bukatyne:


Just 20 and you are this certain on what you want?

You deserve a hug girl!

Many will tell you that how will you know...

Well, let me tell you a secret... Just as you have been trained to keep yourself, there are guys equally brought up that way and you will know them by their values

Did I hear people say 'how will he be good in bed?' Smiles... there is nothing like learning how to pleasure one another in the sanctity of marriage. Every 'stud' was once a virgin and there is no better place to experiment than in marriage. Infact, when you both are novices, there is no shame and no need explaining why you are good in Mouth Gig or licking plate.

Don't let people discourage you... Good 'inexperienced men aka non-studs' still exist plenty plenty.

I know because I got married to one.

The bold would be one of those things i would not let slip.
You are rare gem and a blessing this day.
Thank you for your support ma
I wish you more bliss in your marriage!

Maybe op is ugly

Stupedinluv:
The bold would be one of those things i would not let slip.
You are rare gem and a blessing this day.
Thank you for your support ma
I wish you more bliss in your marriage!

Amen dear and I wish you all the best.

Am all for this write up say no to studs and reduce d population of sluts

funmind:

I don't think so!

o yes she's easily influenced cos she was not born with this mindset nor did she inherit it from anybody...it's cosa what they told her or what she read or something.

Stupedinluv:
I feel encouraged. Thnk you!

Yes i mind! lol

Good.

One more thing, resolves are always tested. Whenever it comes, please always remember that some persons believed in you and your resolve; and he told you so. If i see you offline I will tell you same .I believe you and I know you'll stand out by God's grace. I can never let someone who wants to stand fall when others want to fall or are falling... For the relationship equation, God almighty will match you correctly with the deserved best. In Jesus name.

Stupedinluv:


Personal happiness in quotes o because what people call happiness today is just temporary joy.

To be completely happy or happy on the long run you must think through so many things.

Chai, see brain freeze

Stupedinluv:
Well you are redefining what they society has made everyone believe. People dont just do things because it makes them "happy" there are so many factors they consider too.

Ntwithstanding, thanks for contributing still doesnt stop me from staying away from them cos my life is bigger than "personal happiness"

Over sabi dey worry her !

The OP gotta wait for ''Jesus'' Himself... 95% of dudes have slept with several women.. How can yu tell if a man has slept with several women?? By checking for ''Dicck Marks'' or ''Punnany logos'' or what??....

Pray God gives yu a Loving Man...

firstking01:
Btw, how would you know a man who has slept with several women??

Are you having issues with Google??

She will use stud and hoe detector nah

Google it but don't tell me the reply you got from Google

SHIKENA!


Small pikin sense dey worry the op

[quote author=Mynd44 post=44283436]*sighs* someone else falls to societal pressure.

Before you turn on me, societal pressure happens if pressure fromthe society makes you take actions/decision solely based on the overwhelming influence of your society.

A man who has slept with a lot of people (male or female) is not a stud, he is merely a man with a colorful sex life.

A woman who has had (or has) a lot of people(male or female) she sleeps with is not a slut, she is simply living out her sexuality.

If you allow society corner you into taking a myopic decision, you are not doing me or society, you are doing yourself

If you find a man that you like and likes you but has a "colorful" past, it is not a big deal as long as he is willing to be faithful and understand that he is with you now.

The same way if a man finds a woman with an active sexual past(or present sef) she is not a slut.

As ling as you are happy, stay happy with the person you find happiness with. Dont allow the bullcrap society says get to you.
Mah your daughters live out this sexuality with men of colorful sex life amen spill ur Seed everywer brother ani

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Cpme and marry me am still a secondary virgin

Alot of folks on this thread be justifying fornication stylishly.........
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firstEVA:
Op you want to be the one to teach him how to do?


To me studs are are just studs, they should be allowed to serve their purpose then move onto the next.

They are just date or boyfriend material, definitely not husband material, marry him at your own peril.

You date the stud, then marry the good guy, simple.

Women love bad boys but want good husbands. Women! Smh.

GoodBoi1:
At least we have a thinking lady who is not swayed by societal norms on NL. @OP don't be discouraged by the negative comments. You know what you want and your going for it, that's good. Just believe in yourself, you wouldn't want to spend your life in regret, realizing you were right the whole time. They probably want you to make their mistakes

you will not lament, you will make impact,.....where is this interpreter, i ve always thought i'm odd and the only with this Godly mindset, Op just given me a hope to move on.

You said at 20 right? Life is in stages. You're still learning theories of life. It practicality will surely change your sense of reasoning. My patients for reading your epistle is placed on your good but simple writing skill.

stupedinluv your view isn't a bad one. We find ourselves in the part of the world where there is gender bias.

Mynd44:
*sighs* someone else falls to societal pressure.

Before you turn on me, societal pressure happens if pressure fromthe society makes you take actions/decision solely based on the overwhelming influence of your society.

