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Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Nobody: 8:04pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
kemelyt:Not everything a child does deserves beating or punishment..I believe that a child who is acting differently from d norm is seeing things frm a different perspective..u jst need to understand such child nd show him/her d way instead of excessive beating which will only make d chilld despise you.. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Nobody: 8:09pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
VoteDemiladgold:That's true tho..times av changed..I remember my 3 yrs old cousin telling his mum..'Mama,wos ur pwoblem' nd his mum was jst laughing..if na my mama ehn,she will show him d problem,if he can't solve it na to show him to his creator. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by kaboninc(m): 8:13pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
mysticgal: Mine will be to make the child my friend as I'm friends with you. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by abbey621(m): 8:15pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
It's all about moderation. Beating a child excessively will not correct the child's stubbornness but a combination of long talks, punishment and beating will do the trick. I remember when I did badly in school, I did not fear the whooping like I feared the long talks and punishments like doing all the chores in the house while the younger ones watches and receiving no allowance for six months. Needless to say, the next term I placed 2nd in my class. A stubborn child is a combination of ignorance and a call for attention. Give the child a lot of attention by taking interest in his or her interests and the stubbornness will gradually disappear! |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by opstar1: 8:22pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Counselling works. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Nobody: 8:25pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
bettercreature: Read the post well. Too much of beaten will only harden a kids heart. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by VoteDemiladgold: 8:29pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
MzLarem:hahahahha well isn't it surprising enough wen we become mums, we'd still pamper the kids.. i'm even thinking of sending my kids to one kyn strong military school wen I get married. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by jesussaves22: 8:34pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
RobinHez:No be were my cousin deyooo |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Nobody: 8:43pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
VoteDemiladgold:Lolz..Kids re adorable so dat explains d pampering..its jst their unnecessary tantrums. If u send ur kids to a military school,be ready to av children with tough hearts. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Nobody: 8:43pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
uzoormah: You can't imagine. I once came 15th in class (Primary school). Out of 26 pupils. I got home with my result and didn't feel remorse about it. Mom woke me up at 2:30am and said.. "Listen Eniola, there are lots of pretty girls out there. Only the ones with brain are successful. If you grow up to become a pepper or orange seller,you'll always remember how you've always been a failure" I cried till dawn and couldn't look her in face the next morning. Ever since then, I never got below 6th position. RIP mom. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by mysticgal(f): 8:44pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
kaboninc:Lol, swerry hawayu |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Sixaxis: 8:45pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Wizkoko:well, u sed it all dat "beating works wonders...nd evn d bible says it dat "in d heart of a child is madness and cane is to be used in pushing it out, buh datz a typical quality of an african child which works out most tyms buh not all d tym. If u beat a child with d sole purpose of changing him/her for gud nd it does not work out...do u knw dat d child will turn for bad in folds? Even as an Afican child, wen u cut all ties with dem and make dem realise some major things which they can miss through that, they may tend to change for good. Not all d tym tho'! Erryfn is juz interwoven... |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by VoteDemiladgold: 8:48pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
MzLarem:that's just the idea... dnt need me some butty ass children all grown up. Naaah.. want tough able Bodied men dah will bulldoze any mudafvcker dat tries me... |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by uzoormah(m): 8:50pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Enypie: Such words have a way of changing ones life so sorry abt ur mum Eniola may her soul R.I.P |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Nobody: 8:54pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
VoteDemiladgold:dis got me laughing hard...*Rotfl*..May God help u dear. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by merits(m): 8:56pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
PoliticalThuG: Kukuma tell us say na ur daughter,stop lieing. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by tuna4servi(m): 8:57pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Heavy beaten |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Nobody: 8:58pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
uzoormah: True. Thanks. But don't be, it's 8yrs already. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by VoteDemiladgold: 8:58pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
MzLarem:children like those twins in the movie "phone swap" |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by soopamom: 9:00pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Wizkoko:Just rip the whole New Testament right out of your Bible. Proverbs 23:14 clearly states that striking the child with a rod will save his soul from hell. There is no need for a Savior. God's grace through Jesus Christ is not required for salvation. You and your rod can take care of that yourself. Now that Jesus is no longer part of the picture, we must return to a life under Law rather than under Grace. As the Law states, rebellious sons are to be stoned (Deuteronomy 21:18-21). This may be difficult for you as a parent to carry through with; however, the Bible demands it and we must be willing to do as God instructs |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Nobody: 9:01pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
