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Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by soonest(f): 3:04pm On Apr 30, 2016 |
Bolade005:It's the man that needs wisdom pls. Gosh! How selfish can people be. Just 3 wks after birth. Nawa o 2 Likes |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Bolade005: 3:22pm On Apr 30, 2016 |
soonest:I accept the man is selfish but the woman too should try and be flexible. Let's not pretend the woman doesn't know about her man's libido and I know there are other ways they can explore and they'd both be happy so she should explore and stop being selfish too. |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by tpiah2: 2:03am On May 01, 2016 |
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Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by EfemenaXY: 3:08am On May 01, 2016 |
Bolade005: If she's not in the mood, she's not in the mood, simple. For sex to work, both parties must be willing and not coerced or guilt tripped into it. Let him go sort himself with a vigorous wänk and a tub of Vaseline. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by EfemenaXY: 3:22am On May 01, 2016 |
Bolade005: She already stated very clearly that she is NOT a fan of BJ. That is her preference and she's perfectly entitled to it. She also mentioned that he doesn't climãx during BJs, nor with condoms. This man evidently wants raw sex with his still recovering wife, thereby risking another pregnancy. Now if that doesn't constitute as a selfish behaviour in your book, then I don't know what will. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Mayflowa(m): 5:12am On May 01, 2016 |
PresVA: Bj is nothing! She could go and study how to do it. She can use her hands too. African women are just uninspiring! Can't even make her husband climax. What do they do at home. To make stupid food for their babies |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by elektra(f): 7:05am On May 01, 2016 |
Mayflowa: Have you given a BJ before? Sure, she could learn how to do it but 3 weeks post natal is not the time to do so. I have never given birth but I was the only one with my housemate when she had her baby, she couldn't even sit up for 2 weeks and you expect someone in that condition to be learning how to give BJ. That is an insult to every African mother. Is your mother African? If she is, I guess all she did was sit at home and make stvpid food for you. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Bolade005: 8:08am On May 01, 2016 |
EfemenaXY:He then ask for BJ, but I can not give him BJ till he comes. I am not a fan of BJ Read the OP again, she didn't say the man doesn't climax during BJs, she said she couldn't give him the BJ to the point of eruption and I think that's because she find the thought of him erupting in her mouth repugnant. Why would a woman have a problem tasting her own man? I don't understand |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Bolade005: 8:13am On May 01, 2016 |
EfemenaXY:Why would a married man go self-service? Didn't she know the man has high libido before marriage? It's her cross and she should deal. The OP is even sexually boring and I'm deeply sorry for her man, there are other ways she could explore and they'd both be happy. Instead of you to educate her on other ways, you're here defending the indefensible. And before you think I'm insensitive know this, my wife gave birth in January and ever since we've not had sex, she's not completely healed and I don't pressure her because we do explore other means and we are both happy. OP should explore too biko, she should learn to go nasty for her man. |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by EfemenaXY: 8:23am On May 01, 2016 |
Bolade005: What don't you understand? It's quite simple. Her not liking BJs doesn't mean she can't do it. She only does it because he insists (or coerces her into it). She doesn't derive pleasure from it because she isn't a fan of BJs, so it's understandable she can't get him to climãx. Let me use a similar analogy: if I don't like a particular dish, it doesn't mean I can't cook it. I can, but the question is: can I prepare it well enough to the satisfaction of a family member who does? Many men don't like anãl sex and aren't a fan of it. Now if the wife of such a man is into anãl sex, the man in order to please his wife may do it for her sake, but because he doesn't enjoy it, won't be able to get her to climãx. Do you understand now? 2 Likes |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Bolade005: 8:32am On May 01, 2016 |
EfemenaXY:I can't win with you shey? Is she supposed to derive pleasure from BJ when she's not the recipient?. BJ is to satisfy her man. If she doesn't give BJ atall, i'd understand but she gives the man BJ and stop halfway and that's not being selfish to you?, if your man gets you in the mood and then leave u alone, that's not being selfish or if he gets you in the mood and he erupts after 2mins without your body being well sated, that's not selfishness? Ma'am, we both know if she does it well, nigga will climax so what we arguing here for? And the änal thing u wrote up there I don't buy it. Here the man is the recipient and he likes BJ so if the woman does it well, no way in hell he won't climax. If the woman enjoys änal and the man ram her well even though he doesn't enjoy it, I see no reason why the recipient that likes it cannot climax. Tell her to go chew that D1ck and make that man happy. 1 Like |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by elektra(f): 9:05am On May 01, 2016 |
