to raise eyebolw or fronw i thank God she is responding to my condition. As in if you do peace on right platform you will enjoy freedom of peace as long as you are good once you mess up I loose my flippancy and she hates it i supports her very as in making monetary provions and some domestic chores calling water tanker to fill overground tank and and buy fuel for daily use but cannot tolerate her painting finger nails when she's suppose make meal for the family and my precious koko mama lol and my mum is now good Because new sheriff is in town and no bail out.


Bros...no comma no full stop? You wan scatter my head?
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by asalimpo(m): 7:37pm On Apr 10, 2016
specimenC:


Is your sense of reasoning working well at all? Did u even digest the story before turning yourself into a prophet?
Yes it is. And i stated the condition he was in as terrible if he remained in the apostasy- which is catholicism.
Or are you a fellow deluded catholic?
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by asalimpo(m): 7:42pm On Apr 10, 2016
Emyben:


You deserve to be insulted but there aint no need for it now.
Mctowel01 said he is a Catholic now which means that he is a Christian and you still open your gutter of a mouth to say that hr should move closer to God from Idols.

Did you hear him say that he is an idolater? or you are among those set of fanatics that believes their own sect of a religion is better? You are not different from the Mother who has been forcing him up and hating on others.

lastly, stop hating the Catholic Church and stop being a Judge. Christ condemned it. Its so evident in you.
You are right Christ condemned the idol-kissing apostasy called catholicism.
Where a mere piss-passing , jerk-off of a man who needs forgiveness is who you extol as God on earth!
Catholicism dragged all the pagan apostasy of the heathen world and christianized it and you say it is christian? You need help.

Thru its pagan doctrine of purgatory , it sends more people to hell.
I shouldnt judge - your head correct so.
Maybe you are one of those modern day idol worshipping brainwashed masses in its grip.
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by specimenC: 7:46pm On Apr 10, 2016
asalimpo:

Yes it is. And i stated the condition he was in as terrible if he remained in the apostasy- which is catholicism.
Or are you a fellow deluded catholic?

Who are you decide who is deluded. Or the church which brought christianity to your door step is in delusion?? Just before u come telling me catholics don't go with the bible teachings, remember they compiled the bible and brought it to your door step too.
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by andyanders: 8:02pm On Apr 10, 2016
kevoh:


Your mum's case is irredeemable and tending towards disguised form of insanity. Her brand of religion has made her ANTI-SOCIAL.

As for you, she still has some control over you probably because you are somewhat dependent on her for a few financial aid else I don't see any reason why you should be bothered and not be able to tell her off when she comes with all those advices, visions and prayers filled with hatred against other people.

Till you have your own appartment and start being independent, I doubt there will be much you can do to curb your mum's actions (I stand corrected) meanwhile I advise you focus more on your Dad's health. Getting HBP over issues like this is not worth it.

Well said. His mum is already high on spiritual weed and nothing can let her see any reason to get out from the level she is now.

I pray to God to change her because it is not the spirit of God leading her but that of the demon. A true spirit of God wouldn't ask you to hate your neighbor or even your enemies, rather to pray for them to change.

Op, pray for her to change and never hate her, rather keep talking to her to see reasons of her negative view of other people.
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by dolapo74: 8:13pm On Apr 10, 2016
Is like your mother has paranonia-believing everyone is agianst you or she has encounter things terrible in her life that has changed her mindset
Since you are now mature,I will like you to see her as your yoke that you have to carry and not see those things as awkward
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by asalimpo(m): 8:18pm On Apr 10, 2016
specimenC:


Who are you decide who is deluded. Or the church which brought christianity to your door step is in delusion?? Just before u come telling me catholics don't go with the bible teachings, remember they compiled the bible and brought it to your door step too.
Only atheists shoot this kind of questions. The bible is the authority on these issues. The catholic church was the reason for the protestation of Martin Luther. They were/are/and will forever be a religious cabal.

They got rich selling indulgences and enslaving the poor by engendering illiteracy,fear and confusion among them.
Catholicism isnt Christianity.
It's a pseudo religion with pagan and occultic practices. You would do well to alert anybody in that false system to come out of it.
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by specimenC: 8:22pm On Apr 10, 2016
asalimpo:

Only atheists shoot this kind of questions. The bible is the authority on these issues. The catholic church was the reason for the protestation of Martin Luther. They were/are/and will forever be a religious cabal.

They got rich selling indulgences and enslaving the poor by engendering illiteracy,fear and confusion among them.
Catholicism isnt Christianity.
It's a pseudo religion with pagan and occultic practices. You would do well to alert anybody in that false system to come out of it.

What are you exactly? Jahova witness?
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by Gmekx(m): 8:23pm On Apr 10, 2016
mctowel01:
This will be really long, but I beg you to try to read to the end. Its long cos I want you to really understand the situation. This is one of the deepest parts of my life I am about to share. I should have opened a new account for it, but, well, does it change anything. I have to be real here. By the way, this issue cuts across both religion and family. am getting sick of all these.


I know you must have gotten lots of advice but just try and look for this Pastor and talk to him on Facebook. Pastor Anyi Obi
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by asalimpo(m): 8:27pm On Apr 10, 2016
specimenC:


What are you exactly? Jahova witness?
Na. Do they expose catholics too?
That's anoda pseudo-christian cult group on its own.....
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by specimenC: 8:35pm On Apr 10, 2016
asalimpo:

Na. Do they expose catholics too?
That's anoda pseudo-christian cult group on its own.....
Then what are you? undecided
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by asalimpo(m): 8:41pm On Apr 10, 2016
specimenC:

Then what are you? undecided
who are u to ask me who i am - are u catholic?

update:
Your head no correct - you are using "what" on me.
Re: Religion Is Causing Tension Between Me And My Mum! Please Advice Me by specimenC: 9:09pm On Apr 10, 2016
asalimpo:

who are u to ask me who i am - are u catholic?

update:
Your head no correct - you are using "what" on me.

What shld I use, who? ,who 'who' don epp?...don't answer my que with que? For the last time who u b?

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