the wish of many ladies to get married and while some ladies are fully prepared for the institution,many are totally naive about what lies ahead after saying i do but from my little experience in life, i present to you 10 things no mother or pastor will tell you before you say i do to that man. 1. That no matter how sweet the man is to you,no matter how caring and romantic and no matter how many prophets told you he is your man,that sweet man can turn to a demon after saying i do so what it seems before marriage is never a guaranty of what it will be after marriage. 2. If your man beats or cheats on you when you are courting,there is a 90% possibility that he will do even worse after marrying you and you need to understand that it is a big mistake to marry a man with the hope that he will change some characters you don't like but just learn to love him that way or take a walk. 3. If your man beats you once,it could be a mistake but if he beats you the second time then its a habit he is likely never going to stop. 4. That it is good to marry a man you have feelings for but it is a terrible thing to marry a man who does not desire you as much as you desire him. 5. That if you marry a man because of what he has and not because of mutual love then be ready to be miserable in that marriage as long as it lasts. 6. That a man can love you with all his life and could still cheat on you because most men think with that thing down there when it comes to their feelings for women and are polygamous in nature and no matter how sweet and disciplined you are,it will not stop him from cheating on you and divorcing a cheating hubby is no guaranty that the next man won't do worse. 7. As a lady, as long as you are sexually decent,GOD fearing,an excellent cook,financially independent and humble,you have absolutely nothing to fear because it will be extremely difficult for your man to disrespect you much less divorce you. 8. That not all men are calm but some have innate tendency to be violent so you must try at all cost to avoid any form of confrontation. 9. That women are women worst enemies and many of your female friends will be glad to see your marriage crumble so avoid discussing your marital flaws with them but take it to God in prayers and you must block your ears from hear says and believe what your hubby tells you even when you have an irking that he is lieing and whatever you have not seen does not exist. 10.That there is always a lady out there who is ready to push you out of your matrimony and take your place but 90% of men who cheat on their wives are not ready to divorce their wives but it is these wives that push the man out with impatience and hot temper so you will need lots of patience to deal with a philanderer because in most cases,they always come back home after having their feel of the side dishes. 11.That no man owns the key to your marital happiness except you because most men are the same and no man is worth the stress and as soon as you are married,you should focus on building your life as well as that of your child(ren) . 12.That no marriage is perfect but every marriage has its own perculiar challenges and you must be ready to work on your marital pasture to look green cos that greener marital pasture you see on the other side have been worked so work on yours and remember that a happy union is not between two compactible people or two romantic people but its the one between two forgivers so learn to forgive and you will have a happy union. 13.That no matter how careful you may be in choosing a spouse,marriage will always be a black market where you must prepare for unforeseen situation and there is no right or wrong choice of man but what we have is your choice and what you make out of it and only GOD can guaranty a happy marriage.

Op, arrange this post for easy reading, especiallx, the numbering. vote ivyy for miss NL!

Ok

OP......U SHOULD PROPERLY ARRANGE UR POST FOR EASY READING LIKE D PERSON ABOVE ME SUGGESTED

Nice piece OP.
To those above me, at least you got the message he passed. Why is it that 'some' people don't encourage others? Telling the OP "I love your message OP, but please try and arrange the points as Paragraphs next time for easy reading" will definitely go a long way in Encouraging the OP that he didn't waste his time and Data in creating such a brilliant the thread.
Last i checked, we're all humans and no man is an Highland not even you...
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#Let's stop doing the Right things the wrong ways...

OK, but post should be well arranged.

Thiwalade:
the wish of many ladies to get married and while
some ladies are fully prepared for the institution,many
are totally naive about what lies ahead after saying i
do but from my little experience in life, i present to you
10 things no mother or pastor will tell you before you
say i do to that man.
1. That no matter how sweet the man is to you,no
matter how caring and romantic and no matter how
many prophets told you he is your man,that sweet man
can turn to a demon after saying i do so what it seems
before marriage is never a guaranty of what it will be
after marriage.
2. If your man beats or cheats on you when you are
courting,there is a 90% possibility that he will do even
worse after marrying you and you need to understand
that it is a big mistake to marry a man with the hope
that he will change some characters you don't like but
just learn to love him that way or take a walk.
3. If your man beats you once,it could be a mistake but
if he beats you the second time then its a habit he is
likely never going to stop.
4. That it is good to marry a man you have feelings for
but it is a terrible thing to marry a man who does not
desire you as much as you desire him.
5. That if you marry a man because of what he has and
not because of mutual love then be ready to be
miserable in that marriage as long as it lasts.
6. That a man can love you with all his life and could
still cheat on you because most men think with that
thing down there when it comes to their feelings for
women and are polygamous in nature and no matter
how sweet and disciplined you are,it will not stop him
from cheating on you and divorcing a cheating hubby
is no guaranty that the next man won't do worse.
7. As a lady, as long as you are sexually decent,GOD
fearing,an excellent cook,financially independent and
humble,you have absolutely nothing to fear because it
will be extremely difficult for your man to disrespect
you much less divorce you.
8. That not all men are calm but some have innate
tendency to be violent so you must try at all cost to
avoid any form of confrontation.
9. That women are women worst enemies and many of
your female friends will be glad to see your marriage
crumble so avoid discussing your marital flaws with
them but take it to God in prayers and you must block
your ears from hear says and believe what your hubby
tells you even when you have an irking that he is lieing
and whatever you have not seen does not exist.
10.That there is always a lady out there who is ready to
push you out of your matrimony and take your place
but 90% of men who cheat on their wives are not ready
to divorce their wives but it is these wives that push
the man out with impatience and hot temper so you will
need lots of patience to deal with a philanderer because
in most cases,they always come back home after
having their feel of the side dishes.
11.That no man owns the key to your marital happiness
except you because most men are the same and no
man is worth the stress and as soon as you are
married,you should focus on building your life as well
as that of your child(ren) .
12.That no marriage is perfect but every marriage has
its own perculiar challenges and you must be ready to
work on your marital pasture to look green cos that
greener marital pasture you see on the other side have
been worked so work on yours and remember that a
happy union is not between two compactible people or
two romantic people but its the one between two
forgivers so learn to forgive and you will have a happy
union.
13.That no matter how careful you may be in choosing
a spouse,marriage will always be a black market where
you must prepare for unforeseen situation and there is
no right or wrong choice of man but what we have is
your choice and what you make out of it and only GOD
can guaranty a happy marriage.

