Medley:


kk. Good to know and i feel relieved. I'm being careful not to be pioneering the wrong ideas we are being fed with this time in age, it portends seeing women to always be for sex.

Yes you are right

ACURATE TALK

MarieSucre:
trash

trash? Like, bin trash? Or is it the style of writing or the points raised, do you have the luxury of time to elucidiate?

Medley:
If you don't seek the consent of anyone before trying to sleep with him/her you may find yourself battling a case of sexual assault when this was done unconsciously - one of you was not consenting. Or you may even be embarrassed if he/she is still weighing options or path to be taking in the relationship.

Relying on signs has been major reason why rape cases are growing by the day.

Not only consent. Maybe na agreement we go dey sign soon.

And a point of correction: rape cases are not growing by the day.

Medley:


why are you generalizing? Are you trying to tell me that you've not met a Nigerian lady that will tell you what she wants and how she want whatever in a relationship?

NO I haven't coz I av only loved one lady who is not a feminist and does not act like a man in a relationship.

It seems some strange laws caught up with Op after reading his signs wrongly now he preaching against dah.

Op, tell us d story jor! How many years did u do?


Cos u just typed some heavy beating induced trepidation.


The best book to reading a woman's mind, is tru her signals n body language whether u r a husby or bf! U have to learn n perfect the skills because even after giving off d signal, u still have to apply wisdom on How best to narrow in

To fail in this is to constantly have rolls wit her.

Op, How do we know what they r saying when their No cud mean Yes but u have to try harder?

Their Yes cud mean Maybe n their maybe cud mean No?
How do u deal in dis illogical lane? Huh?

thesicilian:
Signs can be very misleading. Its better to be called a ''Jew'' or ''mugu'' than to betray someone's trust, or worse still, battle cases of sexual assault.
Even consent itself is not a guarantee, not to talk of going without it. A lady who has given you consent may turn round days, weeks or even years later and say she was forced.

Boss so which do we believe?
Maybe angels sent by God will speak to us before we move.
#moreconfusedafterthetrash

lexy070:
1. Why be say na when rain dey fall u call... Weather for 2.
2. Why be say u wan high for guy house, afta dey go talk say na rape... Bar dey dere ooo.
3. If dey guy wan do am, he sabi arrange 4 space wit hin guys.
4. Hmmm, dat 1 pass my power ooo...
5. Pls wear moderate cloths, don't let junior stand at attention ooo.

Number 1 is utmost rubbish. So if a guy comes to my house whether it is christian brother or course mate, I should just prepare to sex him.

Number 2 is another balderdash. Except you're saying no girl should trust any guy at all, including you. And you're proud that men have such bad image as to be untrustworthy.

Number 3 I don't understand what you mean here.

Number 4 you did not explain.

Number 5 is quite reasonable. Especially for the woman. I believe in dressing for comfort. But who is to say what will make junior stand attention. Should I now wear niqab because junior will fly into a tantrum? Would it not be better to completely avoid such an irresponsible fellow who can't put his junior under control?

Medley:


trash? Like, bin trash? Or is it the style of writing or the points raised, do you have the luxury of time to elucidiate?

I have edited it. Sorry about the misconception. pls recheck.

It is obvious the Op is looking for validation of women, whereas you and I and the Op and the women know that, if you don't wanna have sex, show no signs.

Op is a twisted fellow. Telling guys to ask for consent when we all know naija galz are not verbal with sex request, they only show signs.

Vinshu:


I understand that ladies you have encountered have treated you in an unfair manner in regard to your finances

Sorry.

sorry sey wetin?
The last lady (Anita) that tried that rubbish with me was crush by a tipper a week to her wedding...me I no be Ajebutter, I be real omo Alfa with swaggz. No babe will ever cheat me and get away with it...éwö!!

MarieSucre:


Number 1 is utmost rubbish. So if a guy comes to my house whether it is christian brother or course mate, I should just prepare to sex him.

Number 2 is another balderdash. Except you're saying no girl should trust any guy at all, including you. And you're proud that men have such bad image as to be untrustworthy.

1 got no ish.....

But I got a Q bout two for u: what is major reason that makes ladies down booze? LAdies that otherwise wud do koke?

HARDDON:


1 got no ish.....

But I got a Q bout two for u: what is major reason that makes ladies down booze? LAdies that otherwise wud do koke?

The same reason men take down booze. Coz its liquid happiness.

Now I want yo add and its very important to note that a lot women who take coke might do so because they don't trust the company of the men they're hanging with. And alcohol impairs a persons judgement.
What is totally disgusting about this is how our society normalizes such a situation and even lauds it. If a woman says you're an untrustworthy fellow to be around. Is that a compliment? Is that supposed to be a good thing?

The same reason men take down booze. Coz its liquid happiness.

Now I want yo add and its very important to note that a lot women who take coke might do so because they don't trust the company of the men they're hanging with. And alcohol impairs a persons judgement.
What is totally disgusting about this is how our society normalizes such a situation and even lauds it. If a woman says you're an untrustworthy fellow to be around

Of someone tells a man, "I can't keep this money around you. You might want to steal it one day". Will the man say "its true o, don't try it out. You know we men, we think with our hands not our brains". "Once I'm stealing even my brain cannot force me to stop". Then when they catch him and they've beaten him bloody and put tire around his neck and ate about to burn him to death_ he will now be shouting to the crowd "HE SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER THAN TO KEEP THE MONEY NEAR ME!! WHY DIDN'T HE SHOW ME SIGN THAT HE DID NOT WANT ME TAKE THE MONEY!! IF I HAD TOLD MY FRIENDS I DIDN'T TAKE THE MONEY THEY WOULD HAVE CALLED ME A FIRST CLASS MUMU!!

