Laveda:


well,all these has to do with the "too religious ones" i believe im living a free life..
Doing thimgs that my conscience wont't come after me afterwards....

If as a christian you feel premarital sex is a big sin then such person shouldn't even involve if any like ma§turbation and all of that...
That's when hypocrisy comes....


Nice thread btw

thanks bae

skarlett:




Nope I'm not, just tryna ask some basic questns, if you're a christian do you adhere strictly to the bible's teaching prohibting you from fornication?

firstking01:
And yes i stayed celibate for more than 20years and peopl are living a holy and concious no sex life for God

skarlett:




stayed?

firstking01:
I created a topic on it sef....check my topics...btw, are you surprised??

skarlett:
If we were not supposed to have sex before marriage then don't you think we are supposed to hit PUBERTY only after we've gotten married or what's the essence of having a reproductive organ ready for action at 17/18 years old but kept inactive for so many years?



Cc:
Lalasticlala
Iamwestafrican

skarlett:



I meant why is it in the past? I will surely check your topics to see what you mean

firstking01:
Whats in the past?, and who told you people dnt still practice it as it is in the bible?...btw, are you a christian or pentecostaL for asking such a question??

firstking01:
And yes i stayed celibate for more than 20years and peopl are living a holy and concious no sex life for God

skarlett:





I meant the bolded and yes I'm a christian, pentecostal too

skarlett:





I meant the bolded and yes I'm a christian, pentecostal too

IamWestAfrican:
It is almost 99.99% impossible to completely abstain from sex(not necessarily penetrative sex) as the OP opined so why is the Nigerian society so judgemental? an unmarried 20 year old lady cannot even mention the word 'sex' in front of her mother. . .she would be told to shut up, called a whöre & sometimes even get beaten by her folks. . .

why are the lot(women especially) who have premarital sex looked at with scorn and labelled as wayward? if an unmarried 21 or 22 year old is having consensual sex and uses prophylactics to minimize the chances of contracting STD or unwanted pregnancy, i don't see why it should be a big issue. . .i think it is backward!!!

men/women are sexual beings and should be accorded leeway to enjoy their sexuality to the fullest without fear of being blackballed by society(especially the females) . . .sex is part and parcel of us. . .

i can't even find a passage in the bible that outrightly condemns premarital sëx. point one out from the Old Testament!

were Joseph and Mary married when they were cohabiting or when they travelled to Bethlehem together? answer is no. so is it right to cohabit with the opposite sex? and are you trying to say that you didn't have a shadow of doubt when you read the Church's dogma that made it clear that Joseph and Mary never slept together? really?

a man with blood running in his veins lives under the same roof with a beautiful young woman whom he loves and they never had sex? i find that hard to believe!

let it also be known that the precepts of the Bible is not 100% applicable to the modern day society. . .

in the days of yore(lemme use the Hebrew society as exempli grata in this scenario), the males didn't have to wait until 25 or 26 to get married. . .women didn't get married at 24 or 27. . . .they usually got married as teenagers and so didn't have sexual temptations to battle with on a quotidian basis. . . .

you expect me to keep my John Thomas vouchsafed behind my zipper and yet every direction i turn it's an enticing boôty i see or some skimpily dressed damsel. . . .

i think premarital sex also helps in determining compatibility in marriage. .. . . .
can you buy a car without testing it?
that's why we hear a lot of complaints from women about their husbands not satisfying them on bed. . . .the husbands also complain about their wives' steering approach towards sex, which in most cases causes them to opt for better options outside their matrimonial homes. . . .if they had consummated their love before agreeing to marriage they would have known whether they were sexually compatible or not. . .


y'all can click on this link. . .
http://www.123helpme.com/premarital-sex-is-not-a-sin-against-god--view.asp?id=163282


Mukina2 Seun Lalasticala. . . .look at this topic o

PinkBarbie:
Abstinence from any kind of sexual activity is possible. In fact, it's very possible. Though it's not so easy at first

One thing we must realize is that we've got absolute power over our body and it's desires. These emotions/feelings can actually be controlled. Just like anger which is also feeling can be controlled. Once you master how to possess your mind, you'll begin to dictate what you do and not what your body tells you to do. It doesn't mean the urge for sex won't come. It will, sometimes it'll come like a hurricane but if you "choose" not to yield, it'll go the same way it came.