A man who has slept with a lot of people (male or female) is not a stud, he is merely a man with a colorful sex life.

A woman who has had (or has) a lot of people(male or female) she sleeps with is not a slut, she is simply living out her sexuality.

If you allow society corner you into taking a myopic decision, you are not doing me or society, you are doing yourself

If you find a man that you like and likes you but has a "colorful" past, it is not a big deal as long as he is willing to be faithful and understand that he is with you now.

The same way if a man finds a woman with an active sexual past(or present sef) she is not a slut.

As ling as you are happy, stay happy with the person you find happiness with. Dont allow the bullcrap society says get to you.


*goes back to sipping Lipton*

The most sensible comment so far.

Ur just 20yrs as u said.... U Neva experience anything... Keep calm

Dlionsheart:


Are you having issues with Google??

She will use stud and hoe detector nah

Google it but don't tell me the reply you got from Google

SHIKENA!


Small pikin sense dey worry the op

You re dope! i ve being look for the right ans, thanks

989900:
By the time you are 30, you will know better -- scratch that, by the time you are 27.

lol

Creamish:


Abeg swerve wit ur shallow mind. Wat has Lesbianism got to do wit my post??

God bless you!

[quote author=Stupedinluv post=44283131]At 20, i have come to realise the joy and fulfilment in living life to the fullest. Coming from a noble home, i was not raised to be a man's stooge not to talk of an animal's. My worth was defined from the day i stepped into earth and has been shapened overtime. I was taught the right and the wrong. And that moral laws condone no breaker. If a woman must be condemned and despised for a crime, a man must by all means face the same. I believed this and i knew before God and men it was the truth. I didnt just believe, it became real to me and has influenced my judgement.

However, the society has flung half of this truth and has held on to a part because of how drunk in power it has become and the advantage this fist had fetched it.

We are aware now of this evil conditioning that a woman who sleeps around is a slut and should be desired less but a man who does same a stud and should be the craving of every woman. Many men have quietly nodded in agreement and a few mouthy ones have not failed to vocalise their agreement. And women? So many to the shame of dignity and womanhood have sang along with the men. And you wonder which would sacrifice her pride to make a stud!?

Because to make more studs we need more sluts. Can any of you women come out and offer yourself to a man who would dump you for another. If you cannot hold your peace and stupidity!

A stud is a man who is sexually attractive to so many women. So they say! but i see a stud as an animal who is unable to control its sexual desires, hates monogamous relationships and (therefore) deserves to be judged and condemned.


Women who say they are attracted to studs and hate inexperienced men need not only their heads examined but their consciences and should not take offence when they are called sluts. Cos only a slut or zombie would reason this way.


A stud has nothing tangible to offer except to toy with my emotion, cause me heart breaks and render me unproductive.

For every stud out there there are ten whores rendering my gender useless and subjecting me to prove myself as a woman of pride and esteem all the time. Nothanks.


Simply put u will have nothing of a man who has slept with more women than you have of men. Am I right?
Then go and look for ur choice man in primary 6 class of the LGA school in ur village Chikena. Good luck and safe journey .

after reading, dbanj's emergency hook started playing*** panpa robo... stupedinluv is still sitting down on a very long thing! i lyk dat

firstking01:
o yes she's easily influenced cos she was not born with this mindset nor did she inherit it from anybody...it's cosa what they told her or what she read or something.

No you re wrong,she wouldn't av been able to defended it.

madam no be jst u like btr thing. several other women wished to toe the line your professing, but nature made them change their stance. this is a man's world WHETHER U LIKE IT OR NOOOOOOOTTTTTTTTT!! IF u wna ruin ur life. toe this way of urs u go hear am self. u women are even burden to men . i pray u dnt end up @ shilo

Ioannes:


I'm sure you know some frogs have poisonous glands on their bodies.

Of course, just like some babes too

Stupedinluv:
Well you are redefining what they society has made everyone believe. People dont just do things because it makes them "happy" there are so many factors they consider too.

Ntwithstanding, thanks for contributing still doesnt stop me from staying away from them cos my life is bigger than "personal happiness"

I wonder ur definition of "personal happiness" and its non-relational values to societal norms. We live in a society where a good majority of ladies want to be hooked up in a serious affair or more. U can't be happy if this societal value isn't satisfied I guess it's ur same type that do say." Quit waiting for a Mr right and just grab a Mr left over to the right" (societal value in times of frustrated options) . u will get a Mr right this I pray but be watchful of Lion in Sheeps clothing...
*goes back to sipping garri*

Op, the tone of your message reverberates hate. Calm down

firstEVA:
Op you want to be the one to teach him how to do?


To me studs are are just studs, they should be allowed to serve their purpose then move onto the next.

They are just date or boyfriend material, definitely not husband material, marry him at your own peril.

You date the stud, then marry the good guy, simple.

if actually you are a woman,then am greatly disappointed in you for this use.less comment