Don't you see how silly they sound no

BuddhaPalm:


Not only consent. Maybe na agreement we go dey sign soon.

And a point of correction: rape cases are not growing by the day.

I think i understand what you are aiming at. The word may not sound well in your lexicon, but what still stands is that people are raped because of signs being misconstrued and this cases seem to be increasing.

oshaosha2014:
It is obvious the Op is looking for validation of women, whereas you and I and the Op and the women know that, if you don't wanna have sex, show no signs.

Op is a twisted fellow. Telling guys to ask for consent when we all know naija galz are not verbal with sex request, they only show signs.

Wat do u expect from someone that has done time?

Seeking permission is a wussbag act only pulled off by pseudo nice guys n dey dont ever get laid

MarieSucre:


The same reason men take down booze. Coz its liquid happiness.

Owh common Merry Marie! U can do better

oshaosha2014:
It is obvious the Op is looking for validation of women, whereas you and I and the Op and the women know that, if you don't wanna have sex, show no signs.

Op is a twisted fellow. Telling guys to ask for consent when we all know naija galz are not verbal with sex request, they only show signs.

I get your point. We all are opinionated and we should do that without smear campaigns. Just be careful with reading signs and gestures.

MarieSucre:
I have edited it. Sorry about the misconception. pls recheck.

yup! Have gotten the update.

HARDDON:


Owh common Merry Marie! U can do better

What do you mean I can do better? Do some men not decide to take a different drink on some occasions? Why do women have to have an ulterior motive to do that? Is everything fvck-sign to you guys?

HARDDON:
It seems some strange laws caught up with Op after reading his signs wrongly now he preaching against dah.

Op, tell us d story jor! How many years did u do?


Cos u just typed some heavy beating induced trepidation.


The best book to reading a woman's mind, is tru her signals n body language whether u r a husby or bf! U have to learn n perfect the skills because even after giving off d signal, u still have to apply wisdom on How best to narrow in

To fail in this is to constantly have rolls wit her.

Op, How do we know what they r saying when their No cud mean Yes but u have to try harder?

Their Yes cud mean Maybe n their maybe cud mean No?
How do u deal in dis illogical lane? Huh?

one may not necessarily experience bad ordeal before giving out advice. If you read through the piece, you would see that i talked about understanding the stage both partners are in the relationship.

You also brought up understanding signs as married men and women, have you heard of a woman/man saying he/she was raped by the other? In this thread we are talking of unmarried partners. I don't even support sex outside marriage.

Nigerians have suffered, it is only here that guyz study babes like u are going on Gulder Ultimate search, try abroad and the girls will laugh @ u with the cave man mentality, this is to say thanks to Bella in cotonou for showing how the world is easy.

Medley:


I think i understand what you are aiming at. The word may not sound well in your lexicon, but what still stands is that people are raped because of signs being misconstrued and this cases seem to be increasing.

You can't rape a woman without excessive force or intimidation.

Unless one is socially retàrded or suffers from Asperger's, there's no "misconstruing" a girl who doesn't want to have sex with you.

Your write up appears well intentioned, on the surface, but on closer inspection it is pushing very dangerous ideas.

Ideas that:

1.) Women have no agency, and are not accountable for their actions.
2.) Men are monsters who are always out to rape women.

If your intent is followed to its logical conclusion, then we'll soon have ridiculous scenarios where women can retroactively withdraw consent (out of buyer's remorse), and have guys suffer for it.

A society in which women can wield false rape accusations like a bludgeon - without consequences - is not one you would want to live in.

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BE811APP:
Dis is like d 3rd or 4th tread about d signs/signals about sex..

Is there no better topic to talk about.. Just sex sex sex

Btwn, If u have a steady relationship.. do u really need all dis signs and signals..
when is supposed to flow..

Lots of kids on NL sha

No be lie

#hips don't lie #action speaks louder than voice!

hobermener:
After taking you on a shopping spree, and spending my hard earned cash on you, you still expect me to seek your consent before smashing the punna
Op abeg shift before I slap you

So you will rape her ?
Wait first lemme call police officer

hobermener:
After taking you on a shopping spree, and spending my hard earned cash on you, you still expect me to seek your consent before smashing the punna
Op abeg shift before I slap you

Don't know whether to type... no sense or nonsense? If you spend your hard earned money on your mother, or brothers, or sisters, or father, or your fellow guys nko? Smash their *****

Vinshu:
Very true.

Guys think all the time a lady wànts to have sex.

Not all the time but most times.

what a very useless post!

thesicilian:
Signs can be very misleading. Its better to be called a ''Jew'' or ''mugu'' than to betray someone's trust, or worse still, battle cases of sexual assault.
Even consent itself is not a guarantee, not to talk of going without it. A lady who has given you consent may turn round days, weeks or even years later and say she was forced.

so true bro. there was this girl whom i had a crush on{she knew i liked her n i think she liked me 2} dt sometimes slept in my room. everytime she comes wearing very tight bumshort. she 'lets' me touch her boobs n all but when i try to get her to lift a lil so i could pull down d bloody bumshort, she pretends to be fast n deeply asleep who falls into a deep sleep barely 5 mins after a conversation n i dnt think its shyness, me i just kukuma let sleeping dogs lie ko,..life's too short to be wasted differentiating green signals from d rainbow colour

Vinshu:
Very true.

Guys think all the time a lady wànts to have sex.

If dts really u on ur dp, then i dnt blame the guys dt much, u exude sex appeal in droves
Nwanyi oma

ziggy3579:
Naa so so sex talk dis days, we wey be virgins nko

help us ask them gurus oo how much be d membership card 4 our klub again sef