Bolade005: I commend you for waiting for your wife Please, How long post natal did she start "exploring other means"? |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by sweetlily2818(f): 9:26am On May 01, 2016 |
FowlYansh:Jesus Christ, I don't believe u. |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by EfemenaXY: 9:29am On May 01, 2016 |
Bolade005: It's not about winning. We both have differing views and are simply airing our opinions. And while we're at it, I suggest you have a re-read of my post. I think you missed the additional bits in red which I'd like you to address. Bolade005: Oh really? So sex is meant to be one-sided? Or in your words to satisfy her man. So what about her own satisfaction / needs? And yet you claim this man isn't selfish? Bolade005: Well, she never wanted it in the first place but only gave in, on the insensitive man's insistence. So it's hardly surprising that she won't be keen on going all the way in the first place, as her mind isn't in it. She said "no". He insists. She says "oya come". Yet he isn't happy with what he gets. And yet you blame her? Is she his sexual slave or what? Bolade005: She's already mentioned that she isn't a fan of BJs, nor does she like it! Again: Many men don't like anãl sex and aren't a fan of it. Now if the wife of such a man is into anãl sex, the man in order to please his wife may do it for her sake, but because he doesn't enjoy it, won't be able to get her to climãx. Do you understand now? Be honest, how would you feel under such situation? Coupled with the fact that the poor lady is still recovering from childbirth? Bolade005: You've conveniently forgotten that she's stated that she doesn't like BJ's, nor the thought of him erupting in her mouth (perfectly understandable), and even when performing his BJ on him, she goes on and on and on but the man doesn't c.u.mm. What more does he want? Is she a sex machine. I reiterate, he should go get a tub a vaseline and perform a vigorous wãnk on himself. Bolade005: Might be better if she bites him real hard. You know what they say: once bitten twice shy... 3 Likes |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Bolade005: 9:37am On May 01, 2016 |
EfemenaXY: All right. Please do teach me how you were able to nitpick those points and reply to them. |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by EfemenaXY: 9:40am On May 01, 2016 |
Bolade005: So married men don't self-service? Really?? Bolade005: He should go park his "high libido" to one corner. Has he ever given birth? Does he understand what she's going through and that sex is probably the last thing on her mind? How come a married man with 2 kids is insensitive to the fact that his woman who's just given birth to his baby needs time to recover both physically and emotionally? High libido my foot. Bolade005: Why should I support an insensitive man? I've given birth and I know the rigors childbirth puts the body through, especially if wear and tear's been involved (i.e stitching). No two women are the same. Some are sexually responsive shortly after, others aren't. It's her man's job to understand his wife, and if he truly loves and cares for her, he'll control himself. Bolade005: Your are insensitive. This is May. Your wife gave birth in January. i.e: [size=18pt]4 months ago[/size] and yet you exercise patience for her, but claim not to understand why this woman, barely [size=18pt]3 weeks[/size] after giving birth isn't happy to get into sex so soon. And I bet even then, you aren't as inflexible as this lady's husband who insists on going raw with no protection. Mr Bolade005, what gives? 2 Likes |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by EfemenaXY: 9:42am On May 01, 2016 |
Bolade005: Use the quote functionality. It's easier to do on a laptop as opposed to a mobile phone. |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Bolade005: 9:54am On May 01, 2016 |
EfemenaXY:I'm not a saint but personally I don't see why I'd wañk when I have a wife to satisfy my sexual desires. Well, if married folks do it, it's none of my business. Ma'am, you only know I've gone 4months without sex but you don't know how long post partum we began exploring other ways na, do you? Okay, I admit the man is insensitive and selfish but I just believe the woman can try to be a bit flexible and open to exploring other means. |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Bolade005: 9:56am On May 01, 2016 |
EfemenaXY:Thanks. I appreciate |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by elektra(f): 1:08pm On May 01, 2016 |
Bolade005: I asked this question in a previous post. Can you share? |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Bolade005: 1:34pm On May 01, 2016 |