VoteDemiladgold:Lolz..be careful what u ask for cos u might jst get it. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Seventeen(f): 9:02pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Mountain of fire deliverance..... Lol... just kiding ~Talk to the child about dos and donts sternly but with love and concern ( funny enough, i just had one of such talks with my kifs this morning.. My son was giving me attitude this mornin when i vehemently refused that he couldnt have something he was asking for . Telling me all his friends this and that, i called an emergency family meeting to remind them of our family dos and donts irrespective of whatever their friends are allow ed to have or do . ~Say what u mean and mean what u say ( am sorry to say that some parents are lousy at having meaningful conversations with kids and this makes them look unserious to kids. Kids are good at reading adults, they act differently with different adults depending on how they percieve u. ~Make them understand that there will be consequences to bad behaviour and follow through on this when child misbehaves. Being weak at correcting and punishing children sends a message of u being a bluffer, and this makes them slowly begin to see ur threats as empty. The will begin to call ur bluff and test ur patience. ~After correction and punishment, show some love, have more talks of love and encouragement. Remind the child of ur love for him or her and why u are doing what u do. A child is not born sturborn neither he or she just suddenly become sturborn. Lack of balance, stability, and just pure poor upbringing can cause a child to start acting up and start showing sturborness and rebelion. Its very difficult to see a child who feels loved, encouraged, appreciated, self confident display sturboness. So overall i would say just Be a loving parent Dont use bad, demeaning words on ur kids Encourage ur child Praise ur child Appreciate ur child Boost their self confidence and make them feel they really matter. And of course, how can i forget PRAY FOR and PRAY WITH ur child. A Godly home produces Godly childrenand eventually Godly adults. The importance of creating the right atmosphere for kids to grow in from an early age can never be over emphasised. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by lanchy: 9:03pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Anyone that has to beat a child has proven, they are not smarter than the child but only stronger! Children are not as experienced as you.....you can always find a way to make them do what is good for them as long as you are smarter, it's called manipulation it works!! By the time they realise this, they are all grown up and it means they are now thinking well enough to be able to notice how you have manipulated them, so at which point it proves they are not stupid. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by iweadebash(m): 9:05pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
PoliticalThuG: How old is the daughter? |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by lonelydora: 9:24pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Foolishness is bound in the heart of child but the ROD of correction shall drive it far away form him. |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Laid2001: 9:32pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Then she is not stubborn. She has been cowed. The beating is now too much. the mum has been overdoing it! if she is really stubborn, na the mum go don tire. how can she be stubborn and is afraid of playing with her mates because of beating. if she is stubborn, mum will beat her for rough playing by 10.00am and 10.30 she will be back to playing rougher plays. PoliticalThuG: |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Tellemall: 9:32pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
MzLarem: Why waste your time as a parent trying to understand a child who won't bother to understand you? Every child needs a good flogging, stubborn or not. The problem with child-raising in Nigeria is the psychologists in fair weather countries who try to tell you Nigerians how to mollycoddle your children when you find yourself under very Nigerian conditions. I'm yet to see a white person who doesn't flog/beat their child - if they get whiny at the mall, they lay it into them, anywhere they want to. Yet people in backwater countries will be trying to sound like it's civilized not to flog their children. If you talk to a child and it won't listen, then flog/beat it. If it persists then deprive it of the things it loves. Either it runs away as a bitter f.ool or it learns. Each to their own choice. If it's life becomes a mess because you didn't flog/beat it, it's that same child that will turn round to accuse you of not being there to discipline it. Either way, it will look for what to say about why it's life is so good or bad. The more you call them kids, the worse they'll be. Don't you know that kids are young goats? 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by miketayo(m): 9:44pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
soopamom: u r gud .. kip it up |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by kaboninc(m): 9:47pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by mysticgal(f): 9:50pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
kaboninc:Am ok |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by Nobody: 9:52pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Tellemall:I find ur post very disturbing..I just hope u won't turn to one of those abusive fathers who maltreats their kids.. 1)U're referring to a child as 'it' 2) To you,they re jst young goats ryt..even sum1 with a heart won't flog a young goat everytime..come on,some kid(goat's baby) re cute. 3)I wrote 'NOT EVERYTHING THEY DO DESERVES BEATING'..I didn't write 'don't beat them @ all' 4)Kids re innocent except those with a faulty background..so,sometime they act out of deir naivety nd ignorance 5 nd Lastly,for everything ur child does,u need to check urself cos he/she is learning from you..so,if ur child is a young goat,then u're a Malu(cow) Finally,u can flog d life out of ur child,na u born am bt remember,there re now agencies against child molestation..U don't wanna end up in dat dreadful place 4 scolding YOUR own child #Constructivecriticismisthekey |
Re: How Do You Handle A Stubborn Kid? by kaboninc(m): 9:57pm On Apr 19, 2016 |
Tellemall: Its not about disciplining your child but how you go about it. Excessive flogging hardens the heart and makes him difficult to control. Even your mother knows that. There's nothing wrong with flogging a child. But how you do so matters. Do you flog him until his hands peels? Or until he bleeds out? Or until he faints? What message are you trying to pass across? And its not about Africans and non Africans. As we have parents who beats up their child to stupor here in Nigeria, you have parents who shoots their kids in other countries. Let's stop the stereotyping! I've come to realise that kids learn most when you do the talk and speak to them. They watch you and you should be careful around them. When they test you, or try to usurp your authority, at that tender age, subtle discipline will put them in line. Most people don't really know how it feels to be a victim of these excessive floggings. 1 Like 1 Share |
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