delishpot:


Abi, since she wants to die on top his matter. She should sidon there and live like a slave without her own desires. She was born a woman to live like a mans dog.
So.e women deserve double beating. Why on earth should a normal person want to work things out with someone who physically abuses her? Once a beater always a beater. Na only God fit turn a beater around.

ify84:
Yes, she can.... By sitting round a table, ask him his does and don't.... Then, (carrying ur cross) u the woman live according to how he wants it....

Even wen u don't like his law, u close eyes, adjust

ladyF:
Most woman beaters DO NOT change, their wives know this. Let's call a spade a spade. Since the women have decided to be punching bags, make dem carry their cross. When they tell them leave before he kills you, they will use the children as an excuse. Make them enjoy the blows and kicks abeg

At the end of the day, you can only work things out with someone that is willing to change.

It's [size=15pt]LadyF[/size] again

bukatyne:
I totally agree

That's why I asked if it was physical abuse or fight.

byvan03:
My sister some women are plain terrible. What do you expect a man being locked by the collar to do? If I am a man, I won't promise not knocking out a teeth or two. Even as a woman,i will try to see what I can do. You know once a woman is hit, most will claim abuse and not fighting. Yes ,how one time is handled will go a long way to decide what happens next.

I won't preach divorce or separation on a one time thing but I will advise it is appropriately handled to avoid re occurrence.

cococandy:
OP Why use Will smith as example? Did he tell you he used to beat his wife?
Rocky marriage or relationship doesn't mean it involved abuse.
No long term couple can say there haven't been rocky patches in their journey. That's life.

Abuse is a different kettle of fish altogether.

ify84:


We are looking at scenario where sacrifices must be made to keep d marriage

byvan03:



My sister some women are plain terrible. What do you expect a man being locked by the collar to do? If I am a man, I won't promise not knocking out a teeth or two. Even as a woman,i will try to see what I can do. You know once a woman is hit, most will claim abuse and not fighting. Yes ,how one time is handled will go a long way to decide what happens next.

I won't preach divorce or separation on a one time thing but I will advise it is appropriately handled to avoid re occurrence.

eyinjuege:


Some sacrifices are too great to make. At the end, its usually not worth it.

People seem to be fixated about this marriage issues though. I think any toxic relationship should be made away with and this isn't just about physical abuse. It cuts across both genders btw.

ify84:


We are looking at scenario where sacrifices must be made to keep d marriage

Lexusgs430:
Only if the physical abuse fully STOPS from point of resolution.
But if the abuse is a revolving chain, best to run before departure to the blue sky occurs!!!!!

lanxlot:
throw what away It is for better for worse. Do all the throwing away while searching for ur spouse...but once married, its for better for worse. Ain't u a Christian?

Mindfulness:


This is barbaric Byvan.

raumdeuter:


There is a difference between real life and the facade everyone puts up here. Ask people who have been married for upwards of 30yrs whether at no point in time was there a physical altercation, appearance/suspicion of infidelity, exchange of caustic words in the entire 30yrs

Its only internet gangsters and fake people who would claim they would walk at every first instance.

If you ask the men they say all Nigerian girls are rude, loose, gold diggers etc ask them if your wife is one they say No, Ask if their sister is one they say No

Same thing ask the women they say all Naija men are abusers, unromantic, bullies, ask if their husband is one they'll say No, ask if their brother is, they'll say No,

So these terrible Naija men and women who are they married to? who are their sisters etc

Everyone in public eye has a perfect marriage, wait until you see what they are enduring in their house. Dont be surprised if Obama, has chopped slaps in his bedroom at least once before coming out to say "My fellow Americans"

One wise man who called marriage a competition of who forgives the other most knows what he was saying

Caveat: If there is a threat to your life in any relationship flee

blueeyes1:
Bless you bro,but the abuse never stops,resolution or not.
It's like an addiction,what am I saying,IT IS AN ADDICTION.