opendo89:
Hello all.

I have been dating this lady for a few months now. She crosses the t's an dots the i's of my ideal wife and we are very much in love with each other. I feel a lot happier and at peace when i'm with her. The only but is she has a little daughter who I have become fond of. The only problem now is: How do I convince my parents to buy into this idea of me marrying a single mum with little drama

donfemo:


The topic is quite confusing. It should be guys who marry single mums not single ladies.

slyIsaac:
Mum: "Opendo hold ya ears!!... Hold eet well!!"
"Opendo do you want to kill me before my time??"
"Opendo why do you want to Disgrace mee??"
"All the women in our Women's meeting wee say My son has been bewitched!!"
"Opendo ooo.. Don't lemme hear Tis nonsense again o!"



Expect something like tis first.... You won't be too suprised... BTW Ts really mostly your decision.... Whichever you usually convince her on other things.... Do the same....
Try not to make it a big deal when you mention the daughter

"Ah mummy... Your boy has seen the woman of his dreams o... Am ready to marry mummy"

Mum:"Really? Wow!... Tell me about her!!"
You: "Mummy, she's all I want.. Beautiful,nicebody,Respectful... Very humble... Easy to talk to... Her daughters name is *hope*...very cute girl, infact mummy I loVe her o... I will bring her officially to come see you"

Mum:"She has a daughter?? Abeg I didn't hear you well"

.... From her... Explain as calmly n matter-of-factly as possible.... Goodluck bro... Mums are always overprotective of their boys...

#teamMummy'sboy

hanubarbie:
For ur own sanity and peace of mind,Do Not I repeat Do Not tell your momma she has a kid!!

opendo89:
But sooner or later she will find out na

Dyt:
Ehhh ehhhhh
Drama

opendo89:
Kilode

justcallbuki:
MAYBE you should't tell her.
She is a third party in ur rel/marriage.

My opinion.

hanubarbie:
By then,it will be left to you to decide if,u want to defend your woman or you want to obey momma

Nitefury:


Put yourself in his mom's shoes.. And you later find out your son kept such an important detail hidden from you. She's not a third party, she's his mom hence, she has a God given (and defined) role to play in his life. Wife is wife, mother is mother, no need to blackmail.

Fact is whether we admit it or not, a child from a previous relationship is very important and should be handled with care.

"How come about the child? Why is she not with the child's dad? What role does the child's dad have in the child's life? Is he very much around? Is he violent? Does he visit the child? If yes, will he be coming over to their home when they eventually get married?" These are some of the pertinent questions that must be dealt with (even by the Op himself).

Single mom's still get married every Saturday. But one has to be sure there'll be no drama from the child's dad (or his relatives) later when these two get married.

justcallbuki:
MAYBE you should't tell her. She is a third party in ur rel/marriage.

My opinion.

misreal:
no offence but are you a single mother??

justcallbuki:

NO.......married with children.

misreal:
well i hope your kids dont treat you like a stranger someday.

justcallbuki:

mr man free me abeg, i dot reply mention,thought u had smthing better to say,as for my opinion its totally my biz...i always take my time to reply to topic........ Everybody has their reason for posting what they post.

hanubarbie:
For ur own sanity and peace of mind,Do Not I repeat Do Not tell your momma she has a kid!!