Nixiepie:
Had this argument with my dad,and he said is a taboo for him to live in a house built by his wife,so I really want to find out why this decision of a woman to build a house is a crime against humanity............ Plz I need more opinions thanks

Yes I can, only if that wife is you.

tranxo:
Yes I can, only if that wife is you.

Nixiepie:

Ndo

Nixiepie:

What's your favourite handkerchief colour?

tranxo:
What's your favourite handkerchief colour?

how do u mean sir?

In my humble op,i dn't see anything wrong with that as far as she is humble,God fearing and submissive in everything irrespective of her position

Memejem:
Nigerian men and thier wahala. If a woman doesn't build house she must hear him say "under my roof" "in my house" "I built this with my hard earned money" "you didn't contribute to this"

The woman goes and builds house, some will now say she is an enemy of progress against tradition. If she built it why must the house be in his name? Una never happy. If your wife builds a house it's "our house". But if man builds house its "his" house abi?

Marriage includes both parities. I don't see it as a bad thing. But only a cultured and educated Nigerian man will accept it. If a wife builds a house it's "thier" house. If husband builds a house it's "thier" house. Simple.

House building doesn't take away respect, or submission. That character. Nothing to do with structure.

But don't you think it's emasculating to the man? Men are driven by pride in their achievements and if he can't be the leader and the provider, that shatters his ego (depending on the guy of course) which is what drives a lot of man.

On the flip side of it, a lot of women are raised and comditioned to to see the man as the one who provides shelter so if the man can't and the woman steps into that role (uncharted territory). That might tip the dynamics of the relationship. The woman might look at him differently and even if she wants to respect him it might be very difficult for her to do so.

At the end of the day, what you have is a role reversal in a relationship which might tilt the balance of the relationship. Any way it's my suggestion, feel free to disagree.

tpiah01:


Shut up.

If you like, dont go and find husband, be wasting your time opening senseless threads.

Dey do face like bleaching cream.

What's with the personal attack on her?

adioolayi:
Can you eat food prepared by your wife

Silly question!

First of all, you made a wrong analogy. Learn to make suitable comparisons next time.

Secondly, it's a valid question depending on the kind of person you are married to. Some women might find it really hard to respect there husband's if they are the ones who provide shelter in the family cos it changes the dynamics of the relationship.

Since all woman are different from each other, that makes this question a tough one.

GreatEngineer:
As a smart guy, I will sell the house and add small money to build a better house for us. Will never live in a house build by my wife cos of many reasons.

You will sell your wife's house that she laboured to build? You seriously think anyone would watch you do that?
Why not just work towards building your own house while living in your wife's house?
If you insist on not moving to her house, and would rather your family continues to stay in a rented apartment, that's equally OK. If your wife is smart, she'll rent out her house, and gradually use the proceeds to build another house/flats to be rented out.
You can equally continue struggling to pay the rent of where you live and trying to build your own house at the same time.
Your wife, your family, your call...

This discussion ended months ago.

Anyways, in response to your comment, I don't believe masculinity has anything to do with how others perceive you, but rather how you perceive yourself. It's a socially construed sentiment. If a man is emasculated because his wife has enough funds to build a house and he doesn't then in honesty I feel he isn't matured. This isn't the 1940s, this is 2016. The traditional role of a woman as a housewife is slowly becoming eradicated. Women are educated and make their own money now. The man is not the only provider. women are providers too.

Culture and traditions change and is created by the people. We create culture, not the other way around.

I can only speak for myself, I have a full time job so I don't see why I will not contribute to the family funds when I get married. It's not for my husband to carry the burden alone, marriage is a partnership.

At the end of the day everybody should marry someone who shares the same ideals as them. It's not by force.

davidif:


But don't you think it's emasculating to the man? Men are driven by pride in their achievements and if he can't be the leader and the provider, that shatters his ego (depending on the guy of course) which is what drives a lot of man.

On the flip side of it, a lot of women are raised and comditioned to to see the man as the one who provides shelter so if the man can't and the woman steps into that role (uncharted territory). That might tip the dynamics of the relationship. The woman might look at him differently and even if she wants to respect him it might be very difficult for her to do so.

At the end of the day, what you have is a role reversal in a relationship which might tilt the balance of the relationship. Any way it's my suggestion, feel free to disagree.

I can only take married folks of 3 yearsl with children serious about this matter

I can't.
Can Buhaari live in Aaishaa's other room?

Izen:

my dear if i were you, i will make sure i didnt marry any man in this life. The reason is simple. No man will like to live with a woman that exhibits this pedegree of intelligent in his house. Believe me if many women should think like you, many marriages would have failed. Infact there wouldnt be any marriage atall.

@Nixipie,

I can leave in the house built by my wife comfortably. The house we were leaving before God blessed my family with our own house was actually rented by my wife and i was very happy to live there.

GOFON:
@Nixipie,

I can leave in the house built by my wife comfortably. The house we were leaving before God blessed my family with our own house was actually rented by my wife and i was very happy to live there.

nice one sir

Funnyguy83:
my dear if i were you, i will make sure i didnt marry any man in this life. The reason is simple. No man will like to live with a woman that exhibits this pedegree of intelligent in his house. Believe me if many women should think like you, many marriages would have failed. Infact there wouldnt be any marriage atall.

Lol, so I should reduce my intelligence to sooth a man's ego? He'll have to take that up with God who created me o.

Izen:


Lol, so I should reduce my intelligence to sooth a man's ego? He'll have to take that up with God who created me o.

No probs.

Of course I can. What's wrong with that? Unless of course she becomes a nightmare.

grandlexuz:
My father did an elaborate foundation on our family house. The piece of land was bought with money belonging to my late brother. The building was raised by mum and occasionally by my dad. My mum now claims full ownership of the house. Recently my dad did keep some of his stuffs in a spare uncompleted bathroom of the house. My mum asked him to remove them and when he refused...hmmmmm. My mum and younger brother got up at 4am and removed the things. When my dad tried to protest he was vandalised. I have seen enough to live in house built by a woman. Not even if that woman was half angel, half human...

Hmm. This is serious