One more thing, I'm not comfortable with the way most of you guys tag a Christian that's sexually active as hypocritical. You have to understand that not everyone is emotionally mature even though he or she could be spirituality mature. A Christian is not a perfect person but a work in progress. Tagging a Christian a hypocrite just because that person engages in sex which the bible says is wrong is just unreasonable. Except such Christian usually condemn people that engage in it.

IamWestAfrican:


@emboldened
it is possible to go without having sex for 20 years in this generation of skinny jeans and bum shorts?
so it is possible to not satiate your sexual urges via other media like tossing, öral sex et for 15-20 years? stop playing yourself pinkbarbie. . .
even when you urinate it is called secondary ejaculåtion. . .

even if it is possible to completely abstain. . . . .is it necessary? what is the essence of being hungry and having a box of cookies that could quell the hunger yet you keep the cookies stashed away in the attic. . . .does it make any sense?

firstking01:
Yes it's not been too long i disvirgined...and i delibrately broke it thats why i didn't use the usual phrase "lost my virginity"

PinkBarbie:
Abstinence from any kind of sexual activity is possible. In fact, it's very possible. Though it's not so easy at first.

One thing we must realize is that we've got absolute power over our body and it's desires. These emotions/feelings can actually be controlled. Just like anger which is also feeling can be controlled. Once you master how to possess your mind, you'll begin to dictate what you do and not what your body tells you to do. It doesn't mean the urge for sex won't come. It will, sometimes it'll come like a hurricane but if you "choose" not to yield, it'll go the same way it came.

One more thing, I'm not comfortable with the way most of you guys tag a Christian that's sexually active as hypocritical. You have to understand that not everyone is emotionally mature even though he or she could be spirituality mature. A Christian is not a perfect person but a work in progress. Tagging a Christian a hypocrite just because that person engages in sex which the bible says is wrong is just unreasonable. Except such Christian usually condemn people that engage in it.

skarlett:





But you didnt sleep with your wife, so exactly what are you saying?

firstking01:
Nope, you sounded in your thread that its impossible for christians to abstain from sex or something??...and i'm telling you that its very possible

skarlett:





Its possible yet you didnt do it @least till the end. I get am before no mean ownership, shey you know?

firstking01:
I was careful with the lines of words i used...i said i delibrately, thats why i didn't use the word "lost virginity"...leave it for me and God.

skarlett:
Is abstinence from sex and all other sexual activities before marriage as decreed in the Bible realistic and necessary?"

I came up with that because I feel the bible have made a lot of people overly hypocritical . . .I also find the rule stiffening and ridiculous. . .

It's 99.99% impossible to abstain from everything sexual before marriage, all things being equal i.e so long as he/she doesn't have some sort of disability. . .
and it doesn't have to be penetrative sex(a lot of people that squawk against premarital sex do a lot of sexual acts asides from vaginal sex so it doesn't really make sense). And since it isn't possible to completely abstain then why do people preach about it or act judgmental especially when men/women are sexual beings?

Let's look at it from an extensive view away from the constraints of religion - we are supposed to mate as soon as we hit puberty. If we were not supposed to have sex before marriage then don't you think we are supposed to hit PUBERTY only after we've gotten married or what's the essence of having a reproductive organ ready for action at 17/18 years old but kept inactive for so many years?



Cc:
Lalasticlala
Iamwestafrican

PinkBarbie:
Abstinence from any kind of sexual activity is possible. In fact, it's very possible. Though it's not so easy at first.

One thing we must realize is that we've got absolute power over our body and it's desires. These emotions/feelings can actually be controlled. Just like anger which is also feeling can be controlled. Once you master how to possess your mind, you'll begin to dictate what you do and not what your body tells you to do. It doesn't mean the urge for sex won't come. It will, sometimes it'll come like a hurricane but if you "choose" not to yield, it'll go the same way it came.

One more thing, I'm not comfortable with the way most of you guys tag a Christian that's sexually active as hypocritical. You have to understand that not everyone is emotionally mature even though he or she could be spirituality mature. A Christian is not a perfect person but a work in progress. Tagging a Christian a hypocrite just because that person engages in sex which the bible says is wrong is just unreasonable. Except such Christian usually condemn people that engage in it.

skarlett:



it all started with freewill, I highly doubt the bolded to be sincere

Ayomide93:
You are awesome girl. Can we be friends?