elektra:I intentionally chose to ignore the question but if you really want to know, it didn't take us 6weeks before we started exploring. |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by MARKone(m): 1:54pm On May 01, 2016 |
radicalove: I normally give 4-5 months, even with caution. 6 weeks to me is rather early, but is still subject to the woman's body. That being said, men should be very understanding when it comes to issues like this, what if the woman was given a tear during delivery? Do you go putting ur pric.k inside a sutured wound?. Demanding for sex without allowing the woman heal very well, is rather insensitive, give the woman enough time to heal. Giving birth is not blowing "catarrh" out of the nose, advice your husband madam, don't please anybody and end up hurting yourself. 8 Likes |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Mayflowa(m): 2:01pm On May 01, 2016 |
elektra: Lol. BJ? If you mean to a wife, deal me in! I also talked about hand job. A good hand job will keep her husband spurting in 2 mins. It's that too much to spare? You talked as if love making is pains. It is a pain and stress reliever. You Friend suffered so much pains probably a husband isn't there, bad vagi tear or she also lack knowledge on post natal care! There are post natal care tea that can keep you together. However people are different. But when African women Esp Nigerians refuse to learn the art of sex with all the available info, they start complaining! Nigeria men top the list of cheaters in the world partly due to unimaginative sexual activity from wives. Go and learn my friend. It will save you lots of headache. Lastly, women play the card of caring for their babies. I know babies need care. But don't neglect your husband in the process. It's a family. Men also care for their babies too just as u. We gave him to you. You don't wanna repeat our mothers' mistakes. Why do I think men marry 6 wives then? You ladies have fought it but refuse to upgrade sexually. The food becomes silly if that is all you do to avoid your husband's needs. BTW, elektra was a sex bomb in the movie unbound |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by sweetilicious(f): 2:52pm On May 01, 2016 |
If you are still in pains and bleeding, let him understand. But give him the Mouth Action. I never liked some things during sex but i had to do it to satisfy my boyfriend. Try and give him Mouth Action |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by soonest(f): 3:51pm On May 01, 2016 |
Bolade005:3weeks post partum, d baby isn't yet adjusted and the woman trying hard to catch up on sleep and rest and she has other kids. Pls where does she find strength and time to be flexible and open to exploring other means. Bolade005:Is it ice cream? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Mayflowa(m): 3:56pm On May 01, 2016 |
soonest: Yes. It truly sweet if you know how to spice the taste. It can taste citrus or pineapple if you want. Just google to see how u can spice it. We dont learn. It's a big issues. |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Bolade005: 4:14pm On May 01, 2016 |
soonest:How am I supposed to know if it's ice cream?, you should know if it is na. |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Subom1(f): 10:13pm On May 01, 2016 |
Some of these comments are damn annoying. I really feel sorry for some women that are married to devils. There is nothing worse than a self centred and selfish man.This is why its extremely important to pay close attention when dating because if he is selfish during the relationship he will definitely be selfish during marriage. 6 Likes |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by diva90: 5:19am On May 02, 2016 |
6 weeks is ideal! Your husband needs to be more understanding |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by cococandy(f): 6:07am On May 02, 2016 |
I can't imagine the height of insensitivity of some of you on this thread. Do you know that 3weeks after giving birth some women can even sit or walk properly. Can't even lift their arms much less have the energy to give sexual satisfaction to someone. Do some of you even think of anything else except your selfish wants? 3weeks for goodness sake! Some people even still feel sick and nauseous at that stage depending on how their pregnancy was. Every woman is not the same On second thoughts you must be commenting from a very ignorant place on this subject. let those who have had babies tell you how it is. Because your wife had a baby doesn't mean you know how all women who have had babies feel. And if you have not been pressuring her 3 weeks from the january that she had the baby to explore other means, then i'd say you're the one defending the indefensible. Bolade005: 6 Likes |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by cococandy(f): 6:10am On May 02, 2016 |
Don't mind him. And his annoying posts EfemenaXY: 1 Like |
Re: Is 6 Weeks Too Much For A Husband To Wait For Wife To Recover After Childbirth? by Ewuro4: 6:13am On May 02, 2016 |
nasha1: my belle oh |
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