God bless you....reading this would help in the journey of marriage

Thanks everyone, I will recreate the thread and arrange it well.

Rubbish, keep deceiving yourself.
You think every girl wants to get married abi chicken brain, marriage is to be enjoyed and not endured. My sisters never endure a cheating, abusive husband they will ruin your life and that of your children at the end of the day you will feel worth less. Every body both male and female deserves to be happy no one is better than the other. A man is not doing you a favor by marrying you. You are the one doing him a favor by taking care of him building his home caring for his child/ren. So op get a life and Goodluck getting a mumu as a wife.

Thiwalade:
the wish of many ladies to get married and while
some ladies are fully prepared for the institution,many
are totally naive about what lies ahead after saying i
do but from my little experience in life, i present to you
10 things no mother or pastor will tell you before you
say i do to that man.
1. That no matter how sweet the man is to you,no
matter how caring and romantic and no matter how
many prophets told you he is your man,that sweet man
can turn to a demon after saying i do so what it seems
before marriage is never a guaranty of what it will be
after marriage.
2. If your man beats or cheats on you when you are
courting,there is a 90% possibility that he will do even
worse after marrying you and you need to understand
that it is a big mistake to marry a man with the hope
that he will change some characters you don't like but
just learn to love him that way or take a walk.
3. If your man beats you once,it could be a mistake but
if he beats you the second time then its a habit he is
likely never going to stop.
4. That it is good to marry a man you have feelings for
but it is a terrible thing to marry a man who does not
desire you as much as you desire him.
5. That if you marry a man because of what he has and
not because of mutual love then be ready to be
miserable in that marriage as long as it lasts.
6. That a man can love you with all his life and could
still cheat on you because most men think with that
thing down there when it comes to their feelings for
women and are polygamous in nature and no matter
how sweet and disciplined you are,it will not stop him
from cheating on you and divorcing a cheating hubby
is no guaranty that the next man won't do worse.
7. As a lady, as long as you are sexually decent,GOD
fearing,an excellent cook,financially independent and
humble,you have absolutely nothing to fear because it
will be extremely difficult for your man to disrespect
you much less divorce you.
8. That not all men are calm but some have innate
tendency to be violent so you must try at all cost to
avoid any form of confrontation.
9. That women are women worst enemies and many of
your female friends will be glad to see your marriage
crumble so avoid discussing your marital flaws with
them but take it to God in prayers and you must block
your ears from hear says and believe what your hubby
tells you even when you have an irking that he is lieing
and whatever you have not seen does not exist.
10.That there is always a lady out there who is ready to
push you out of your matrimony and take your place
but 90% of men who cheat on their wives are not ready
to divorce their wives but it is these wives that push
the man out with impatience and hot temper so you will
need lots of patience to deal with a philanderer because
in most cases,they always come back home after
having their feel of the side dishes.
11.That no man owns the key to your marital happiness
except you because most men are the same and no
man is worth the stress and as soon as you are
married,you should focus on building your life as well
as that of your child(ren) .
12.That no marriage is perfect but every marriage has
its own perculiar challenges and you must be ready to
work on your marital pasture to look green cos that
greener marital pasture you see on the other side have
been worked so work on yours and remember that a
happy union is not between two compactible people or
two romantic people but its the one between two
forgivers so learn to forgive and you will have a happy
union.
13.That no matter how careful you may be in choosing
a spouse,marriage will always be a black market where
you must prepare for unforeseen situation and there is
no right or wrong choice of man but what we have is
your choice and what you make out of it and only GOD
can guaranty a happy marriage.

I recommend u watch dis movie "war Room" its a must watch for every believer