I travelled home to see my parents over the weekend and I must say it was nice seeing them after close to 2 months. I saw them last on Jan 1st after the New Year’s celebration. I am just this kind of guy that loves staying far from my childhood area. I believe you are much more appreciated if people see less of you.
Even in my University days, I might go home for just once in a year and anytime I go home, I am always hailed like a king on the street. I love this so much, makes me feel like the King of the Street.

Dad and mum were so delighted to see me and trust our mums, she saw with her x-ray eyes that I was getting so lean, when I have always thought I am living large and changing to the man with the big stature I always dreamt of becoming. Dad also confirmed this and trust African parents, they began to prescribe all sorts of drugs from Vitamin supplements to blood tonic, to Epo Eja which is Cod Liver oil and so on. I told them I would get all that.

After a moment, my mum left us and went to see her friend in the next building. Then the man-to-man talk between me and my dad started. You know dads now. They are more concerned about your goals and achievements. He began by asking how work is faring and my plans for the New year.
He talked about advancing my studies to the Phd level. That this would give me an edge over my colleagues and even my superiors. I didn’t bother to mention to him that I was not going further beyond this Masters degree that I posses.

Then he popped the question. “How is your girlfriend doing?” I initially pretended as if I didn’t hear that and he repeated himself. I made him understand I have non that I have been so much busy with work and plans to move my career to the next level.
Then he asked the master question. “From which tribe will you like to marry from?” I told him I can marry from any tribe as long she is human.

He said no, that some tribes are better left alone due to their culture and so on, blah blah blah. I tried to orientate him that we are all one. That one cannot judge the attitude or behavior of an individual from the general perception of her tribe. He tried to prove his point. I didn’t bother to argue with him, because if I did, the conversation would last for hours which I was not ready to engage in.


But why are our parents always particular about tribes when we are all one Nigeria. There was this time this Tanzanian lady came to our office and it wasn’t until when she mentioned that she was from that country before we realized she wasn’t a Nigerian. She looked so much like a Nigerian. This is just to tell that we are all one and we should not be judged by our tribes, but by the contents of our hearts, individually.

....Diary of a Jobless Nigerian Youth

http://www.blackberrybabes.com/2016/04/should-i-marry-woman-who-is-not-from-my.html

smelling nonsense

more on

http://www.blackberrybabes.com/2016/04/should-i-marry-woman-who-is-not-from-my.html

it all boils down compatibility.

Sure u can

This question should be:

1. Am i pleased with that woman?

2. Am i comfortable with her?

3. Does she give me cause to take her down the aisle?

4. Do I have future with this woman?

5. Does she posses the potentials I needed in a woman?


After asking yourselves these series of questions & you find no reason to do away with her, Bros abeg no let that woman pass you by. We are talking about peace of mind here not tribe, we are talking about life imprisonment(marriage) here not tribe. I don't mind marrying from any part of the country if i ask myself questions above.

Your happiness, your life.
You are the manager of your life.

Why should you allow your parents choose the girl you want to marry? Are still a kid

Let's wait for the elders.... I bought this plot of land to sit on and learn

Am considering that too... Mine is that..I grew up outside my home town..am lost with my culture even in terms of language.. I need restoration for the sake of my children unborn..

olihilistic:
smelling nonsense

Only Ibos ask these kinds of questions

No....


Dont taint other tribes with the foolishness in your DNA.

Blackberrybabes:

But why are our parents always particular about tribes when we are all one Nigeria. There was this time this Tanzanian lady came to our office and it wasn’t until when she mentioned that she was from that country before we realized she wasn’t a Nigerian. She looked so much like a Nigerian. This is just to tell that we are all one and we should not be judged by our tribes, but by the contents of our hearts, individually.

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After the lengthy tale, this is what your epistle boils down to. Thank goodness you finally got to the crux of the issue. The story could have induced coma. Just joking.

Well, yes, you can marry from whatever tribe you find love. Inter tribal marriage is such a beautiful thing. Just as you would love to marry a Tanzanian, Camerounian, Angolan, kenyan...whoever.
But talking about one Nigeria, and marrying someone "because we are one Nigeria" is as lame as it is not functional. I prefer you say we are all Africans. Nigeria has tried to be one, but it hasn't worked out, and it will never work. we are officially regarded as a country because it still serves the interest of the political class and their acolytes. The Nigeria project has not served or bettered the lot of the average man in the street.

Sorry for bringing a political undertone into it. But you started it when you used the term "one Nigeria" That phrase is the biggest fraud everyone inside that geographical entity has been subjected to. And it is exactly due to this fraud that many parents would feel concerned about inter tribal marriage, because an Igbo guy, for instance, saying he wants to marry an Idoma, or Hausa, or Yoruba, or Jukun, or Ibibio, or Tiv, or Berom, is almost same like saying he wants to marry a Ghanian, or Malian, or Sudanese, or Moroccan.

The "oneness" of Nigeria is mere fallacy.

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I think u are in a better position to answer that, there are a lot of things to consider when going into this higher institution called marriage...

You are still with the yam & knife

YES if there are good reasons
NO if there are good objections

"what an elder sees while sitting down, children can never see even if they climb a tree"
- African Proverb

Different culture.....different reliqion......different mentality!!!!!




I curse 1914

Yeah

garfield16:


Only Ibos ask these kinds of questions

u are right.........

YES!

- TEAM INTER-TRIBAL

Ok

People ask some useless questions in recent times on NAIRALAND. Why asking us, don't you know what you want

Your life to live bro.

I beta marry a village girl of my tribe Dan marrying an adulterous tribe Jst sayin..... No body in mind

I will put this in quote to show how serious this is -

Whatever an elder sees sitting down, a young man will have to climb a tall tree to get a glimpse. The Op has shown he is a very SILLY child and of all the 3 advises offered him, he had made up his mind ab initio that he was not going to heed them. With this kind of attitude, he surely won't go far in life at all. This is the real issue here.

About the tribal issue, its very relevant to marry from your tribe. No matter wat, ones tribe always have a way of determining ones life output and outlook. e.g Igbos and business. Marriage is already hard in itself. Dealing with a tribe you do not understand is one less headache to bear.

God was not stupid when he explicitly commanded the Israelites not to marry the Cannanites.

In another news, the University of Lagos Is Evicting All Its Students From Its Hostels So We Did This -
https://www.nairaland.com/3074056/university-lagos-evicting-students-came#45116231

Obinnau:
Your happiness, your life. You are the manager of your life.

fool

yeye

I see no reason why tribe should be your problem in choosing a wife.

Be'cos dey feel if u marry ur tribe girl is best n u guyz will understd urself's much more beta n which is neva true